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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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If you've arranged a meet with someone and you see they've had another meet before yours say maybe the same week would that put you off meeting them? Do people look at how many meets a person has? As long as its not someone everyday I wouldn't be put off I don't think or maybe I just would  I've known people to have 2/3 meets in one day  that's a put off. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It may be that they all just got together at a single event rather than one person running aroubd 3 different ones.
3 in a day sounds pretty exhausting...."
No he said he has to take it when he can. |
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As with anything some will some won't
I think women & couples are more easily offended by this kind of thing & remember some meets are socials only
I also wouldn't be offended my someone meeting 2/3 people in one day, I've done it on a few occasions myself, you can always choose big time display your verifications if you'd prefer |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you've arranged a meet with someone and you see they've had another meet before yours say maybe the same week would that put you off meeting them? Do people look at how many meets a person has? As long as its not someone everyday I wouldn't be put off I don't think or maybe I just would I've known people to have 2/3 meets in one day that's a put off."
To be honest, initially it would probably put us off, but if we stopped to think about it, why should it? If we were in a club, we wouldn't ask if they had been with anyone else already that night.
Probably just a case of no knowledge is better in that instance...probably one of the few downsides of verifications on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No it wouldn't put us off. This is a swinging site not an exclusivity site so we never take into account how many meets or the frequency of them someone has xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you've arranged a meet with someone and you see they've had another meet before yours say maybe the same week would that put you off meeting them? Do people look at how many meets a person has? As long as its not someone everyday I wouldn't be put off I don't think or maybe I just would I've known people to have 2/3 meets in one day that's a put off."
I don’t really get put off by the recency of the meet. But I do sometimes get put off if they’ve met someone that i would consider “risky” or unattractive |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I think some people will be put off... that's absolutely fine. It shows that your styles of meeting aren't compatible.
Also, to be very blunt, men after a couple of meets in a short space of time aren't really firing on all cylinders. I don't want a lacklustre effort from someone who needs a good sleep, a bacon sandwich and a vat of coffee. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The same week no but the same day as my meet, I'd have a problem with because it's just icky. Best thing you can do is don't worry about what your playmates are doing, its none of your business. They are free to do as they choose just like you are, it's not a relationship. Just enjoy your time together when you do meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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its swinging ?? its what happens we've had weeks (before covid) where we've meets ecery other day an play meets too thats the whole point of swinging and having fun no one should tell others how often or how little its down to the people playing ..
most of the people we play with we know get checked at least every 3 months and care about there sexual health id be more worried about those who dont play often and dont have check ups |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No, it wouldn't put me off. What I see on fab doesn't mean that's all they're doing/meeting. They're free to meet whoever they want as often as they want. So am I. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All depends on what you have agreed with the person .. I lay my cards on the table .. I had one person agree to keep it to just the 2 of us .. I kept my end .. they didn’t unfortunately... not everyone wants to fuck everything and anything .. just my pennies worth  |
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Go to a party and or a club and you'll see multiple partners in the course of the session for some, different days of the week is hardly on the same level, neither are off limits in our view. Your body your rules... |
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On one occasion I had arranged a social meet after work and agreed to drive 45 mins in the opposite direction to suit her.
She went quiet on the day so I messaged a few times to see if something had changed.
Eventually at 3pm she replied to say she had a lunchtime fab meet and was running late as a result but she would confirm before I left work.
Nothing more for the next couple of hours so I headed home and at 5.30 which was 15 mins before we had originally arranged to meet, she texted to say she wouldn't be able to make it due to the earlier meet keeping her back.
None of that bothered me as I was halfway home and had no issue with the earlier social.
Next morning she posted her lunchtime veri along with a second one from the coffee social she had in exactly the same location we had arranged to meet. It actually named the coffee shop and said it hadn't been a last minute thing as he had been looking forward to it all week.
I don't mind someone having another social on the same day but I wouldn't be happy if it was another play meet and I certainly wasn't happy about being option B on that particular day. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"All depends on what you have agreed with the person .. I lay my cards on the table .. I had one person agree to keep it to just the 2 of us .. I kept my end .. they didn’t unfortunately... not everyone wants to fuck everything and anything .. just my pennies worth "
erm just because some are having plenty of fun does not mean they are fucking anyone or anything ... i stick to my preference and type so im pretty picky so that quote wont stick can be very fussy and still have lots of fun |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"All depends on what you have agreed with the person .. I lay my cards on the table .. I had one person agree to keep it to just the 2 of us .. I kept my end .. they didn’t unfortunately... not everyone wants to fuck everything and anything .. just my pennies worth
erm just because some are having plenty of fun does not mean they are fucking anyone or anything ... i stick to my preference and type so im pretty picky so that quote wont stick can be very fussy and still have lots of fun"
and to add agreeing sex with one person and making ot exclusive is not swinging not saying its wrong or anything but its not swinging ..
the forums will never give you a real peek into swinging as 95% of the site wont come anywhere near so the true reflextion of what goes on is out there not in here... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"On one occasion I had arranged a social meet after work and agreed to drive 45 mins in the opposite direction to suit her.
