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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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If you set a meet up why do guys always ask what you'll be wearing? It's a huge turn off for me. Even in conversation they ask, well actually I'm wearing pjs does that do it for you? It's like they expect you to be dressed up 24/7. Does anyone else find this annoying? You're going to meet a person not the clothes or lingerie, I get the lingerie excites the guy but I can leave that outside if that's all he wants. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would never dream of asking a lady what she was intending to wear on a first meet - that's just plain rude!
Feel free to leave all your clothes at my door if that's your thing  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I would never dream of asking a lady what she was intending to wear on a first meet - that's just plain rude!
Feel free to leave all your clothes at my door if that's your thing "
Well I'd hope to leave them on your floor  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you set a meet up why do guys always ask what you'll be wearing? It's a huge turn off for me. Even in conversation they ask, well actually I'm wearing pjs does that do it for you? It's like they expect you to be dressed up 24/7. Does anyone else find this annoying? You're going to meet a person not the clothes or lingerie, I get the lingerie excites the guy but I can leave that outside if that's all he wants."
Sometimes though I ask what someone is planning on wearing because I don't want to dress too smart or casual,
Don't want to turn up in shirt and trousers if you're planning on wearing a tee and jeans, and vice versa |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you set a meet up why do guys always ask what you'll be wearing? It's a huge turn off for me. Even in conversation they ask, well actually I'm wearing pjs does that do it for you? It's like they expect you to be dressed up 24/7. Does anyone else find this annoying? You're going to meet a person not the clothes or lingerie, I get the lingerie excites the guy but I can leave that outside if that's all he wants."
Oh pj's do it for me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Surely if you are lucky enough to meet hungry for a kiss then your imagination and if you click the anticipation of seeing her underwear should be enough for any person.
PS I am wearing long John's that should sort them out |
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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago
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"If you set a meet up why do guys always ask what you'll be wearing? It's a huge turn off for me. Even in conversation they ask, well actually I'm wearing pjs does that do it for you? It's like they expect you to be dressed up 24/7. Does anyone else find this annoying? You're going to meet a person not the clothes or lingerie, I get the lingerie excites the guy but I can leave that outside if that's all he wants."
I’ve had this before. As if going to be dressed up in a dress stocking heels etc. dream on |
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"If you set a meet up why do guys always ask what you'll be wearing? It's a huge turn off for me. Even in conversation they ask, well actually I'm wearing pjs does that do it for you? It's like they expect you to be dressed up 24/7. Does anyone else find this annoying? You're going to meet a person not the clothes or lingerie, I get the lingerie excites the guy but I can leave that outside if that's all he wants."
It does annoy me yes. It's like they expect the whole shebang then turn up in holey boxers and jeans |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It can be annoying especially if it's the first meet...as the underwear I shall be wearing, they aren't going to see! "
If they start asking what I'm wearing to a first social I just cancel it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you set a meet up why do guys always ask what you'll be wearing? It's a huge turn off for me. Even in conversation they ask, well actually I'm wearing pjs does that do it for you? It's like they expect you to be dressed up 24/7. Does anyone else find this annoying? You're going to meet a person not the clothes or lingerie, I get the lingerie excites the guy but I can leave that outside if that's all he wants.
It does annoy me yes. It's like they expect the whole shebang then turn up in holey boxers and jeans"
And haven't been in a shower since their mummy last bathed them. |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
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"If you set a meet up why do guys always ask what you'll be wearing? It's a huge turn off for me. Even in conversation they ask, well actually I'm wearing pjs does that do it for you? It's like they expect you to be dressed up 24/7. Does anyone else find this annoying? You're going to meet a person not the clothes or lingerie, I get the lingerie excites the guy but I can leave that outside if that's all he wants.
It does annoy me yes. It's like they expect the whole shebang then turn up in holey boxers and jeans
And haven't been in a shower since their mummy last bathed them. "
That's enough dirty talk from you.   |
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"It can be annoying especially if it's the first meet...as the underwear I shall be wearing, they aren't going to see!
If they start asking what I'm wearing to a first social I just cancel it. "
Me too. |
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I would never ask this, although I've been asked what I like in order to help them decide what to wear.
I would prefer they wear whatever they're must comfortable and confident in.
