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Okay!
So I’ve ordered myself a set of plugs that should come tomorrow, suddenly have the urge to have something in my ass 
But I’ve only done anal 1.5 times (the half was the first time and he didn’t fully stick his dick in) and I didn’t really enjoy it, just felt like I was being ripped apart so never did it again, never been much of a fan of fingers in my ass either always felt weird...
How do I bypass the feeling of it feeling weird?  |
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I would try it after a vaginal orgasm. Quite relaxed. It will feel odd for a bit, almost like you are pushing a poop back up. Then it may be a thing thats its just not for you. Peer pressure can force us to do a lot of things. Porn pressure, fab pressure. The plug set comes with s m l. Start with small. Or even a teeny vibe. LUBE LUBE LUBE |
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"I would try it after a vaginal orgasm. Quite relaxed. It will feel odd for a bit, almost like you are pushing a poop back up. Then it may be a thing thats its just not for you. Peer pressure can force us to do a lot of things. Porn pressure, fab pressure. The plug set comes with s m l. Start with small. Or even a teeny vibe. LUBE LUBE LUBE"
Great advice thank you! 
I don’t feel pressured in any way just suddenly got the random urge no idea why but I can’t stop thinking about it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well we've tried it once. My cock us average size, and not thick, and we used fingers first, and then my cock. We've not tried since, but I've used up to three fingers. The thing is to take your time, and be patient. When I tried with an ex we got no where lol, she did have a very big butt. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Well we've tried it once. My cock is average size, and not thick, and we used fingers first, and then my cock. We've not tried since, but I've used up to three fingers. The thing is to take your time, and be patient. When I tried with an ex we got no where lol, she did have a very big butt though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Depends how horny you are. Plenty of lube and it’s tight and sometimes painful but bloody lovely. My meets are usually stunned it’s on the menu "
Wow I can only dream about what that would be like with you guys- magic pics!! |
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Relax as apart of the problem is if you don't relax you won't tent up and then it can feel very comfortable, so relax take it easy and if it doesn't work that night try again in a few days time. I enjoy a lot of anal fun but even I find that some days it's not as good as others x. So don't give up after the first go if you still have the urge.
Next like everyone else is saying get a good lube and use plenty of it.
Enjoy xxx |
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"Relax as apart of the problem is if you don't relax you won't tent up and then it can feel very comfortable, so relax take it easy and if it doesn't work that night try again in a few days time. I enjoy a lot of anal fun but even I find that some days it's not as good as others x. So don't give up after the first go if you still have the urge.
Next like everyone else is saying get a good lube and use plenty of it.
Enjoy xxx"
I think that’s always been my problem, always tensing
Tbh it took me ages to stop tensing when I first started having sex because I was so tight 
Got a lube that’s advertised as anal lube coming too x |
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Your sphincter is a muscle and like all muscles it can take a while to warm up and stretch, especially if you haven’t done anything with it before.
Don’t expect to just rush in and go for it.
Take time to explore gently and use lots of lube.
When you’re relaxed and feeling into it then try stretching slightly.
Get used to how it feels.
The more you do it, the easier it becomes so don’t expect to be an anal expert overnight. |
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By *age500Woman
over a year ago
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Was weird the first few times for me (partly the feeling of it but also because I was very aware of what could be in there ) but I love it now!
I’d say plenty of lube and start off small. And also if you’re like myself and tend to overthink things…keep meals small and have a douche haha.
You’ll find what suits you and what you enjoy after a few tries |
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"Was weird the first few times for me (partly the feeling of it but also because I was very aware of what could be in there ) but I love it now!
I’d say plenty of lube and start off small. And also if you’re like myself and tend to overthink things…keep meals small and have a douche haha.
You’ll find what suits you and what you enjoy after a few tries "
That’s part of the fear, scared ill shit myself |
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By *age500Woman
over a year ago
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"Was weird the first few times for me (partly the feeling of it but also because I was very aware of what could be in there ) but I love it now!
