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Social before play or straight in?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We like to get to know a couple first, see if we all click and can have a laugh.
We find enjoying each other’s company makes the play more intense.
Do you agree or do you prefer to go straight in  .? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We like to get to know a couple first, see if we all click and can have a laugh.
We find enjoying each other’s company makes the play more intense.
Do you agree or do you prefer to go straight in .? "
We find the social side do important before play. Attraction, click & likes. Also we have found the better we know the couple the better the sex. Do win win xx |
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"We like to get to know a couple first, see if we all click and can have a laugh.
We find enjoying each other’s company makes the play more intense.
Do you agree or do you prefer to go straight in .? "
Lol always a social first for the Mrs, usually after some online chat/group chat first (s out some of the fakes). We often play straight after the social tho  . Clubs, that's another story  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We like to get to know a couple first, see if we all click and can have a laugh.
We find enjoying each other’s company makes the play more intense.
Do you agree or do you prefer to go straight in .?
Lol always a social first for the Mrs, usually after some online chat/group chat first (s out some of the fakes). We often play straight after the social tho . Clubs, that's another story "
The sessions had with friends are super kinky.. |
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By *rad670Man
over a year ago
South Lakes |
I always expect at least one social but would probably never run if things escalated, we can't control mutual animal attraction after all. I don't think it's realistic to expect anything more than a social for a first meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like a social n see, as long as the initial chat is ok.
I don't like having to guarantee sex. But I don't object to the possibility in my own head before going to social as long as they're not too forceful with an answer |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We like to do a social first, see how we all get along. A few times we've then played that evening & other times we've then made future plans. We have once met someone straight off and played. That was a few weeks ago, really enjoyed it and planning our next meeting 
Mrs x |
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Always a social with a couple first and although we don't plan to play on a first meet, we don't rule it out.
If we're (more so Mrs) in that kind of mood when meeting guys we do play on a first meet. Generally she won't agree to meeting them if they don't provoke 'thise' kind of thoughts. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Defo social first. Even in a club a little while spent chatting goes well  "
This for me too. I don't like the thought that I could play with someone I would dislike during a conversation.  |
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By * F 2018Couple
over a year ago
shropshire |
"We like to get to know a couple first, see if we all click and can have a laugh.
We find enjoying each other’s company makes the play more intense.
Do you agree or do you prefer to go straight in .? "
Definitely social first .we've had a couple of straight to the fun (or not) and they've been no shows and fake.. one I think it was all a laugh to them
.free time is precious . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Outside of clubs we always want a social first, although since covid it seems nobody wants to meet outside of a club with a social first!
However in a club, we can quite happily go from a few minutes of chat to play with the right people. Or sometimes even go straight to play with no chat |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
"Always social first, can't be too careful as a single woman
Us guys have to be careful too
Some of you women are bloody nuts.  this is why I just do clubs. Much safer be it a male or female x "
Can I come with you next time?
For safety reasons of course.
And the fact that I'm shy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Always social first, can't be too careful as a single woman
Us guys have to be careful too
Some of you women are bloody nuts. this is why I just do clubs. Much safer be it a male or female x
Can I come with you next time?
For safety reasons of course.
And the fact that I'm shy "
Chunk, you’re fooling no one with the shy guy act xx |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
"Always social first, can't be too careful as a single woman
Us guys have to be careful too
Some of you women are bloody nuts. this is why I just do clubs. Much safer be it a male or female x
Can I come with you next time?
For safety reasons of course.
And the fact that I'm shy
Chunk, you’re fooling no one with the shy guy act xx"
Shush you.
Now get ya kit off. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Always social first, can't be too careful as a single woman
Us guys have to be careful too
Some of you women are bloody nuts. this is why I just do clubs. Much safer be it a male or female x
Can I come with you next time?
For safety reasons of course.
And the fact that I'm shy
Chunk, you’re fooling no one with the shy guy act xx
Shush you.
