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We are fairly new to the scene and we have been to clubs around 10 times but have not had any advances or offers. What are we doing wrong ? I understand we arnt everyone’s preference so should we start to make the first move instead ? |
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Have a mooch at the meets section or the forum section about clubs. You can see who will be there same nights as you and maybe message them on here before hand? Least then you have made connections before you go to the club. |
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"Have a mooch at the meets section or the forum section about clubs. You can see who will be there same nights as you and maybe message them on here before hand? Least then you have made connections before you go to the club."
This is really good advice, plus spend time in the forums chatting to people, you can really make some great friends and meets that way.
We didn't have the confidence to go upto people at first but once you take that first step you will wonder why you didn't make the first move earlier. Good luck guys xxx |
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"We are fairly new to the scene and we have been to clubs around 10 times but have not had any advances or offers. What are we doing wrong ? I understand we arnt everyone’s preference so should we start to make the first move instead ? "
Not everyone mixes as well as others, personally we think you are hot, and if we bumped into you would happily want to get to know see and lick more of you both xx |
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"Thank you, we are going to dpraved at Xtasia the weekend so hopefully we can see meets coming up for that "
You should come to chams x its hands down the friendliest club in our area x
I used to think why aren't people approaching us and still do to some degree, if it's not happening through chatting I find if we play on our own then people always find their way into joining us lol x as we both smoke a lot of the banter and chat happens in the smoking area and then rooms are sought and Pleasure is had x don't be scared to approach people, they may think you're not interested if you keep to yourselves or have a strained/worried look on your faces if that makes sense?
From your pics I don't see why anyone wouldn't want to play x |
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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
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"Thank you, we are going to dpraved at Xtasia the weekend so hopefully we can see meets coming up for that
You should come to chams x its hands down the friendliest club in our area x
I used to think why aren't people approaching us and still do to some degree, if it's not happening through chatting I find if we play on our own then people always find their way into joining us lol x as we both smoke a lot of the banter and chat happens in the smoking area and then rooms are sought and Pleasure is had x don't be scared to approach people, they may think you're not interested if you keep to yourselves or have a strained/worried look on your faces if that makes sense?
From your pics I don't see why anyone wouldn't want to play x "
I can chat shit for england but as soon as it gets to the point in asking to play I get nervous and don’t ask or approach people lol |
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"Thank you, we are going to dpraved at Xtasia the weekend so hopefully we can see meets coming up for that
You should come to chams x its hands down the friendliest club in our area x
I used to think why aren't people approaching us and still do to some degree, if it's not happening through chatting I find if we play on our own then people always find their way into joining us lol x as we both smoke a lot of the banter and chat happens in the smoking area and then rooms are sought and Pleasure is had x don't be scared to approach people, they may think you're not interested if you keep to yourselves or have a strained/worried look on your faces if that makes sense?
From your pics I don't see why anyone wouldn't want to play x
I can chat shit for england but as soon as it gets to the point in asking to play I get nervous and don’t ask or approach people lol "
Just ask if they want to find a room with you and that way they can say yes let's go or were just gonna have a wander which is a polite no x there's been so many times I should have done this and have wanted people to say it to us x I also need to be a lot braver x easy to say harder to do isn't it? We all have fragile egos at times lol x |
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"Thank you, we are going to dpraved at Xtasia the weekend so hopefully we can see meets coming up for that
You should come to chams x its hands down the friendliest club in our area x
I used to think why aren't people approaching us and still do to some degree, if it's not happening through chatting I find if we play on our own then people always find their way into joining us lol x as we both smoke a lot of the banter and chat happens in the smoking area and then rooms are sought and Pleasure is had x don't be scared to approach people, they may think you're not interested if you keep to yourselves or have a strained/worried look on your faces if that makes sense?
From your pics I don't see why anyone wouldn't want to play x
I can chat shit for england but as soon as it gets to the point in asking to play I get nervous and don’t ask or approach people lol
Just ask if they want to find a room with you and that way they can say yes let's go or were just gonna have a wander which is a polite no x there's been so many times I should have done this and have wanted people to say it to us x I also need to be a lot braver x easy to say harder to do isn't it? We all have fragile egos at times lol x "
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Don't wait for offers. There a bit of a school disco mentality goes on in clubs. Ofter both parties getting on very nicely and fancying each other but no one actually puts it out there. No one makes a move or simply suggests they take it to another room. There is probably 100s of missed opportunities in clubs across the country every week because no one makes the next step. So if you are getting on nicely don't wait on the other party to make a move. You make the move and chances are they'll be up for it. |
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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
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"Thank you, we are going to dpraved at Xtasia the weekend so hopefully we can see meets coming up for that
You should come to chams x its hands down the friendliest club in our area x
I used to think why aren't people approaching us and still do to some degree, if it's not happening through chatting I find if we play on our own then people always find their way into joining us lol x as we both smoke a lot of the banter and chat happens in the smoking area and then rooms are sought and Pleasure is had x don't be scared to approach people, they may think you're not interested if you keep to yourselves or have a strained/worried look on your faces if that makes sense?