I’d say plenty of lube and start off small. And also if you’re like myself and tend to overthink things…keep meals small and have a douche haha.
You’ll find what suits you and what you enjoy after a few tries
That’s part of the fear, scared ill shit myself "
Hahaha yeah I don’t blame you, I knew a girl in school (yes it was one of those schools haha) that it happened to and it really got me worried
Like I say, just keep your meals small…touch wood, it’s always worked for me, so far anyway haha |
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"Was weird the first few times for me (partly the feeling of it but also because I was very aware of what could be in there ) but I love it now!
I’d say plenty of lube and start off small. And also if you’re like myself and tend to overthink things…keep meals small and have a douche haha.
You’ll find what suits you and what you enjoy after a few tries
That’s part of the fear, scared ill shit myself
Hahaha yeah I don’t blame you, I knew a girl in school (yes it was one of those schools haha) that it happened to and it really got me worried
Like I say, just keep your meals small…touch wood, it’s always worked for me, so far anyway haha "
Touch my wood please |
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My first time was with a girl and she was gentle with her fingers. We were already friends for years and after both being single for a while and had an idea we were both the playful type we had a night together. We were just playing with ourselves as we were just friends and out of nowhere I felt one finger tip go all the way in. I love it now and it even made me get curious lol |
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The same question came up in the forum few days back. Copy pasting my answer for you. Hope ut helps.
The biggest challenge with anal sex is relaxing the anus when something enters. Our body naturally stiffens up and tries to close it down the moment you feel something else enter it. You need to mentally workout a way to relax it.
For me, using my own fingers first helped. Your butthole closes down when you first try to insert the fingers. But as it's your own fingers, it is easy for you to mentally relax and let the fingers in. You need to do this repeatedly and learn how you managed to relax it. Then try another object like butt plug. Once you have done this enough number of times, you will "know" how to relax. You need to repeat that when someone else does it. As you said, it's a mental challenge more than physical challenge.
About pleasure, everyone is different. I started receiving pegging 3 years back. But I am still at 5 inch dildo. But that is enough to give me pleasure. In fact, I am not able to receive pegging from longer dildos because after receiving 5 inches, my body shakes and tightens around the dildo. The pleasure is great but I can't take pegging with anything longer. I have once taken upto 9 inch. But that was a single insertion and it took a lady 30 minutes to get it in. I would never be able to take pegging with such huge ones. On the other hand, I have seen some guys take the huge dildos easily. And som
You just need to explore and see how your body reacts to it. |
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Relax, lots of lube, start slow. Take it out if you need to and start again. Also highly recommend using a vibrator on your clit at the same time - best orgasms ever and helps you take the plug/cock  |
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I think being totally relaxed and trusting who is doing it totally are the biggest things. Also I find half way feels a bit weird, feels much better once it's on deep and you've got a rhythm going, lots of lube too. Once you get past the weird feeling anal is amazing. Just take your time and enjoy xx |
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There is a consistent message of relax here …. and don’t be worried about your past experience.
Make some time for yourself, have a shower… clean inside and out if you can. Just lay in the bed and explore yourself in your own time, at your own pace. Try with your finger first, just pushing against the pressure… gently. Get to feel with one finger the muscle structure there - which is different. Try with a single finger first… if it feels right - try 2 fingers etc.
Then maybe try a small plug … again don’t rush it - take your time xx, and so on..
I have an array of toys, and even know, always start by being relaxed, trying a small toy, or finger first, and once I feel relaxed .. move up a toy etc - makes for a very pleasurable experience.
Enjoy xxx |
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It's good if you can get used to the sensation of being penetrated on your own, so plugs etc.
Next it's pivitol you get someone experienced or at least very patient and tactile. A hell of a lot of rimming and (good) exploration with fingers will get you to the stage where you want something more up there. And that leads me to my final point. Actually WANTING and being turned on to the point you need that cock in there will make it so much better and easier. A tense hole is one that's going to hurt like fuck when a cock finally pushes through.
