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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Evening all. I quite expect to get battered all over the forum for this so feel free ?
I always keep an eye on the Status Updates, Friends, Hotlist, Local etc as some of the stuff is quite funny. But most days there are people with status updates along the lines of “fed up with this site” or “going to leave” or “Does anyone actually meet on here” or such.
The thing that surprises me is that these are usually from Single Women or Couples. Now I can completely understand it may be harder for single men to meet on here and having been a single male once I can sympathise with that. But Couples and Single Girls – Really?
We moved onto this site 6 weeks ago and have met some lovely people. Haven’t actually met most of them due to the usually things of time etc. but we have met a couple of people and chatted and do chat to a few more most days and will meet as soon as time allows. Why do people find it so hard on here. While we are not buried by emails or winks we get a message or wink from someone interesting at least every couple of days. Is it because we actually chat to people to find out more about them before deciding yay or nay. We chat to one couple who got in touch who are outside our age limits (and they got in touch for another reason and knew they were and to be fair the age limit we put in place was just clicked on and not thought about when we joined! ) and after chatting for a bit they went straight on the “want to meet list” And are still there! If we hadn’t taken the time to chat we could have missed out on a couple of real diamonds.
Perhaps some people are looking for the impossible? Or are they looking for new people every week? I can’t believe we get any more attention than anyone else and some of the people that complain the loudest are to put it bluntly, downright stunning!
Or is it just Human Nature to complain about everything!! I don’t understand?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well one thing's for sure, the ones saying "I'm going to leave" can only be attention seeking, otherwise they'd have just done it surely? I dont see the point in advertising that fact unless you want people to respond to it  |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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Sometimes people have a bad day. Sometimes they are stood up. Sometimes they've been swapping messages and finally realised they're getting the run around.
I try to keep my status updates chatty as its the first thing people see, and a grumpy one will put others off. But sometimes I just need to let off steam! And just because I get many more messages than single men, it doesn't mean they are good messages. 9 times out of 10 I can tell they've not even read my profile.
But in the end the site is what we make it, and there's no point in getting frustrated. When Fab stops being fun, I'll leave, but in the meantime I am happy just to browse, chat on the forums, and hopefully meet some great people on the way. |
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"Well one thing's for sure, the ones saying "I'm going to leave" can only be attention seeking, otherwise they'd have just done it surely? I dont see the point in advertising that fact unless you want people to respond to it "
I've seen status updates from couples in the local area section on the homepage along the lines of 'We're leaving' and yet they're still here weeks later  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In the clearing stands a boxer
And a fighter by his trade
And he carries the reminders
Of ev'ry glove that layed him down
Or cut him till he cried out
In his anger and his shame
"I am leaving, I am leaving"
But the fighter still remains
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well one thing's for sure, the ones saying "I'm going to leave" can only be attention seeking, otherwise they'd have just done it surely? I dont see the point in advertising that fact unless you want people to respond to it
I've seen status updates from couples in the local area section on the homepage along the lines of 'We're leaving' and yet they're still here weeks later "
Must have worked for them then!  Or am I just being too cynical?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me I just enjoy being apart of this site. I have been at this for so many years now, and I have enjoyed all the fun I have had in the past both here and on other sites... yes I have had a break for a couple of years and now I'm back to play again,
And as yet I have not had any meets, but hey do I really care  I'm happy to wait and I'm sure I will meet a lovely couple or a single lady in time ....but in the mean time I just love being here! you just have to take this with a pinch of salt...I'm not here to create drama, but just to have fun!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's like everything in life - simply what you make it !
We have never had a problem and to be honest this is our secret naughty life and for fun only , so negativity is never a part of it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I use mine to show what I am doing mostly but if I as last week, have a no show, I do put a comment up but I am not going to put that I am leaving etc because of it, rather childish if you ask me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Evening all. I quite expect to get battered all over the forum for this so feel free ?
I always keep an eye on the Status Updates, Friends, Hotlist, Local etc as some of the stuff is quite funny. But most days there are people with status updates along the lines of “fed up with this site” or “going to leave” or “Does anyone actually meet on here” or such.
The thing that surprises me is that these are usually from Single Women or Couples. Now I can completely understand it may be harder for single men to meet on here and having been a single male once I can sympathise with that. But Couples and Single Girls – Really?
We moved onto this site 6 weeks ago and have met some lovely people. Haven’t actually met most of them due to the usually things of time etc. but we have met a couple of people and chatted and do chat to a few more most days and will meet as soon as time allows. Why do people find it so hard on here. While we are not buried by emails or winks we get a message or wink from someone interesting at least every couple of days. Is it because we actually chat to people to find out more about them before deciding yay or nay. We chat to one couple who got in touch who are outside our age limits (and they got in touch for another reason and knew they were and to be fair the age limit we put in place was just clicked on and not thought about when we joined! ) and after chatting for a bit they went straight on the “want to meet list” And are still there! If we hadn’t taken the time to chat we could have missed out on a couple of real diamonds.
Perhaps some people are looking for the impossible? Or are they looking for new people every week? I can’t believe we get any more attention than anyone else and some of the people that complain the loudest are to put it bluntly, downright stunning!
Or is it just Human Nature to complain about everything!! I don’t understand?
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Oi! After 6 weeks we expect you to know that Thursday is 'Rant Day'!!! Lol!!!
The difference between 'them' and YOU is that YOU have the right attitude towards swinging via a contact site like this, and they haven't. Simples (as an annoying Meerkat once said...)
Attitude, along with unrealistic expectations (I refer readers to the many 'Been on here 12 hours and not be shagged yet' threads by single males in the Support and Advice forum.... ) are the main reasons why people (not just couples) don't get anywhere on here. You either accept their is a steep and ever-climbing learning curve involved, or take the 'easy route' (Ha!) and just go to clubs.
First rule of swinging on a site like this? Patience, Patience, Patience.....
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By (user no longer on site)
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I have seen couples moan about no one wanting to meet but when you try to arrange one they're fine till you actually want to pin down a date then they go quiet... Or they suddenly need you to jump through millions of hoops before a meet. You can't be ridiculously fussy about your meet process and then moan if you don't get meets. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It's probably a bit like people who jump to their deaths.
Most of those who sit screaming, on a bridge or ledge, that they're "gonna jump" seldom do.
They just want someone to take notice, talk them out of it and give them a reason to carry on! 
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Well firstly I seem to need to apologise as I had completely missed that Thursday was "Rant Day"!
But does it still apply if you are Ranting about another Rant? Or Several other Rants in fact? Which is sort of what I was Ranting about!
It still does seem strange to me that people find it so difficult to meet anyone. I had another peek at one last night and that particular one was a profile over a year old that was unverified so perhaps that explains something.
Anyway - cheers for the replies and I suspect most answers above were probably pretty close to the truth.
And I will be back on Thursday with my next rant........ |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well firstly I seem to need to apologise as I had completely missed that Thursday was "Rant Day"!
But does it still apply if you are Ranting about another Rant? Or Several other Rants in fact? Which is sort of what I was Ranting about!
It still does seem strange to me that people find it so difficult to meet anyone. I had another peek at one last night and that particular one was a profile over a year old that was unverified so perhaps that explains something.
Anyway - cheers for the replies and I suspect most answers above were probably pretty close to the truth.
And I will be back on Thursday with my next rant........ "
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