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Advice to guys from a guy!

By *ookie_and_Nookie OP Couple over a year ago

Kent

I feel in todays society what is said and done online isn’t seen to have as much of an impact as if it were done in real life, which is total BS!

Imagine you are a guy, in a bar, you see a woman that catches your eye so you pluck up the courage to go talk to her.

You are perfectly respectful, and politely say

“Hi, I’m Dave, can I get you a drink?”

To which she replies with

“Hi Dave, no thank you”

You, a bit deflated, smile and wish the lady a good evening and walk away.

Cool right? Yes, good boy Dave, you tried, you failed, but at least you weren’t being a pestering douche bag and continued to harass the woman.

But then 5 minutes later you approach the same lady again and say

“Hi, my names Dave, what you drinking?”

To which she politely replies

“I’m ok thank you Dave”

Again, you walk away… that is until 10 minutes later, you approach her AGAIN to try your luck once more!

Sounds crazy right, can’t Dave take a hint?

Well we (and I’m assuming a lot of women and couples) get a lot of Daves in our inbox, they’ll message and either get politely declined or ignored, and they will message again and again an hour/day/week later.

You can see your message has been read, assume your profile has been looked at (along with the dick pic you also sent, thanks for that too, very classy opener…) and yet you received no reply. Why do you think that is? Because we are not interested. Yes in an ideal world every message would be met with a reply, maybe saying no thank you or whatever, but due to the sheer volume of messages we receive that just isn’t possible (can’t imagine how many messages single women get!!)

So just accept that its a no, just like you would (or should!) if turned down in real life and move on!

Guys please do better!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The type of men who need lessons in how to be a decent person won't be reading the forums.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I feel in todays society what is said and done online isn’t seen to have as much of an impact as if it were done in real life, which is total BS!

Imagine you are a guy, in a bar, you see a woman that catches your eye so you pluck up the courage to go talk to her.

You are perfectly respectful, and politely say

“Hi, I’m Dave, can I get you a drink?”

To which she replies with

“Hi Dave, no thank you”

You, a bit deflated, smile and wish the lady a good evening and walk away.

Cool right? Yes, good boy Dave, you tried, you failed, but at least you weren’t being a pestering douche bag and continued to harass the woman.

But then 5 minutes later you approach the same lady again and say

“Hi, my names Dave, what you drinking?”

To which she politely replies

“I’m ok thank you Dave”

Again, you walk away… that is until 10 minutes later, you approach her AGAIN to try your luck once more!

Sounds crazy right, can’t Dave take a hint?

So just accept that its a no, just like you would (or should!) if turned down in real life and move on!

Guys please do better!

I gather it realy bothers you if a guy does this to you....if so just block or delete.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We must be lucky, not once come across a pushy, demanding or rude male on here.

Some couple however have been snarky, rude, impatient and insulting, not many, but the only issues have ever come from couples.

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple over a year ago

Exeter

We get a local guy message us every few weeks trying his luck each time with a new profile. You'd of thought after the 7th and 8th attempt he'd of at least read our profile by now!

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By *ealitybitesMan over a year ago

Belfast

As already said, the forums account for a tiny percentage of site users and those who fall into the category you describe, if they are here at all, won't take the time to read it.

My own experience and that of others from what I've seen in other threads is that most of what you describe could apply to women and couples also.

I've had repeated messages from women who don't take no for an answer.

I've had repeated friend requests from women I've never spoken to and I now don't delete friends requests which prevents them sending another one.

I've had numerous demanding messages from couples that I've never seen before and therefore never spoken to.

All well verified with 100+ veries which gives them a sense of importance and allows them to assume that every man will jump because they say so.

Using your analogy, Dave and Mrs Dave approach a man in a bar and tell him he will never find what he's looking for in this bar because he's got a beard and is straight.

His only hope of ever meeting them for sex or being "put on their to do list" is to shave off his beard, give them his phone number, play bi and/or "guarantee a sexy lady"!

I've had experience of pushy males before I blocked them all. They weren't looking to suck my cock btw but wanted to be my wingman or for me to be theirs.

Unfortunately the nature of these forums is that if Dave decides to start a thread giving advice to women and couples, he gets torn a new one.

My profile is written specifically for pushy people who make the assumption that they are entitled to a particular response.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Luckily we only come across one idiot like that.. even got to him messaging after we'd had meets getting all funny because we didn't meet him. He's blocked now lol but still like we owe you anything because we talked for abit

Mrs x

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