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Wife's health isn't great so hubby encouraged to play alone
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Hi everyone,
Quite interested to see how many people are in the similar position as us.
Starlings (lady) health isn't great and sex is often painful on joints etc. So doesn't happen very often. Robin understands and is sensitive to situation in a caring positive way
Starling encourages Robin (male) to meet ladies and couples.
Genuine NSA but importantly starling gets any details, yet the response from ladies and couples is often either just message deleted, not read, ignored.
Hubby is a really nice genuine guy who will pamper and pleasure ladies. See verifications over the years.
Curious to see how others get on? |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
Maybe he could have his own profile and cross reference your couple one on it.
I'm half a couple and my other half meets alone, he has his own profile and we have a joint one too. I happily confirm to anyone wanting to meet him that I'm good with it all.
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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago
Peterborough |
"Maybe he could have his own profile and cross reference your couple one on it.
I'm half a couple and my other half meets alone, he has his own profile and we have a joint one too. I happily confirm to anyone wanting to meet him that I'm good with it all.
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That sounds just like me. Two ID and everyone is consentual. |
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"Maybe he could have his own profile and cross reference your couple one on it.
I'm half a couple and my other half meets alone, he has his own profile and we have a joint one too. I happily confirm to anyone wanting to meet him that I'm good with it all.
Sounds like a good idea. Tks
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi everyone,
Quite interested to see how many people are in the similar position as us.
Starlings (lady) health isn't great and sex is often painful on joints etc. So doesn't happen very often. Robin understands and is sensitive to situation in a caring positive way
Starling encourages Robin (male) to meet ladies and couples.
Genuine NSA but importantly starling gets any details, yet the response from ladies and couples is often either just message deleted, not read, ignored.
Hubby is a really nice genuine guy who will pamper and pleasure ladies. See verifications over the years.
Curious to see how others get on?"
What an amazing relationship you both have. You must have such security for this to be an option and its highly commendable of Mrs to think of you and your desires.
I'm not sure why they are are being ignored other than people presuming you are now a single profile looking for meets but still using your couple profile. I dont know how you can get around this other tha visiting clubs, so Mrs is still involved in the social, can give her nod of approval and prove she is fully OK with it.
Wishing you all the luck in the world xxx
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"Hi everyone,
Quite interested to see how many people are in the similar position as us.
Starlings (lady) health isn't great and sex is often painful on joints etc. So doesn't happen very often. Robin understands and is sensitive to situation in a caring positive way
Starling encourages Robin (male) to meet ladies and couples.
Genuine NSA but importantly starling gets any details, yet the response from ladies and couples is often either just message deleted, not read, ignored.
Hubby is a really nice genuine guy who will pamper and pleasure ladies. See verifications over the years.
Curious to see how others get on?
What an amazing relationship you both have. You must have such security for this to be an option and its highly commendable of Mrs to think of you and your desires.
I'm not sure why they are are being ignored other than people presuming you are now a single profile looking for meets but still using your couple profile. I dont know how you can get around this other tha visiting clubs, so Mrs is still involved in the social, can give her nod of approval and prove she is fully OK with it.
Wishing you all the luck in the world xxx
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Tks.The club thing is quite interesting as we go to Kestrels together to chill in pools n hot tubs. But if i wander off then generally I'm seen as part of a couple and "why you're not with your wife" response.
Each to their own of course.
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"Hi everyone,
Quite interested to see how many people are in the similar position as us.
Starlings (lady) health isn't great and sex is often painful on joints etc. So doesn't happen very often. Robin understands and is sensitive to situation in a caring positive way
Starling encourages Robin (male) to meet ladies and couples.
Genuine NSA but importantly starling gets any details, yet the response from ladies and couples is often either just message deleted, not read, ignored.
Hubby is a really nice genuine guy who will pamper and pleasure ladies. See verifications over the years.
Curious to see how others get on?
What an amazing relationship you both have. You must have such security for this to be an option and its highly commendable of Mrs to think of you and your desires.
I'm not sure why they are are being ignored other than people presuming you are now a single profile looking for meets but still using your couple profile. I dont know how you can get around this other tha visiting clubs, so Mrs is still involved in the social, can give her nod of approval and prove she is fully OK with it.
Wishing you all the luck in the world xxx
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We are madly in love and married well over 30 years and working through the cards we've been dealt. |
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Are you messaging couples for potential meets who do not have M as their preference, that is important to check.
We feel for you and anyone else in similar situations, please don't hate us for saying this but in a way (at least from messaging perspective) this is very similar to tons of messages from single men wanting to meet.
