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By *njamesMan
over a year ago
Swindon |
"If we click with someone we play on the first meet, does anyone else?  "
Yes I do, we would normally meet for a drink or social and see if we get on, then I'll leave the couple to see whether I'm what they are looking for, then fun times. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I used to swing on a first meet as standard, and in truth I had alot more success with that approach (with regards to actually having sex) than I did with the more socially acceptable 'meet for a drink first' routine.
Whilst obviously you can't expect two way sexual attraction with everyone you meet, I find its generally best that when you do, you at least leave the option open to have sex if you DO fancy one another, rather than 'we'll have sex next time if this drink goes well' as that sex never seems to actually materialise, even if the drink DOES go well - and when I say go well, I don't mean as in 'yes she seemed quite nice and polite and I'm gonna take that as her fancying me rather than simply being the basic courtesy you'd normally show a stranger', I'm talking about lots of eye contact, openly relaxed body language, intimate and freely flowing conversation, not feeling tense when broaching the subject of whether she could see us in bed together etc. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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By the time ive met someone im pretty sure that im going to want to play with them unless they do something completely stupid on meeting that makes me say no thanks
That has only happened once |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We always arrange a social meet first, though that can lead sex to the same evening, but by arranging it as a social it takes the expectation off so much easier to walk away! and no-shows are not such an issue if we have arranged first meeting in a club.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If we click with someone we play on the first meet, does anyone else? "
depends. I tend to meet people socially for a quick meet and normally when I can't actually play.
If I meet them at a club then yes. But I don't need to click unless it's one to one.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All my meets are on the basis we meet for a drink and if we get on we play
I really cant see the point in meeting someone, your getting on, flirting and sparks flying to go home and arrange a meet another time
for me if im sat face to face with someone i want i want then now not next week  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"All my meets are on the basis we meet for a drink and if we get on we play
I really cant see the point in meeting someone, your getting on, flirting and sparks flying to go home and arrange a meet another time
for me if im sat face to face with someone i want i want then now not next week "
finish ur drink and bend over the table...stop gabbing also |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If we click with someone we play on the first meet, does anyone else? "
Sometimes we do sometimes we don't its all a matter of time, how we all get along and lots of other variables but we don't have hard and fast rules about not playing on the first meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes, very unusual eyes you have there Marty.
Can you make them go the same way sometimes?"
well I'm always looking for better talent when on a meet...ur still my 2nd choice |
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Yes, after all we were both 'sex on the first date' people when much younger.
Geoff recalls how quite a few women told him "I never have sex on the first date" but a few hours later were in the bedroom pulling their knickers off! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nope, not for me I am afraid - I dont want to raise expectations that I may then have to frustrate. I rather meet for a drink and take it from there..."
if I beat u at skat...can i have a shag |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"Nope, not for me I am afraid - I dont want to raise expectations that I may then have to frustrate. I rather meet for a drink and take it from there...
if I beat u at skat...can i have a shag"
That d be so easy as I dont play that.. you d be ina win/win...;-)
I will add this to my earlier post...
if I play with my OH we are happy to play on first meet if all happy. It is just a safety measure for me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have very rarely played on first meet and of the times we have only one turned out brilliant. The rest we wished we hadn't bothered in the end.
So we now stick to social drink and a flirt with a kiss at end. Love leaving wanting more but knowing I have to wait. Got a guy now met for drinks and can't wait to meet for more but can't just yet. The anticipation leaves me very horny and excited. |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"We have very rarely played on first meet and of the times we have only one turned out brilliant. The rest we wished we hadn't bothered in the end.
So we now stick to social drink and a flirt with a kiss at end. Love leaving wanting more but knowing I have to wait. Got a guy now met for drinks and can't wait to meet for more but can't just yet. The anticipation leaves me very horny and excited. "
There is definitely that as well.. anticipation when we meet for a second time knowing that things will go further... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm talking about lots of eye contact, openly relaxed body language, intimate and freely flowing conversation, not feeling tense when broaching the subject of whether she could see us in bed together etc."
You'd get totally the wrong signals from me then. I'm always nervous, tense and guarded with strangers but fine once we've actually started playing.
I only recently started meeting again after a break so it was particularly difficult. So much so that I'm having another break until I feel more prepared.
Tense to begin with doesn't necessarily mean they don't fancy you and definitely doesn't mean they'll be shy in the bedroom. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm talking about lots of eye contact, openly relaxed body language, intimate and freely flowing conversation, not feeling tense when broaching the subject of whether she could see us in bed together etc.
You'd get totally the wrong signals from me then. I'm always nervous, tense and guarded with strangers but fine once we've actually started playing.
I only recently started meeting again after a break so it was particularly difficult. So much so that I'm having another break until I feel more prepared.
Tense to begin with doesn't necessarily mean they don't fancy you and definitely doesn't mean they'll be shy in the bedroom."
Thats why though I generally tend to ask people straight out, in so many words 'do you like me?' at an opportune moment during the meet, because with some people you can't always tell if their shyness is simply a result of the situation (I mean you are meeting a stranger with potentially an eye to having sex with them, its understandble that some people might feel a bit tense). |
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"By the time ive met someone im pretty sure that im going to want to play with them unless they do something completely stupid on meeting that makes me say no thanks
That has only happened once"
The chicken suit was a mistake with hindsight I grant you  |
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Never.
Don't do hotels, clubs, carparks or go to someone's house I don't know. Certainly would not invite strangers into my house, I need to feel comfortable and sure the man is truly a sub.