From your pics I don't see why anyone wouldn't want to play x
I can chat shit for england but as soon as it gets to the point in asking to play I get nervous and don’t ask or approach people lol
Just ask if they want to find a room with you and that way they can say yes let's go or were just gonna have a wander which is a polite no x there's been so many times I should have done this and have wanted people to say it to us x I also need to be a lot braver x easy to say harder to do isn't it? We all have fragile egos at times lol x "
Yeah I am the same!!! The thing is i haven’t a clue if people fancy me at all or are just being nice lol |
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"Thank you, we are going to dpraved at Xtasia the weekend so hopefully we can see meets coming up for that
You should come to chams x its hands down the friendliest club in our area x
I used to think why aren't people approaching us and still do to some degree, if it's not happening through chatting I find if we play on our own then people always find their way into joining us lol x as we both smoke a lot of the banter and chat happens in the smoking area and then rooms are sought and Pleasure is had x don't be scared to approach people, they may think you're not interested if you keep to yourselves or have a strained/worried look on your faces if that makes sense?
From your pics I don't see why anyone wouldn't want to play x
I can chat shit for england but as soon as it gets to the point in asking to play I get nervous and don’t ask or approach people lol
Just ask if they want to find a room with you and that way they can say yes let's go or were just gonna have a wander which is a polite no x there's been so many times I should have done this and have wanted people to say it to us x I also need to be a lot braver x easy to say harder to do isn't it? We all have fragile egos at times lol x
Yeah I am the same!!! The thing is i haven’t a clue if people fancy me at all or are just being nice lol"
Same as us as we are approachable and have a good chat and laugh with people |
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Here's a few tips from us. Put on your status that you're going to the club. When you're near the club, maybe in your hotel, put on "see who's near". Some look and you may get some winks or messages. When you're in the club you may get some couples making a lot of eye contact with you, it's sometimes a sign! A lot of couples/singles go walkabouts and there's chances to say hello and strike up a conversation. Sometimes that conversation may get flirty, you can generally tell if someone's interested, eye contact, body language and conversation say a lot! Regarding playing, it generally needs someone to say "do you want to go and play?". For us it's mostly (but not always) been us who have initiated play. We've always read the signs right and had great fun. We like others have probably missed opportunities and afterwards realised the signs were there and we maybe missed an opportunity. Good luck  |
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"Here's a few tips from us. Put on your status that you're going to the club. When you're near the club, maybe in your hotel, put on "see who's near". Some look and you may get some winks or messages. When you're in the club you may get some couples making a lot of eye contact with you, it's sometimes a sign! A lot of couples/singles go walkabouts and there's chances to say hello and strike up a conversation. Sometimes that conversation may get flirty, you can generally tell if someone's interested, eye contact, body language and conversation say a lot! Regarding playing, it generally needs someone to say "do you want to go and play?". For us it's mostly (but not always) been us who have initiated play. We've always read the signs right and had great fun. We like others have probably missed opportunities and afterwards realised the signs were there and we maybe missed an opportunity. Good luck "
Brilliant thank you we will deff try this out the weekend and see where it takes us |
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"Thank you, we are going to dpraved at Xtasia the weekend so hopefully we can see meets coming up for that
You should come to chams x its hands down the friendliest club in our area x
I used to think why aren't people approaching us and still do to some degree, if it's not happening through chatting I find if we play on our own then people always find their way into joining us lol x as we both smoke a lot of the banter and chat happens in the smoking area and then rooms are sought and Pleasure is had x don't be scared to approach people, they may think you're not interested if you keep to yourselves or have a strained/worried look on your faces if that makes sense?