Due to your situation and previous meets you have an advantage which maynot mean much online to new folks but we hope your already established fab circle is still strong and get you meets. |
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over a year ago
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if the female is not playing then the guy just becomes another guy ?? there will be no preference because hes part of a couple as it not the couple playing hes just one of many to chose from ... also if playing on his own then needs single profile |
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"Are you messaging couples for potential meets who do not have M as their preference, that is important to check.
We feel for you and anyone else in similar situations, please don't hate us for saying this but in a way (at least from messaging perspective) this is very similar to tons of messages from single men wanting to meet.
Due to your situation and previous meets you have an advantage which maynot mean much online to new folks but we hope your already established fab circle is still strong and get you meets. "
It would be wrong to say we've never messaged couples or ladies who are not looking for M. But in general we'd look for those with M on profile.
I travel a lot so often the "chase" is as good as it gets. Haha.
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"if the female is not playing then the guy just becomes another guy ?? there will be no preference because hes part of a couple as it not the couple playing hes just one of many to chose from ... also if playing on his own then needs single profile "
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Single men here often start with unrealistic expectations. They typically find it very hard to get noticed and replies.
As a couple, you aren't meeting typically as a couple and his needs to meet with others are, in essence, that of a single man. He will typically get a similar response in comparison.
If the female is meeting with him but not involving herself in the sex, you may get a different response. Otherwise, it's probably better for him to operate from a single male profile, so everyone is clear about who's involved |
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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago
Lincolnshire |
"I’m in same boat but misses don’t know
I’d argue that’s not the same boat then. Maybe not even the same type of vehicle!
As in the wife don’t want to or can’t but we all have needs don’t we"
If you've managed to put your own wife off of sex, why would any man let you near his wife?  |
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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago
Lincolnshire |
"Hi everyone,
Quite interested to see how many people are in the similar position as us.
Starlings (lady) health isn't great and sex is often painful on joints etc. So doesn't happen very often. Robin understands and is sensitive to situation in a caring positive way
Starling encourages Robin (male) to meet ladies and couples.
Genuine NSA but importantly starling gets any details, yet the response from ladies and couples is often either just message deleted, not read, ignored.
Hubby is a really nice genuine guy who will pamper and pleasure ladies. See verifications over the years.
Curious to see how others get on?"
Surely your best bet would be to hook up with some of your previous encounters, if they know you and like you, it should be quite an easy fix I would have thought.
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"I’m in same boat but misses don’t know
I’d argue that’s not the same boat then. Maybe not even the same type of vehicle!
As in the wife don’t want to or can’t but we all have needs don’t we
If you've managed to put your own wife off of sex, why would any man let you near his wife? "
No she’s off sex due to illness learn to read b4 you slag anybody off |
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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago
Lincolnshire |
"I’m in same boat but misses don’t know
I’d argue that’s not the same boat then. Maybe not even the same type of vehicle!
As in the wife don’t want to or can’t but we all have needs don’t we
If you've managed to put your own wife off of sex, why would any man let you near his wife?
No she’s off sex due to illness learn to read b4 you slag anybody off"
You said "wife don't want to or can't" you didn't specify which, either way, you being on here trying (unsuccessfully) to cheat on her, isn't going to make her feel any better is it? |
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"I’m in same boat but misses don’t know
I’d argue that’s not the same boat then. Maybe not even the same type of vehicle!
As in the wife don’t want to or can’t but we all have needs don’t we
If you've managed to put your own wife off of sex, why would any man let you near his wife?
No she’s off sex due to illness learn to read b4 you slag anybody off
You said "wife don't want to or can't" you didn't specify which, either way, you being on here trying (unsuccessfully) to cheat on her, isn't going to make her feel any better is it?"
Who said I’m going to cheat yes it says looking but mainly on here for the banter to many judgmental folk about |
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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago
village life, closest main town inverness |
Sorry to hear Starling's not so good at the moment 
Hope she feels better soon.
I would guess it's probably people not being sure if your message is genuine or
if you're just a philanderer with a story lol,
You would think that veri's would give people confidence in you
but maybe couples are just as bad as reading profiles as some say singles are lol  |
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I'm in a similar situation, only the reason for no sex is a combination of physical and mental health issues with the OH. She knows I still have needs, so has given me the nod as long as she doesn't know the details. As long as I'm not blatant about it, she allows me some playtime.
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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago
Up North |
"I’m in same boat but misses don’t know
I’d argue that’s not the same boat then. Maybe not even the same type of vehicle!
As in the wife don’t want to or can’t but we all have needs don’t we
If you've managed to put your own wife off of sex, why would any man let you near his wife?
No she’s off sex due to illness learn to read b4 you slag anybody off
You said "wife don't want to or can't" you didn't specify which, either way, you being on here trying (unsuccessfully) to cheat on her, isn't going to make her feel any better is it?
