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Red flags / signs your partner has lost interest/ or cheating
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Just thought i'd start this post of what you would see as red flags, or signs your partner isnt interested or is cheating.
By no means does this mean your partner is cheating, just a topic i thought id see peoples views |
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A change in their attachment, that may be subtle but you know something has changed.
Cheating and disconnecting starts with someone having secrets. They start with secret thoughts that aren't shared, potentially doing things that they won't disclose. Some aspects of them become unavailable.
You may smell others on them too.
They may become strangely affectionate or giving, out of guilt etc too |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"A change in their attachment, that may be subtle but you know something has changed.
Cheating and disconnecting starts with someone having secrets. They start with secret thoughts that aren't shared, potentially doing things that they won't disclose. Some aspects of them become unavailable.
You may smell others on them too.
They may become strangely affectionate or giving, out of guilt etc too"
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"Being accused of things that you've not done or given the other half no reason to think that you had.
I think this is because they have a guilty conscience.
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Projecting. But it can also be because they’ve had problems in the past which they may not be fully over. |
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"When you can tap dance nude in front of them but they don’t look up from fucking Facebook. "
I still think WiFi and mobile internet has probably done more damages to relationships than anyone wants to admit.
Even if people aren’t using it to cheat, the lack of interaction together because if it is enough to lead to people drifting apart. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"When you can tap dance nude in front of them but they don’t look up from fucking Facebook.
I still think WiFi and mobile internet has probably done more damages to relationships than anyone wants to admit.
But if your happy why drift?
Even if people aren’t using it to cheat, the lack of interaction together because if it is enough to lead to people drifting apart."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Partner losing interest is something you can easily find out. Just notice how enthusiastic they are, about spending time with you. If they lost interest, they will keep finding excuses to skip anything you have planned. Even when they are with you, they look pretty lost.
Cheating on the other hand is easy/hard to find out depending on how smart/stupid the partner is. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When you can tap dance nude in front of them but they don’t look up from fucking Facebook.
I still think WiFi and mobile internet has probably done more damages to relationships than anyone wants to admit.
Even if people aren’t using it to cheat, the lack of interaction together because if it is enough to lead to people drifting apart."
To be honest, television did it already. Couples need not spend all the time interacting with each other. That was never the case. What TV and mobile phones changed was how we spend the time we don't interact with the family.
In the past, there was more socialisation with neighbours, distant relatives and friends. That's the time which televisions and mobile phones cut into. And that's bad too. |
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"When you can tap dance nude in front of them but they don’t look up from fucking Facebook.
I still think WiFi and mobile internet has probably done more damages to relationships than anyone wants to admit.
Even if people aren’t using it to cheat, the lack of interaction together because if it is enough to lead to people drifting apart.
To be honest, television did it already. Couples need not spend all the time interacting with each other. That was never the case. What TV and mobile phones changed was how we spend the time we don't interact with the family.
In the past, there was more socialisation with neighbours, distant relatives and friends. That's the time which televisions and mobile phones cut into. And that's bad too."
But even with telly there was only one screen. People sat together and watched the same thing. Talking about it as the watched. |
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I realised that my ex-wife was having an affair due to the classic oversell mistake.
When people concoct a cover story, they will think of whatever questions they might be asked, and come up with answers to support the lie. Then sometimes when they are trying to sell you that cover story, they will, in one go, volunteer a lot more information than you has actually asked for, as a means of preemptively answering the questions they are anticipating. This tends to come accross as very unnatural, conversationally. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When you can tap dance nude in front of them but they don’t look up from fucking Facebook.
I still think WiFi and mobile internet has probably done more damages to relationships than anyone wants to admit.
Even if people aren’t using it to cheat, the lack of interaction together because if it is enough to lead to people drifting apart.
To be honest, television did it already. Couples need not spend all the time interacting with each other. That was never the case. What TV and mobile phones changed was how we spend the time we don't interact with the family.
In the past, there was more socialisation with neighbours, distant relatives and friends. That's the time which televisions and mobile phones cut into. And that's bad too.
But even with telly there was only one screen. People sat together and watched the same thing. Talking about it as the watched."
Good point. That's something I did not think about. |
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By *olo911Couple
over a year ago
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Normally it’s a change in attitude, either they feel guilty and over compensate, or completely loose interest. An old serial adulter once said if your cheating don’t change if your a wanker at home stay a wanker don’t suddenly become the person you haven’t been all your married life . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Cheating-
Leaving there phone screen facing down if its let out there sight for 2mins
Happier than usual
Taking More selfies
Looking after there appearence more than they usually would. |
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It's obvious when they've lost interest. No more little compliments, not so subtle verbal clues, where once they'd have expressed an opinion there's now only indifference.
Infidelity signs can be harder to articulate but if you know someone (and you take an interest in them) you just know, even if it's not on an intellectual level, subconsciously you know |
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