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Being called daddy

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

So last night I was having a conversation with a group of friends….. and I ask if the guys like to be called during sex…. Now for me I find This a real turn on….but some the of guys I was with said it was a little weird…. Does anyone else find this hot?xx

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By *weetCruellaWoman over a year ago

somewhere sweet and sour

"So last night I was having a conversation with a group of friends….. and I ask if the guys like to be called during sex…. Now for me I find This a real turn on….but some the of guys I was with said it was a little weird…. Does anyone else find this hot?xx"

No no no its just awful.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Really?xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's not for me personally but do know of people who love this sort of role play xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Creepy as fuck x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Wow I’m actually quite shocked

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Wow I’m actually quite shocked "

Why?

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By *dwalu2Couple over a year ago

Bristol

It’s like any kink - fine for those who enjoy it, fairly incomprehensible to those who don’t.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I suppose because I genuinely thought that this was kind of a normal thing…. Most girl I know have always called their partners daddy in bed

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By *ustBoWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

It's not something I am personally into. But plenty on here have said they are in the past on threads about the subject.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Wow I’m actually quite shocked "

Don't be shocked OP, there was a thread the other day and a lot of women liked it. Everyone is different and one person's kink is another person's turn off xx

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By *rHotNottsMan over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Love it

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By *ana_nana_MATTMAN!Man over a year ago

Haywood Village, Weston-super-Mare

It wouldn't bother me, I'd just see it as a term of endearment. But then, I don't have any kids, so it's not like I've ever been called 'daddy' in any other context. Guys with kids might feel more awkward about it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I suppose because I genuinely thought that this was kind of a normal thing…. Most girl I know have always called their partners daddy in bed "

Everyone is different but it's not my thing

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I suppose because I genuinely thought that this was kind of a normal thing…. Most girl I know have always called their partners daddy in bed

Everyone is different but it's not my thing "

No absolutely I understand that xx

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By *uckslut and MCouple over a year ago

Poole

This thread pops up reg. Genral consesus is "it's a no". For a swinging site, it's a very negativly judged part of the spectrum.

Sorry about my spellings.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For my, it’s only certain dynamics I would use it in. Wouldn’t personally use “daddy” for just any or every guy.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Interesting. In the gay world that's a very common world lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

nobody should be kink shaming ...its a kink used by consenting adults if its not for you then fine but dont knock others for licking a kink ....

and swingers are suppose to be openminded some swingers are a total embaressment to the scene .... kink shaming is bullying plain and simple this is adults we are talking about adults with a kink nothing more nothing less

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By *uliette500Woman over a year ago

Hull

Everyone is different and I accept that but anyone who wants me to call him Daddy gets blocked. It's just too weird for me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not my things as I find it really creepy

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By *sLillyMrWolfeCouple over a year ago

near you...

Remembering a night at Le Boudoir in the play room when one girl kept screaming "Yes Papi! Yes Papi!" for about half an hour while being f*cked in the most rudimentary of ways.

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By *emorefridaCouple over a year ago

La la land

Plenty of people do like it, else there wouldn't be countless threads on the subject. I mean the vast majority of the public would think us perverse and disgusting being on a swinging site.

Different things for different folks and all that.

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By *sBlueWoman over a year ago

Up North

No such a turn off

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By *os19Man over a year ago

Edmonton

There was a thread like this yesterday and it seems to have been taken off.On that thread I commented that I received requests from couples 20 odd years younger than me wanting to do role plays with me been called daddy it was a request that I declined as I am not comfortable with that sort of scenario

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By *i_guy_sloughMan over a year ago

Langley

Personally it’s not a favourite of mine, I’ve met a few women into DDLG play and the dynamic has to be just right or it doesn’t work for me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not for me as I find it really weird…. But each to their own

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By *ancs married coupleCouple over a year ago

Silverdale

Funnily enough we were talking about this earlier. We dont get it at all. Cant imagine how either party would like saying it for obvious creepy reasons. Each to their own I suppose but not for us at all

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It would be nice if people just said "not for me" instead of "urgh creepy" and so forth. Leave the judgment behind.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It would be nice if people just said "not for me" instead of "urgh creepy" and so forth. Leave the judgment behind. "

This !

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By *yesbeenopened2Couple over a year ago

Rugby

Each to their own, but it does nothing for us.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's not for me as I said previously but to shame anyones kinks is really not cool

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

think alot of people are seeing ''daddy'' in the wrong concept daddy is not in the mommy n daddy type thing daddy can mean many many things in the kink world ... ... its ok to say its not for you but its not ok to shame..

and guys stop pm'ing me just because im saying no kink shaming does not mean im into it ...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Massive turn off

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't care what I'm called, as long as there's sex involvd.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It is for me but I'm very selective about who I would use it with - it reflects a particular dynamic. There is no way I'd message a stranger saying "please can I call you daddy". That's just not respectful.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's not for me as I said previously but to shame anyones kinks is really not cool "

Exactly this.

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By *ed LipstickWoman over a year ago

Fucksville

Huge turn off and weird to me, but aware that some people like it.

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By *parkle1974Woman over a year ago

Leeds

Not for me. Total turnoff.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Creepy as fuck

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By *razytimesinloveCouple over a year ago

SW Scotland

Instant turn off for both of us

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Wasnt going to say it because of all the negativity but fuck it , i like it

Its not for most but some like it .

Come at me

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By *ex-BombsCouple over a year ago

Flitwick

If that was said to my hubby during a meet I’d be leaving total turn off but it works for others

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By *etcplCouple over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

I get called Daddy by my littles, but I don’t roleplay as their dad or pretend there is any familial bond. Its a title used in some caregiver type dynamics.

I fond being called love, babe, baby, sexy, stud or many other male pet names to be a turn off so each to their own.

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By *parkle1974Woman over a year ago

Leeds

"Wasnt going to say it because of all the negativity but fuck it , i like it

Its not for most but some like it .

Come at me

There is no harm it liking it, why would anyone "come at you"

Everyone is entitled to their preferences

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Wasnt going to say it because of all the negativity but fuck it , i like it

Its not for most but some like it .