Who said I’m going to cheat yes it says looking but mainly on here for the banter to many judgmental folk about "
Green arrow tells a good story |
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I do meet a couple of guys who have couples profiles on here (one also has a singles profile). I have had socials with them and their wives though.
When I get a message from a couple's profile asking me to play alone with the male half I am always extremely suspicious. I know it's a rubbish situation when you're genuine but it's a line I hear a lot from "couples" profiles and when I say I want to at least speak to the female half of the couple I get the old block and delete routine! |
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By *panddaCouple
over a year ago
West Mids |
"I’m in same boat but misses don’t know
Nope nothing like the same boat mate"
Well said.
The OP is playing with partner's consent.
The guy commenting is cheating. And simply by definition cheats lie.
So he could even be lying about his wife's illness.
And before we get accused once more of being judgemental, we are simply making statements. |
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By *panddaCouple
over a year ago
West Mids |
"I’m in same boat but misses don’t know
I’d argue that’s not the same boat then. Maybe not even the same type of vehicle!
As in the wife don’t want to or can’t but we all have needs don’t we
If you've managed to put your own wife off of sex, why would any man let you near his wife?
No she’s off sex due to illness learn to read b4 you slag anybody off
You said "wife don't want to or can't" you didn't specify which, either way, you being on here trying (unsuccessfully) to cheat on her, isn't going to make her feel any better is it?
Who said I’m going to cheat yes it says looking but mainly on here for the banter to many judgmental folk about "
You clearly say in your profile that you want to meet. So yes, if you get the opportunity you are going to cheat.
Here is the question. If you people want to behave so dishonestly, why on earth broadcast it on Forums.
Are you showing off? |
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"I’m in same boat but misses don’t know
I’d argue that’s not the same boat then. Maybe not even the same type of vehicle!
As in the wife don’t want to or can’t but we all have needs don’t we
If you've managed to put your own wife off of sex, why would any man let you near his wife?
No she’s off sex due to illness learn to read b4 you slag anybody off
You said "wife don't want to or can't" you didn't specify which, either way, you being on here trying (unsuccessfully) to cheat on her, isn't going to make her feel any better is it?
Who said I’m going to cheat yes it says looking but mainly on here for the banter to many judgmental folk about
You clearly say in your profile that you want to meet. So yes, if you get the opportunity you are going to cheat.
Here is the question. If you people want to behave so dishonestly, why on earth broadcast it on Forums.
Are you showing off? "
It’s only dishonest if you don’t say that’s why I tell folk on here |
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Does anybody need to know that they are playing with partners consent? Does it change anything? How many people believe it and how many believe it to be a red flag anyhow?
People are sceptic at the best of times, let alone on here. Your honesty may hinder you and may appear like a sympathy shag to some.
Damned if you do and damned if you don’t. You’re probably best off visiting clubs in the long run.
Wishing the OP all the best, have fun in whatever you do.
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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago
Filthy Fuckeryville |
"I’m in same boat but misses don’t know
I’d argue that’s not the same boat then. Maybe not even the same type of vehicle!
As in the wife don’t want to or can’t but we all have needs don’t we
If you've managed to put your own wife off of sex, why would any man let you near his wife?
No she’s off sex due to illness learn to read b4 you slag anybody off
You said "wife don't want to or can't" you didn't specify which, either way, you being on here trying (unsuccessfully) to cheat on her, isn't going to make her feel any better is it?
Who said I’m going to cheat yes it says looking but mainly on here for the banter to many judgmental folk about
You clearly say in your profile that you want to meet. So yes, if you get the opportunity you are going to cheat.
Here is the question. If you people want to behave so dishonestly, why on earth broadcast it on Forums.
Are you showing off?
It’s only dishonest if you don’t say that’s why I tell folk on here"
I doubt your wife agrees its honest as long as you tell folk on here  |
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"I’m in same boat but misses don’t know
I’d argue that’s not the same boat then. Maybe not even the same type of vehicle!
As in the wife don’t want to or can’t but we all have needs don’t we
If you've managed to put your own wife off of sex, why would any man let you near his wife?
No she’s off sex due to illness learn to read b4 you slag anybody off
You said "wife don't want to or can't" you didn't specify which, either way, you being on here trying (unsuccessfully) to cheat on her, isn't going to make her feel any better is it?
Who said I’m going to cheat yes it says looking but mainly on here for the banter to many judgmental folk about
You clearly say in your profile that you want to meet. So yes, if you get the opportunity you are going to cheat.
Here is the question. If you people want to behave so dishonestly, why on earth broadcast it on Forums.
Are you showing off?
It’s only dishonest if you don’t say that’s why I tell folk on here"
So you tell strangers in the hope for a fuck but you won't tell your wife who you share a life with.
Delusional mate you really are.
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