From your pics I don't see why anyone wouldn't want to play x
I can chat shit for england but as soon as it gets to the point in asking to play I get nervous and don’t ask or approach people lol
Just ask if they want to find a room with you and that way they can say yes let's go or were just gonna have a wander which is a polite no x there's been so many times I should have done this and have wanted people to say it to us x I also need to be a lot braver x easy to say harder to do isn't it? We all have fragile egos at times lol x
We were at chams on Saturday from 6-2.30 "
Oh we went Friday  hope you had a good night x x and some cake! X |
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"Thank you, we are going to dpraved at Xtasia the weekend so hopefully we can see meets coming up for that
You should come to chams x its hands down the friendliest club in our area x
I used to think why aren't people approaching us and still do to some degree, if it's not happening through chatting I find if we play on our own then people always find their way into joining us lol x as we both smoke a lot of the banter and chat happens in the smoking area and then rooms are sought and Pleasure is had x don't be scared to approach people, they may think you're not interested if you keep to yourselves or have a strained/worried look on your faces if that makes sense?
From your pics I don't see why anyone wouldn't want to play x
I can chat shit for england but as soon as it gets to the point in asking to play I get nervous and don’t ask or approach people lol
Just ask if they want to find a room with you and that way they can say yes let's go or were just gonna have a wander which is a polite no x there's been so many times I should have done this and have wanted people to say it to us x I also need to be a lot braver x easy to say harder to do isn't it? We all have fragile egos at times lol x
We were at chams on Saturday from 6-2.30
Oh we went Friday hope you had a good night x x and some cake! X "
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"Thank you, we are going to dpraved at Xtasia the weekend so hopefully we can see meets coming up for that
You should come to chams x its hands down the friendliest club in our area x
I used to think why aren't people approaching us and still do to some degree, if it's not happening through chatting I find if we play on our own then people always find their way into joining us lol x as we both smoke a lot of the banter and chat happens in the smoking area and then rooms are sought and Pleasure is had x don't be scared to approach people, they may think you're not interested if you keep to yourselves or have a strained/worried look on your faces if that makes sense?
From your pics I don't see why anyone wouldn't want to play x
I can chat shit for england but as soon as it gets to the point in asking to play I get nervous and don’t ask or approach people lol
Just ask if they want to find a room with you and that way they can say yes let's go or were just gonna have a wander which is a polite no x there's been so many times I should have done this and have wanted people to say it to us x I also need to be a lot braver x easy to say harder to do isn't it? We all have fragile egos at times lol x
We were at chams on Saturday from 6-2.30
Oh we went Friday hope you had a good night x x and some cake! X
that’s why I didn’t notice you "
you'll have to come on the 11th! |
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"Thank you, we are going to dpraved at Xtasia the weekend so hopefully we can see meets coming up for that
You should come to chams x its hands down the friendliest club in our area x
I used to think why aren't people approaching us and still do to some degree, if it's not happening through chatting I find if we play on our own then people always find their way into joining us lol x as we both smoke a lot of the banter and chat happens in the smoking area and then rooms are sought and Pleasure is had x don't be scared to approach people, they may think you're not interested if you keep to yourselves or have a strained/worried look on your faces if that makes sense?
From your pics I don't see why anyone wouldn't want to play x
I can chat shit for england but as soon as it gets to the point in asking to play I get nervous and don’t ask or approach people lol
Just ask if they want to find a room with you and that way they can say yes let's go or were just gonna have a wander which is a polite no x there's been so many times I should have done this and have wanted people to say it to us x I also need to be a lot braver x easy to say harder to do isn't it? We all have fragile egos at times lol x
We were at chams on Saturday from 6-2.30
Oh we went Friday hope you had a good night x x and some cake! X
that’s why I didn’t notice you
you'll have to come on the 11th!"
We don’t do Fridays anymore we tried it and didn’t like it |
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"Thank you, we are going to dpraved at Xtasia the weekend so hopefully we can see meets coming up for that
You should come to chams x its hands down the friendliest club in our area x
I used to think why aren't people approaching us and still do to some degree, if it's not happening through chatting I find if we play on our own then people always find their way into joining us lol x as we both smoke a lot of the banter and chat happens in the smoking area and then rooms are sought and Pleasure is had x don't be scared to approach people, they may think you're not interested if you keep to yourselves or have a strained/worried look on your faces if that makes sense?
From your pics I don't see why anyone wouldn't want to play x
I can chat shit for england but as soon as it gets to the point in asking to play I get nervous and don’t ask or approach people lol
Just ask if they want to find a room with you and that way they can say yes let's go or were just gonna have a wander which is a polite no x there's been so many times I should have done this and have wanted people to say it to us x I also need to be a lot braver x easy to say harder to do isn't it? We all have fragile egos at times lol x
We were at chams on Saturday from 6-2.30
Oh we went Friday hope you had a good night x x and some cake! X
that’s why I didn’t notice you
you'll have to come on the 11th!
We don’t do Fridays anymore we tried it and didn’t like it "
Ah I get you x x |
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