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You do not need to apologise for your mum tum, and you don't need to leverage other more socially desirable body parts in place of not having washboard abs. You're perfect exactly as you are.
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"You do not need to apologise for your mum tum, and you don't need to leverage other more socially desirable body parts in place of not having washboard abs. You're perfect exactly as you are.
Happy fabbing xx
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"You do not need to apologise for your mum tum, and you don't need to leverage other more socially desirable body parts in place of not having washboard abs. You're perfect exactly as you are.
Happy fabbing xx
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That’s the nicest thing I’ve heard / read all day. |
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I get paranoid about my weight after an abusive marriage where me wife told me she wouldn’t have sex with me because I was too fat (don’t worry, it was “just a joke”  ) also about the size of my member as she also told me it wasn’t big enough. Have real mental problems with both nowadays so it’s nice to see comments like this. |
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"You do not need to apologise for your mum tum, and you don't need to leverage other more socially desirable body parts in place of not having washboard abs. You're perfect exactly as you are.
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"I get paranoid about my weight after an abusive marriage where me wife told me she wouldn’t have sex with me because I was too fat (don’t worry, it was “just a joke” ) also about the size of my member as she also told me it wasn’t big enough. Have real mental problems with both nowadays so it’s nice to see comments like this. "
I know there is no quick fix for the damage someone does to you, no words I can say that instantly make you feel your worth, but try to remember that her treatment of you says so much more about her insecurities and biases than it does about you. Every body is beautiful, including yours, and no amount of nastiness changes that fact xx |
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I know there is no quick fix for the damage someone does to you, no words I can say that instantly make you feel your worth, but try to remember that her treatment of you says so much more about her insecurities and biases than it does about you. Every body is beautiful, including yours, and no amount of nastiness changes that fact xx"
I’m getting there slowly. I’ve been made to feel terrible about myself and wonder why she wouldn’t show me any love or intimacy or appreciation at all, now though, it’s time to have some fun, build some confidence and enjoy the rest of my life…..just need to find some people to help along the way! |
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I know there is no quick fix for the damage someone does to you, no words I can say that instantly make you feel your worth, but try to remember that her treatment of you says so much more about her insecurities and biases than it does about you. Every body is beautiful, including yours, and no amount of nastiness changes that fact xx
I’m getting there slowly. I’ve been made to feel terrible about myself and wonder why she wouldn’t show me any love or intimacy or appreciation at all, now though, it’s time to have some fun, build some confidence and enjoy the rest of my life…..just need to find some people to help along the way! "
If it helps, I’ve been there and you will have SO much more fun!! It’s makes you a more understanding and empathetic person and you’ll never treat anyone that way, because you’ve been through it! Enjoy yourself now xx |
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"My tum is like a mum tum....But really it is a post op tumour tum....Does that count for this thread too xxxx Suzi"
I’m not a Mum and I have a mum tum - anything goes! |
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I know there is no quick fix for the damage someone does to you, no words I can say that instantly make you feel your worth, but try to remember that her treatment of you says so much more about her insecurities and biases than it does about you. Every body is beautiful, including yours, and no amount of nastiness changes that fact xx
I’m getting there slowly. I’ve been made to feel terrible about myself and wonder why she wouldn’t show me any love or intimacy or appreciation at all, now though, it’s time to have some fun, build some confidence and enjoy the rest of my life…..just need to find some people to help along the way!
If it helps, I’ve been there and you will have SO much more fun!! It’s makes you a more understanding and empathetic person and you’ll never treat anyone that way, because you’ve been through it! Enjoy yourself now xx"
That’s the plan. Was hoping to start by meeting some people from here but it’s damn near impossible unfortunately. Did get a girl ask me for a coffee after our group tennis session today. Literally the first tim I’ve ever been asked out for a drink. I was a bit shocked.  |
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I know there is no quick fix for the damage someone does to you, no words I can say that instantly make you feel your worth, but try to remember that her treatment of you says so much more about her insecurities and biases than it does about you. Every body is beautiful, including yours, and no amount of nastiness changes that fact xx
I’m getting there slowly. I’ve been made to feel terrible about myself and wonder why she wouldn’t show me any love or intimacy or appreciation at all, now though, it’s time to have some fun, build some confidence and enjoy the rest of my life…..just need to find some people to help along the way!
If it helps, I’ve been there and you will have SO much more fun!! It’s makes you a more understanding and empathetic person and you’ll never treat anyone that way, because you’ve been through it! Enjoy yourself now xx
That’s the plan. Was hoping to start by meeting some people from here but it’s damn near impossible unfortunately. Did get a girl ask me for a coffee after our group tennis session today. Literally the first tim I’ve ever been asked out for a drink. I was a bit shocked. "
That’s amazing! Did you get her number? Haha I remember the first time someone came on to me after all that and I had to ask a mate if they were flirting, as it hadn’t happened in ten years lol!! Have fun - I hope you get to play tonsil tennis instead  |
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That’s amazing! Did you get her number? Haha I remember the first time someone came on to me after all that and I had to ask a mate if they were flirting, as it hadn’t happened in ten years lol!! Have fun - I hope you get to play tonsil tennis instead "
I did get her number and we have exchanged a couple of texts today too which was nice. Hoping to meet again in a few weeks time. I’ve never had compliments given to me and find them very hard to accept, hoping this is the start of getting my confidence back and starting to love myself a bit more. |
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Sooo exciting! Everything teaches us a lesson. You know what you definitely don’t want now! And this will be the start of finding out what you do want, and you’ll have lots of fun along the way! Let us know how it goes! There someone (or many lol) for everyone!xx |
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over a year ago
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wht a nice post ...all men and women should be comferble with themselves i like all types varitie is the spice of life ... ugly in not how you look ugly is how you act .... |
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Well.said OP.....proud owner of a dad bod and one pack lol....and very comfortable. If people dont like you for who you are tough.
