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is it just me or is it impossible to find a meet?
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Message politely to 20 expect 19 not to answer back … then get the runaround for 6 months then get blocked while your on the way to your first meet…
So do I sound bitter…
Long and short of it be Patient, be nice |
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"any tips on how to get a meet no girls want a younger lad!!!!!!"
I find this very odd that you being a bloke can't get a meet with another bloke...there are hundreds of men on here that get approached by men all the time, even straight guys are approached. So it must be how your interacting |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"any tips on how to get a meet no girls want a younger lad!!!!!!
I find this very odd that you being a bloke can't get a meet with another bloke...there are hundreds of men on here that get approached by men all the time, even straight guys are approached. So it must be how your interacting "
I think he is saying ladies dont seem to be interested in him because he is young. Not that he doesnt like girls and is looking for young lad.... Lol. I can totally understand the confusion. Clumsy sentence structure maybe. |
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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago
Peterborough / Stamford |
"any tips on how to get a meet no girls want a younger lad!!!!!!"
Afraid you're profile shows exactly how much effort you're prepared to put in. Hence the lack of results.
Also.....have realistic expectations.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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^-- this guy shows what a profile looks like having had some effort put in to it.
(Bry)"
Thank you!
OP -
You joined 5 weeks ago if you want to meet others put some effort into your profile and get out to clubs and socials. You get out what you put in… yes your age might put some off but it would really help making your profile the best it can be.  |
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It's tough for single guys on here and even tougher for ones that make absolutely no effort with their profile.
Your best bet is to go to a club or social event but even then you aren't guaranteed anything.
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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago
Peterborough |
Try a social. I don't know what the scene is like round your area. House parties and socials are brilliant, if you get an invite, take it with both hands.
You will do well to remember that this site is more like Linked In, than Screwfix/Dial-a-shag. So think Kinked-in!
Networking IS the only way to meet people on here. |
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By *al kalMan
over a year ago
london |
Like the other wise sages here, look at your nearest clubs, and enquire about Milf\Cougar events. Should be something on at some point. Focus on that...
Just go an have a laugh... and get to know people. Once you have credibility in the real world setting, then people are more open to approaching you here.
All the best |
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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago
Peterborough / Stamford |
As you've asked about your profile:
Your status. Off-putting....the vast majority of single women and couples want to build up some rapport before a meet, and most will want a social. Your status makes it look like you expect sex to be delivered by Deliveroo just because you want it.
Your one verification if from a cam "meet". Most ignore those. Get an actual meet verification, even if it's just gone for a beer with another bloke on Fab.
Age range of 18-99....really? You're either too lazy to change it or so desperate you'll actually shag someone old enough to be your great-granny?
Cannot accommodate....granted, probably because of your age. But a lot will simply disregard you and (probably wrongly) assume you're living with a partner. You shouldn't have to, but maybe explain it in the text.
Profile text is littered with grammar mistakes so unfortunately doesn't give a good first impression. Also, Fab isn't an "app", older women aren't going to sleep with you just to satisfy your curiosity, and no-one is going to message you from your profile - single women and couples generally don't go looking.
Oh...and your one public picture is basically the same, but slightly worse, than your profile pic. Look at the guy further up who we said put some effort in. Look at his pics.
Lastly - nothing to do with your profile, but set expectations realistically. As a couple we get ten offers on a bad day. That's 300 each month. We meet two or three new guys each month, maximum, so only 1% will lead to anything. Take a good look at your opening messages, read people's profiles to see if they're a match, and accept that 99% of your messages will go no-where, and that most guys are happy if they get two meets a year.
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"As you've asked about your profile:
Your status. Off-putting....the vast majority of single women and couples want to build up some rapport before a meet, and most will want a social. Your status makes it look like you expect sex to be delivered by Deliveroo just because you want it.
Your one verification if from a cam "meet". Most ignore those. Get an actual meet verification, even if it's just gone for a beer with another bloke on Fab.
Age range of 18-99....really? You're either too lazy to change it or so desperate you'll actually shag someone old enough to be your great-granny?
Cannot accommodate....granted, probably because of your age. But a lot will simply disregard you and (probably wrongly) assume you're living with a partner. You shouldn't have to, but maybe explain it in the text.
Profile text is littered with grammar mistakes so unfortunately doesn't give a good first impression. Also, Fab isn't an "app", older women aren't going to sleep with you just to satisfy your curiosity, and no-one is going to message you from your profile - single women and couples generally don't go looking.
Oh...and your one public picture is basically the same, but slightly worse, than your profile pic. Look at the guy further up who we said put some effort in. Look at his pics.
Lastly - nothing to do with your profile, but set expectations realistically. As a couple we get ten offers on a bad day. That's 300 each month. We meet two or three new guys each month, maximum, so only 1% will lead to anything. Take a good look at your opening messages, read people's profiles to see if they're a match, and accept that 99% of your messages will go no-where, and that most guys are happy if they get two meets a year.
(Bry)"
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thanks appreciate that, and ive apologized to afew individuals now about my grammer, im really dyslexic and i dont see why this should be an issue, think its a crazy thing to judge somebody on, im new to all this and trying to get into the scene! i personally think its a hard scene to get into with older people constantly saying i dont know what im doing on here, thats correct im trying to learn!!!! thanks very much tho i appreciate the comment and advice and will defo take them and change my profile etc, thanks |
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"thanks appreciate that, and ive apologized to afew individuals now about my grammer, im really dyslexic and i dont see why this should be an issue, think its a crazy thing to judge somebody on, im new to all this and trying to get into the scene! i personally think its a hard scene to get into with older people constantly saying i dont know what im doing on here, thats correct im trying to learn!!!! thanks very much tho i appreciate the comment and advice and will defo take them and change my profile etc, thanks"
Your profile is much better now and it’s refreshing for someone to take heed of the advice being offered.
But bare in mind you are one of thousands of single males on this site so you won’t find it easy at all. As others have said your best bet is to look into the social and club scene.
Good luck x |
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"thanks appreciate that, and ive apologized to afew individuals now about my grammer, im really dyslexic and i dont see why this should be an issue, think its a crazy thing to judge somebody on, im new to all this and trying to get into the scene! i personally think its a hard scene to get into with older people constantly saying i dont know what im doing on here, thats correct im trying to learn!!!! thanks very much tho i appreciate the comment and advice and will defo take them and change my profile etc, thanks
Your profile is much better now and it’s refreshing for someone to take heed of the advice being offered.
But bare in mind you are one of thousands of single males on this site so you won’t find it easy at all. As others have said your best bet is to look into the social and club scene.
Good luck x "
thanks! as i said im willing to learn and grow in this scene! we all start somewhere.
thanks for that comment made me smile i appreciate that! glad my profiles on the up, can only get better from here  |
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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago
Peterborough |
Bring something different to the party.
My partner made me some gloves with spikes and claws on them. They were her Xmas pressie to me. This is the magic ice breaker, I've been looking for all this time. Just having them out on a table in a social area, is all the props, that I need. The confidence boost is amazing theirs and mine.
They are getting their own reputation, as I found out last week. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"any tips on how to get a meet no girls want a younger lad!!!!!!"
Have you jumped on the Irish forum.
I was only looking at it myself earlier on today and wishing I lived there....so many beauties about |
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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago
Peterborough / Stamford |
OP: one very positive thing that people will see and notice....you've come back to your post and taken advice. The vast majority of guys that ask never acknowledge anyone's help. Shows you're serious
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