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Being called a time waster?
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So, thought we’d start a new thread.. A couple of times now we’ve been called time wasters by people who contacted us or who we’ve chatted with, because we wouldn’t meet them. We think our profile is quite easy to understand if people actually read it! ????? Anyone else experience this? |
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By *un CMan
over a year ago
Basingstoke |
Yes! I got called a time waster yesterday.
Arranged to meet a woman, she said 8pm, I agreed (perfect due to work etc)
Then at 5pm she messaged and said meet at 5.45pm... I said I couldn't... I'm the time waster apparently  |
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By *batMan
over a year ago
Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales) |
I asked for face pics from a couple that were arranging to meet me. In the same message I asked if they'd prefer to meet for a drink or a coffee before we met properly.
The message I got back was scathing! "Coffee? We meet to fuck, not drink coffee." They seemed genuinely offended that I asked to see Facepics and I got the impression they thought I should think myself lucky that I was going to meet them under any circumstances.
To be fair, I wanted to fuck them rather than drink coffee, but I would happily agree to a social first if that had suited them better.
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We had two messages from a couple, a while ago, a few hours apart (we went offline just before the first one). The first was a 'Hey how are you, do you want to meet tonight?'. The second was just 'bloody time wasters'.   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My take on this is that there is a heightened sense of expectation - we all put ourselves right out there with photos that we'd never show anyone - we risk it all for an elusive experience that blows our mind. More often than not actual daily life gets in the way. I reckon that 95% of "timewasting" occurs because Shit happens!
I'm not a door mat so will only wear a bunch of excuses so far but I find that communication is key to success in any aspect of life. Communicate effectively and you'll have enormous and amazing experiences - Don't and you'll be forever frustrated - what I'm trying to say is don't always look to the other party for why tour tryst failed but sometimes look inwards |
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My favourite ever moment of being called a time waster on here is something I’ve mentioned in a few threads.
Chatting to a guy for a week or so. Suggested a meet and he was keen. He suggested Tuesday between 3 & 5.
I could do all day Monday, after 6pm Tues, Weds & Thurs and all day & evening Fri, Sat & Sun.
I was apparently the time waster as I wouldn’t take annual leave to do 3-5 on a Tuesday |
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I think most of us have probably been accused of it at some time or another. It's the sense of entitlement that bugs me, who in their right mind would expect someone they've never met to just instantly drop everything, to accommodate their schedule????? |
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Yup, we can echo lots of the posts here, too many expect you to eat sleep and dream swinging, that you are on it everyday every weekend and I want to meet all the time, truth is we have a Uber busy home life and a child who we need a baby sitter for…sadly life does get in the way |
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My profile is very clear in regard to what I'm here for but many people choose to ignore that because they believe they can test my resolve.
When I don't agree to send a facepic or phone number, shave my beard off or play bi, apparently it's my loss and I'm a timewaster regardless of the fact that they contacted me first with their list of demands.
In my opinion they are just waiting their own time. |
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"So, thought we’d start a new thread.. A couple of times now we’ve been called time wasters by people who contacted us or who we’ve chatted with, because we wouldn’t meet them. We think our profile is quite easy to understand if people actually read it! ????? Anyone else experience this? "
Yes it happens but surely they've wasted our time if they haven't read or blatantly ignored our profile...we do point this out occasionally. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is why I only respond to people who have read my profile. I also make it clear from the get go I'm not looking to meet. As long as people are straight up with you there's no such thing as time wasting. |
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By *ussraneCouple
over a year ago
Romford |
"My take on this is that there is a heightened sense of expectation - we all put ourselves right out there with photos that we'd never show anyone - we risk it all for an elusive experience that blows our mind. More often than not actual daily life gets in the way. I reckon that 95% of "timewasting" occurs because Shit happens!
I'm not a door mat so will only wear a bunch of excuses so far but I find that communication is key to success in any aspect of life. Communicate effectively and you'll have enormous and amazing experiences - Don't and you'll be forever frustrated - what I'm trying to say is don't always look to the other party for why tour tryst failed but sometimes look inwards"
Agree 100% |
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By *UFSWoman
over a year ago
belfast |
I have been called a time water,on numerous occasions for not replying to or opening messages.
