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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Does anyone feel lost here? I talk on forums and sometimes get ignored, blocked and I'm beginning to feel deflated. I realise I'm not everyone's cup of tea but being nice costs nothing. Does anyone else feel lost? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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These places are never great for your self esteem - but… you make of it what you want. There are many people who are happy to just chat, bant, you can build up a rapport - may lead to something… maybe not…. But I’ve found using the forums are better to show off your inner self than just writing to people who will make a judgement off a pic.. |
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Fab only goes so far for connecting with people I'm afraid.
You can be everyone's cup of tea on or off the forums nor should you try to be honest. It really.depends what you are looking for on here.
Just keep at it. Sooner or later you'll connect to the right fella on here.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Fab only goes so far for connecting with people I'm afraid.
You can be everyone's cup of tea on or off the forums nor should you try to be honest. It really.depends what you are looking for on here.
Just keep at it. Sooner or later you'll connect to the right fella on here.
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I can't even joke with someone without being blocked. Honestly give up  |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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Being ignored and blocked is never a nice feeling, especially if its people you want to interact with.
The only advice I can give is to try and not let it get to you by using the forums in the way you want. They are a funny place and the longer you post the more people will start to recognise and engage with you. |
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By *avie65Man
over a year ago
In the west. |
"Does anyone feel lost here? I talk on forums and sometimes get ignored, blocked and I'm beginning to feel deflated. I realise I'm not everyone's cup of tea but being nice costs nothing. Does anyone else feel lost? "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Does anyone feel lost here? I talk on forums and sometimes get ignored, blocked and I'm beginning to feel deflated. I realise I'm not everyone's cup of tea but being nice costs nothing. Does anyone else feel lost? "
Yeah happens quite a lot to me too.
Don’t get down hearted. You seem nice, and I know there are people who’d love to talk with you, my self included |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Does anyone feel lost here? I talk on forums and sometimes get ignored, blocked and I'm beginning to feel deflated. I realise I'm not everyone's cup of tea but being nice costs nothing. Does anyone else feel lost?
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You blocked me |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Does anyone feel lost here? I talk on forums and sometimes get ignored, blocked and I'm beginning to feel deflated. I realise I'm not everyone's cup of tea but being nice costs nothing. Does anyone else feel lost? "
Hi there. I just read your profile and want to say I hear and feel you. I think there are, not so much clicks, but people who are here a long time and know each other well that they become engrossed in conversation with each other that they dont notice the new ones. I dont think its personal though. But I think the day I feel lonely here will prob be the day I delete my profile. |
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By *avie65Man
over a year ago
In the west. |
"Does anyone feel lost here? I talk on forums and sometimes get ignored, blocked and I'm beginning to feel deflated. I realise I'm not everyone's cup of tea but being nice costs nothing. Does anyone else feel lost?
You blocked me "
No, I just looked. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Does anyone feel lost here? I talk on forums and sometimes get ignored, blocked and I'm beginning to feel deflated. I realise I'm not everyone's cup of tea but being nice costs nothing. Does anyone else feel lost? "
Standard that missy, send 100 messages expect 0 replies. If you get 1 it's a bonus. But like you say it doesn't cost a lot to reply and move on.  |
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I know what it feels like now after not being on here much the last 10 months or so.
The forum can be a fickle place and many have said it's changed a lot in recent times and isn't such a happy, fun or supportive place as it has been.
Just keep trying OP, don't give up as there is a lot on offer if you persevere and there are some wonderful people around too.
Ignore any abuse you find and take most things with a pinch of salt, the genuine ones you will be able to spot easily amongst the rest as you spend time on here. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Does anyone feel lost here? I talk on forums and sometimes get ignored, blocked and I'm beginning to feel deflated. I realise I'm not everyone's cup of tea but being nice costs nothing. Does anyone else feel lost?
I'm blocked!
You blocked me
No, I just looked. "
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"Does anyone feel lost here? I talk on forums and sometimes get ignored, blocked and I'm beginning to feel deflated. I realise I'm not everyone's cup of tea but being nice costs nothing. Does anyone else feel lost? "
What kind of things do you say? Give us an example of something you were blocked for. |
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"Does anyone feel lost here? I talk on forums and sometimes get ignored, blocked and I'm beginning to feel deflated. I realise I'm not everyone's cup of tea but being nice costs nothing. Does anyone else feel lost?
I'm blocked!
You blocked me
No, I just looked. "
So, did he block you or not? |
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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago
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Not everyone gets acknowledged or recognised on the forum. It is difficult to accept, but once you do, things are easier. I was thinking exactly the same as you last year… I always felt ignored. Still do most of the time. I will never get mentions in some threads or in any of those postie ones haha, but that’s ok.  I’ve made peace with it and now just enjoy reading the different topics and replying when I fancy it, but I don’t expect acknowledgement or replies anymore.  |
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"Fab only goes so far for connecting with people I'm afraid.
You can be everyone's cup of tea on or off the forums nor should you try to be honest. It really.depends what you are looking for on here.
Just keep at it. Sooner or later you'll connect to the right fella on here.
I can't even joke with someone without being blocked. Honestly give up "
Fabs just social media with naked bits imo. Maybe try a social event or club night. Gets you connected with real people rather than relying on o line interactions? |
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By *avie65Man
over a year ago
In the west. |
"Does anyone feel lost here? I talk on forums and sometimes get ignored, blocked and I'm beginning to feel deflated. I realise I'm not everyone's cup of tea but being nice costs nothing. Does anyone else feel lost?
I'm blocked!
You blocked me
No, I just looked. "
DM me. I can't reply to your message. |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
I never expect a reply when I post on the forums which is good because I rarely get one especially in here .
If I see someone has blocked me I just counter block and move on.