Come at me

There is no harm it liking it, why would anyone "come at you"

Everyone is entitled to their preferences "

Because loads of people are very judgemental about it (see above!)

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By *drian HardthrobMan over a year ago

Worcester

Better than being called mummy I suppose

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By *ogerBottomsMan over a year ago

Aberdare

"It would be nice if people just said "not for me" instead of "urgh creepy" and so forth. Leave the judgment behind. "

Yes, this. The first time a partner did it with me, my eyebrows went up to my hairline, and that's a fair distance these days. However, she explained it and I read up on it. It's about approval and encouragement. The LG wants to please the DD. The DD wants to encourage the LG. It's not something I ask for, but if it happens, I'm cool with it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Wasnt going to say it because of all the negativity but fuck it , i like it

Its not for most but some like it .

Come at me

There is no harm it liking it, why would anyone "come at you"

Everyone is entitled to their preferences "

Because its FAB , we know how it gets on here MissSparkle

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not my things as I find it really creepy "

Same

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By *emorefridaCouple over a year ago

La la land

"Wasnt going to say it because of all the negativity but fuck it , i like it

Its not for most but some like it .

Come at me

There is no harm it liking it, why would anyone "come at you"

Everyone is entitled to their preferences "

Isn't being called creepy and weird for your preferences coming for you though?

It wasn't that long ago I would have been told I was weird and just plain wrong because of being bisexual. I believe everyone's sexual preferences as long as they don't harm others shouldn't be demonised because it's not the norm.

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By *ogerBottomsMan over a year ago

Aberdare

It might seem creepy if you don't read up on it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We love it. Like I said on another thread it’s no different to calling a partner baby which nobody seems to have a problem with. If you actually think about it baby is the “weirder” of the two.

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By *ogerBottomsMan over a year ago

Aberdare

"We love it. Like I said on another thread it’s no different to calling a partner baby which nobody seems to have a problem with. If you actually think about it baby is the “weirder” of the two."

And it's OK to like a dad bod.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And it's OK to like a dad bod. "

It’s ok to have any kink as long as it’s legal between consenting adults.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Personally i don’t like it but there are some women who say it in such a way that you can’t help but get that little cock twitch going on

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Depends on the guy I'm with

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By *ogerBottomsMan over a year ago

Aberdare

"It’s ok to have any kink as long as it’s legal between consenting adults."

I quite like the idea of fancying me and my upholstered physique being kinky in and of itself.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Definitely not for me but each to their own.

I'd leave if a woman called me that during sex

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not for me i find it quite creepy each to their own though

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By *ogerBottomsMan over a year ago

Aberdare

"Definitely not for me but each to their own.

I'd leave if a woman called me that during sex

Sure you would. Suuuuuuuure you would.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Definitely not for me but each to their own.

I'd leave if a woman called me that during sex

It wouldn't be fair for that to be the first time it's brought up. I'd see it as a kink to be discussed ahead of meeting. So wouldn't blame you for leaving.

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS over a year ago

doncaster

"Interesting. In the gay world that's a very common world lol"
is it ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Definitely not for me but each to their own.

I'd leave if a woman called me that during sex

Sure you would. Suuuuuuuure you would. "

I’ll second that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"nobody should be kink shaming ...its a kink used by consenting adults if its not for you then fine but dont knock others for licking a kink ....

Well said. It’s getting a bit boring now, the judging and shaming.

It’s not for everyone, but leave people to their harmless and consensual kinks.

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By *ogerBottomsMan over a year ago

Aberdare

"It wouldn't be fair for that to be the first time it's brought up. I'd see it as a kink to be discussed ahead of meeting. So wouldn't blame you for leaving. "

The first time it happened to me, it just escaped and there was a 'shit, sorry, did I just say that out loud?' She could have called me Worzel fucking Gummidge at that point and it wouldn't have turned me off.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Plenty of people do like it, else there wouldn't be countless threads on the subject. I mean the vast majority of the public would think us perverse and disgusting being on a swinging site.

Different things for different folks and all that. "

Exactly this.

Just by being on fab it could be thought of as weird or creepy.

Everyone has preferences for what they like, it doesn’t mean they are wrong in any way (unless it’s illegal or non consensual). But there will always be some who will judge or demean another’s preference unfortunately.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It wouldn't be fair for that to be the first time it's brought up. I'd see it as a kink to be discussed ahead of meeting. So wouldn't blame you for leaving.

Yeah but really ought to be discussed in advance - I wouldn't want to make someone feel that uncomfortable. It's not for everyone.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"nobody should be kink shaming ...its a kink used by consenting adults if its not for you then fine but dont knock others for licking a kink ....

Well said. It’s getting a bit boring now, the judging and shaming.

It’s not for everyone, but leave people to their harmless and consensual kinks."

Exactly. Some people think threesomes are weird, some even think oral is weird. It’s fine to not like something. What isn’t fine is calling it weird or creepy.

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By *ogerBottomsMan over a year ago

Aberdare

"Yeah but really ought to be discussed in advance - I wouldn't want to make someone feel that uncomfortable. It's not for everyone. "

I get what you're saying, but I think she knew I was fairly unshockable. As with everything, it's context-dependent.

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By *olly_AmberTV/TS over a year ago

Live Sussex, Work London

I know a few guys who like to be called Daddy. I just can’t do it, I find it creepy.

I’ll call them sir or master for sure

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It wouldn't be fair for that to be the first time it's brought up. I'd see it as a kink to be discussed ahead of meeting. So wouldn't blame you for leaving.

Yeah but really ought to be discussed in advance - I wouldn't want to make someone feel that uncomfortable. It's not for everyone. "

Absolutely agree, should only take place after clear discussion and consent.

I don’t like the sound of rainbow kissing, but I don’t shame it, just because someone else does. If we all liked the same thing, it’d be pretty dull.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No, I dislike it.

I can't help but feel it's social conditioning to desensitize

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No, I dislike it.