Now get ya kit off. "
Consider my point proven xx |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
"Always social first, can't be too careful as a single woman
Us guys have to be careful too
Some of you women are bloody nuts. this is why I just do clubs. Much safer be it a male or female x
Can I come with you next time?
For safety reasons of course.
And the fact that I'm shy
Chunk, you’re fooling no one with the shy guy act xx
Shush you.
Now get ya kit off.
Consider my point proven xx"
(Blows raspberry) |
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"Social first. No sex on first meet, no exceptions."
This^^^. You can be pressurised in to playing sometimes. Id rather we come back and chat abd see if we both got on with them both. No one takes one for the team. We are in this for pleasure not regrets.both Had enough of them dont need anymore  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Social first. No sex on first meet, no exceptions.
This^^^. You can be pressurised in to playing sometimes. Id rather we come back and chat abd see if we both got on with them both. No one takes one for the team. We are in this for pleasure not regrets.both Had enough of them dont need anymore "
Some people want sex on the first meet and that's cool, I'm just not compatible with them. Saves us all time meeting.
Also it's a good way to find out if they can take 'no' for an answer. Some agree to a social then start hinting at sex stuff. I say no once and if they keep mentioning sex then I won't meet them at all. |
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A connection adds a lot of electricity for me, but wouldn't rule out playing first time. I always leave it to a woman to dictate the pace and almost always enjoy the social side for its own sake, even if that's all it ends up being. |
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"Social first. No sex on first meet, no exceptions.
This^^^. You can be pressurised in to playing sometimes. Id rather we come back and chat abd see if we both got on with them both. No one takes one for the team. We are in this for pleasure not regrets.both Had enough of them dont need anymore
Some people want sex on the first meet and that's cool, I'm just not compatible with them. Saves us all time meeting.
Also it's a good way to find out if they can take 'no' for an answer. Some agree to a social then start hinting at sex stuff. I say no once and if they keep mentioning sex then I won't meet them at all. "
This as well. I make it clear that I don't have any shenanigans on the social but there's always one that expects something  |
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I’m fine with socials, it gives you the opportunity to see how non-verbal interactions are between you both / all. That’s equally as important as what you might say in a message. More importantly though, it gives all parties the chance to change their minds, as chatting and meeting are two completely different animals.
I also find it helps build the anticipation . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We like to have a group chat to see if there is a mutual attraction.
We'll then prefer a social but don't rule out fun if we all click in person as well xx |
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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago
Dublin and London |
I tend to get to know the people I meet a bit first, so some chat first, and with couple a 3 way chat is useful to get to know them both, then a social with maybe some kissing if it goes well, followed up by a play meet.
I've found it has worked well so far |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Straight in, after all know where someone went on holiday last summer is not going to make them any better in the bedroom.
Also I have done the sit down drink to chat about the things they do or don't like and invariably it all changes once got to the bedroom . |
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"Social first. No sex on first meet, no exceptions.
This^^^. You can be pressurised in to playing sometimes. Id rather we come back and chat abd see if we both got on with them both. No one takes one for the team. We are in this for pleasure not regrets.both Had enough of them dont need anymore
Some people want sex on the first meet and that's cool, I'm just not compatible with them. Saves us all time meeting.
Also it's a good way to find out if they can take 'no' for an answer. Some agree to a social then start hinting at sex stuff. I say no once and if they keep mentioning sex then I won't meet them at all.
This as well. I make it clear that I don't have any shenanigans on the social but there's always one that expects something "
Really good way to out the disrespectful ones too! |
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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago
Peterborough / Stamford |
We prefer to play on a first meet but always make it clear that there's no pressure if there's no attraction.
Char has fatigue and pain issues which means we have to ration our time considerably, and a social takes it out of her just as much as a play meet. So a social only is a bit of a wasted opportunity for us, unfortunately.
(Bry) |
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
leeds |
Not interested in socials, we have our vanilla friends for that. We play almost entirely in clubs anyway and sex there, with mutual attraction, can be spontaneous and anonymous (and avoids no-shows, complicated arrangements, questionable safety and people not looking like their profile pics). |
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