There is no point in getting upset about things you can't change. I realised that a good while ago on fab and it made my journey more enjoyable. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Does anyone feel lost here? I talk on forums and sometimes get ignored, blocked and I'm beginning to feel deflated. I realise I'm not everyone's cup of tea but being nice costs nothing. Does anyone else feel lost?
I can't I'm blocked
I'm blocked!
You blocked me
No, I just looked.
DM me. I can't reply to your message."
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By *avie65Man
over a year ago
In the west. |
"Does anyone feel lost here? I talk on forums and sometimes get ignored, blocked and I'm beginning to feel deflated. I realise I'm not everyone's cup of tea but being nice costs nothing. Does anyone else feel lost?
I can't I'm blocked
I'm blocked!
You blocked me
No, I just looked.
DM me. I can't reply to your message."
Mine says the same. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sorry to read that you’re feeling this way.
Don’t worry about clicks on fab…. We’re not here to please everyone else. Try not to rely on fab, to make you feel better, either Time out and self compassion is good for the soul. Maybe just keep replies to the forum, instead of private, if that’s what you mean by blocked, as not everyone wants to be contacted privately. Keep talking x |
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By *rad670Man
over a year ago
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"Does anyone feel lost here? I talk on forums and sometimes get ignored, blocked and I'm beginning to feel deflated. I realise I'm not everyone's cup of tea but being nice costs nothing. Does anyone else feel lost? "
I did feel lost for months and months after joining, it only takes one or two good chats and connections and you realise that although connections are rare when you do find someone you enjoy chatting with and potentially meeting it was worth the wait. I looked to see if there was an obvious reason you were not getting some nice wanted attention and cannot fault your bio or photos, I came accross your profile before and fabbed some photos, hang in and just be patient, I bet youve been busy in your inbox since your post. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Does anyone feel lost here? I talk on forums and sometimes get ignored, blocked and I'm beginning to feel deflated. I realise I'm not everyone's cup of tea but being nice costs nothing. Does anyone else feel lost? "
Hi OP
I have had the deflated and lost feelings through the lack of response on FAB but try not to take it to heart and if you are having a down day then tea, cake and talk can help.
I have had a peek at your profile and you look fantastic to me xx.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Very interesting post op I only thought men struggled on here due the men to woman ratio Very naive of me ! I’m aways free to chat when online even if you have no intentions of meeting me that goes out to anyone who wants just to chat / banter Ant |
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"Does anyone feel lost here? I talk on forums and sometimes get ignored, blocked and I'm beginning to feel deflated. I realise I'm not everyone's cup of tea but being nice costs nothing. Does anyone else feel lost? "
im always here for a chat if you're feeling a bit down as are i would imagine a lot of sound people on here. Keep the head held high |
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By *o30Woman
over a year ago
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"Does anyone feel lost here? I talk on forums and sometimes get ignored, blocked and I'm beginning to feel deflated. I realise I'm not everyone's cup of tea but being nice costs nothing. Does anyone else feel lost? "
I'm having a major down day today.
Got chatting to a couple of guys a few weeks ago & they both ignored me and have blocked me. So I get where you're coming from xx |
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"Does anyone feel lost here? I talk on forums and sometimes get ignored, blocked and I'm beginning to feel deflated. I realise I'm not everyone's cup of tea but being nice costs nothing. Does anyone else feel lost? "
Your not the only one.
Im used to being ignored even my posts are ignored and mostly not replyed too.
Those that ive pmed know I reply to them with polightness and kindness.
After that they are left alone some I do recontact back to see how they are doing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Does anyone feel lost here? I talk on forums and sometimes get ignored, blocked and I'm beginning to feel deflated. I realise I'm not everyone's cup of tea but being nice costs nothing. Does anyone else feel lost? "
If you play the game, say the right things, kiss the ring and know what to say then you can get noticed and be uber popular. But it's better to just be you OP....everyone else is taken
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Does anyone feel lost here? I talk on forums and sometimes get ignored, blocked and I'm beginning to feel deflated. I realise I'm not everyone's cup of tea but being nice costs nothing. Does anyone else feel lost? "
Yes it happens to me a lot
It's either a no reply or delete and no reply |
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"Does anyone feel lost here? I talk on forums and sometimes get ignored, blocked and I'm beginning to feel deflated. I realise I'm not everyone's cup of tea but being nice costs nothing. Does anyone else feel lost? "
yeah I know what exactly what you mean, and then some.  and tbh, here and life in general lol.
...there was more to that but I kept typing then deleting it, then replaced what I said with a 'lol' to lighten to mood |
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"Does anyone feel lost here? I talk on forums and sometimes get ignored, blocked and I'm beginning to feel deflated. I realise I'm not everyone's cup of tea but being nice costs nothing. Does anyone else feel lost? "
Your not alone I promise. I’m always happy to chat if you want to chat. There are some genuine and friendly people here honestly it’s just hard finding them is all. And just try to ignore the keyboard worriers or should I say Karen's applys to both sexes.  |
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"OP - Apparently (so I'm told) I'm 'popular', but I feel that I'm avoided/ignored a lot.
I see lots of people blank me.
Just brush it of and be yourself. Embrace those that enjoy your company. "
Agree and how are you old boy not seen you in here for ages |
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"Does anyone feel lost here? I talk on forums and sometimes get ignored, blocked and I'm beginning to feel deflated. I realise I'm not everyone's cup of tea but being nice costs nothing. Does anyone else feel lost? "
Sorry to hear that mate. My humble philosophy to Fabs/meets/clubs, is to come with no expectations and try not emotionally invest in the unknown. Good luck! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"OP - Apparently (so I'm told) I'm 'popular', but I feel that I'm avoided/ignored a lot.
I see lots of people blank me.
