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Verifications displayed yes or no?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Happy weekend folks.
Not sure on this. I have mine on some of the time so people can read then periodically turn off. Idk I’m unsure if it’s almost oversharing and whether the implication of having verifications is enough.
What do others think? And I’m turning back on for a bit just because they’ve been off a couple weeks |
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I generally only use them to see what a person has taken the time to say about others - As in, if I go to a man's page, I want to see what he's said in the reciprocal verification. I'm not particularly interested in the content / nitty gritty, just how he's expressed himself. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I generally only use them to see what a person has taken the time to say about others - As in, if I go to a man's page, I want to see what he's said in the reciprocal verification. I'm not particularly interested in the content / nitty gritty, just how he's expressed himself. "
Now that is a really interesting perspective! I always make sure I leave a thoughtful but not overly graphic review. If someone has taken the trouble to meet me and do the same it’s just treating others how you’d like to be treated.
Side note: your profile pictures are wonderful. I really like that aesthetic. |
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"I generally only use them to see what a person has taken the time to say about others - As in, if I go to a man's page, I want to see what he's said in the reciprocal verification. I'm not particularly interested in the content / nitty gritty, just how he's expressed himself.
Now that is a really interesting perspective! I always make sure I leave a thoughtful but not overly graphic review. If someone has taken the trouble to meet me and do the same it’s just treating others how you’d like to be treated.
Side note: your profile pictures are wonderful. I really like that aesthetic. "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I generally only use them to see what a person has taken the time to say about others - As in, if I go to a man's page, I want to see what he's said in the reciprocal verification. I'm not particularly interested in the content / nitty gritty, just how he's expressed himself.
Now that is a really interesting perspective! I always make sure I leave a thoughtful but not overly graphic review. If someone has taken the trouble to meet me and do the same it’s just treating others how you’d like to be treated.
Side note: your profile pictures are wonderful. I really like that aesthetic.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well it's there for others to check anyway ,so doesn't bother us.
We display what supposed to be there and hide the ones we want to keep discrete on request.
But verifications are great as it gives an insight into people's sexual history with others. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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"Happy weekend folks.
Not sure on this. I have mine on some of the time so people can read then periodically turn off. Idk I’m unsure if it’s almost oversharing and whether the implication of having verifications is enough.
What do others think? And I’m turning back on for a bit just because they’ve been off a couple weeks"
Similar to you , I display a couple , not anything explicit. Enough to show you’re not a weirdo or anything  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Happy weekend folks.
Not sure on this. I have mine on some of the time so people can read then periodically turn off. Idk I’m unsure if it’s almost oversharing and whether the implication of having verifications is enough.
What do others think? And I’m turning back on for a bit just because they’ve been off a couple weeks
Similar to you , I display a couple , not anything explicit. Enough to show you’re not a weirdo or anything "
Yeah that’s my feeling I’m not about to say anything too much about what we did and would expect same. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I display a couple, as stated above people can judge you with the content and the amount of verifications shown, so a couple is enough to show I'm genuine and not a bunny boiler  |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I wouldn't display anything too sexual, the majority of the ones displayed are from purely social/friends. There are many reasons for that but essentially it boils down to me being quite a private person and also wanting to give off the air of a prudish sort.
I think it's about what works for your profile and what you're looking for; people are going to judge anyway so you might as well do what makes you happy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Verifications just prove two things.. one your a real person and two you have history of actually turning up to meets. We all have different experiences with everyone we meet so I don't read into what other's have said. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Verifications just prove two things.. one your a real person and two you have history of actually turning up to meets. We all have different experiences with everyone we meet so I don't read into what other's have said."
That’s a different perspective but a very healthy way of looking at it. Thank you!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I know some people like to see lots of verifications but look at it another way. Some have active sexual lives. If someone was to look at mine I've had a few meets and really enjoyed it. People who speak to me know I will build up friendship before I get into anything |
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I don't have any explicit veris and have never written one.
Half of my verifications are no longer on the site or have left and returned with a different profile.
I used to display them all but if I notice that someone I've verified is no longer displaying mine I assume there is a reason and I hide theirs also. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We prefer to read some verifications. We read a lot more into them than just showing they're real and will turn up. "
Yeah that’s the dilemma between privacy and discretion and folks knowing you’re legit. I do always offer to send them in dm |
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Yea veris are always a good measure of someone’s personality, likes and dis likes and types of people they are attracted to , always a bit wary of people who don’t display them makes us wonder what they have to hide |
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You can see i have veris, including my latest, but no one can see who ive actually met. Soon as i realised theres some that would ghost me cause they dont like a particular person ive met before, i took em off display. Their personal issues are irrelevant to me but still affected me lol so i made life a bit similar |
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"You can see i have veris, including my latest, but no one can see who ive actually met. Soon as i realised theres some that would ghost me cause they dont like a particular person ive met before, i took em off display. Their personal issues are irrelevant to me but still affected me lol so i made life a bit similar "
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I think in your case OP definitely display  The two you have up rn are quality! They are singing your praises in the most wholesome manner and say so much more than your profile text does. They are a recommendation.