I can't help but feel it's social conditioning to desensitize "

Can you explain what you mean?

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By *elboy64Man over a year ago

weston

Being called daddy is a power thing and slightly dom, some people like to be sub so role play helps. I wouldn't think she looking at me as dad, more a father figure.

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By *emorefridaCouple over a year ago

La la land

"Plenty of people do like it, else there wouldn't be countless threads on the subject. I mean the vast majority of the public would think us perverse and disgusting being on a swinging site.

Different things for different folks and all that.

Exactly this.

Just by being on fab it could be thought of as weird or creepy.

Exactly, as I said further up. It wouldn't have been that long ago I would have had names slung at me just for being busexual.

I'm confident in my sexuality and my own kinks. I don't feel the need to pull others down

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yeah but really ought to be discussed in advance - I wouldn't want to make someone feel that uncomfortable. It's not for everyone.

I get what you're saying, but I think she knew I was fairly unshockable. As with everything, it's context-dependent. "

Sure, that makes sense. But we've all got different boundaries.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No, I dislike it.

I can't help but feel it's social conditioning to desensitize

Can you explain what you mean?"

In time, for future generations to be less shocked and more open to actual relationships of this kind, rather than the fantasy aspect.

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By *axtenMan over a year ago

Stokesley

I find it stomach turning sick ..unacceptable

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It wouldn't be fair for that to be the first time it's brought up. I'd see it as a kink to be discussed ahead of meeting. So wouldn't blame you for leaving.

Yeah but really ought to be discussed in advance - I wouldn't want to make someone feel that uncomfortable. It's not for everyone.

Absolutely agree, should only take place after clear discussion and consent.

I don’t like the sound of rainbow kissing, but I don’t shame it, just because someone else does. If we all liked the same thing, it’d be pretty dull. "

I'm going to have to Google!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I find it stomach turning sick ..unacceptable"

I find your comment unacceptable

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No, I dislike it.

I can't help but feel it's social conditioning to desensitize

Can you explain what you mean?

In time, for future generations to be less shocked and more open to actual relationships of this kind, rather than the fantasy aspect.

I cannot see how this works, at my age

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By *jorkishMan over a year ago

Seaforth

Sorry I find being called Daddy sickening - maybe because I am a dad which I'm proud of, but being called that in a sexual scenario is really a no go

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I find it stomach turning sick ..unacceptable"

Do you know anything about it?

I can understand why people might not get it, but if people took time to educate themselves, they would discover it’s nothing to do with family dynamics. It’s a really beautiful, supportive and nurturing dynamic.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The only people that get to call me that are my kids. Otherwise it is just wrong

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Definitely not for me but each to their own.

I'd leave if a woman called me that during sex

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No, I dislike it.

I can't help but feel it's social conditioning to desensitize

Can you explain what you mean?

In time, for future generations to be less shocked and more open to actual relationships of this kind, rather than the fantasy aspect.

Do you feel that same with impact play, CNC, choking or any other power play dynamic?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My wife calls me Davey in bed all the time. Bit odd as my name is Mark....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sorry I find being called Daddy sickening - maybe because I am a dad which I'm proud of, but being called that in a sexual scenario is really a no go"

You're not sorry. Or you would have just said "it's not for me" instead of kink shaming others.

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Not for me. I don’t get it at all. I’d be out the door if someone said it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My wife calls me Davey in bed all the time. Bit odd as my name is Mark.... "
haha

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By *andare63Man over a year ago

oldham

"I suppose because I genuinely thought that this was kind of a normal thing…. Most girl I know have always called their partners daddy in bed "

Really? How can it be normal?

Is it normal for a daughter to have sex with her Father?

Of course not......

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not for me. I don’t get it at all. I’d be out the door if someone said it "

And that’s totally ok, because it should only take place between two consenting adults

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By *rHotNottsMan over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"It would be nice if people just said "not for me" instead of "urgh creepy" and so forth. Leave the judgment behind. "

Let them say whatever what they like, It insightful and says far more about themselves.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I find it stomach turning sick ..unacceptable

Do you know anything about it?

But the word daddy has to do with family, if it has nothing to do with family dynamics then why not use a different title? Yeah i dont understand it nor do i want as im not interested in that kind of roleplay etc, am not against anyone whos into everyone has their own kinks

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By *ollycouple71Couple over a year ago

manchester

"My wife calls me Davey in bed all the time. Bit odd as my name is Mark.... "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I suppose because I genuinely thought that this was kind of a normal thing…. Most girl I know have always called their partners daddy in bed

Really? How can it be normal?

Is it normal for a daughter to have sex with her Father?

Of course not...... "

For the love of god. Don't you dare equate it to that. Educate yourself. If it's not for you - that's perfectly fine. Don't judge others.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I suppose because I genuinely thought that this was kind of a normal thing…. Most girl I know have always called their partners daddy in bed

Really? How can it be normal?

Is it normal for a daughter to have sex with her Father?

Of course not...... "

Is it anything the we take part in on here “normal”?

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By *parkle1974Woman over a year ago

Leeds

"I know a few guys who like to be called Daddy. I just can’t do it, I find it creepy.

I’ll call them sir or master for sure"

I don't mind Sir but certainly not master. I think its the term "little girl" that totally puts me off.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It would be nice if people just said "not for me" instead of "urgh creepy" and so forth. Leave the judgment behind.

Let them say whatever what they like, It insightful and says far more about themselves."

All I said was "it would be nice". I know I can't control what people say.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This "kink shaming crap" gets boring zzzzzzzz... It's creepy like I said on another thread and it's wrong..for those saying folk should read up on it, why...when they have zero interest on it..

The word/role "daddy" has one place...for children to call the parent it..other than that it's severely fucked up

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It would be nice if people just said "not for me" instead of "urgh creepy" and so forth. Leave the judgment behind.

Let them say whatever what they like, It insightful and says far more about themselves."

Well said.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I suppose because I genuinely thought that this was kind of a normal thing…. Most girl I know have always called their partners daddy in bed

Really? How can it be normal?