Just brush it of and be yourself. Embrace those that enjoy your company. "
I adore you, love our chats. Always here for you and anyone else that needs a friend |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It does makes one feel lost at times. The key is to stick to threads of your interests and keep contributing to it .
Many times I see members pushing their opinion across all forum in hundreds of threads.
Why have you hidden your profile OP.
Sanj x |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
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"OP - Apparently (so I'm told) I'm 'popular', but I feel that I'm avoided/ignored a lot.
I see lots of people blank me.
Just brush it of and be yourself. Embrace those that enjoy your company.
I adore you, love our chats. Always here for you and anyone else that needs a friend "
Awww. You're adorable too.
You have a big heart and a very squeezable bum. Xx |
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"Does anyone feel lost here? I talk on forums and sometimes get ignored, blocked and I'm beginning to feel deflated. I realise I'm not everyone's cup of tea but being nice costs nothing. Does anyone else feel lost?
Hi there. I just read your profile and want to say I hear and feel you. I think there are, not so much clicks, but people who are here a long time and know each other well that they become engrossed in conversation with each other that they dont notice the new ones. I dont think its personal though. But I think the day I feel lonely here will prob be the day I delete my profile. "
I’m the one who runs our profile and spend a lot of time on the forums! I’m totally with you, I see the clicks every day and chose not to let them get to me! I still message on here, even though I mostly get ignored! I’ve learnt to ignore it and crack on, don’t take it personal! In every walk of life there is the popular crowd, and I personally would never want to be a part of that, you do you and enjoy it lovely Miss pc |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Does anyone feel lost here? I talk on forums and sometimes get ignored, blocked and I'm beginning to feel deflated. I realise I'm not everyone's cup of tea but being nice costs nothing. Does anyone else feel lost? "
Chin up sweety life is great, |
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"HE SPOKE TO ME
WOOHOO
IM ALIVEEEEEEE.
Sorry buddy I can’t apologise enough
It's all groovy mate.
How’s you doing then.
I'm my usual happy and charming self.
How's you dude? "
All good now ruff couple of months lol |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
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"HE SPOKE TO ME
WOOHOO
IM ALIVEEEEEEE.
Sorry buddy I can’t apologise enough
It's all groovy mate.
How’s you doing then.
I'm my usual happy and charming self.
How's you dude?
All good now ruff couple of months lol "
Oh crikey- glad you've come through it though. |
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"HE SPOKE TO ME
WOOHOO
IM ALIVEEEEEEE.
Sorry buddy I can’t apologise enough
It's all groovy mate.
How’s you doing then.
I'm my usual happy and charming self.
How's you dude?
All good now ruff couple of months lol
Oh crikey- glad you've come through it though. "
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"Does anyone feel lost here? I talk on forums and sometimes get ignored, blocked and I'm beginning to feel deflated. I realise I'm not everyone's cup of tea but being nice costs nothing. Does anyone else feel lost? "
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I'm going to keep an eye out for you, take you by the hand and walk with you into the daily "Late Late Nocturnal Thread". There's no cliques there; everyone is welcome and everyone is acknowledged. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Does anyone feel lost here? I talk on forums and sometimes get ignored, blocked and I'm beginning to feel deflated. I realise I'm not everyone's cup of tea but being nice costs nothing. Does anyone else feel lost?
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I'm going to keep an eye out for you, take you by the hand and walk with you into the daily "Late Late Nocturnal Thread". There's no cliques there; everyone is welcome and everyone is acknowledged."
Hello lovely, nice to hear from you again. That's lovely thank you |
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"Does anyone feel lost here? I talk on forums and sometimes get ignored, blocked and I'm beginning to feel deflated. I realise I'm not everyone's cup of tea but being nice costs nothing. Does anyone else feel lost? "
Yep, I'm on the forums alot (fem) and I get ignored alot of the time to..unsure what that is..maybe it's because we aren't in the hot pics as much as some are..thats my only guess as to why. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Just wanted to thank you all for taking the time to support me, you are the type of friends I'd love to have. I hope you all have a great weekend. Feel free to message anytime if ever your having a down day. Thank you once again |
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By (user no longer on site)
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i dont care what others think of us never have done never will there are several clicks on here who seem to follow each other to the moon n back to afraid to say what they are really thinking thru fear of not being liked .. nah i say what i want as long as its not bullying or anything nasty like kink shaming ...
dont know why people get so hung up with the forun thats from the site point of view is so tiny that its really no influence on the site what so ever....people should be themselves and be able to say what they want within the rules and again not being horrible
..these forums sometimes remind me of school with all the bullies and those that think there shit dont stink ...
just be yourself and plod on keep posting dont worry what other think its your site as much as anyone elses and your more than likely never meet any for real away ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Sorry to hear that you feel bad OP but honestly you shouldn’t as there are a lot of clicks on the forum loads of people follow ‘the crowd’ which looks desperate because those ignorant, up their own arses, attention seeking people crave that and it’s not a nice look. I never take the forum in a serious way I’m just here to have a laugh and never take it personally if I get ignored or don’t get a mention. You seem a lovely lady so please don’t let them get to you as they crave off it. Chin up sweetheart x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Does anyone feel lost here? I talk on forums and sometimes get ignored, blocked and I'm beginning to feel deflated. I realise I'm not everyone's cup of tea but being nice costs nothing. Does anyone else feel lost? "
It is part and parcel of being on this type of site, many need a thick skin. I have been ignored too and I ignore, just the way it is. Not everyone is for everyone.
