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By *ex4u4 OP Couple
over a year ago
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We are looking for longterm fun but insist on a social first, however single guys dont seem to want to meet for a social only if no fun is guatanteed.
Cant they see if we get on we would meet regular. We want to build up to a single guy sleeping all night with the wife on their own.
We dont like one offs anymore
So the question is what do other people prefer...is longterm not better |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I guess those not wanting a social are only after one thing. Personally, I prefer some sort of understanding with whoever I meet so a social is a logical step to see if all involved are comfortable. Play should never be taken as being a certainty (no matter whether its a social or a play meet).
Like you, I would like something more long term and regular. Those relationships take time to develop. |
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I prefer regular meets with a couple because I think the sex always gets better over time. You find out what they like and don’t like. You also find out why you like and don’t like with them. It’s different things for different people.
I am always happy to have a social first. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We are looking for longterm fun but insist on a social first, however single guys dont seem to want to meet for a social only if no fun is guatanteed.
Cant they see if we get on we would meet regular. We want to build up to a single guy sleeping all night with the wife on their own.
I love socials.. Most people who contact me just want sex now(not that I mind that either) ... And thats women and couples I talking about.
We dont like one offs anymore
So the question is what do other people prefer...is longterm not better"
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By *ex4u4 OP Couple
over a year ago
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Absolutely
When it has worked, the sex has been amazing and then the wife is happy to play on her own.
We thought we met a nice single guy but then after the 4th meet he went weird. Not sure if his feelings were getting mixed up….anyway the search is on again… |
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Most people are not compatible with most other people, including for the style of meeting and engagement. It's just about clear communication from all, to filter out those who are unmatched.
I like both, ideally though for regular. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve always preferred long term. It’s nice to build up a relationship and the sex usually gets better and better when you genuinely like and fancy someone.
That’s my perspective anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If long-term is what you want and they aren't even willing to attend a social with no guarantee of sex you've dodged a bullet  "
See it as a positive OP. No time wasted. You're not compatible. |
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"We are looking for longterm fun but insist on a social first, however single guys dont seem to want to meet for a social only if no fun is guatanteed.
Cant they see if we get on we would meet regular. We want to build up to a single guy sleeping all night with the wife on their own.
We dont like one offs anymore
So the question is what do other people prefer...is longterm not better"
Either. Couples are the same though, some lose interest if they think play is not guaranteed. (Probably Male driven profiles though!) |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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You might take the view too, that all the socials in the world wont make up for poor sex. You'll eventually find a guy you get along with, who ticks all the boxes but fucks like a wooden horse - so the search begins again.
I'm not saying don't have socials, sleep with everyone, don't have standards or change what you're looking for but you see a lot of people looking for that perfect guy (used to be know as 'exceptional') who are then put off because of let downs, fakes, time etc. |
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I have met couples socially first many times. Not sure it makes a difference regards for a regular arrangement. I'd jump at a social with what you're looking for. I don't think you've found the right person yet,when you do they will happily do so.
The majority of my long term have started from a drink /chat at home.
I try to talk on the phone prior and suss things out. People's circumstances will make the difference too. Lots of people work shifts too |
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