I do like lingerie, but nakedness is far better |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It can be annoying especially if it's the first meet...as the underwear I shall be wearing, they aren't going to see!
If they start asking what I'm wearing to a first social I just cancel it. "
Yes I said you're not for me I'm afraid |
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"If you set a meet up why do guys always ask what you'll be wearing? It's a huge turn off for me. Even in conversation they ask, well actually I'm wearing pjs does that do it for you? It's like they expect you to be dressed up 24/7. Does anyone else find this annoying? You're going to meet a person not the clothes or lingerie, I get the lingerie excites the guy but I can leave that outside if that's all he wants.
Sometimes though I ask what someone is planning on wearing because I don't want to dress too smart or casual,
Don't want to turn up in shirt and trousers if you're planning on wearing a tee and jeans, and vice versa"
Agree with above. It's not to be nosey what you will be wearing,It's more to do with over dressing or underdressing. Nobody wants to make the other feel silly for making to much or not enough effort. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve been asked to send a pic of my outfit just as I set off….
Would he have asked me to change or said not to come if it didn’t meet his exacting standards? |
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"If you set a meet up why do guys always ask what you'll be wearing? It's a huge turn off for me. Even in conversation they ask, well actually I'm wearing pjs does that do it for you? It's like they expect you to be dressed up 24/7. Does anyone else find this annoying? You're going to meet a person not the clothes or lingerie, I get the lingerie excites the guy but I can leave that outside if that's all he wants."
Dressing up is half the fun I don’t find it annoying at all. If you can’t even be bothered to make an effort, what’s the point? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If you set a meet up why do guys always ask what you'll be wearing? It's a huge turn off for me. Even in conversation they ask, well actually I'm wearing pjs does that do it for you? It's like they expect you to be dressed up 24/7. Does anyone else find this annoying? You're going to meet a person not the clothes or lingerie, I get the lingerie excites the guy but I can leave that outside if that's all he wants.
Sometimes though I ask what someone is planning on wearing because I don't want to dress too smart or casual,
Don't want to turn up in shirt and trousers if you're planning on wearing a tee and jeans, and vice versa
Agree with above. It's not to be nosey what you will be wearing,It's more to do with over dressing or underdressing. Nobody wants to make the other feel silly for making to much or not enough effort. "
He asked me my underwear |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If you set a meet up why do guys always ask what you'll be wearing? It's a huge turn off for me. Even in conversation they ask, well actually I'm wearing pjs does that do it for you? It's like they expect you to be dressed up 24/7. Does anyone else find this annoying? You're going to meet a person not the clothes or lingerie, I get the lingerie excites the guy but I can leave that outside if that's all he wants.
Dressing up is half the fun I don’t find it annoying at all. If you can’t even be bothered to make an effort, what’s the point? "
I love the dressing up that isn't the point here, the point is I dress up for me and what I want to wear not for someone else to say what I should wear. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you set a meet up why do guys always ask what you'll be wearing? It's a huge turn off for me. Even in conversation they ask, well actually I'm wearing pjs does that do it for you? It's like they expect you to be dressed up 24/7. Does anyone else find this annoying? You're going to meet a person not the clothes or lingerie, I get the lingerie excites the guy but I can leave that outside if that's all he wants.
Dressing up is half the fun I don’t find it annoying at all. If you can’t even be bothered to make an effort, what’s the point?
I love the dressing up that isn't the point here, the point is I dress up for me and what I want to wear not for someone else to say what I should wear."
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Perhaps sometimes you don't want to know. I met someone a while ago. From our previous chats I knew she was a woman who rather enjoyed going commando. We met, and didn't really click so well, so never met again. Afterwards we discussed it and decided this was not to be. But she did mention that when she met me she had no knickers on. I could see she was wearing stockings too. I never got to explore her and never will. |
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Ugh... Irks me when it's only a social. I'm like "clothes?" Something warm... Whatever I feel comfortable in.. I'm not dressing up/sexy/seductive just to go for coffee. Especially when the guys never usually make much of an effort. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ugh... Irks me when it's only a social. I'm like "clothes?" Something warm... Whatever I feel comfortable in.. I'm not dressing up/sexy/seductive just to go for coffee. Especially when the guys never usually make much of an effort."