Is it normal for a daughter to have sex with her Father?

Of course not...... "

your on a compleatly different page maybe best to do your homework rather than kink shame something you clearly have no clue about ??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This "kink shaming crap" gets boring zzzzzzzz... It's creepy like I said on another thread and it's wrong..for those saying folk should read up on it, why...when they have zero interest on it..

The word/role "daddy" has one place...for children to call the parent it..other than that it's severely fucked up"

To make a valid argument in any debate you should educate yourself on the subject.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This "kink shaming crap" gets boring zzzzzzzz... It's creepy like I said on another thread and it's wrong..for those saying folk should read up on it, why...when they have zero interest on it..

The word/role "daddy" has one place...for children to call the parent it..other than that it's severely fucked up

To make a valid argument in any debate you should educate yourself on the subject.

That would require opening the mind!

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By *rHotNottsMan over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"It would be nice if people just said "not for me" instead of "urgh creepy" and so forth. Leave the judgment behind.

Let them say whatever what they like, It insightful and says far more about themselves.

All I said was "it would be nice". I know I can't control what people say. "

I wasn’t having a go at you

The nasty responses just show utter cluelessness of kink at best , nasty insecure judging types me at worse. Please continue , it’s interesting…..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This "kink shaming crap" gets boring zzzzzzzz... It's creepy like I said on another thread and it's wrong..for those saying folk should read up on it, why...when they have zero interest on it..

The word/role "daddy" has one place...for children to call the parent it..other than that it's severely fucked up

To make a valid argument in any debate you should educate yourself on the subject.

That would require opening the mind!"

Wouldn't it just

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This "kink shaming crap" gets boring zzzzzzzz... It's creepy like I said on another thread and it's wrong..for those saying folk should read up on it, why...when they have zero interest on it..

The word/role "daddy" has one place...for children to call the parent it..other than that it's severely fucked up"

Because it’s always best to be informed on the subject you’re discussing really.

Otherwise what really are you contributing to the discussion apart from ignorance.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This "kink shaming crap" gets boring zzzzzzzz... It's creepy like I said on another thread and it's wrong..for those saying folk should read up on it, why...when they have zero interest on it..

The word/role "daddy" has one place...for children to call the parent it..other than that it's severely fucked up

To make a valid argument in any debate you should educate yourself on the subject.

Exactly!

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By *andare63Man over a year ago

oldham

"I suppose because I genuinely thought that this was kind of a normal thing…. Most girl I know have always called their partners daddy in bed

Really? How can it be normal?

Is it normal for a daughter to have sex with her Father?

Of course not......

your on a compleatly different page maybe best to do your homework rather than kink shame something you clearly have no clue about ??"

Clueless or not, I can't see past the title of Daddy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This "kink shaming crap" gets boring zzzzzzzz... It's creepy like I said on another thread and it's wrong..for those saying folk should read up on it, why...when they have zero interest on it..

The word/role "daddy" has one place...for children to call the parent it..other than that it's severely fucked up

To make a valid argument in any debate you should educate yourself on the subject.

"
it is valid because it's my opinion.. why the hell would I even begin to want to read up on it.. some folk are beyond help

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By *hischarmingdevilMan over a year ago

Ringwood

Reminds of an Offspring song...

She's got issues!!

Now she talks about her ex

Nonstop, but I don't mind

But when she calls out his name in bed

That's where I draw the line

You told me a hundred times how your father left and he's gone

But I wish you wouldn't call me 'daddy' when we're gettin' it on

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It would be nice if people just said "not for me" instead of "urgh creepy" and so forth. Leave the judgment behind.

Let them say whatever what they like, It insightful and says far more about themselves.

All I said was "it would be nice". I know I can't control what people say.

I wasn’t having a go at you

The nasty responses just show utter cluelessness of kink at best , nasty insecure judging types me at worse. Please continue , it’s interesting….. "

Oh I know you weren't

I think I will bow out as there's only so much crap I can read.

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By *jorkishMan over a year ago

Seaforth

"This "kink shaming crap" gets boring zzzzzzzz... It's creepy like I said on another thread and it's wrong..for those saying folk should read up on it, why...when they have zero interest on it..

The word/role "daddy" has one place...for children to call the parent it..other than that it's severely fucked up"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This "kink shaming crap" gets boring zzzzzzzz... It's creepy like I said on another thread and it's wrong..for those saying folk should read up on it, why...when they have zero interest on it..

The word/role "daddy" has one place...for children to call the parent it..other than that it's severely fucked up

Because it’s always best to be informed on the subject you’re discussing really.

Otherwise what really are you contributing to the discussion apart from ignorance. "
so you just assumed I hadn't read up on it, aye ok.. carry on with your scewed view of sex

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This "kink shaming crap" gets boring zzzzzzzz... It's creepy like I said on another thread and it's wrong..for those saying folk should read up on it, why...when they have zero interest on it..

The word/role "daddy" has one place...for children to call the parent it..other than that it's severely fucked up

To make a valid argument in any debate you should educate yourself on the subject.

it is valid because it's my opinion.. why the hell would I even begin to want to read up on it.. some folk are beyond help "

As someone said earlier. Without knowledge in the subject the only thing you’re contributing to the debate is ignorance.

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By *am101aMan over a year ago

swad

very NO!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This "kink shaming crap" gets boring zzzzzzzz... It's creepy like I said on another thread and it's wrong..for those saying folk should read up on it, why...when they have zero interest on it..

The word/role "daddy" has one place...for children to call the parent it..other than that it's severely fucked up

Because it’s always best to be informed on the subject you’re discussing really.

Otherwise what really are you contributing to the discussion apart from ignorance. "
what are you contributing apart from "the usual kink shaming crew"?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So far those against this have called it screwed up, not normal, fucked up and creepy.

If it's not for you - why do you persist in this judgement? No-one is forcing anyone to try something they don't like.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This "kink shaming crap" gets boring zzzzzzzz... It's creepy like I said on another thread and it's wrong..for those saying folk should read up on it, why...when they have zero interest on it..