Pwrsonality should always win over |
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"You do not need to apologise for your mum tum, and you don't need to leverage other more socially desirable body parts in place of not having washboard abs. You're perfect exactly as you are.
Happy fabbing xx
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love this! |
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By *avie65Man
over a year ago
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"You do not need to apologise for your mum tum, and you don't need to leverage other more socially desirable body parts in place of not having washboard abs. You're perfect exactly as you are.
No, why should you.
Happy fabbing xx
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"You do not need to apologise for your mum tum, and you don't need to leverage other more socially desirable body parts in place of not having washboard abs. You're perfect exactly as you are.
Happy fabbing xx
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"You do not need to apologise for your mum tum, and you don't need to leverage other more socially desirable body parts in place of not having washboard abs. You're perfect exactly as you are.
Happy fabbing xx
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Totally agree! x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Thank you for this. I’m slim but getting a bit of a belly now and I keep thinking I’m a skinny fat man. I know I’m not but it’s hard to drown out your negative voice sometimes. |
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Well said OP. We’re all different and attracted to other things. So it doesn’t matter what you look like, just because one person may not like it they’ll be plenty who do. X |
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"You do not need to apologise for your mum tum, and you don't need to leverage other more socially desirable body parts in place of not having washboard abs. You're perfect exactly as you are.
Happy fabbing xx
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Gets an hurrumph from me, although I would personally like to at the weight and level of fitness I was at before Christmas. Not for anybody else but for myself and my work trousers are tight.  |
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Love this post OP... I was always paranoid about my weight but since being here 90% of the people have squashed most of that paranoia and I'm learning to love me...
And realize that you can't please everybody all the time...
So decided THIS IS ME and I quite like ME so 2 fingers up to those who don't.. Thankyou OP for thiss post |
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"You do not need to apologise for your mum tum, and you don't need to leverage other more socially desirable body parts in place of not having washboard abs. You're perfect exactly as you are.
Happy fabbing xx
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But not dad bod. Woman are not looking for dad bods here |
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"You do not need to apologise for your mum tum, and you don't need to leverage other more socially desirable body parts in place of not having washboard abs. You're perfect exactly as you are.
Happy fabbing xx
But not dad bod. Woman are not looking for dad bods here "
Actually lots of women like dad bods.  |
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"You do not need to apologise for your mum tum, and you don't need to leverage other more socially desirable body parts in place of not having washboard abs. You're perfect exactly as you are.
Happy fabbing xx
But not dad bod. Woman are not looking for dad bods here
Actually lots of women like dad bods. "
True  xx |
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"I get paranoid about my weight after an abusive marriage where me wife told me she wouldn’t have sex with me because I was too fat (don’t worry, it was “just a joke” ) also about the size of my member as she also told me it wasn’t big enough. Have real mental problems with both nowadays so it’s nice to see comments like this. "
Jesus you've nothing to worry about, especially when it comes to those thighs! |
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"Mine is very big, it does make me very self conscious  xx"
Funny how harsh we are on ourselves. I feel the same, and am always for looking for lingerie to hide the tum. Yet look at you and think how you've got gorgeous soft curves. The mind is a bugger isn't it!! |
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"Love this post OP... I was always paranoid about my weight but since being here 90% of the people have squashed most of that paranoia and I'm learning to love me...
And realize that you can't please everybody all the time...
So decided THIS IS ME and I quite like ME so 2 fingers up to those who don't.. Thankyou OP for thiss post "
You have no reason to be anything other than proud. Xx |
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"You do not need to apologise for your mum tum, and you don't need to leverage other more socially desirable body parts in place of not having washboard abs. You're perfect exactly as you are.
Happy fabbing xx
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well said x |
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By *eeboCouple
over a year ago
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Agree I find my wife even more attractive and desirable now in her 40s after two children than I did when we met in our 20's so i think being attractive and desirable is in the eye of the beholder as much as what you see and feel about yourself.
Its a cliché but just being confident and comfortable about yourself and your own body is very sexy! I let her know how attractive I find her which hopefully helps her feel good about herself too. |
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"Mine is very big, it does make me very self conscious xx
Funny how harsh we are on ourselves. I feel the same, and am always for looking for lingerie to hide the tum. Yet look at you and think how you've got gorgeous soft curves. The mind is a bugger isn't it!!"
Thank you. But have you noticed none of my shots are tummy pics? Xx |
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"Love this post OP... I was always paranoid about my weight but since being here 90% of the people have squashed most of that paranoia and I'm learning to love me...
And realize that you can't please everybody all the time...
So decided THIS IS ME and I quite like ME so 2 fingers up to those who don't.. Thankyou OP for thiss post
You have no reason to be anything other than proud. Xx"
Thankyou |
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