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Why do some couples fulminate against hotel meet
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Some people decry anything hotel fun. infact I presume hotel meet is more discreet, secure and neutral environment.I don't know the reason why people dislike the idea.
To me I prefer hotel meet. What about you? |
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Each to their own I guess. Everyone has a preference.
To be fair, as couple who use hotels from time to time, it's true to say hotel prices did kinda sky rocketed last year which may have put some off.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We'd be up for meeting couples in a hotel.
Definitely not meeting single guys in a hotel, chances are they are married and hiding it from their wife, so that's not for us. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There's something dirty about meeting in a hotel - what's not to love??? I think it adds a hit of excitement, and you're not having to worry about neighbours or civi visitors turning up! |
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By *konCouple
over a year ago
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We hate hotels . It’s expensive ( seriously so these days ) , there’s the obligation , the expectation that because a room has been paid for that you’re committed to proceeding no matter what the other party has told porkers about ) , the paper thin walls , the walk of Shane past reception , etc etc .
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Always hotel meet .
We do not prefer house meets as we wouldn't know what's hidden in there.
And I think clubs are the safest place of all for swingers. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We hate hotels . It’s expensive ( seriously so these days ) , there’s the obligation , the expectation that because a room has been paid for that you’re committed to proceeding no matter what the other party has told porkers about ) , the paper thin walls , the walk of Shane past reception , etc etc .
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There is no obligation to play.
Also before visiting a hotel, I am sure you must have had a no pressure social meet, to see if there's an attraction and consent to play.
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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago
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I think it's also the expense of it all and plus from what I found out as well, all that effort could be in vain if someone pulls out at the last minute (not that kind of way lol). I get bookings can be changed and all that, but that's another load of sorting out to do isn't it? |
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Number of things.
1 Having to be sneaked in.
2 The expectation that sex is definitely on the cards.
3 Cost especially if you end up not clicking.
4 plus the feel that you are a prostitute.
But each to there own!
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We like hotel meets because:
We have an elderly relative living with us.
When meeting single guys you don't have to worry about some deranged bunny-boiler finding your address.
If we are having a social first the city is handy and a hotel is more convenient. |
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"what a mixed review. Peronally hotel offer me more chance to express my sexual prowess. Club scene alway restrict my ability to exude my Sexual uninhibited tendency due to voyeuristic crowd."
All clubs have rooms with lockable doors to show your prowess. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We’ve been let down by more people wanting hotel meets than anything else so tend avoid them. Plus the splitting the costs after sex makes it feel like an escort service rather than a bit of fun. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"what a mixed review. Peronally hotel offer me more chance to express my sexual prowess. Club scene alway restrict my ability to exude my Sexual uninhibited tendency due to voyeuristic crowd."
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"Some people decry anything hotel fun. infact I presume hotel meet is more discreet, secure and neutral environment.I don't know the reason why people dislike the idea.
To me I prefer hotel meet. What about you?"
Never in a million years. Always meet at a club. Far safer. |
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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago
Shangri-la |
In my last relationship we would occasionally do hotel meets but always on the agreement that the other parties would not be spending the whole night in our room so should make their own accommodation arrangements. We generally preferred club or party situations though. |
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By *konCouple
over a year ago
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"I think it's also the expense of it all and plus from what I found out as well, all that effort could be in vain if someone pulls out at the last minute (not that kind of way lol). I get bookings can be changed and all that, but that's another load of sorting out to do isn't it? "
That sums it up better than we did |
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By *konCouple
over a year ago
cardiff |
"Number of things.
1 Having to be sneaked in.
2 The expectation that sex is definitely on the cards.
3 Cost especially if you end up not clicking.
4 plus the feel that you are a prostitute.
But each to there own!
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And you also put how we feel better than we did ! |
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"what a mixed review. Peronally hotel offer me more chance to express my sexual prowess. Club scene alway restrict my ability to exude my Sexual uninhibited tendency due to voyeuristic crowd.
All clubs have rooms with lockable doors to show your prowess."
not all clubs do as its a matter of safety but there are plenty out there with private rooms indeed |
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Here is an explanation why we generally don’t go for hotel meets. A few years ago we booked a very nice and expensive hotel room for a meet. We invited 3 guys to join us.
