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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Recently I'd been planning a meet, we'd been talking constantly over 3/4 weeks. Towards the meet communication stopped I messaged and asked if we were still meeting no answer, I messaged again no reply, he'd seen these messages I went 5 days with no communication so I took it as no meet. The guy then said i was a joke because he was working he couldn't reply even though he was on here and saw my messages.
Was I wrong to assume communication should lead up to the meet? Do people not talk until the day? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think communication should be the biggest part before a meet, sounds like you scared him off  "
Haha probably it was meant to be a whole day, which I took off work  |
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"Recently I'd been planning a meet, we'd been talking constantly over 3/4 weeks. Towards the meet communication stopped I messaged and asked if we were still meeting no answer, I messaged again no reply, he'd seen these messages I went 5 days with no communication so I took it as no meet. The guy then said i was a joke because he was working he couldn't reply even though he was on here and saw my messages.
Was I wrong to assume communication should lead up to the meet? Do people not talk until the day? "
We find the more chat people want before an initial social meet, the less likely they are to show up.
It's a few drinks and a chat, why do you need several conversations.
Just one to see the lady exists, agree a pub and time, then show up.
If no show, home and block.
No issues, no drama.  |
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All rather weird but either married or attached !!!! seems so easy when you type it ...Arrange to meet....then actually meet.. but going by some of the posts and updates it never is quite that simple ??  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally, I like to keep the communication going right up till (and even after) the meeting. Something may come up that may make either party cheaper their mind |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have seen this a few times chat going well then near the meet time it goes quiet, we know single men meeting a couple must be a little scary, but would rather them just say this in advance, planning as a couple can take a while to arrange. |
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Conversation is a big for me ... in the lead up and after. It’s part of the build up for me and I like to get to know someone. I’ve found that those who engage in that way have become my favourite play friends and those I meet regularly. If conversation goes cold, I won’t meet them. |
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By *avie65Man
over a year ago
In the west. |
"Recently I'd been planning a meet, we'd been talking constantly over 3/4 weeks. Towards the meet communication stopped I messaged and asked if we were still meeting no answer, I messaged again no reply, he'd seen these messages I went 5 days with no communication so I took it as no meet. The guy then said i was a joke because he was working he couldn't reply even though he was on here and saw my messages.
Was I wrong to assume communication should lead up to the meet? Do people not talk until the day? "
I'd say he was a chancer and had no intention of meeting you. And was probably exercising his had as he chatted to you. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Recently I'd been planning a meet, we'd been talking constantly over 3/4 weeks. Towards the meet communication stopped I messaged and asked if we were still meeting no answer, I messaged again no reply, he'd seen these messages I went 5 days with no communication so I took it as no meet. The guy then said i was a joke because he was working he couldn't reply even though he was on here and saw my messages.
Was I wrong to assume communication should lead up to the meet? Do people not talk until the day?
I'd say he was a chancer and had no intention of meeting you. And was probably exercising his had as he chatted to you. "
He could of saved himself some messages and watched the fab videos  |
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100% communication should be a constant if you're meeting. Got to keep the interest there & it's reassuring for someone like me, if I don't hear back my mind thinks they've gone off me or something. |
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By *rad670Man
over a year ago
South Lakes |
I've stopped chatting with people who can't be bothered to communicate decently let alone leading up to a meet, surely you can't just expect to arrange a meet, put it in the diary and not chat on in the lead up? It's all part of the intensity surely. It doesn't take two minutes to at least send a short message. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends on the length of time between starter conversation and the meet, there’s only so much you can talk about, clarify the interest, likes and dislikes and then from there it’s just a case of waiting to see when a meet can click into place?
In your case, it seems he swerved after chat for some reason or other. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The annoying thing is he couldn't reply to my messages but looked at my profile numerous times."
He had a wank and chickened out. Don't feel bad, at least you won't have to meet him.
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Communication is really important and 5 days through being busy is a joke.
I sometimes find that I'm really busy with work and don't have time to chat, but I'll always let the other person know I'm going to be slow to reply for a while and why.
I would prefer a social fairly early on as it's just a quick drink, even if just a daytime Costa, but it at least ensures everyone is serious and there's some connection. If it's a long distance then a video call maybe.
It's such a big jump to go from a few messages on fab to meeting and playing unless you're both experienced, I think a lot of people on here are just fantasists. Xx |
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