Well they should make the effort to be in your company |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you set a meet up why do guys always ask what you'll be wearing? It's a huge turn off for me. Even in conversation they ask, well actually I'm wearing pjs does that do it for you? It's like they expect you to be dressed up 24/7. Does anyone else find this annoying? You're going to meet a person not the clothes or lingerie, I get the lingerie excites the guy but I can leave that outside if that's all he wants.
Sometimes though I ask what someone is planning on wearing because I don't want to dress too smart or casual,
Don't want to turn up in shirt and trousers if you're planning on wearing a tee and jeans, and vice versa
Agree with above. It's not to be nosey what you will be wearing,It's more to do with over dressing or underdressing. Nobody wants to make the other feel silly for making to much or not enough effort.
He asked me my underwear "
That's a fair thing to be annoyed about, none of my business what you're wearing underneath, I wouldn't even expect to see it on a 1st meet. Unless that's been discussed |
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"Ugh... Irks me when it's only a social. I'm like "clothes?" Something warm... Whatever I feel comfortable in.. I'm not dressing up/sexy/seductive just to go for coffee. Especially when the guys never usually make much of an effort."
This but I have to admit the guys have all turned up looking smart buy casual x |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"If you set a meet up why do guys always ask what you'll be wearing? It's a huge turn off for me. Even in conversation they ask, well actually I'm wearing pjs does that do it for you? It's like they expect you to be dressed up 24/7. Does anyone else find this annoying? You're going to meet a person not the clothes or lingerie, I get the lingerie excites the guy but I can leave that outside if that's all he wants.
Sometimes though I ask what someone is planning on wearing because I don't want to dress too smart or casual,
Don't want to turn up in shirt and trousers if you're planning on wearing a tee and jeans, and vice versa
Agree with above. It's not to be nosey what you will be wearing,It's more to do with over dressing or underdressing. Nobody wants to make the other feel silly for making to much or not enough effort.
He asked me my underwear
That's a fair thing to be annoyed about, none of my business what you're wearing underneath, I wouldn't even expect to see it on a 1st meet. Unless that's been discussed "
And it's often assumed the woman will be wearing something low cut or short so they can have a butchers and grope.
I've had a few of those at socials in pubs.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you set a meet up why do guys always ask what you'll be wearing? It's a huge turn off for me. Even in conversation they ask, well actually I'm wearing pjs does that do it for you? It's like they expect you to be dressed up 24/7. Does anyone else find this annoying? You're going to meet a person not the clothes or lingerie, I get the lingerie excites the guy but I can leave that outside if that's all he wants.
Sometimes though I ask what someone is planning on wearing because I don't want to dress too smart or casual,
Don't want to turn up in shirt and trousers if you're planning on wearing a tee and jeans, and vice versa
Agree with above. It's not to be nosey what you will be wearing,It's more to do with over dressing or underdressing. Nobody wants to make the other feel silly for making to much or not enough effort.
He asked me my underwear
That's a fair thing to be annoyed about, none of my business what you're wearing underneath, I wouldn't even expect to see it on a 1st meet. Unless that's been discussed
And it's often assumed the woman will be wearing something low cut or short so they can have a butchers and grope.
I've had a few of those at socials in pubs.
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I would always assume the person I'm meeting is in something comfortable for them, I don't expect anyone to wear something special for me, unless they've told me they're going to |
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By *egoMan
over a year ago
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The only time I’d ask is if we are going out somewhere first.
Just so the outfits are of similar level.
Black tie or trackies sort of thing.
Even though I’m nearly always in a collared shirt anyway if I have clothes on. |
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"If you set a meet up why do guys always ask what you'll be wearing? It's a huge turn off for me. Even in conversation they ask"
The only reason id be asking.
What are you wearing for the meet would be to help pick you out of a crowded pub.
a face pick is ok, But having a note of what your wearing for the evening is better.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you set a meet up why do guys always ask what you'll be wearing? It's a huge turn off for me. Even in conversation they ask
The only reason id be asking.
What are you wearing for the meet would be to help pick you out of a crowded pub.
a face pick is ok, But having a note of what your wearing for the evening is better.
