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"Show of hands, how many of you have been dealing with timewasters here?
Honestly it has reached that point where it becomes hopeless to make an effort to arrange a meet now"
What’s your definition of a time waster?
Mr C |
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Yep and quite often single guys
Yes yes we know go for ones who will
Talk on phone, have recent verification etc etc and still had no shows.
Despite wanting to try single guys it does make us go…let’s try again but not for a whole while |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
Nope haven't dealt with any.I have never had a no show which is what I consider to be a time waster.
Chats have fizzled out that's normal on here I wouldn't consider it time wasted.
People can only waste your time if you allow them to. |
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
Bristol |
"Nope haven't dealt with any.I have never had a no show which is what I consider to be a time waster.
Chats have fizzled out that's normal on here I wouldn't consider it time wasted.
People can only waste your time if you allow them to. "
Yes, agreed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There are time wasters everywhere. Sometimes I have to cancel a meet last min, but do communicate with the person (so far has only happened once). I’ve I’m not interested in meeting a guy, I tell him straight up! I’ve just told a guy we won’t be meeting and his reply was that I’m a fake profile haha - guess I’m viewed as a time waster for saying I don’t want to meet… |
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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago
Lincolnshire |
If we like the look and sound of someone, we arrange a social as soon as possible, without much chat beforehand.
Niki doesn't get involved at all, other than looking at any pictures I show her - to say yea or nay.
She used to get involved, but is now convinced Fab is a waste of time, I'm a little more patient 
K |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can’t say we’ve ever had a time waster waste much of our time, if any.
Plenty of conversations haven’t lead anywhere, but that’s not the same thing."
This for me too. |
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"There are time wasters everywhere. Sometimes I have to cancel a meet last min, but do communicate with the person (so far has only happened once). I’ve I’m not interested in meeting a guy, I tell him straight up! I’ve just told a guy we won’t be meeting and his reply was that I’m a fake profile haha - guess I’m viewed as a time waster for saying I don’t want to meet…"
Sadly iv heard this to often on here where because a woman has declined them they instantly assume that your fake and time waister. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think an awful lot of people on here browse profiles and pictures and then send messages to see if they get a response and basically get off on that without any intention of meeting anyone. Exactly the same on both fab sites. |
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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago
Filthy Fuckeryville |
"Raised hands. That's partly why we go to clubs."
This.... You know at a club that people are there with the intentions of social/playing and not just talking about it and perving pics. Cuts through all the BS  |
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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago
Lincolnshire |
"Then, when organising MFM, meet as planned then the extra guy proves to be a total disappointment.
Time-waster in a different way."
I would say that would be more about picking the wrong person, rather than time-wasting . . . . |
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The only time wasters I've encountered are those who don't read my profile or think it doesn't apply to them.
They aren't wasting my time though, just their own.
I've never had a no show or been one and I don't consider chats that run out of steam as time wasted. |
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I've had conversations that panned out, I've had conversations that haven't.
Still got a few ongoing with people becoming friends. Never felt any of these chatters wasted my time as I chose to interact for however long that is. |
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"Nope haven't dealt with any.I have never had a no show which is what I consider to be a time waster.
Chats have fizzled out that's normal on here I wouldn't consider it time wasted.
People can only waste your time if you allow them to.
Yes, agreed."
If someone says they are on there way, but never turn up what else can you do |
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"The only time wasters I've encountered are those who don't read my profile or think it doesn't apply to them.
They aren't wasting my time though, just their own.
I've never had a no show or been one and I don't consider chats that run out of steam as time wasted. "
Also if you find that you are continually experiencing no shows it may be time to look at the common denominator which can often be the way you vet those you chat to.
The vast majority of people on here have a positive experience and don't have repeat no shows. |
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I think them that are fake or timewasters stand out a mile. They’ll trip up with messages somewhere along the way. The amount of couples that aren’t even a couple on here is just crazy. It’s normally just a single bloke trying to get past the single guys blocked button. It doesn’t matter to me as I don’t have single guys blocked anyway. I’d sooner them be honest at the start of the conversation. I’ve not had any meets for a long while but if and when I do it’ll be where I’m comfortable/feel safe and if I get a no show I can still have a good night out |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The only time wasters I've encountered are those who don't read my profile or think it doesn't apply to them.
They aren't wasting my time though, just their own.
I've never had a no show or been one and I don't consider chats that run out of steam as time wasted. "
This is spot on! |
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I think rather than the fact that they sign up with the intention of wasting people's time, it's more reality kicking in.
In my experience when I first started out on here years ago, I would fantasise about all kinds of scenarios and then get chatting to people and those scenarios would get more real until you get to the point of actually going and it does get nerve wracking. I would never not turn up, even if I was too nervous to perform and had to rely on my other skills 
I just think a lot of people are fantasists and then it all gets too real.
Not that it's an excuse to let people down of course. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We had a couple of fantasists and one no show in the early days of our time here but now we have better “rules” that we stick to.
Weeds out the wannabe’s and idiots. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nope haven't dealt with any.I have never had a no show which is what I consider to be a time waster.
Chats have fizzled out that's normal on here I wouldn't consider it time wasted.
People can only waste your time if you allow them to. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some are not swingers and just looking for a fuck  "
and there's nothing wrong with that as people use the site for there own reasons but accept that if its just a fuck you want it will narrow your search for sure
the majority of couples and women are here to swing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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these fake profiles of couples and women are so easy to spot guys stop thinking about your balls being full for a sec and think as in the real world then you'll see but many wont as they will lets there balls do the thinking .... if its to good to be true then it normally is ...its not rocket science men have it hard on here and will go to almost any length to feel satifyed mainly wanking to a fantasy when the wife is out or in bed
the problem will always be the same too many men not enought women and couples that leaves an awful lot of wankers in the nicest term possible ... hence the games get played ..
but also it nearly always men moaning about timewasters why ? if your consantly being stood up then you need to look at yourself and see what needs changing why are you consantly falling in these's traps .... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I had it twice at the weekend, and these were guys who I'd already met socially. So you can never really tell! "
Sorry to hear that happened  what an absolute waste of your time xxx |
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By *sexyHCouple
over a year ago
Leicester |
"Show of hands, how many of you have been dealing with timewasters here?
Honestly it has reached that point where it becomes hopeless to make an effort to arrange a meet now"
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We agree with you totally |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nope haven't dealt with any.I have never had a no show which is what I consider to be a time waster.
Chats have fizzled out that's normal on here I wouldn't consider it time wasted.
People can only waste your time if you allow them to. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"nope most are easy to spot or trip up via messaging so block move on cant remember the last time i had a no show ..so easy to shut down
I guess you block genuine people as well."
i block for all reasons its my tool to do as i please ..ie get over it |
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Very interesting views and opinions here with a wide range of experiences.
For me what I consider as timewasters I meant as in when you chat with someone for a good long while. (By that I mean at least a month or 2). Then arrange to meet up (which they agree to), and after all the effort has been made (groomed and dressed, have the place ready, or even book a hotel) they don't show up or even send you a message as to why they couldn't come.
That's a definition of a timewaster to me.
At this point I've just lost the enthusiasm to do anything knowing how more often than not people will be doing exactly this.
I know not everyone is like that (as some of you do have a very active swinging life and even go to clubs), but I'd say a good percentage of people here are all talk and no show. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's the site owners that don't give a shit, it's the only site that just about give non site supporters nearly all the filters, that's why the site has gone down hill, always will be the same, get the money, don't give a flying fuck |
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clubs are the way forward if you haven't got the time to be wasted x
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