Two called off at the last moment.
The final guy sent a text saying he was just parking his car but strangely never appeared in the hotel. His profile vanished that night.
End result was we paid for an expensive room and ended up going to see a movie.
Fuck that we will stick to clubs from now on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some people decry anything hotel fun. infact I presume hotel meet is more discreet, secure and neutral environment.I don't know the reason why people dislike the idea.
To me I prefer hotel meet. What about you?"
Been there done that is my answer...and I question the discreet side of things, when families use the same hotels. Either folk who meet aren't noisy lovers or nobody is into the kink side of play!  |
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"what a mixed review. Peronally hotel offer me more chance to express my sexual prowess. Club scene alway restrict my ability to exude my Sexual uninhibited tendency due to voyeuristic crowd."
Are you saying you go soft if people are watching? |
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I think the biggest reason for couples being against hotel meets is the idea that the man they're meeting is cheating, and they don't want to become embroiled in that. Personally, while I can accommodate, I'm relieved when I'm invited to someone else's or a hotel room, because it saves me doing a lot of housework. |
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"what a mixed review. Peronally hotel offer me more chance to express my sexual prowess. Club scene alway restrict my ability to exude my Sexual uninhibited tendency due to voyeuristic crowd.
Are you saying you go soft if people are watching?"
NO.lol. But there is limitation |
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"Some people decry anything hotel fun. infact I presume hotel meet is more discreet, secure and neutral environment.I don't know the reason why people dislike the idea.
To me I prefer hotel meet. What about you?"
We have yet to have our first hotel meet, I (fem) really wants to have one but just not had the chance yet. |
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For us it’s always a hotel.
Club is ok but you can’t always get access to a private room due to it being used by others and do you really want to go into a room where other people have just done the business and it’s not properly wiped down?
Spontaneous meet is good for club but if it’s a well planned meet then hotel is preferred and we have some rules we always discuss prior to meeting someone in a hotel and feel communication is key, so all parties know where they stand.
Had some excellent hotel meets and can’t wait for more in the future.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I usually meet in a hotel it’s neutral ground usually a nice big bed and walk in shower all clean fresh and tidy…
Would never do it last minute spontaneously, As they’re more prone to letting you down. Build a connection and friendship, meet for a social before.
I’ve had some great times in hotels  |
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I do prefer hotels as at one meet at someone’s home they obviously didn’t possess a hoover! Another meet at someone’s home (this time my own fault for not asking beforehand) they were the crazy cat woman and I have an allergy to cat dander. Even my inhaler struggled to cope with that one and I had to leave being able to breathe properly again a little while later. |
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I personally prefer to accommodate but given the high risk of no shows on Fab, to either travel or book a hotel is risky financially.
I have heard too many accounts of couples making all the arrangements: grandparents looking after the children,hotel booked a building the sense of anticipation; only to be let down by some horrible person or couple. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For us each meet is organised and judged individually.
We don't have a preference and prefer to talk to the other people involved to consider their preferences too. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've never done it but it doesn't appeal. I think it would come with some pressure to play. Social first always and always in a public place then go from there. |
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By *andSCouple
over a year ago
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"If it's someone we've already met, then yes. We wouldn't meet strangers in a hotel room."
This is us too. Meeting at a club means you can enjoy each other if things go well, but needn’t spoil your evening if it doesn’t. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Much prefer a club, feel like your being watched and there may be a knock on the door any minute, can't relax or make a noise. And expensive. Much prefer a good night of dancing and maybe a playroom |
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"I do prefer hotels as at one meet at someone’s home they obviously didn’t possess a hoover! Another meet at someone’s home (this time my own fault for not asking beforehand) they were the crazy cat woman and I have an allergy to cat dander. Even my inhaler struggled to cope with that one and I had to leave being able to breathe properly again a little while later. "
One of the first things I ask people, if they're ok with cats! |
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"Personally, I prefer hotel meet to club due to raucous crowd.For couple who are into candaulism,Hotel is your best bet. jUST my personal view"
Surely couples into candaulism would be better in a club with spectators if they prefer? Or in a locked room if that's what they prefer? We must be lucky in that we've never seen a raucous crowd in 5 years of going to clubs. |
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