The word/role "daddy" has one place...for children to call the parent it..other than that it's severely fucked up

Because it’s always best to be informed on the subject you’re discussing really.

Otherwise what really are you contributing to the discussion apart from ignorance. so you just assumed I hadn't read up on it, aye ok.. carry on with your scewed view of sex "

Screwed view of sex

Because it doesn’t fit in with your opinions. Smh

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This "kink shaming crap" gets boring zzzzzzzz... It's creepy like I said on another thread and it's wrong..for those saying folk should read up on it, why...when they have zero interest on it..

The word/role "daddy" has one place...for children to call the parent it..other than that it's severely fucked up

To make a valid argument in any debate you should educate yourself on the subject.

it is valid because it's my opinion.. why the hell would I even begin to want to read up on it.. some folk are beyond help

As someone said earlier. Without knowledge in the subject the only thing you’re contributing to the debate is ignorance."

If if they're not ignorant - why all the negativity?

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"So far those against this have called it screwed up, not normal, fucked up and creepy.

If it's not for you - why do you persist in this judgement? No-one is forcing anyone to try something they don't like. "

Because the op was weird or hot? Not normal/creepy isn’t much different to weird. People are answering the question posed.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Reminds of an Offspring song...

She's got issues!!

Now she talks about her ex

Nonstop, but I don't mind

But when she calls out his name in bed

That's where I draw the line

You told me a hundred times how your father left and he's gone

But I wish you wouldn't call me 'daddy' when we're gettin' it on

Bursts into song ......

Man, she's got issues and I'm gonna pay

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This "kink shaming crap" gets boring zzzzzzzz... It's creepy like I said on another thread and it's wrong..for those saying folk should read up on it, why...when they have zero interest on it..

The word/role "daddy" has one place...for children to call the parent it..other than that it's severely fucked up

Because it’s always best to be informed on the subject you’re discussing really.

Otherwise what really are you contributing to the discussion apart from ignorance. so you just assumed I hadn't read up on it, aye ok.. carry on with your scewed view of sex

Screwed view of sex

Because it doesn’t fit in with your opinions. Smh"

It’s quite amusing to read though

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By *hekaiserMan over a year ago

Glasgow

Being called "Daddy" during sex is wrong on so many levels

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So far those against this have called it screwed up, not normal, fucked up and creepy.

If it's not for you - why do you persist in this judgement? No-one is forcing anyone to try something they don't like.

Because the op was weird or hot? Not normal/creepy isn’t much different to weird. People are answering the question posed. "

People could answer the question with yes or no, but knowing how emotive this thread can be, people come on and deliberately make very strong statements against it, knowing how that will make others feel.

It’s totally cool to have an opinion, it’s another thing to be deliberately nasty.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So far those against this have called it screwed up, not normal, fucked up and creepy.

If it's not for you - why do you persist in this judgement? No-one is forcing anyone to try something they don't like.

Because the op was weird or hot? Not normal/creepy isn’t much different to weird. People are answering the question posed. "

I think you were talking about positive preference this week? To me this is along the same lines. This level of toxic negativity is just unpleasant and not necessary.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This "kink shaming crap" gets boring zzzzzzzz... It's creepy like I said on another thread and it's wrong..for those saying folk should read up on it, why...when they have zero interest on it..

The word/role "daddy" has one place...for children to call the parent it..other than that it's severely fucked up

Because it’s always best to be informed on the subject you’re discussing really.

Otherwise what really are you contributing to the discussion apart from ignorance. what are you contributing apart from "the usual kink shaming crew"?"

At the very least I try to understand what the kinks are before i make an informed choice and certainly wouldn’t feel my opinion on a kink is absolute. Whether it’s for me or not, I wouldn’t judge others based on that or try to make them feel less than due to that.

If it’s not for me doesn’t equal wrong I’m not that arrogant.

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By *jorkishMan over a year ago

Seaforth

"So far those against this have called it screwed up, not normal, fucked up and creepy.

If it's not for you - why do you persist in this judgement? No-one is forcing anyone to try something they don't like.

Because the op was weird or hot? Not normal/creepy isn’t much different to weird. People are answering the question posed. "

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"So far those against this have called it screwed up, not normal, fucked up and creepy.

If it's not for you - why do you persist in this judgement? No-one is forcing anyone to try something they don't like.

Because the op was weird or hot? Not normal/creepy isn’t much different to weird. People are answering the question posed.

I think you were talking about positive preference this week? To me this is along the same lines. This level of toxic negativity is just unpleasant and not necessary. "

Was i? I don’t tend to talk about preferences. Don’t think it was me x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This "kink shaming crap" gets boring zzzzzzzz... It's creepy like I said on another thread and it's wrong..for those saying folk should read up on it, why...when they have zero interest on it..

The word/role "daddy" has one place...for children to call the parent it..other than that it's severely fucked up

Because it’s always best to be informed on the subject you’re discussing really.

Otherwise what really are you contributing to the discussion apart from ignorance. so you just assumed I hadn't read up on it, aye ok.. carry on with your scewed view of sex

Screwed view of sex

Because it doesn’t fit in with your opinions. Smh

It’s quite amusing to read though

It’s rather telling isn’t it. Can’t help but be amused sometimes.

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By *ltguy25Man over a year ago

Belfast

It's not for me but all the kink shaming in this thread on a swingers site is pretty cringe.

It's a fairly tame kink compared to some of the listed kinks you can list on your interests?

Idk, feel it's a bit grim to see half the comments in here tbh.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So far those against this have called it screwed up, not normal, fucked up and creepy.

If it's not for you - why do you persist in this judgement? No-one is forcing anyone to try something they don't like.

Because the op was weird or hot? Not normal/creepy isn’t much different to weird. People are answering the question posed.

I think you were talking about positive preference this week? To me this is along the same lines. This level of toxic negativity is just unpleasant and not necessary.