On a personal level to you, I cannot see why you are struggling. You have nice boobs, great ink and sexy lingerie, plus come across as a nice person on forums. Don’t let it knock your confidence |
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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago
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"I'm not sure I feel "lost", as such, but I often feel like I haven't yet found the place I'm looking for. I feel like I've got a lot to offer, but I can't seem to find an audience for it. Ho hum. "
Same here. I feel exactly like that. But people like to see what they like to see on the forums… *shrug* |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Ladies and gents, stop worrying, just be you. I have killed few threads before and also had my charming wit ignored but am I stopping, no
Sometimes being ignored is not deliberate they may miss your post, I sometimes do and realise little time after. Or they may not be a fit with you type wise and do not want to encourage.
You will get interaction at times and silence at times, do not base your self worth on it. Post what you want where you want, be real. Just like me.
* Group hug [naked optional] * |
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"Ladies and gents, stop worrying, just be you. I have killed few threads before and also had my charming wit ignored but am I stopping, no
Sometimes being ignored is not deliberate they may miss your post, I sometimes do and realise little time after. Or they may not be a fit with you type wise and do not want to encourage.
You will get interaction at times and silence at times, do not base your self worth on it. Post what you want where you want, be real. Just like me.
* Group hug [naked optional] *"
I think you're a riot. I love your forum comments |
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"Ladies and gents, stop worrying, just be you. I have killed few threads before and also had my charming wit ignored but am I stopping, no
Sometimes being ignored is not deliberate they may miss your post, I sometimes do and realise little time after. Or they may not be a fit with you type wise and do not want to encourage.
You will get interaction at times and silence at times, do not base your self worth on it. Post what you want where you want, be real. Just like me.
* Group hug [naked optional] *"
Yes totally this.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Ladies and gents, stop worrying, just be you. I have killed few threads before and also had my charming wit ignored but am I stopping, no
Sometimes being ignored is not deliberate they may miss your post, I sometimes do and realise little time after. Or they may not be a fit with you type wise and do not want to encourage.
You will get interaction at times and silence at times, do not base your self worth on it. Post what you want where you want, be real. Just like me.
* Group hug [naked optional] *
Yes totally this.
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It may be just this for you but you need to understand not everyone is the same and some people really do suffer insecurities and aren't able to just pick themselves up that easily. Luckily I can and am grateful for the people I have around me however, some people rely on this site and the forums for interaction with people and may need the positivity others provide for their mental health. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ladies and gents, stop worrying, just be you. I have killed few threads before and also had my charming wit ignored but am I stopping, no
Sometimes being ignored is not deliberate they may miss your post, I sometimes do and realise little time after. Or they may not be a fit with you type wise and do not want to encourage.
You will get interaction at times and silence at times, do not base your self worth on it. Post what you want where you want, be real. Just like me.
* Group hug [naked optional] *
Yes totally this.
It may be just this for you but you need to understand not everyone is the same and some people really do suffer insecurities and aren't able to just pick themselves up that easily. Luckily I can and am grateful for the people I have around me however, some people rely on this site and the forums for interaction with people and may need the positivity others provide for their mental health. "
I suffered my whole life from childhood to adulthood with people trying to tear me apart on multiple levels including my looks and self-confidence. My thicker skin I developed in response, along with possibly a stubborn streak already in me. But I appreciate your points and that not every one is able to develop that thicker skin x |
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"I'm not sure I feel "lost", as such, but I often feel like I haven't yet found the place I'm looking for. I feel like I've got a lot to offer, but I can't seem to find an audience for it. Ho hum.
Same here. I feel exactly like that. But people like to see what they like to see on the forums… *shrug* "
Yeah. If feels like... like there's a really narrowly defined specific thing people are looking for, and I'm not it.
Oh well. I'm just another bitter single man whining. Ignore me! |
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"Ladies and gents, stop worrying, just be you. I have killed few threads before and also had my charming wit ignored but am I stopping, no
Sometimes being ignored is not deliberate they may miss your post, I sometimes do and realise little time after. Or they may not be a fit with you type wise and do not want to encourage.
You will get interaction at times and silence at times, do not base your self worth on it. Post what you want where you want, be real. Just like me.
* Group hug [naked optional] *"
If being me worked, I wouldn't have anything to worry about! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If there was a 'Like' button people wouldn't feel so ignored. The cliques may well have a field day with it but the normal people would realise that actually people do 'see' them and appreciate their posts.
There's loads of people on this thread who I recognise as being posters I like but we can't reply + quote to everyone. |
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"If there was a 'Like' button people wouldn't feel so ignored. The cliques may well have a field day with it but the normal people would realise that actually people do 'see' them and appreciate their posts.
There's loads of people on this thread who I recognise as being posters I like but we can't reply + quote to everyone. "
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over a year ago
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"Does anyone feel lost here? I talk on forums and sometimes get ignored, blocked and I'm beginning to feel deflated. I realise I'm not everyone's cup of tea but being nice costs nothing. Does anyone else feel lost? "
We had a nice chat I seem to remember? Happy to chat again |
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By *ladecarpalMan
over a year ago
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"Does anyone feel lost here? I talk on forums and sometimes get ignored, blocked and I'm beginning to feel deflated. I realise I'm not everyone's cup of tea but being nice costs nothing. Does anyone else feel lost? "
No need to feel lost you can always reach out . There will be someone who is just waiting for you to make contact. Just like any large group of disparate people there are very many differing tastes and characters. Patience will always pay dividends. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Does anyone feel lost here? I talk on forums and sometimes get ignored, blocked and I'm beginning to feel deflated. I realise I'm not everyone's cup of tea but being nice costs nothing. Does anyone else feel lost? "
I feel exactly the same often so I disappear for a while then pop back to see nothing changes however some fabbers are nice and receptive so I don’t leave for long 
Ps I’ve noticed you if that stands for anything  |
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Honestly OP I've found this site was doing a massive number on my self-confidence.
I feel invisible on here and after three years I still don't fit in and still can't seem to make the sort of connections and friendships that I see other people make so easily.