She went quiet on the day so I messaged a few times to see if something had changed.
Eventually at 3pm she replied to say she had a lunchtime fab meet and was running late as a result but she would confirm before I left work.
Nothing more for the next couple of hours so I headed home and at 5.30 which was 15 mins before we had originally arranged to meet, she texted to say she wouldn't be able to make it due to the earlier meet keeping her back.
None of that bothered me as I was halfway home and had no issue with the earlier social.
Next morning she posted her lunchtime veri along with a second one from the coffee social she had in exactly the same location we had arranged to meet. It actually named the coffee shop and said it hadn't been a last minute thing as he had been looking forward to it all week.
I don't mind someone having another social on the same day but I wouldn't be happy if it was another play meet and I certainly wasn't happy about being option B on that particular day."
Ooh that's nasty of her  |
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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago
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That wouldn't put us off, op. The same day meets with multiple people does though, can't explain why, just feels 'dirty', don't want to think that way. When we see veris that are clearly on the same day that definitely puts us off. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"All depends on what you have agreed with the person .. I lay my cards on the table .. I had one person agree to keep it to just the 2 of us .. I kept my end .. they didn’t unfortunately... not everyone wants to fuck everything and anything .. just my pennies worth
erm just because some are having plenty of fun does not mean they are fucking anyone or anything ... i stick to my preference and type so im pretty picky so that quote wont stick can be very fussy and still have lots of fun"
I apologise for having my own opinion ....   .. absolutely not  |
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"If you've arranged a meet with someone and you see they've had another meet before yours say maybe the same week would that put you off meeting them? Do people look at how many meets a person has? As long as its not someone everyday I wouldn't be put off I don't think or maybe I just would I've known people to have 2/3 meets in one day that's a put off."
Not in the slightest.
I have no say in what they do with their aspect of their life. Who they eat with, who they watch TV with, who they fuck (and whether or not that coffee or fuck is documented on a website) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its a huge turn off for me, I like to feel special and not just another notch on someones bedpost. Someone that has several meets in the same week doesn't do it for me. |
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I wouldn't be put off if it was the same week. I've had an evening social with someone who has met someone else in the daytime and that hasn't bothered me.
I probably wouldn't want to have sex with someone who had already met someone else for sex on the same day- I'd be concerned about energy levels I think. |
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"I wonder if my mindset would be different in a club situation whereby it's very nature is fuck, rinse and fuck again. Hmmm!"
That's very different to every club night we've been on. It's more social, maybe play maybe not, social, maybe play or not. Of course every club and individual are different. |
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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago
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"I wonder if my mindset would be different in a club situation whereby it's very nature is fuck, rinse and fuck again. Hmmm!
That's very different to every club night we've been on. It's more social, maybe play maybe not, social, maybe play or not. Of course every club and individual are different."
And that would be our exact approach, the chances of play would not be likely as we like to speak beforehand and get a 'feel' for who we're potentially going to engage with. However, I've just read a profile of someone who attended a club on the 10th of this month, a single woman and four couples he played with that night, no judgement here, their perogative, wasn't surprised as we've seen alot of it on here hence the comment. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The amount of meets wouldn't bother me at all. I just enjoy meeting and chatting and that might be all the other person has done up until now. If it was likely to go any further with me then of course I would have my own reasons to ask additional questions about past meets perhaps |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I used to be bothered by it but now i try to ignore it. Its their business after all. As others have said if you go to a club you can end up engaging with 2/3 people in one night. Also not all meets, are sex meets, so yeah i’m learning to mind my own.
To contradict what i’ve said above, lol, i don't like knowing when someone will just throw them-self at anyone. You're communicating with them and they're trying to get you to meet them for sex, but are telling you about all the other people they're trying to meet for sex, at the same time. |
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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
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To help clarify things I often put I met cuz but didn’t play. I meet and talk to people at clubs and socials - I certainly don’t fuck everyone and if you for example play with 2 single females and a guy in a group I am going to have 3 veris. |
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