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Is dogging cheating if it’s only watching..?
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Hi guys and girls, wanted your opinion… Dogging is my fantasy, and specifically watching other girls getting fucked, while I watch…
I’m just wondering if this is something you would consider cheating, it’s something my partner unfortunately would definitely not be up for, so that’s off the table… |
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I would tend to think it would be down to the person on how they took it.
A jealous possessive or insecure person may see it as still cheating .
A level headed sort of person may still see it as cheating, you've broken some sort of trust  |
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I wouldn't consider it cheating if you're only watching
But personally I think if you're going anything you know your girlfriend wouldn't be happy about you're on dodgy ground
Secrets never stay secrets, a friend neighbour may see you etc an show will they know you only ever watch
How does your girlfriend feel about porn, is there some way you can have a conversation, secrets from a partner are never a good idea |
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Very good point, this is the overwhelming feeling I get… like hiding something just isn’t right, I just feel it’s a taboo thing and it’s not harming anybody, right?
But yeah I take your point, she’s not great with talking about porn or anything, I’ve tried before as porn is something that really does it for me, like REALLY…
Maybe it’s something worth working at and trying to get into a conversation soon.. it’s a difficult one to come out with that’s all lol
Im very happy with her, that goes without saying… just get a whole lot of excitement over it… xx |
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"No. Same as watching a skin flick on porn hub or going to a sex show in the dam "
some people wouldn't like them watching porn,I know a guy who's wife really doesn't like him watching porn
He was caught one night after having a few beers and fell asleep with porn playing away to its self.
His wife came down stairs to see where he was, caught him fast asleep with his pride and joy in his hand .The air was blue and for weeks she didn't speak to him |
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"No. Same as watching a skin flick on porn hub or going to a sex show in the dam some people wouldn't like them watching porn,I know a guy who's wife really doesn't like him watching porn
He was caught one night after having a few beers and fell asleep with porn playing away to its self.
His wife came down stairs to see where he was, caught him fast asleep with his pride and joy in his hand .The air was blue and for weeks she didn't speak to him "
Crikey… could be worse for me then lol,
My partner knows I do, just like an unspoken agreement |
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"No. Same as watching a skin flick on porn hub or going to a sex show in the dam some people wouldn't like them watching porn,I know a guy who's wife really doesn't like him watching porn
He was caught one night after having a few beers and fell asleep with porn playing away to its self.
His wife came down stairs to see where he was, caught him fast asleep with his pride and joy in his hand .The air was blue and for weeks she didn't speak to him "
I know what you’re saying that’s just hurt pride but he wasn’t really cheating . Yes though some folk can be like that |
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over a year ago
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"How does your partner feel? They're the only one whose opinion matter when it comes to things like this "
Exactly.
Can just hear the OP saying "Calm down dear. I asked on Fab and they said it was ok." |
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"No. Same as watching a skin flick on porn hub or going to a sex show in the dam some people wouldn't like them watching porn,I know a guy who's wife really doesn't like him watching porn
He was caught one night after having a few beers and fell asleep with porn playing away to its self.
His wife came down stairs to see where he was, caught him fast asleep with his pride and joy in his hand .The air was blue and for weeks she didn't speak to him
I know what you’re saying that’s just hurt pride but he wasn’t really cheating . Yes though some folk can be like that "
Yes maybe she had the thought of "why is he looking at porn rather than me,ah who knows |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
Ask yourself do you feel guilty thinking about it or doing it.then how would you feel if you're partner was interested but you wasn't... To myself it would be cheating but doubt I would even consider it if I was attached dunno why I would |
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"Hi guys and girls, wanted your opinion… Dogging is my fantasy, and specifically watching other girls getting fucked, while I watch…
I’m just wondering if this is something you would consider cheating, it’s something my partner unfortunately would definitely not be up for, so that’s off the table…"
Yes I would consider it cheating. Especially in your case because you know she wouldn't like it.
The fact you are lying about going I would just assume you are also lying about not joining in.
I'd also consider having a secret (that their partner is not aware of) profile on a sex site as cheating, whether the person has met anyone or not. |
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"Hi guys and girls, wanted your opinion… Dogging is my fantasy, and specifically watching other girls getting fucked, while I watch…
I’m just wondering if this is something you would consider cheating, it’s something my partner unfortunately would definitely not be up for, so that’s off the table…
Yes I would consider it cheating. Especially in your case because you know she wouldn't like it.
The fact you are lying about going I would just assume you are also lying about not joining in.
I'd also consider having a secret (that their partner is not aware of) profile on a sex site as cheating, whether the person has met anyone or not. "
You’re no fun you!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi guys and girls, wanted your opinion… Dogging is my fantasy, and specifically watching other girls getting fucked, while I watch…
I’m just wondering if this is something you would consider cheating, it’s something my partner unfortunately would definitely not be up for, so that’s off the table…
Yes I would consider it cheating. Especially in your case because you know she wouldn't like it.