The advice always seems to be to get more involved. I didn't find that helpful, the more involved I got the more I got ignored!
I've tried to meet other women on here socially but have been stood up even more frequently than I've been stood up by men, so I've come to the conclusion that for whatever reason I'm not a good fit for the site and have all but given up.
I used to search and send a lot of first messages, but I no longer bother. I log in now just for entertainment, to while away an odd bored hour or two, and I use other sites where I fit in better and things seem to flow much more easily to find potential friends and FBs. The less involved I am on here the more entertaining the site is.
I think it's something a huge number of us have felt, you certainly aren't alone in feeling that way  |
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"Does anyone feel lost here? I talk on forums and sometimes get ignored, blocked and I'm beginning to feel deflated. I realise I'm not everyone's cup of tea but being nice costs nothing. Does anyone else feel lost? "
As someone said earlier, this place does nothing for your self worth. Stick with it, in the words of a famous actor "Don't give the B*st*rd the satisfaction"
You look amazing, the ink looks fantastic too. Just know what you want & dont settle for less. Ive been here many yrs & had tons of knock backs & been blocked for no reason. Then when ive bumped into said person or persons at club, they're like "Eeh I didnt think we'd get on, so i blocked you" but we'd already played & then chatted in the bar lol.
Send me a mssg if you want to chat, or you can block me lol
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over a year ago
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"Honestly OP I've found this site was doing a massive number on my self-confidence.
I feel invisible on here and after three years I still don't fit in and still can't seem to make the sort of connections and friendships that I see other people make so easily.
The advice always seems to be to get more involved. I didn't find that helpful, the more involved I got the more I got ignored!
I've tried to meet other women on here socially but have been stood up even more frequently than I've been stood up by men, so I've come to the conclusion that for whatever reason I'm not a good fit for the site and have all but given up.
I used to search and send a lot of first messages, but I no longer bother. I log in now just for entertainment, to while away an odd bored hour or two, and I use other sites where I fit in better and things seem to flow much more easily to find potential friends and FBs. The less involved I am on here the more entertaining the site is.
I think it's something a huge number of us have felt, you certainly aren't alone in feeling that way "
Wow I'm not sure what to say, it's awful you've been made to feel that way. I'm happy to friend anyone, I do think you should do what is right for you and I'm glad you feel that you have found acceptance elsewhere. Sometimes I really don't think people think of the consequences of their actions and they probably don't care to be honest. All you can be is yourself and if people don't want to know you it's their loss. If you ever want a chat I'm more than happy keep smiling |
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"Does anyone feel lost here? I talk on forums and sometimes get ignored, blocked and I'm beginning to feel deflated. I realise I'm not everyone's cup of tea but being nice costs nothing. Does anyone else feel lost? "
Sorry to hear this...all I can say is don't give up and try and ignore the rude comments. There are some very strange people about and some are unfortunately on here.
You have some great images on your profile by the way!
Take care and stay safe. x |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I think most of us have felt like that at some time or other. It's not a nice feeling, is it?
So I try now to engage with people and not just those I know well, if I see them on private message games then I'll try and send them a message. It becomes disheartening when you try to be inclusive to be met with silence and people still posting about feeling invisible etc (not saying you've done this OP) - I guess it's a double edged sword that I've experienced both sides of.
Keep doing you and hopefully you'll feel a bit less invisible soon - the thread should show you you're far from it x |
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By *aiseiMan
over a year ago
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"Does anyone feel lost here? I talk on forums and sometimes get ignored, blocked and I'm beginning to feel deflated. I realise I'm not everyone's cup of tea but being nice costs nothing. Does anyone else feel lost? "
It’s very easy to take this place to heart, but it often becomes problematic when you do.
Just be mindful of how much you invest and you may find it easier. x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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you've got to take it for what it is.. an internet site with (some) people hiding behind profiles being who they're not..
take what you can but don't be cosumed by it
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"Not everyone gets acknowledged or recognised on the forum. It is difficult to accept, but once you do, things are easier. I was thinking exactly the same as you last year… I always felt ignored. Still do most of the time. I will never get mentions in some threads or in any of those postie ones haha, but that’s ok. I’ve made peace with it and now just enjoy reading the different topics and replying when I fancy it, but I don’t expect acknowledgement or replies anymore. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don’t let it bother you honey.
I went to a club on my own got no attention and when I tried it didn’t go anywhere. I felt rejected by the entire club.
I know I’m not stunner but not too bad on the eyes |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"you've got to take it for what it is.. an internet site with (some) people hiding behind profiles being who they're not..
take what you can but don't be cosumed by it
Well said lovely
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"Wow I'm not sure what to say, it's awful you've been made to feel that way. I'm happy to friend anyone, I do think you should do what is right for you and I'm glad you feel that you have found acceptance elsewhere. Sometimes I really don't think people think of the consequences of their actions and they probably don't care to be honest. All you can be is yourself and if people don't want to know you it's their loss. If you ever want a chat I'm more than happy keep smiling "
It's not a fault thing to me, nobody has made me feel that way and it's not about actions or inaction, it's just the way I feel and I have accepted I'm not a good fit for the site.
Oddly, having done that and taken a giant step back I am finding I'm having a much better laugh on here, and finding my feet in other places has allowed me to regain the lost confidence.
Not every site is a good fit for me and that's not the site's fault any more than it is mine! I hope you're feeling a bit better about things this evening, at any rate |
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Sorry to hear you've been feeling that way OP.
The forums used to be a great place to visit but over the past year or so it's always the same people posting on the same threads (usually all the ones saying how inclusive they are) yet they ignore everyone else on the thread while chatting amongst themselves.
