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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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When I message members who seem to be a mutual fit I try to make my intro messages polite and interesting. I actually get a reply to most, including many "no thanks", which is fair enough. I won't be too everyone's taste but I find it strange that they then proceed to block me. What's the point in that? I find it weird behaviour tbh or is that the norm? |
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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago
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"When I message members who seem to be a mutual fit I try to make my intro messages polite and interesting. I actually get a reply to most, including many "no thanks", which is fair enough. I won't be too everyone's taste but I find it strange that they then proceed to block me. What's the point in that? I find it weird behaviour tbh or is that the norm? "
We haven't experienced it, but apparently a lot of guys become abusive when rejected, so blocking is often done to avoid potential abuse.
It also stops repeat messages from those that aren't a fit.
Everyone runs their account how they see fit, don't take it personally and just move on
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When I message members who seem to be a mutual fit I try to make my intro messages polite and interesting. I actually get a reply to most, including many "no thanks", which is fair enough. I won't be too everyone's taste but I find it strange that they then proceed to block me. What's the point in that? I find it weird behaviour tbh or is that the norm? "
its not bad behavior people need to stop looking at the block button as rude its not why would you not block someone your not interested in ? we've blocked 100s of local guys we are not interested in some for nasty status or abuse but most because we have zero interest we use the site to meet thats our main attraction to fab the block button is a very useful tool ...
i find those who dont accept a block or moan about a simple block wont get far rejection is a massive part of the scene and if you cant handle that then a swinging site really is not for you |
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We are close to 10,000 in our block list, many of whom we have never spoken to or had any contact with whatsoever.
If they do not match our criteria then we just block to save the hassle so don't feel put out OP. |
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People are odd, I had one this week who has been on my friends list for ages, she said we should meet for a social.
I replied sounds good im around thu to Sun this week, then messages disappeared so I assume I am blocked.
Another today, we were chatting away as local, invited me as friend with I accepted and thanked them for inviting. 5 mins later messages no longer there so assume blocked.
Could simply say sorry not for us. if I protest etc then block but just to block is so rude |
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I use the block button for those who send abusive messages or for those who send message after message when it’s clear no interest is there from my side. As someone has said before me, it’s a useful tool used to filter those I don’t consider a fit for me to prevent continued contact.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We are close to 10,000 in our block list, many of whom we have never spoken to or had any contact with whatsoever.
If they do not match our criteria then we just block to save the hassle so don't feel put out OP."
10,000  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So you don’t message again…
You’d be amazed how many will message in a few days time the same thing. Easier just to block it saves hassle and any potential abuse |
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"We are close to 10,000 in our block list, many of whom we have never spoken to or had any contact with whatsoever.
If they do not match our criteria then we just block to save the hassle so don't feel put out OP.
10,000 "
How much time have you spent hitting the block button 10,000 times ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As alot have said. So you don't message again. Often guys try their luck, or forget they've messaged before. It's annoying. By blocking them it means they can't contact you again. You could always block people that say no so you aren't double messaging either. Then at least you'll start being able to filter people out. |
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"We are close to 10,000 in our block list, many of whom we have never spoken to or had any contact with whatsoever.
If they do not match our criteria then we just block to save the hassle so don't feel put out OP.
10,000
How much time have you spent hitting the block button 10,000 times !"
It's easy, we just hit the who viewed and work our way down the list  |
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I ask for messages to be deleted if the recipient is not interested. If they do that then I make a personal note never to bother them again.
Blocking is for those that I really don't want to hear from like ghosters, gaslighters and timewasters. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We are close to 10,000 in our block list, many of whom we have never spoken to or had any contact with whatsoever.
If they do not match our criteria then we just block to save the hassle so don't feel put out OP.
10,000
How much time have you spent hitting the block button 10,000 times !
It's easy, we just hit the who viewed and work our way down the list "
most of my blocks are done that way too as well as the home page be amazed how many moany / nasty /name n shame /want money/offering money /snow drug reference selling or buying thats before those we are just not interested in people dont realize that status's are a look at the person |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We are close to 10,000 in our block list, many of whom we have never spoken to or had any contact with whatsoever.
If they do not match our criteria then we just block to save the hassle so don't feel put out OP.
10,000
How much time have you spent hitting the block button 10,000 times !