Was i? I don’t tend to talk about preferences. Don’t think it was me x"

I must have misremembered. But stating preferences positively rather than "no Asians" means that no-one is left feeling shamed for what they are or what they enjoy. Anyone reading this thread who was a little unsure about ddlg might now be feeling throughly crap. Or someone who is enjoying it has had various people suggesting they are fucked up in some way. Why be so negative? (I don't mean you Nora)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's not for me but all the kink shaming in this thread on a swingers site is pretty cringe.

It's a fairly tame kink compared to some of the listed kinks you can list on your interests?

Idk, feel it's a bit grim to see half the comments in here tbh.

Yeah. It's depressing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I was always of the mindset that I found it disgusting and just plain wrong, purely based on my own experiences, the same as pain etc (especially spanking etc) but then I discussed the whole “daddy” calling scenario, as we have had a number of messages from people using daddy, and some even mummy, and saying it turns them on. He said he quite liked it, so I decided to think more on it.

Now, here’s the thing, I’m completely able to separate my role as a mum to my children, with my role as a sexually active adult.

Only used the term a few times, but it’s actually helped me, teaching me that I can use the term with a man who is loving, gentle and attentive, and even when I’m being completely submissive and partaking in spanking etc, as it’s consensual and it’s my choice whether I say it or not, it’s actually been empowering for me. The word no longer hold abusive connotations, in a sexual situation, it’s not scary or dirty to me anymore.

There are plenty of kinks I’m not into, and some sexual acts I’m not into, but I don’t judge, I simply say “not for me” and don’t even feel the need to look any further into it, but this kink I did. I took back the word, I made into one that I was comfortable with, and as he’s so nurturing, I don’t mind or fear it anymore. I don’t mind or fear pain etc, it’s about separating past experience etc with present.

Guess I’m trying say (in this novel) that we shouldn’t kink shame because something isn’t for us, that, with someone you have built up trust and nurtures you, kinks can be enjoyable xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So far those against this have called it screwed up, not normal, fucked up and creepy.

If it's not for you - why do you persist in this judgement? No-one is forcing anyone to try something they don't like.

Because the op was weird or hot? Not normal/creepy isn’t much different to weird. People are answering the question posed.

It’s totally cool to have an opinion, it’s another thing to be deliberately nasty."

^^^ this

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By *rab74Man over a year ago

Huntingdon

"it is valid because it's my opinion"

There are people - in fact, entire countries - who think that as a woman you have no right to any opinion that isn't chosen for you by your father, husband or brother. They'd be physically sickened by the idea that you might be having sex outside marriage, and think the only appropriate recourse is to kill you. Is that valid?

Having an opinion doesn't make it valid. You're perfectly entitled to not like something, but unless it hurts anyone else, you're not perfectly entitled to tell other people they shouldn't like it.

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By *ogerBottomsMan over a year ago

Aberdare

"Being called "Daddy" during sex is wrong on so many levels "

Especially when your mum called me it.

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By *vgloryholebs16TV/TS over a year ago

Bristol.

It had the opposite effect for me, recently this happened to me when a twink called me Daddy...As I have two sons of 'twink age', it didn't sit right for me.I couldn't separate the two different ideas (parenting and role play etc)

As someone said earlier this is not uncommon in gay culture, and as it is less likely for gay guys to have children, it may not be such an issue..

It's a no from me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I was always of the mindset that I found it disgusting and just plain wrong, purely based on my own experiences, the same as pain etc (especially spanking etc) but then I discussed the whole “daddy” calling scenario, as we have had a number of messages from people using daddy, and some even mummy, and saying it turns them on. He said he quite liked it, so I decided to think more on it.

Now, here’s the thing, I’m completely able to separate my role as a mum to my children, with my role as a sexually active adult.

Guess I’m trying say (in this novel) that we shouldn’t kink shame because something isn’t for us, that, with someone you have built up trust and nurtures you, kinks can be enjoyable xx"

Oh, and just for those who’ve read between the lines, it’s nothing to do with my biological dad x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Being called "Daddy" during sex is wrong on so many levels

Especially when your mum called me it. "

If you’d worked an elevator into that min joke I would have been seriously impressed.

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By *ltra72Man over a year ago

edinburgh

Whenever I get called daddy it usually costs me, so not keen

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Whenever I get called daddy it usually costs me, so not keen"

It shouldn’t.

That’s not what it’s about, unless it’s sugar daddy.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wouldn't mind it if my wife called me daddy. I just wish she would call me. Not heard from her in weeks....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Now, here’s the thing, I’m completely able to separate my role as a mum to my children, with my role as a sexually active adult.

Guess I’m trying say (in this novel) that we shouldn’t kink shame because something isn’t for us, that, with someone you have built up trust and nurtures you, kinks can be enjoyable xx"

Wonderfully written/typed.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Being called "Daddy" during sex is wrong on so many levels

Especially when your mum called me it.

If you’d worked an elevator into that min joke I would have been seriously impressed."

Mum joke**

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Now, here’s the thing, I’m completely able to separate my role as a mum to my children, with my role as a sexually active adult.

Guess I’m trying say (in this novel) that we shouldn’t kink shame because something isn’t for us, that, with someone you have built up trust and nurtures you, kinks can be enjoyable xx

Wonderfully written/typed. "

Absolutely

If people could just see past the one word, and see the beauty in the dynamic, the healing that’s happened, the love, trust, safety in it, they might understand.

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By *ora the explorerWoman over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"So far those against this have called it screwed up, not normal, fucked up and creepy.

If it's not for you - why do you persist in this judgement? No-one is forcing anyone to try something they don't like.

Because the op was weird or hot? Not normal/creepy isn’t much different to weird. People are answering the question posed.

It’s totally cool to have an opinion, it’s another thing to be deliberately nasty."

I didn’t kink shame in my comment, I was just being honest. This kind of thread will never just get a yes or no. It’s always been one of the most marmite subjects on here. Yeah some of the comments are probably a bit unnecessary but why care what others thinks if you like something? And surely it’s a good filter. I’d rather people be honest and speak their mind whether I like it or not.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Whenever I get called daddy it usually costs me, so not keen

It shouldn’t.