Try not to let it get you down x |
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By *asavoMan
over a year ago
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"Does anyone feel lost here? I talk on forums and sometimes get ignored, blocked and I'm beginning to feel deflated. I realise I'm not everyone's cup of tea but being nice costs nothing. Does anyone else feel lost? "
I think this site has changed loads in the last 5 years, definitely more males! I think these days we all know what we want and like, taking time to talk to someone has gone I think, we read profiles and skip them if 1 or 2 things are not what we are looking for.
The social side of this side is starting to fade now... |
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By *asavoMan
over a year ago
Royston |
"Don’t let it bother you honey.
I went to a club on my own got no attention and when I tried it didn’t go anywhere. I felt rejected by the entire club.
I know I’m not stunner but not too bad on the eyes "
I am scared to go for this reason, I think the first few times are maybe hard to break the inner friendship circle? Have you been since? I have friends who go but they are more out going and friendly than myself I need to feel comfortable to open up. |
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By *asavoMan
over a year ago
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"Fab only goes so far for connecting with people I'm afraid.
You can be everyone's cup of tea on or off the forums nor should you try to be honest. It really.depends what you are looking for on here.
Just keep at it. Sooner or later you'll connect to the right fella on here.
I can't even joke with someone without being blocked. Honestly give up "
Humor is very hard to some in just words, I think we have all been block for a flirty or dirty joke |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Honestly OP I've found this site was doing a massive number on my self-confidence.
I feel invisible on here and after three years I still don't fit in and still can't seem to make the sort of connections and friendships that I see other people make so easily.
The advice always seems to be to get more involved. I didn't find that helpful, the more involved I got the more I got ignored!
I've tried to meet other women on here socially but have been stood up even more frequently than I've been stood up by men, so I've come to the conclusion that for whatever reason I'm not a good fit for the site and have all but given up.
I used to search and send a lot of first messages, but I no longer bother. I log in now just for entertainment, to while away an odd bored hour or two, and I use other sites where I fit in better and things seem to flow much more easily to find potential friends and FBs. The less involved I am on here the more entertaining the site is.
I think it's something a huge number of us have felt, you certainly aren't alone in feeling that way "
Always enjoy your comments and you have a wicked sense of humour. You're not invisible to me. |
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"Does anyone feel lost here? I talk on forums and sometimes get ignored, blocked and I'm beginning to feel deflated. I realise I'm not everyone's cup of tea but being nice costs nothing. Does anyone else feel lost? "
wow I'm amazed that you get blocked, thought it was just us guys,chin up, tomorrow always a better day xx |
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"Honestly OP I've found this site was doing a massive number on my self-confidence.
I feel invisible on here and after three years I still don't fit in and still can't seem to make the sort of connections and friendships that I see other people make so easily.
The advice always seems to be to get more involved. I didn't find that helpful, the more involved I got the more I got ignored!
I've tried to meet other women on here socially but have been stood up even more frequently than I've been stood up by men, so I've come to the conclusion that for whatever reason I'm not a good fit for the site and have all but given up.
I used to search and send a lot of first messages, but I no longer bother. I log in now just for entertainment, to while away an odd bored hour or two, and I use other sites where I fit in better and things seem to flow much more easily to find potential friends and FBs. The less involved I am on here the more entertaining the site is.
I think it's something a huge number of us have felt, you certainly aren't alone in feeling that way
Always enjoy your comments and you have a wicked sense of humour. You're not invisible to me. "
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"Sorry to hear you've been feeling that way OP.
The forums used to be a great place to visit but over the past year or so it's always the same people posting on the same threads (usually all the ones saying how inclusive they are) yet they ignore everyone else on the thread while chatting amongst themselves.
Try not to let it get you down x"
yea I'll go with this too |
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"Sorry to hear you've been feeling that way OP.
The forums used to be a great place to visit but over the past year or so it's always the same people posting on the same threads (usually all the ones saying how inclusive they are) yet they ignore everyone else on the thread while chatting amongst themselves.
Try not to let it get you down x"
Definitely agree with this.
It's like walking into a working man's club, sitting on good old Bob's seat who died a couple of years ago (which they keep empty) and every bugga looking at u like you should of known haha.
Socials are definitely I have found are an amazing way to meet people who you might click with.
I host a social and through that have made some very good friends who I can have a laugh with on the forums. People that I would not of had pleasure of meeting if it was just chatting here and probably wouldn't of chatted to..