I should add pain is sometimes unavoidable but if you take it back out again, let the pain subside then try again it always hurts less.
Also p0ppers make a big difference and elevates the how good it feels by a long shot. Dm me if you want to know where to get good ones (they're shit in this country) |
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"Was weird the first few times for me (partly the feeling of it but also because I was very aware of what could be in there ) but I love it now!
I’d say plenty of lube and start off small. And also if you’re like myself and tend to overthink things…keep meals small and have a douche haha.
You’ll find what suits you and what you enjoy after a few tries
That’s part of the fear, scared ill shit myself "
It happens ! Dont worry  |
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By *xkritTV/TS
over a year ago
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"So yesterday I was too hanging and felt ill all day
But I’ve had success tonight with a vibrating plug
I like it "
As others have said - tongues, lube, fingers.... Taking it slow (much slower than you might think!!). When you first take a cock you may want to 'pause' after they enter you before going much further... Get used to that before the thrusting starts! |
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Lube, lube, lube and did I say lube?
Instinct is to clench which obvs makes things tighter and thus harder so try and relax and almost push back to it.
Go slow, a finger first, then two etc. make sure actually slide in and out (sounds obvs) but is this that loosens things up. If you just jam something in there as soon as you take it out it will just close up….
Oh and lube
Have fun! I love it |
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By *izzy69Man
over a year ago
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"Okay!
So I’ve ordered myself a set of plugs that should come tomorrow, suddenly have the urge to have something in my ass
But I’ve only done anal 1.5 times (the half was the first time and he didn’t fully stick his dick in) and I didn’t really enjoy it, just felt like I was being ripped apart so never did it again, never been much of a fan of fingers in my ass either always felt weird...
How do I bypass the feeling of it feeling weird? "
The most important thing is lubrication! Did he try a dry entry? That probably explains why it was uncomfortable.
The bum hole is not naturally lubed like the vagina. And it is the slipperiness (did I just make up a word? Lol) that creates the stimulation and sensation that could ultimately, not in everybody's case I have to say, lead to an anal orgasm. But even if not an orgasm, you should still enjoy the experience as part of sexual fun and play.
The lube doesn't even have to be that special - I've only ever used saliva myself and it has worked just fine - or even juices from the pussy. In fact, using each others' spit to wet things up also adds to the horniness of the moment and actually makes the arse open up and more pliable as part of being turned on.
Hope this helps |
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"Okay!
So I’ve ordered myself a set of plugs that should come tomorrow, suddenly have the urge to have something in my ass
But I’ve only done anal 1.5 times (the half was the first time and he didn’t fully stick his dick in) and I didn’t really enjoy it, just felt like I was being ripped apart so never did it again, never been much of a fan of fingers in my ass either always felt weird...
How do I bypass the feeling of it feeling weird?
The most important thing is lubrication! Did he try a dry entry? That probably explains why it was uncomfortable.
The bum hole is not naturally lubed like the vagina. And it is the slipperiness (did I just make up a word? Lol) that creates the stimulation and sensation that could ultimately, not in everybody's case I have to say, lead to an anal orgasm. But even if not an orgasm, you should still enjoy the experience as part of sexual fun and play.
The lube doesn't even have to be that special - I've only ever used saliva myself and it has worked just fine - or even juices from the pussy. In fact, using each others' spit to wet things up also adds to the horniness of the moment and actually makes the arse open up and more pliable as part of being turned on.
Hope this helps"
Nah we used lube & condoms but he was pretty massive
Yeah I’ve literally been covering myself in lube & so far the toys are sliding in nicely without any pain or discomfort |
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By *iM4kinkMan
over a year ago
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Let him push his cock into your asshole then when he's in all the way. Have him stay right there for a couple minutes before slowly pulling out and pushing back into your seat little ass. Then slowly pick up the pace till you start cumming. |
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