That’s not what it’s about, unless it’s sugar daddy. "

Agreed. Financially it shouldn’t cost you at all. Unless that is the dynamic BOTH agreed to.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Now, here’s the thing, I’m completely able to separate my role as a mum to my children, with my role as a sexually active adult.

Guess I’m trying say (in this novel) that we shouldn’t kink shame because something isn’t for us, that, with someone you have built up trust and nurtures you, kinks can be enjoyable xx

Wonderfully written/typed. "

Thank you xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So far those against this have called it screwed up, not normal, fucked up and creepy.

If it's not for you - why do you persist in this judgement? No-one is forcing anyone to try something they don't like.

Because the op was weird or hot? Not normal/creepy isn’t much different to weird. People are answering the question posed.

It’s totally cool to have an opinion, it’s another thing to be deliberately nasty.

I know you didn’t, I was replying to the statement that people are answering the question posed.

I don’t care what people think, but others do, and it’s not cool to make them feel wrong imo.

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By *ogerBottomsMan over a year ago

Aberdare

"If you’d worked an elevator into that min joke I would have been seriously impressed."

I was worried about escalating the argument.

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By *entlemanrogueMan over a year ago

Glasgow

i thought i would find it weird, until a woman called Daddy. since then a few have and do call me Daddy and i like it.

You could look at it simply a term of respect and endearment

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Now, here’s the thing, I’m completely able to separate my role as a mum to my children, with my role as a sexually active adult.

Guess I’m trying say (in this novel) that we shouldn’t kink shame because something isn’t for us, that, with someone you have built up trust and nurtures you, kinks can be enjoyable xx

Wonderfully written/typed.

Absolutely

If people could just see past the one word, and see the beauty in the dynamic, the healing that’s happened, the love, trust, safety in it, they might understand. "

I never understood. I couldn’t separate the idea of sexual abuse with a mutually satisfying sexual experience. If I chose to only ever use the word once, if I never use it again, there isn’t any problem, as it’s about my comfort above all. Guess you just have to meet the right person, and then a kink can be healing and enjoyable.

I used to think being held by the throat was only what a man did to hurt and control you in an abusive situation, again, I’ve since learned doesn’t have to be that way. Guess I’m just lucky that I have a Dom who is patient xx

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By *lofeldMan over a year ago

Redhill

It's a role play, a kink. You are no more 'Daddy' doing it than you are a repair man, policeman, doctor et al. Leave consenting adults to it ffs.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Now, here’s the thing, I’m completely able to separate my role as a mum to my children, with my role as a sexually active adult.

Guess I’m trying say (in this novel) that we shouldn’t kink shame because something isn’t for us, that, with someone you have built up trust and nurtures you, kinks can be enjoyable xx

Wonderfully written/typed.

Absolutely

If people could just see past the one word, and see the beauty in the dynamic, the healing that’s happened, the love, trust, safety in it, they might understand.

I’ve seen a few studies on kink/bdsm being used as healing for many reasons and it’s quite an eye opener. Obviously not all will find it the same but it definitely has been a help for many.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Now, here’s the thing, I’m completely able to separate my role as a mum to my children, with my role as a sexually active adult.

Guess I’m trying say (in this novel) that we shouldn’t kink shame because something isn’t for us, that, with someone you have built up trust and nurtures you, kinks can be enjoyable xx

Wonderfully written/typed.

Absolutely

If people could just see past the one word, and see the beauty in the dynamic, the healing that’s happened, the love, trust, safety in it, they might understand.

I’ve seen a few studies on kink/bdsm being used as healing for many reasons and it’s quite an eye opener. Obviously not all will find it the same but it definitely has been a help for many. "

It’s been transformative for me. I’ve never in my life felt safe before.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Now, here’s the thing, I’m completely able to separate my role as a mum to my children, with my role as a sexually active adult.

Guess I’m trying say (in this novel) that we shouldn’t kink shame because something isn’t for us, that, with someone you have built up trust and nurtures you, kinks can be enjoyable xx

Wonderfully written/typed.

Absolutely

If people could just see past the one word, and see the beauty in the dynamic, the healing that’s happened, the love, trust, safety in it, they might understand.

I’ve seen a few studies on kink/bdsm being used as healing for many reasons and it’s quite an eye opener. Obviously not all will find it the same but it definitely has been a help for many.

It’s been transformative for me. I’ve never in my life felt safe before."

Safe.

That’s the part that overwhelmed me. It’s a powerful feeling and one that everyone should be able to experience. It’s such a beautiful state.

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By *etcplCouple over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"carry on with your scewed view of sex "

To be fair my view of sex goes far deeper than using the title of Daddy, and rarely involves the use of my penis. Hows that for screwed!?!?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Now, here’s the thing, I’m completely able to separate my role as a mum to my children, with my role as a sexually active adult.

Guess I’m trying say (in this novel) that we shouldn’t kink shame because something isn’t for us, that, with someone you have built up trust and nurtures you, kinks can be enjoyable xx

Wonderfully written/typed.

Absolutely

If people could just see past the one word, and see the beauty in the dynamic, the healing that’s happened, the love, trust, safety in it, they might understand.

I’ve seen a few studies on kink/bdsm being used as healing for many reasons and it’s quite an eye opener. Obviously not all will find it the same but it definitely has been a help for many.

It’s been transformative for me. I’ve never in my life felt safe before.

Safe.

That’s the part that overwhelmed me. It’s a powerful feeling and one that everyone should be able to experience. It’s such a beautiful state. "

I didn’t even know what it felt like, it really is isn’t it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"carry on with your scewed view of sex

To be fair my view of sex goes far deeper than using the title of Daddy, and rarely involves the use of my penis. Hows that for screwed!?!?"

You must go and flagellate yourself immediately, oh wait, is that screwed up too

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By *emorefridaCouple over a year ago

La la land

Now, here’s the thing, I’m completely able to separate my role as a mum to my children, with my role as a sexually active adult.