My profile is short and clear,don't message me unless I message you first,but do guys take heed? Do they hell? They'd much sooner get nasty with their self entitled attitude.
On the plus side,it's a great filter,because if I see they've contacted me,I now know to steer clear when I am seeking a playmate. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have been called a time water,on numerous occasions for not replying to or opening messages.
My profile is short and clear,don't message me unless I message you first,but do guys take heed? Do they hell? They'd much sooner get nasty with their self entitled attitude.
On the plus side,it's a great filter,because if I see they've contacted me,I now know to steer clear when I am seeking a playmate."
You could just use your filters to stop guys being able to message you |
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By *UFSWoman
over a year ago
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"I have been called a time water,on numerous occasions for not replying to or opening messages.
My profile is short and clear,don't message me unless I message you first,but do guys take heed? Do they hell? They'd much sooner get nasty with their self entitled attitude.
On the plus side,it's a great filter,because if I see they've contacted me,I now know to steer clear when I am seeking a playmate.
You could just use your filters to stop guys being able to message you"
I could do,but then I would lose that filter.The filter that lets me know those guys have no interest in what I want,just what they want.They are most certainly not the type of people I want to interact with. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have been called a time water,on numerous occasions for not replying to or opening messages.
My profile is short and clear,don't message me unless I message you first,but do guys take heed? Do they hell? They'd much sooner get nasty with their self entitled attitude.
On the plus side,it's a great filter,because if I see they've contacted me,I now know to steer clear when I am seeking a playmate."
 I use the Numpty filter too.  |
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Endlessly….especially when I reply to ‘ONE !’ Message saying I’m not meeting currently. Or have a bit of a chat and realise we have nothing in common. Then the ‘time waster’ tag is thrown at me.
I blame sexual frustration |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So, thought we’d start a new thread.. A couple of times now we’ve been called time wasters by people who contacted us or who we’ve chatted with, because we wouldn’t meet them. We think our profile is quite easy to understand if people actually read it! ????? Anyone else experience this? "
on daily basis... do I give a shit?nope... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So, thought we’d start a new thread.. A couple of times now we’ve been called time wasters by people who contacted us or who we’ve chatted with, because we wouldn’t meet them. We think our profile is quite easy to understand if people actually read it! ????? Anyone else experience this? "
Not been called one but come across many! |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
It says 1st line you're not meeting, so I'd say it's clear.
Sadly many just don't read profiles men, women and couples.
I had not meeting several times on my profile and got asked at least a few times a day. I also got the well why you on here reply from 1 or 2.
Use fab how you wish and just ignore those who get arsey cos you say no. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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been called fake ...time waster .. ghost ... catfish .... and yet never said a word but we like it to us its a thank god we never met you or even wasted our time with you to us its just another filter to block them until they join again even then they still stand out just block move on be thankfull they lost it with you before anything remotely happened ...
to the guy that said the whole point is to chat to meet erm no its not the whole point of chatting is to see if you have anything to spark a meet ...if it goes dead youve not been ghosted youve neen sent a clear message of not interested... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"been called fake ...time waster .. ghost ... catfish .... and yet never said a word but we like it to us its a thank god we never met you or even wasted our time with you to us its just another filter to block them until they join again even then they still stand out just block move on be thankfull they lost it with you before anything remotely happened ...
to the guy that said the whole point is to chat to meet erm no its not the whole point of chatting is to see if you have anything to spark a meet ...if it goes dead youve not been ghosted youve neen sent a clear message of not interested..."
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"To be quite honest the whole point of chat on a swingers site is to eventually meet but for someone to chat to you and ghost you is a waste of time "
We disagree I’m afraid. There is no obligation to meet physically when joining this site. We enjoy the chat room etc. Surely ones reason for being here doesn’t have to align with another’s. |
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