Meeting people just from chatting here is hard, get to social near you and you will find people are so welcoming. Xxx
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"Does anyone feel lost here? I talk on forums and sometimes get ignored, blocked and I'm beginning to feel deflated. I realise I'm not everyone's cup of tea but being nice costs nothing. Does anyone else feel lost? "
From what I can see, you're very popular here x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Does anyone feel lost here? I talk on forums and sometimes get ignored, blocked and I'm beginning to feel deflated. I realise I'm not everyone's cup of tea but being nice costs nothing. Does anyone else feel lost? "
Some people can be horrible here |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Thank you all for your input, om feeling alot better . Thank you for your kind words
You know where I am if you ever have another wobble. Xxx"
Thanks Chunky you're lovely friend to have |
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By *aviddomMan
over a year ago
South Shields |
You are not lost just slightly misplaced, I know what it is to be isolated, I’m dealing with that right now. It’s a dark place to be. Just know others are suffering equally and good people are out there. X |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You are not lost just slightly misplaced, I know what it is to be isolated, I’m dealing with that right now. It’s a dark place to be. Just know others are suffering equally and good people are out there. X"
Thank you, I'm not suffering but I do worry others are. This site can be relentless and hostile. Some people don't have thick skin and shouldn't have to develop one to be able to stay on this site. |
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"You are not lost just slightly misplaced, I know what it is to be isolated, I’m dealing with that right now. It’s a dark place to be. Just know others are suffering equally and good people are out there. X
Thank you, I'm not suffering but I do worry others are. This site can be relentless and hostile. Some people don't have thick skin and shouldn't have to develop one to be able to stay on this site. "
Totally agree. Some people forget that it is another human being they are responding to and have no idea what that person may be trying to deal with in RL x |
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I find it's nice to just be nice (apologies if you get me on an off day). Even if I get no response that's fine. I'll even (usually provided it's more than just hi) respond to males messaging me despite not looking for them purely because it's nice to be responded to. Chat rooms and forums can be very clique I have found though or it could just be me who knows, anyway behave as you'd like to be responded too and if other folks don't then it's their loss and move on |
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"I find it's nice to just be nice (apologies if you get me on an off day). Even if I get no response that's fine. I'll even (usually provided it's more than just hi) respond to males messaging me despite not looking for them purely because it's nice to be responded to. Chat rooms and forums can be very clique I have found though or it could just be me who knows, anyway behave as you'd like to be responded too and if other folks don't then it's their loss and move on "
I'm glad you have a positive attitude it's a lovely trait to have, unfortunately not everyone can have a positive outlook and I think some of these threads can be quite damaging for people's wellbeing. I know people will say well they shouldn't be here and maybe they shouldn't but if it's their only interaction with people why shouldn't they be here able to join in without feeling isolated and ignored. These threads are for all to enjoy not just the selected few. |
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"I find it's nice to just be nice (apologies if you get me on an off day). Even if I get no response that's fine. I'll even (usually provided it's more than just hi) respond to males messaging me despite not looking for them purely because it's nice to be responded to. Chat rooms and forums can be very clique I have found though or it could just be me who knows, anyway behave as you'd like to be responded too and if other folks don't then it's their loss and move on
I'm glad you have a positive attitude it's a lovely trait to have, unfortunately not everyone can have a positive outlook and I think some of these threads can be quite damaging for people's wellbeing. I know people will say well they shouldn't be here and maybe they shouldn't but if it's their only interaction with people why shouldn't they be here able to join in without feeling isolated and ignored. These threads are for all to enjoy not just the selected few."
I agree, I have occasionally hidden my profile and taken a break for a week or two until I feel less mentally fragile. It seems to work for me. I hope you find your peace and confidence. |
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"I find it's nice to just be nice (apologies if you get me on an off day). Even if I get no response that's fine. I'll even (usually provided it's more than just hi) respond to males messaging me despite not looking for them purely because it's nice to be responded to. Chat rooms and forums can be very clique I have found though or it could just be me who knows, anyway behave as you'd like to be responded too and if other folks don't then it's their loss and move on
I'm glad you have a positive attitude it's a lovely trait to have, unfortunately not everyone can have a positive outlook and I think some of these threads can be quite damaging for people's wellbeing. I know people will say well they shouldn't be here and maybe they shouldn't but if it's their only interaction with people why shouldn't they be here able to join in without feeling isolated and ignored. These threads are for all to enjoy not just the selected few."
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By *avie65Man
over a year ago
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"I find it's nice to just be nice (apologies if you get me on an off day). Even if I get no response that's fine. I'll even (usually provided it's more than just hi) respond to males messaging me despite not looking for them purely because it's nice to be responded to. Chat rooms and forums can be very clique I have found though or it could just be me who knows, anyway behave as you'd like to be responded too and if other folks don't then it's their loss and move on
I'm glad you have a positive attitude it's a lovely trait to have, unfortunately not everyone can have a positive outlook and I think some of these threads can be quite damaging for people's wellbeing. I know people will say well they shouldn't be here and maybe they shouldn't but if it's their only interaction with people why shouldn't they be here able to join in without feeling isolated and ignored. These threads are for all to enjoy not just the selected few."
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Read this thread with interest. I avoid the site if I'm feeling in any way vulnerable (which is frequently). The casual deletion of a message or block can have a disproportionate & illogical impact if I'm not in the right place. I appreciate that avoidance rather than resilience isn't the ideal solution but resilience isn't an option for some of us. |
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"Read this thread with interest. I avoid the site if I'm feeling in any way vulnerable (which is frequently). The casual deletion of a message or block can have a disproportionate & illogical impact if I'm not in the right place. I appreciate that avoidance rather than resilience isn't the ideal solution but resilience isn't an option for some of us."
Succinctly put |
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"Does anyone feel lost here? I talk on forums and sometimes get ignored, blocked and I'm beginning to feel deflated. I realise I'm not everyone's cup of tea but being nice costs nothing. Does anyone else feel lost? "
All the time I'm afraid & it's not a nice feeling |
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"Does anyone feel lost here? I talk on forums and sometimes get ignored, blocked and I'm beginning to feel deflated. I realise I'm not everyone's cup of tea but being nice costs nothing. Does anyone else feel lost? "
All the time ! Sick at the moment but it does get better there are lot lovely lady’s and gents who are genuinely nice people  |
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By *aviddomMan
over a year ago
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"You are not lost just slightly misplaced, I know what it is to be isolated, I’m dealing with that right now. It’s a dark place to be. Just know others are suffering equally and good people are out there. X
Thank you, I'm not suffering but I do worry others are. This site can be relentless and hostile. Some people don't have thick skin and shouldn't have to develop one to be able to stay on this site. "
Thank you for your kind and thoughtful words. I agree we need to be more understanding tolerant and caring, the world as a whole would benefit hugely x |
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"Read this thread with interest. I avoid the site if I'm feeling in any way vulnerable (which is frequently). The casual deletion of a message or block can have a disproportionate & illogical impact if I'm not in the right place. I appreciate that avoidance rather than resilience isn't the ideal solution but resilience isn't an option for some of us."
