We have been out a few times now and had a couple of very fun meets, but always struggled on instigating play naturally, leaving it to the other couple to make the first move.
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Lol at first it was like that, a bit awkward, tricky reading signs... Now we often swap partners immediately at a social, tests the chemistry and allows hands to wander, cheeky kisses. At one couple meet we put our glasses in the middle of the table if interested in play (after an hour or so chatting and flirting), four glasses appeared and they quickly took us back to their place |
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"Just have a bit of nerve and ask "we're going to play if you want to join us?".
That’s usually our go to at a club as well, no pressure just, we’re off upstairs now if you want to go to ?"
Bet they all say yes! |
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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
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It’s not only couples that have this issue!!!
I always wait to be invited…which means people think I am not interested lol - it’s is Complete they opposite I just don’t like being pushy as it’s not my style
I have had a number of people just say why didn’t you ask to play or we would have if you had asked
I suppose I always see myself as a spare to a situation esp couple |
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It’s harder with couples as more often than not we’ll fancy one of them.
As for single guys, C is used to guys approaching but with me there they don’t.
I quite like the idea of C picking a guy and watching the whole flirtation.
So I may leave her at the bar next time and get called over when the heat has built up…
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"Just have a bit of nerve and ask "we're going to play if you want to join us?".
That’s usually our go to at a club as well, no pressure just, we’re off upstairs now if you want to go to ?
Bet they all say yes!"
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By *rad670Man
over a year ago
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Might be different for couples but my ways are if meeting someone more experienced than me "most on here" I like to think if they want to take things further they will indicate in some way be it subtle or direct. I usually discuss this a little before even a social by asking if they would say or do omething to indicate if they were happy to play or in the case of a social that leads to a meet I ask if they would be forward enough to initiate a kiss. It's hard a a male to decide to initiate becuase of fear of overstepping so I like to mention in a message how I am not very forward until I have the nod. |
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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
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"Might be different for couples but my ways are if meeting someone more experienced than me "most on here" I like to think if they want to take things further they will indicate in some way be it subtle or direct. I usually discuss this a little before even a social by asking if they would say or do omething to indicate if they were happy to play or in the case of a social that leads to a meet I ask if they would be forward enough to initiate a kiss. It's hard a a male to decide to initiate becuase of fear of overstepping so I like to mention in a message how I am not very forward until I have the nod."
I am the same - I just chat unless people, say it’s good to go
For me a lady I know was stroking my leg a few weeks ago and I kinda took as sign but as we hadn’t spoken about play before I wasn’t 100% sure |
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"We’ve just bought ‘The Game of Lifestyle’ both ice breaker and hot’n’heavy editions for this. Looking forward to their first use "
I'm wanting this, did you get it from America, or did you find a UK supplier? |
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We enjoy games at a club and are often the ones to start the fun.
Games with dares and challenges are the best.
Know your crowd though, some people are reserved and don’t want to join in, as is their right.
Other times I’ll just be direct. Especially if Becky’s given me a nudge or smile that she’s ready to go..
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I've not been to a club just yet, but what I'd probably do is either be direct and to the point, play a game that requires people to do naughty things with each other or wait for someone to make the first move on me. |
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