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Beat me to it I wouldn't do a face pic, (or expect one in return), so I'd need some sort of clue. If not then a table number or specific area to meet is the only other alternative. |
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"If you set a meet up why do guys always ask what you'll be wearing? It's a huge turn off for me. Even in conversation they ask, well actually I'm wearing pjs does that do it for you? It's like they expect you to be dressed up 24/7. Does anyone else find this annoying? You're going to meet a person not the clothes or lingerie, I get the lingerie excites the guy but I can leave that outside if that's all he wants."
Love this.. it is soooo annoying,unless being asked to wear something specific for a meet.
I'm in my PJs soon as I walk back through the door and not going anywhere else. So glad somebody else brought this up,I thought it was just me. Haha x |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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"Quite a few ladies have asked me what I want them to wear for a meet and I’ve never got annoyed at that question. "
Same , I’ve been told exactly what to wear once or twice too… and complied! I guess it depends on the type of convo you’re having before you meet. But often this comes into the conversation even if just a bit of banter / fun. I wouldn’t bring it up unless I felt we had that kind of relationship though , that would be unwise
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Well obviously if it’s just a social it’s a bit cringy to ask but if you are both planning to get jiggy I thinks it’s fine, it’s all part of the build up and foreplay. I often get asked if I will wear my suit and I’m happy to oblige |
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"If you set a meet up why do guys always ask what you'll be wearing? It's a huge turn off for me. Even in conversation they ask, well actually I'm wearing pjs does that do it for you? It's like they expect you to be dressed up 24/7. Does anyone else find this annoying? You're going to meet a person not the clothes or lingerie, I get the lingerie excites the guy but I can leave that outside if that's all he wants.
Love this.. it is soooo annoying,unless being asked to wear something specific for a meet.
I'm in my PJs soon as I walk back through the door and not going anywhere else. So glad somebody else brought this up,I thought it was just me. Haha x"
Those adult pj jumpsuit with button flap.. |
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"If you set a meet up why do guys always ask what you'll be wearing? It's a huge turn off for me. Even in conversation they ask, well actually I'm wearing pjs does that do it for you? It's like they expect you to be dressed up 24/7. Does anyone else find this annoying? You're going to meet a person not the clothes or lingerie, I get the lingerie excites the guy but I can leave that outside if that's all he wants.
Love this.. it is soooo annoying,unless being asked to wear something specific for a meet.
I'm in my PJs soon as I walk back through the door and not going anywhere else. So glad somebody else brought this up,I thought it was just me. Haha x
Those adult pj jumpsuit with button flap.. "
only on weekends |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
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"I like if she tells me she's going to be wearing blue lingerie. 
I think you may need counseling for your blue lingerie obsession. Haha
Why? Is blue underwear standard uniform for councillors?
I may take a look into that..  "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you set a meet up why do guys always ask what you'll be wearing? It's a huge turn off for me. Even in conversation they ask, well actually I'm wearing pjs does that do it for you? It's like they expect you to be dressed up 24/7. Does anyone else find this annoying? You're going to meet a person not the clothes or lingerie, I get the lingerie excites the guy but I can leave that outside if that's all he wants.
Sometimes though I ask what someone is planning on wearing because I don't want to dress too smart or casual,
Don't want to turn up in shirt and trousers if you're planning on wearing a tee and jeans, and vice versa"
This is exactly why I’d ask. If you think that’s a bad thing then the odds are that I wouldn’t enjoy meeting you anyway so it’s no loss to me. |
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"If you set a meet up why do guys always ask what you'll be wearing? It's a huge turn off for me. Even in conversation they ask, well actually I'm wearing pjs does that do it for you? It's like they expect you to be dressed up 24/7. Does anyone else find this annoying? You're going to meet a person not the clothes or lingerie, I get the lingerie excites the guy but I can leave that outside if that's all he wants.
Sometimes though I ask what someone is planning on wearing because I don't want to dress too smart or casual,
Don't want to turn up in shirt and trousers if you're planning on wearing a tee and jeans, and vice versa
This is exactly why I’d ask. If you think that’s a bad thing then the odds are that I wouldn’t enjoy meeting you anyway so it’s no loss to me. "
Its not the clothes it's the underwear question, tbh it wouldn't be a loss to me either |
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