Guess I’m trying say (in this novel) that we shouldn’t kink shame because something isn’t for us, that, with someone you have built up trust and nurtures you, kinks can be enjoyable xx

Wonderfully written/typed.

Absolutely

If people could just see past the one word, and see the beauty in the dynamic, the healing that’s happened, the love, trust, safety in it, they might understand.

I hear you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Now, here’s the thing, I’m completely able to separate my role as a mum to my children, with my role as a sexually active adult.

Guess I’m trying say (in this novel) that we shouldn’t kink shame because something isn’t for us, that, with someone you have built up trust and nurtures you, kinks can be enjoyable xx

Wonderfully written/typed.

Absolutely

If people could just see past the one word, and see the beauty in the dynamic, the healing that’s happened, the love, trust, safety in it, they might understand.

I’ve seen a few studies on kink/bdsm being used as healing for many reasons and it’s quite an eye opener. Obviously not all will find it the same but it definitely has been a help for many. "

Helped me, some things I know can’t be healed, but that’s ok, they’ve shaped me and I’ve learned to compartmentalise them and carry on living.

Sadly I’ve found that, despite stressing that our dynamics are for us, and we like sensual just as much, that we’ve been kink shamed, mocked and insulted by a number of women. They can’t separate that side of us with anything else, but it’s a price we pay for being open. I’d much rather people be honest and say we’re not for them, it’s just the ones who think they have to be rude, to stress why, that is disappointing. And actually, by doing that, they prove they’re not for us, so it’s not really such a bad thing xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"carry on with your scewed view of sex

To be fair my view of sex goes far deeper than using the title of Daddy, and rarely involves the use of my penis. Hows that for screwed!?!?

You must go and flagellate yourself immediately, oh wait, is that screwed up too

We all screwed up the moment we signed up to fab. The majority would think we all have a very screwed up view of sex. Not sure they quite thought through the implication of that little gem

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"carry on with your scewed view of sex

To be fair my view of sex goes far deeper than using the title of Daddy, and rarely involves the use of my penis. Hows that for screwed!?!?

You must go and flagellate yourself immediately, oh wait, is that screwed up too

We all screwed up the moment we signed up to fab. The majority would think we all have a very screwed up view of sex. Not sure they quite thought through the implication of that little gem

Ha, nope

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By *emorefridaCouple over a year ago

La la land

Though I don't use the word daddy I am in a DDlg dynamic. And to be honest all those saying it's creepy, it's screwed up etc etc. I kinda get it, did resist the label initially myself. Though I never felt the need to use derogatory or inflammatory language personally.

But I guess these kind of threads are useful in their way. They help me cement my own ideas on my kinks etc. Plus I enjoy the messages off the backs of them, even if we don't agree on everything.

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By *etcplCouple over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"carry on with your scewed view of sex

To be fair my view of sex goes far deeper than using the title of Daddy, and rarely involves the use of my penis. Hows that for screwed!?!?

You must go and flagellate yourself immediately, oh wait, is that screwed up too

I’ll remember to cinch my celice before heading to the dungeon to tighten the spiked tit press on the poor unfortunate strung up soul who had “no limits” and now no hair

I may get them to call me Father instead and go full on Spanish Inquisition on them!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Being called "Daddy" during sex is wrong on so many levels "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Helped me, some things I know can’t be healed, but that’s ok, they’ve shaped me and I’ve learned to compartmentalise them and carry on living.

For me I found enjoyment in sex through kink. It took me a very long time to understand what I needed and that actually what I craved wasn’t shameful and I could embrace it all with the right partners.

Which is why I get somewhat triggered seeing such judgment for people in here. There may be someone like myself who are battling with their sexuality/sensuality and feel more shame in what they want rather than exploring and embracing it. Sometimes that inner battle becomes so much more a struggle when you see the judgment put in those who have found their enjoyment.

It’s wholly worth it when you do find the right dynamic and partners. I wouldn’t change my kinks for the world, I would only change leaving it so long to explore them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"carry on with your scewed view of sex

To be fair my view of sex goes far deeper than using the title of Daddy, and rarely involves the use of my penis. Hows that for screwed!?!?

You must go and flagellate yourself immediately, oh wait, is that screwed up too

I’ll remember to cinch my celice before heading to the dungeon to tighten the spiked tit press on the poor unfortunate strung up soul who had “no limits” and now no hair

I may get them to call me Father instead and go full on Spanish Inquisition on them! "

Steady, the men in white coats will be coming for you

, ooh, there’s a thought

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"it is valid because it's my opinion

Having an opinion doesn't make it valid. You're perfectly entitled to not like something, but unless it hurts anyone else, you're not perfectly entitled to tell other people they shouldn't like it."
another white knight on his charger..

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By *emorefridaCouple over a year ago

La la land

It's been an interesting conversation, and one I've noticed that it's often the same people who are on these threads. For both a positive, impartial and against. Though I never quite understand why it is some are so vocally against, and are as if drawn to these threads like a moth to a flame? When it's something that happens consentually in others bedrooms, why all the interest? Though I guess that is for another thread on another day.

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By *emorefridaCouple over a year ago

La la land

"carry on with your scewed view of sex

To be fair my view of sex goes far deeper than using the title of Daddy, and rarely involves the use of my penis. Hows that for screwed!?!?

You must go and flagellate yourself immediately, oh wait, is that screwed up too

I’ll remember to cinch my celice before heading to the dungeon to tighten the spiked tit press on the poor unfortunate strung up soul who had “no limits” and now no hair

I may get them to call me Father instead and go full on Spanish Inquisition on them!

Steady, the men in white coats will be coming for you

, ooh, there’s a thought

I have a white coat, just saying

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By *emorefridaCouple over a year ago

La la land

Helped me, some things I know can’t be healed, but that’s ok, they’ve shaped me and I’ve learned to compartmentalise them and carry on living.

It’s wholly worth it when you do find the right dynamic and partners. I wouldn’t change my kinks for the world, I would only change leaving it so long to explore them. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For those that commented on the ones that don't agree, you are infact trying to justify it to some that believe it's wrong...you are the ones being judgemental..

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