The fact you are lying about going I would just assume you are also lying about not joining in.
I'd also consider having a secret (that their partner is not aware of) profile on a sex site as cheating, whether the person has met anyone or not.
You’re no fun you!! "
I'm always being told that!  |
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My first husband's answer to my queries about the projector and reels of porn that I found was "all husband's have secrets from their wives"  .
The thing is I wasn't even mad just bemused that he didn't want to share them with me.
Don't have secrets, they're like a very weak acid solution, they don't seem to do much damage but over time they corrode. |
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Appreciate the help and advice everyone, was just seeing what people think is all…
I’d have no reason to lie on here, I was just after some opinions, and what people thought of this…
I agree with what a lot of you say, if I’m feeling bad and if I feel my partner would be upset, I guess it’s cheating as it’s breaking the trust. Fully understand…
Appreciate the input! |
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By *ich0103Man
over a year ago
Manchester |
Going and watching is one thing, but your status Comes across that you’re looking for people to meet. Added to that, your profile states that you’re looking for singles and couples and you’ve had a meet by cam… this is a bit different to just watching other couples dogging, in my humble opinion |
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over a year ago
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It's not cheating as such, but you are holding a secret from her. You have to be comfortable with that! I know I wouldn't like it if my partner kept something like that from me |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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I’m thinking about this. As a highly irrational woman I would be pissed off that you were within spitting distance of another naked woman and could, if you wanted and the moon was in alignment and all that jazz, get your dick wet.
Hell the fact you’d have your cock out and were stroking watching them would be enough to fry my beans.
The fact you were doing it in secret would worry me. That you had some sort of addiction to it, that I wasn’t enough sexually, that you just wanted the green light to fuck someone else.
The rational side of my brain appreciates that men are more visually stimulated. Fair enough.
But it would be the gadding about behind my back that would really ruin it for me. I just couldn’t trust you after that.
I realise I may come across as a bunny boiler, but not every woman is cool with the man in her life doing stuff like that. You need to keep that in mind. |
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"I’m thinking about this. As a highly irrational woman I would be pissed off that you were within spitting distance of another naked woman and could, if you wanted and the moon was in alignment and all that jazz, get your dick wet.
Hell the fact you’d have your cock out and were stroking watching them would be enough to fry my beans.
The fact you were doing it in secret would worry me. That you had some sort of addiction to it, that I wasn’t enough sexually, that you just wanted the green light to fuck someone else.
The rational side of my brain appreciates that men are more visually stimulated. Fair enough.
But it would be the gadding about behind my back that would really ruin it for me. I just couldn’t trust you after that.
I realise I may come across as a bunny boiler, but not every woman is cool with the man in her life doing stuff like that. You need to keep that in mind."
I think you make very fair valid points. Not bunny boiler at all. |
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"I’m thinking about this. As a highly irrational woman I would be pissed off that you were within spitting distance of another naked woman and could, if you wanted and the moon was in alignment and all that jazz, get your dick wet.
Hell the fact you’d have your cock out and were stroking watching them would be enough to fry my beans.
The fact you were doing it in secret would worry me. That you had some sort of addiction to it, that I wasn’t enough sexually, that you just wanted the green light to fuck someone else.
The rational side of my brain appreciates that men are more visually stimulated. Fair enough.
But it would be the gadding about behind my back that would really ruin it for me. I just couldn’t trust you after that.
I realise I may come across as a bunny boiler, but not every woman is cool with the man in her life doing stuff like that. You need to keep that in mind.
I think you make very fair valid points. Not bunny boiler at all. "
I would agree with that, if you feel you have to hide it, and feel guilty about it, then should you be doing it?
Also how would your partner feel about it if she found out, and could you handle the potential fall out? |
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Anything your partner isn't cool with is something to be discussed before the relationship trust is violated.
Being in the vicinity of people having sex is way more intimate than 2d porn on a screen. Hiding means the relationship is on the way out, just dying slowly, but it can be saved any time with honesty without blame, communicating though it to a mutual outcome where you are both satisfied with the way forward. Not easy but so worth it. |
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"Very good point, this is the overwhelming feeling I get… like hiding something just isn’t right, I just feel it’s a taboo thing and it’s not harming anybody, right?
But yeah I take your point, she’s not great with talking about porn or anything, I’ve tried before as porn is something that really does it for me, like REALLY…
Maybe it’s something worth working at and trying to get into a conversation soon.. it’s a difficult one to come out with that’s all lol
Im very happy with her, that goes without saying… just get a whole lot of excitement over it… xx"
If she’s not into porn, you can be pretty sure she would not like you going off somewhere to watch a bit of live action !! Watching porn, probably be having a wank into a tissue. Going dogging, you might get carried away and wank over a pair of tits…  |
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