It's easy, we just hit the who viewed and work our way down the list "
Must be one hell of an orgy going on within your block list |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks for thr feedback guys. Maybe I'm just being a bit touchy and I shouldn't take it personal. But even the word BLOCK sounds harsh doesn't it. Haha. Anyway, thanks again and hope you all have a fun weekend |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thanks for thr feedback guys. Maybe I'm just being a bit touchy and I shouldn't take it personal. But even the word BLOCK sounds harsh doesn't it. Haha. Anyway, thanks again and hope you all have a fun weekend "
You shouldn't take anything personally on here. It's meant to be fun. Hope you have a good day. |
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"People are odd, I had one this week who has been on my friends list for ages, she said we should meet for a social.
I replied sounds good im around thu to Sun this week, then messages disappeared so I assume I am blocked.
Another today, we were chatting away as local, invited me as friend with I accepted and thanked them for inviting. 5 mins later messages no longer there so assume blocked.
Could simply say sorry not for us. if I protest etc then block but just to block is so rude"
If the messages have gone then so has the user. They left the site. |
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"As alot have said. So you don't message again. Often guys try their luck, or forget they've messaged before. It's annoying. By blocking them it means they can't contact you again. You could always block people that say no so you aren't double messaging either. Then at least you'll start being able to filter people out. "
Blocking is fair enough, its the friend invite then block, without a no thanks your not for us comment that is rude |
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"People are odd, I had one this week who has been on my friends list for ages, she said we should meet for a social.
I replied sounds good im around thu to Sun this week, then messages disappeared so I assume I am blocked.
Another today, we were chatting away as local, invited me as friend with I accepted and thanked them for inviting. 5 mins later messages no longer there so assume blocked.
Could simply say sorry not for us. if I protest etc then block but just to block is so rude
If the messages have gone then so has the user. They left the site. "
Realised that now, as I can still see the messages from the latest block.
Must have really scared off the other one lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As alot have said. So you don't message again. Often guys try their luck, or forget they've messaged before. It's annoying. By blocking them it means they can't contact you again. You could always block people that say no so you aren't double messaging either. Then at least you'll start being able to filter people out.
Blocking is fair enough, its the friend invite then block, without a no thanks your not for us comment that is rude"
They sent you a friends invite or you sent one?
If they sent one it was probably an accident, hence the block. If you sent one they probably think you've overstepped boundaries and gone too soon for the friend invite button |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The block button is my best friend. If I get a second message the same as the first but I've already told them no, it's a block. It's also a block if someone I've never chatted to sends friend invites as well. Obviously there are still a lot of men who don't read profiles anymore x |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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"People are odd, I had one this week who has been on my friends list for ages, she said we should meet for a social.
I replied sounds good im around thu to Sun this week, then messages disappeared so I assume I am blocked.
Another today, we were chatting away as local, invited me as friend with I accepted and thanked them for inviting. 5 mins later messages no longer there so assume blocked.
Could simply say sorry not for us. if I protest etc then block but just to block is so rude"
Think there might be a clue in “if I protest” to the reason why blocked is simpler. |
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By *S2004Man
over a year ago
Bromsgrove |
"We are close to 10,000 in our block list, many of whom we have never spoken to or had any contact with whatsoever.
If they do not match our criteria then we just block to save the hassle so don't feel put out OP."
Absolutely. I am one of those blocked people and don’t think we have ever spoken. I just see it as I am not what they are looking for. It is absolutely each to their own and have fun searching. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We do it as the introduction copy & paste messages will continue to keep coming through, it's easier to block than having to keep reminding said person we already said no thank you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We do it as the introduction copy & paste messages will continue to keep coming through, it's easier to block than having to keep reminding said person we already said no thank you."
I do not usually block unless a gross message. But I have had the copy and paste treatment. One guy sent exactly the same message to me a couple of times weeks apart, word for word. It is cringe haha |
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We don’t block people unless they become insistent or nasty.
Although if they send us a message one/two weeks after we’ve said no and do that a few times, we’ll block them as they clearly aren’t getting that no is a no or they have a goldfish brain
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When I message members who seem to be a mutual fit I try to make my intro messages polite and interesting. I actually get a reply to most, including many "no thanks", which is fair enough. I won't be too everyone's taste but I find it strange that they then proceed to block me. What's the point in that? I find it weird behaviour tbh or is that the norm? "
It's weird if they block you when they aren't interested? I must be weird then, I block people all the time. It's stops people coming up in searches and updates. No point seeing someone's updates if you aren't interested. People block for loads of reasons. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We are close to 10,000 in our block list, many of whom we have never spoken to or had any contact with whatsoever.
If they do not match our criteria then we just block to save the hassle so don't feel put out OP."
We do the same! Saves repeat visitors or people messaging when we have already spoken. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We tend to block if we aren't interested. Saves Amy future interaction and wasting of time. "
Same! Especially when the age difference / range can be so huge on here! |
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"We are close to 10,000 in our block list, many of whom we have never spoken to or had any contact with whatsoever.