Social meets have saved me from a few freaks and miscreants and I'll continue to proceed with caution. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"By the time ive met someone im pretty sure that im going to want to play with them unless they do something completely stupid on meeting that makes me say no thanks
That has only happened once
The chicken suit was a mistake with hindsight I grant you "
Yes especially when you said you were coming as a turkey! |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"Never.
Don't do hotels, clubs, carparks or go to someone's house I don't know. Certainly would not invite strangers into my house, I need to feel comfortable and sure the man is truly a sub.
Social meets have saved me from a few freaks and miscreants and I'll continue to proceed with caution."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"By the time ive met someone im pretty sure that im going to want to play with them unless they do something completely stupid on meeting that makes me say no thanks
That has only happened once"
Same here...I only make the plans to meet once I'm pretty damn sure we'd get on. Don't think I've ever not played, and have always had fun! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Always gonna be a yes if we meet someone usually we no we are gonna play unless when we meet we don't click can't see the point in missing an opportunity for x  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"yes absolutly, after all it's about sex not "what's your favorite film?"
What's your favourite film? 
The Big Lebowski, what's yours?
Airplane or Bladerunner... can't decide which."
Snowboard! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Never.
Don't do hotels, clubs, carparks or go to someone's house I don't know. Certainly would not invite strangers into my house, I need to feel comfortable and sure the man is truly a sub.
Social meets have saved me from a few freaks and miscreants and I'll continue to proceed with caution."
I only ever meet for coffee. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Always play on a first meet unless I don't fancy him. Otherwise what's the point? I have friends already I can have coffee with."
I just spat my coffee out, did u say U want a SHAG!? |
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"Our best swaps have been when we've just met a couple and "gone for it"..life's too short for endless meets "
That's fine and dandy when there's two of you to watch each others back. Inviting strange men I know nothing about into the home I share with my daughters is not something I'm prepared to do just for a fuck.
I'm surprised people are poo pooing single women being cautious!  |
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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago
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On my previous profile, I have been lucky to be contacted by that sweet and nice lady just 3 hours after joining. We met the following day and the sex was fantastic. We just click from the first minute |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Our best swaps have been when we've just met a couple and "gone for it"..life's too short for endless meets
That's fine and dandy when there's two of you to watch each others back. Inviting strange men I know nothing about into the home I share with my daughters is not something I'm prepared to do just for a fuck.
I'm surprised people are poo pooing single women being cautious! "
100% agree, but i dont accommodate due to the fact im single with kids and i dont want guys of here knowing where i live
Tho i prefer to play on a first meet i wouldnt if i was taking them back to my house, if i was accommodating id want to know them a bit longer than one drink |
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"Always play on a first meet unless I don't fancy him. Otherwise what's the point? I have friends already I can have coffee with."
That's fine for you, personally I like to know who I'm inviting into my home. Likewise for my playmates. I'm into extreme play, I use sharp objects, wax, restraints etc. They need to ensure I'm not going to hammer their gonads to the floor and steal their wallet. |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
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"Always play on a first meet unless I don't fancy him. Otherwise what's the point? I have friends already I can have coffee with.
That's fine for you, personally I like to know who I'm inviting into my home. Likewise for my playmates. I'm into extreme play, I use sharp objects, wax, restraints etc. They need to ensure I'm not going to hammer their gonads to the floor and steal their wallet. "
I think that's a fair comment. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yes we do. I have spoken to them and can tell pretty quickly whether they are our type and we get on. I'm not into long drawn out social things "
And a good time was had by all |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Our best swaps have been when we've just met a couple and "gone for it"..life's too short for endless meets
That's fine and dandy when there's two of you to watch each others back. Inviting strange men I know nothing about into the home I share with my daughters is not something I'm prepared to do just for a fuck.
I'm surprised people are poo pooing single women being cautious!
100% agree, but i dont accommodate due to the fact im single with kids and i dont want guys of here knowing where i live
Tho i prefer to play on a first meet i wouldnt if i was taking them back to my house, if i was accommodating id want to know them a bit longer than one drink"
I never accomodate and never will, for the same reasons. I don't care if people look down on me as a single female for meeting for coffee or anything I do. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Our best swaps have been when we've just met a couple and "gone for it"..life's too short for endless meets
That's fine and dandy when there's two of you to watch each others back. Inviting strange men I know nothing about into the home I share with my daughters is not something I'm prepared to do just for a fuck.
I'm surprised people are poo pooing single women being cautious!
100% agree, but i dont accommodate due to the fact im single with kids and i dont want guys of here knowing where i live
Tho i prefer to play on a first meet i wouldnt if i was taking them back to my house, if i was accommodating id want to know them a bit longer than one drink
I never accomodate and never will, for the same reasons. I don't care if people look down on me as a single female for meeting for coffee or anything I do. "
we would like to look down on your gorgeous naked body babes lol |
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By *anSusieCouple
over a year ago
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When we started swinging we had social meets + arranged playmeet if all happy.Just realized we haven't had a social meet for 5 month!!!
We do Clubs,Partys,Events:love it as it rolls social+play nicely into 1....we also do repeat meets with great sngls or cpls:so easy planning with sexy friends |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"On my previous profile, I have been lucky to be contacted by that sweet and nice lady just 3 hours after joining. We met the following day and the sex was fantastic. We just click from the first minute "
And that is great, also had the same, booked a room in a nearby hotel and left them very wet bedding to clear up |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I always meet for coffee first.
But I gave been known to take two mouthfuls then rush off to get a hotel together...
But without the meet in a public place (even if brief) there will be no play."
mouthfuls of what tho.. |
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I tend to meet people for a drink first, and then play another time if we've hit it off. I've only played on the first meet a few times, and generally it has been me going to there place. I don't like to invite them back to mine on a first meet. |
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