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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Obviously people that are narcissist won't admit to it , however the control, dominance , enjoy watching someone in pain . *Not here to offend anyone just my thoughts-  |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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"Please educate me if I appear slightly off the mark, obviously I'm not referring to everyone"
I understand why you might think that. There are some weirdos and narcissists yes and a fair bit of elitism , but there are many normal people with a passion for this stuff, sexual connoisseurs and adventurers!
I could demonstrate but I’d need to tie you up and have you licked by my sl*ve!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Please educate me if I appear slightly off the mark, obviously I'm not referring to everyone
I understand why you might think that. There are some weirdos and narcissists yes and a fair bit of elitism , but there are many normal people with a passion for this stuff, sexual connoisseurs and adventurers!
I could demonstrate but I’d need to tie you up and have you licked by my sl*ve! "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Please educate me if I appear slightly off the mark, obviously I'm not referring to everyone
I understand why you might think that. There are some weirdos and narcissists yes and a fair bit of elitism , but there are many normal people with a passion for this stuff, sexual connoisseurs and adventurers!
I could demonstrate but I’d need to tie you up and have you licked by my sl*ve!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I cant help feel that people that like BDSM have some narcissistic tendancies due to the nature of what is involved. Your thoughts?!  "
How much involvement have you had with BDSM? I've had quite a lot over a few years. Haven't found that people are any more narcissistic in the lifestyle than they are in RL or...Fab. |
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"I cant help feel that people that like BDSM have some narcissistic tendancies due to the nature of what is involved. Your thoughts?!
How much involvement have you had with BDSM? I've had quite a lot over a few years. Haven't found that people are any more narcissistic in the lifestyle than they are in RL or...Fab. "
Would agree. It’s about mutual respect and knowing the limit of your partner who wants to be in the submissive place. |
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"I cant help feel that people that like BDSM have some narcissistic tendancies due to the nature of what is involved. Your thoughts?!
How much involvement have you had with BDSM? I've had quite a lot over a few years. Haven't found that people are any more narcissistic in the lifestyle than they are in RL or...Fab. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Obviously people that are narcissist won't admit to it , however the control, dominance , enjoy watching someone in pain . *Not here to offend anyone just my thoughts- "
You're aware that there is more involved in BDSM than control / dominance and watching someone in pain? And that anyone watching someone in pain is doing it consensually - the person in pain "enjoys" it. |
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I don’t think you understand it. It’s not about making someone feel useless or on pain… there needs to be an understanding at the start to know what each person wants from it… experience. If it’s not your thing stay away!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It’s not one sided. A good Dom cares and respects his sub, and treats him/her carefully to ensure their physical and mental well-being. It’s the core of an effective D/s relationship.
The best Doms are big softies imo.
The D/s relationship is a balance of power, you can’t have one without the other. |
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OP, we would love to know where you're getting your knowledge of BDSM from. As it seems very one-sided and shallow. BDSM covers a very wide variety of activities and relationships, not just a sadist inflicting pain on people. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"OP I would like to explain to you about this face to face but I see you are hiding your profile.
Any particular reason or have you got a bit frighten?
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Hi all, I by no means , meant to cause upset to anyone. I prefer men, so found the brother site catered for this side of things, however still read the forums.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Consent.
Mutual needs being met.
Pain is one of many sensations.
It's a relationship, even a brief one.
Aftercare.
Checking in.
So many ways to answer, but trolls will be trolls. |
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"It’s not one sided. A good Dom cares and respects his sub, and treats him/her carefully to ensure their physical and mental well-being. It’s the core of an effective D/s relationship.
The best Doms are big softies imo.
The D/s relationship is a balance of power, you can’t have one without the other. "
Perfectly put. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"OP I would like to explain to you about this face to face but I see you are hiding your profile.
Any particular reason or have you got a bit frighten?
Hi all, I by no means , meant to cause upset to anyone. I prefer men, so found the brother site catered for this side of things, however still read the forums.
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You didn’t upset anyone who is secure in what they do and why |
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By *ady23Woman
over a year ago
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"It’s not one sided. A good Dom cares and respects his sub, and treats him/her carefully to ensure their physical and mental well-being. It’s the core of an effective D/s relationship.
The best Doms are big softies imo.
The D/s relationship is a balance of power, you can’t have one without the other. "
apologies this is what we agree with |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I cant help feel that people that like BDSM have some narcissistic tendancies due to the nature of what is involved. Your thoughts?! "
Categorically wrong. Educate yourself please. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In a proper D/s relationship a Dom will put his or her sub before anything or anyone else. It’s most definitely not narcissistic. Fifty shades has a lot to answer to. That is not a true D/s relationship so please don’t base your opinion on such crap as that. |
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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago
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Even when purely looking at S/M play sessions it's about an exchange between the sadist and the masochists.
I may have met a narcissist or two in 20+ years on the piblic bdsm scene, but they generally aren't around for long because people figure them out pretty damn quick |
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"Obviously people that are narcissist won't admit to it , however the control, dominance , enjoy watching someone in pain . *Not here to offend anyone just my thoughts- "
You're describing abuse, not BDSM. If you don't understand the difference, please stay away from BDSM for the safety of everyone involved.
Also, you don't get to choose whether or not you offend someone. Intent does not trump impact and never has. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I cant help feel that people that like BDSM have some narcissistic tendancies due to the nature of what is involved. Your thoughts?! "
You'll get a narcissist in any group of people. |
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