If they do not match our criteria then we just block to save the hassle so don't feel put out OP.
10,000
How much time have you spent hitting the block button 10,000 times !
It's easy, we just hit the who viewed and work our way down the list
Must be one hell of an orgy going on within your block list "
Maybe, but with no one that we would miss  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We just this evening very politely told a guy he wasn’t for us and he’s come straight back quite abusive about why he’s better than other guys who have verified us.
Maybe that’s why. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Move on... If they haven't got the decency to say no and just block then that tells you everything about what kind of so called humans they are!
If you get a no then you should respect that and kindly say thank you and move on without any hassle or explanation.
Either way politeness and manners are key.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Move on... If they haven't got the decency to say no and just block then that tells you everything about what kind of so called humans they are!
If you get a no then you should respect that and kindly say thank you and move on without any hassle or explanation.
Either way politeness and manners are key.
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Wipe your eyes. 
It tells you that MEN are often nasty so called humans who get abusive when anyone says no.
So the person doing the blocking isn't the bad person. Tell the men to have more decency. And also to be less entitled. |
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"We tend to block if we aren't interested. Saves Amy future interaction and wasting of time. "
Same for me, I use it more as a tool for if I’m not interested or I see a profile that I know won’t be interested in me. It’s a good tool. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Watersports enthusiasts who like to request this as an opening message get an instant block this side. ‘Can I buy your warm piss?’ is a definitely block.
Repeat messages also get a block. As do those who are into any other stuff that we have said no to on our profile.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Move on... If they haven't got the decency to say no and just block then that tells you everything about what kind of so called humans they are!
If you get a no then you should respect that and kindly say thank you and move on without any hassle or explanation.
Either way politeness and manners are key.
Wipe your eyes.
It tells you that MEN are often nasty so called humans who get abusive when anyone says no.
So the person doing the blocking isn't the bad person. Tell the men to have more decency. And also to be less entitled. "
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"When I message members who seem to be a mutual fit I try to make my intro messages polite and interesting. I actually get a reply to most, including many "no thanks", which is fair enough. I won't be too everyone's taste but I find it strange that they then proceed to block me. What's the point in that? I find it weird behaviour tbh or is that the norm? "
Many people do this to stop confusion in the future , I wouldn’t take it personally x |
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I'm going to start to use the block button more, if I receive a message from someone that hasn't read my profile or isn't what I'm looking for, saying hi, nice lips, free to fuck now, I reply with a no thanks. Half the time I get a nice I appreciate the reply, but the other ones just send abuse. Can't win x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We do this due to begging or abusive messages coming through
It gets infuriating
It states quite clearly that we will not meet men who cannot accommodate, yet we still get messages.
Prime example today
Guy almost 100 miles away messages to see if we're interested.. I reply with
Your too far away
We don't meet in hotels
We don't accommodate
Seems clear yes?
No, he replies back with
"I'll drive to yours and we can go to a hotel"
Some men just can't take no for an answer, so it's easier to block those who don't fit what we're looking for. |
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By *erlins5Man
over a year ago
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"When I message members who seem to be a mutual fit I try to make my intro messages polite and interesting. I actually get a reply to most, including many "no thanks", which is fair enough. I won't be too everyone's taste but I find it strange that they then proceed to block me. What's the point in that? I find it weird behaviour tbh or is that the norm? "
Unfortunately many guys are not as understanding as you or I and just sent abuse to a polite refusal. So often the last or couple just automatically block as a defence. Also if you are not too their taste they will block so you don't accidentally message them again. If they don't want to meet them being blocked doesn't really matter, does it? |
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We have just been messaging a couple about the Attic in Derby and they gave us some information about the place but when i went to reply they have blocked us.
There are some strange people on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We do this due to begging or abusive messages coming through
It gets infuriating
It states quite clearly that we will not meet men who cannot accommodate, yet we still get messages.
Prime example today
Guy almost 100 miles away messages to see if we're interested.. I reply with
Your too far away
We don't meet in hotels
We don't accommodate
Seems clear yes?
No, he replies back with
"I'll drive to yours and we can go to a hotel"
Some men just can't take no for an answer, so it's easier to block those who don't fit what we're looking for."
Those types make me laugh. Full balls.. kills brain cells. |
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Like many people I use the block button as another filter and it keeps my update page tidy and relevant.
I also block people I've never spoken to because of something they've said on the forums especially when they attempt to tag me in something so I block them from seeing my profile.
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