In general I think it's entirely horses for courses, so display the ones you feel represent who/how you are and hide the ones that don't, show as many or as few (none?) as you like. Like a poster above said, they are a sign of compatibility. Every approach creates a different impression, so tailor to the types of people you'd like to meet or the swinging style you aim for/aspire to, then adjust as you go along. |
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"You can see i have veris, including my latest, but no one can see who ive actually met. Soon as i realised theres some that would ghost me cause they dont like a particular person ive met before, i took em off display. Their personal issues are irrelevant to me but still affected me lol so i made life a bit similar "
Veri list drama  Yes they can become like an online equivalent of gossip. |
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By *edusa69Woman
over a year ago
Nottingham |
I used to have quite a few on display but I’ve recently hidden mine along with the summary. It sometimes feels a bit like I’m being stalked when a ‘friend’ comments on the fact I’ve got a new one. I don’t think they mean it that way but I shouldn’t have to feel I need to explain the reason for the veri. But it can make me uncomfortable. And like I’m being monitored.
There seems to be an assumption they are all play meets and are all sent the same day but that’s not the case as we all know. Even if they were that shouldn’t be an issue.
I will share if required but I’m feeling more comfortable now keeping them private. |
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I show my verifications and expect the people that I meet to show theirs (albeit briefly), I state this in my profile. I do the verification trail, can check if they've met before, also see how often they meet for sex and check the women/men they've met previously. So yup, to me, veris are important and help me find what I'm on here for. |
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We display a selection of ours. There's a few repeat meets who left verifications, so no need to display all for the same profile.
I see verifications as simply proof that they do meet, if if only for socials and rarely read the contents.
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"You can see i have veris, including my latest, but no one can see who ive actually met. Soon as i realised theres some that would ghost me cause they dont like a particular person ive met before, i took em off display. Their personal issues are irrelevant to me but still affected me lol so i made life a bit similar
Veri list drama Yes they can become like an online equivalent of gossip."
Exactly and we're not here for the drama |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We do, but haven't used 2 of ours because both guys decided to use them as ads for themselves. Nobheads!"
The type where they say they made the woman orgasm a million times, she was ecstatic on his massive cock and she enjoyed his tongue for hours? |
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I much prefer people to have them on show. I love to read them and see what sort of meets people have had. Helps me decide if I wish to meet them.
I have some of ours on show. Some we've been left I don't like the phrasing used so haven't put them on display. Some are from people we've met more than once and I don't see the need for repeated veris. I think they give a good idea of what people can expect from meeting us  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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its a hard one we wont meet guys who hide them as we will only chat if you have meet n play veris cam and social mean nothing to us also we can work out if they are here to swing or just empty balls and that they have at least some sort of preference in who they meet rather than the fuck anything bridgade...
yet we dont display ours because of the games and nastyness some people will go too with peoples veris ... we will show them temp so they can see we are real and the type of people we meet after that its hidden again |
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We don’t display (m)any play verifications. They are written for our benefit not anyones else’s. We show social verifications to show we are real.
Verifications can tell us a lot in terms of whether we would be compatible…too graphic or vulgar then it’s not likely we’ll get on. We like to see verifications written to the person and what they wrote too. It gives us an insight as to what type of person they are.
We aren’t interested in the sex element, more how they are perceived.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I display mine, so others can see that I’m genuine, open and honest. I actually find it off putting when a guy has veris but doesn’t show them, as it makes me think what is he hiding. I like to read the comments other women have made to see what sort of character etc he has, as mens profiles are so blank and don’t give anything away x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Im quite proud of ours lots of them are really lovely and from socials, they aren't vulgar or abit TMI, most are just sweet and complimentary. I love to read other peoples too.  |
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By *rad670Man
over a year ago
South Lakes |
I choose to show them as it is like a character CV, people will not only know you turned up but also how you conducted yourself and if the the person or persons who wrote the veri is considering seeing you again. |
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"I generally only use them to see what a person has taken the time to say about others - As in, if I go to a man's page, I want to see what he's said in the reciprocal verification. I'm not particularly interested in the content / nitty gritty, just how he's expressed himself. "
Same.
I like to see how a man has written about a woman. Tells me alot! |
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Bumping an old thread as it’s already been discussed here.
We are finding lots of accounts winking and messaging us seem fake couples, who are verifying each other. So we prefer to show our veri’s and it’s a little red flag if the other person(s) do not.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't/didn't show mine as some were really crass & also I have now blocked the people I have met as I didn't want to meet up with again anyway & by doing this it saves any nagging for another meet this is a swinging site after all |
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By *onnyadtMan
over a year ago
Uttoxeter |
I prefer to keep my business and those encounters to myself. Some people judge, compare or come to negative conclusions based off them so I prefer to avoid that. I rather like interaction and conversation between those who show and interest on an even/neutral footing,if not showing verifications costs me a meet or two then so be it. |
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By *iss S xWoman
over a year ago
Yorkshire |
Veris are a godsend. As a single woman going to a man's house, with nothing to go on except instincts
They have helped me make safe choices, and you can see what type of player they are. I have got braver with what I have shown, in an attempt to clarify what I enjoy and cut down time wasting. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Funnily enough I just turned mine back on. I seem to juggle between them off and on. Not quite sure why but perhaps it’s just to mix things up. It also seems whenever they’re off folks ask to see them anyhow.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I won’t consider guys who don’t display theirs! I like to see who they’ve met, ie I won’t meet guys who have veris exclusively from BBWs or have veris from people who do bareback! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends how I’m feeling sometimes I’ll show them and sometimes I won’t, I do like to see guys verifications as gives me an understanding of who they meet, then I can tell if they are just wanting a fuck or not….. I’ve an eye for that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Depends how I’m feeling sometimes I’ll show them and sometimes I won’t, I do like to see guys verifications as gives me an understanding of who they meet, then I can tell if they are just wanting a fuck or not….. I’ve an eye for that "
Same |
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