I'd agree. There's a few times I've felt very down and it's not a good place unless you have a friend or two to DM. |
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By *aviddomMan
over a year ago
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"You are not lost just slightly misplaced, I know what it is to be isolated, I’m dealing with that right now. It’s a dark place to be. Just know others are suffering equally and good people are out there. X
Thank you, I'm not suffering but I do worry others are. This site can be relentless and hostile. Some people don't have thick skin and shouldn't have to develop one to be able to stay on this site.
Totally agree. Some people forget that it is another human being they are responding to and have no idea what that person may be trying to deal with in RL x"
Exactly peoples struggles and coping mechanisms are varied and often well hidden. Just because someone says something or acts a certain way doesn’t mean they are not internally hiding x |
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I get like this a lot. I don't take photos too often as I'm really self conscious, but when I finally take one I like and upload it, and it doesn't get fabbed even once, I remember why I don't take pictures very often. |
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Frequently, folk here are much worse than they were say 8 years ago. Lots of ghosting, pic collectors, fakes, fantasists who have no intention of meeting etc  . It's a minefield now... |
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Comes with the territory I’m afraid, I was the same tbh, didn’t see the point in it, we are mostly ignored or get one word answers in the messages, I’ve given up trying to talk to people, now I just see it as entertainment from the forums and to show my photos off.
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"Comes with the territory I’m afraid, I was the same tbh, didn’t see the point in it, we are mostly ignored or get one word answers in the messages, I’ve given up trying to talk to people, now I just see it as entertainment from the forums and to show my photos off.
The mr. "
And great photo's they are |
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"Comes with the territory I’m afraid, I was the same tbh, didn’t see the point in it, we are mostly ignored or get one word answers in the messages, I’ve given up trying to talk to people, now I just see it as entertainment from the forums and to show my photos off.
The mr.
And great photo's they are "
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"Comes with the territory I’m afraid, I was the same tbh, didn’t see the point in it, we are mostly ignored or get one word answers in the messages, I’ve given up trying to talk to people, now I just see it as entertainment from the forums and to show my photos off.
The mr.
And great photo's they are
Why thank you "
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We have been on fab for 3 years now and have read a fair few books
I always see people saying "have met some really good friends on here" we always ask how that cam be because we haven't gained one friend yet and not for the lack of trying, so that dents the confidence. I (female) are in the forums loads and have been since day one really and I think iv been acknowledged once or twice but no more than that. There was one thread in particular that I started but was pretty much dealing with people who were trying to shoot me down..not reading between the lines. Eventually the discussion went onto something totally diffrent and that was due to folk making a conversation between each other which I think is pretty rude tbh...it takes over the OPS thread.
When we first started on fab, we had no idea how things worked.how we should word things when msging people, we approached a few couples and asked if they could give us some tips and advice..we really hadn't a clue and we wanted to make it work...we were ignored, shunned or if we did get a response the effort was terrible. We were so shocked that a community like this had no interest in welcoming others.
So yeah we learned the hard way and so much time could have been saved if someone was just willing to give us a few words of advice.
Since then if we see a couple that has just joined and they make it clear they have never been involved with swinging or websites like this, we always send a welcome msg and ask if they would like to know anything to which we do get reply saying that they would love some advice, it just makes that bit more enjoyable for newbies.
Some people might disagree with what iv said but there is no harm in being nice.
A lady above said she was totally ignored at a club which honestly is beyond disgusting behaviour, especially being the club that it is..I can't imagine how that must have made her feel. The club cliques stand out a mile.
We would love to try a club or two but this is exactly what puts us off, the potential to be ignored..it makes me laugh actually when folk ask what's the best way to meet and get verified..the answer is go to a club, not everyone has the confidence to just walk Into to a club not knowing what to expect and if there was this chance of being ignored, and can make you feel like your not worth getting to know. Especially if your face doesn't fit.
It's really quite sad the amount of people on this thread are feeling it one way or another.
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I think on here you just have to take everything with a pinch of salt, if you get a reply or good interaction enjoy, but with such a large amount of fake profiles and people chasing the same people sometimes it will feel as though you are being ignored?! There’s always tomorrow |
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"Does anyone feel lost here? I talk on forums and sometimes get ignored, blocked and I'm beginning to feel deflated. I realise I'm not everyone's cup of tea but being nice costs nothing. Does anyone else feel lost? "
Awww you won't be blocked here, lovely to meet you.  |
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"Does anyone feel lost here? I talk on forums and sometimes get ignored, blocked and I'm beginning to feel deflated. I realise I'm not everyone's cup of tea but being nice costs nothing. Does anyone else feel lost?
Awww you won't be blocked here, lovely to meet you. "
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"Does anyone feel lost here? I talk on forums and sometimes get ignored, blocked and I'm beginning to feel deflated. I realise I'm not everyone's cup of tea but being nice costs nothing. Does anyone else feel lost?
Hey, this site can be very friendly but also sometimes unpleasant, you stick with the nice people!
Awww you won't be blocked here, lovely to meet you.
Pleasure to meet you too "
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Fabland is a weird and wonderful concoction of a place. We’ve always tried to be as open and honest as we can be and try to be polite and you do end up questioning why you put yourselves through it when you get blocked for no apparent reason after chatting a lot or when you are on the receiving end of derogatory messages. Sometimes we just take a step back and remember to not take things too seriously on here. Unfortunately that also can be a problem as a lot of people think that because of our humorous approach to this place that we’re a joke profile and don’t want to have anything to do with us! It’s hard to read people initially anyway, it’s even harder through the medium of fabland which is a jungle that is also frequented not just by swingers but also the curious, the fantasists and the time wasters. Consequently we rarely engage on here now which is a shame. Covid did throw a huge spanner in our works as it did with everyone else just as we were finding our feet in this weird and wonderful journey, maybe we will continue in our adventure but at the moment we’re not feeling the excitement that we once were. |
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