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By *inman73 OP Couple
over a year ago
Manchester |
How would you react if you recognised some of Fab while in a pub or shopping?
Would you go out of your way to chat to them, ignore them or hope that you are able to persuade them into having a chance encounter?
Only ask as this indeed happened to me last night, this guy came up to me while I was along and outright asked if I was Mrs Tinman. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How would you react if you recognised some of Fab while in a pub or shopping?
Would you go out of your way to chat to them, ignore them or hope that you are able to persuade them into having a chance encounter?
Only ask as this indeed happened to me last night, this guy came up to me while I was along and outright asked if I was Mrs Tinman."
I saw a guy in the gym I recognised from here and we made eye contact smiled and that was that, he found us on here later and spoke but it was nice he didn't make a thing of it at the time, potentially got himself a meet now haha
Katie x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I recognised a lady off Fab this afternoon funnily enough. She was riding her bike as I drove past. Obviously I couldn’t speak to her, but it did make me wonder what I’d say if I could.
I’d probably just bottle it to be honest, you’d have to be super confident it was them. Especially if you only know them by a username. |
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If we've met them we acknowledge discreetly and take our cue from them. If we haven't met we'd behave as if they were any other person. Approaching people off fab is not discreet in my opinion and pretty poor form |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We’ve been very surprised by how many people we know that we’ve now seen on Fab or in clubs.
We don’t make anything of it and wouldn’t go further with them. |
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My wife was approached by a guy OUTSIDE THE SCHOOL GATES saying he'd seen her on Fab! She was shocked and a bit intimidated!
Lucky I wasn't there as I'd have had serious words! Fucking twat.
Outing someone is bad enough, but when they're with their kids and surrounded by other kids and teachers too?! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I get this more than I'd prefer - from fab and other platforms. It's not itself a big issue (to me anyway) other rhan people can be a bit over familiar like I know them. |
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I've only once seen someone who I thought I recognised as being on here - I wanted to make a casual remark that would include the term 'Fab', to see if it garnered a knowing look or response...
....but I decided discretion was the better part of valour, and said nothing... |
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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago
Wakefield |
"How would you react if you recognised some of Fab while in a pub or shopping?
Would you go out of your way to chat to them, ignore them or hope that you are able to persuade them into having a chance encounter?
Only ask as this indeed happened to me last night, this guy came up to me while I was along and outright asked if I was Mrs Tinman."
We would not mind being recognised if we were by ourselves, but not if we were with others. Also we would expect anyone who approached us to use commonsense and not shout across the street. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Guy recognised me in a local shop
I hadnt seen his pic ,so i did know until he messaged me and asked did i enjoy my
sandwich .He said didnt think it was right to speak to me . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I personally don’t mind it done to me. There is a recognisable couple that regularly go to my gym off here, but I’ve never said hello. Sometimes it’s best to keep it that way been close to home. Although I would probably say hello in a bar depending on a few things. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was at a funeral recently & a hot wife couple off here were there,we both know each other are swingers,had a brief chat with them,neither of us mentioned swinging. Doesn't bother me if I do get recognised,after all we're all here for the same thing. |
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I wouldn't approach someone out of the blue if I recognised them from a profile here and like wise if some one approached one of us I'd be mortified!
Discretion assured and sought used to mean something |
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God some of these stories have me quaking in my boots. At the school gates? FFS!!
I would like to think the protocol should be a bit of eye contact, a knowing smile/nod then approach on fab at a later point if you wanted to follow up. I'd be v pissed off if someone approached me! But clearly don't know that many people at it's never been an issue! Phew  |
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By *erlins5Man
over a year ago
South Fife |
I was recognised in a shop, the lady who recognised me debt a message on fab. I don't think it is a great idea to say any thing at the time... I personally wouldn't mind but it could be awkward for others and better to be discreet. |
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We've been recognised a few times and - providing we're not with family at the time - we're happy for people to approach & introduce themselves.
(We also get recognised from a "documentary" we feature in & that makes us feel like celebrities) |
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We've been recognised and messaged afterwards, which is fine.
There's someone on our cruise now, who's messaged over a couple of days, saying they've seen us in a particular bar or wherever. They've got a blank profile, not sent a pic, or let themselves be known. Being knowingly watched feels creepy and is actually annoying and rather pointless.
C |
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I have no problem best being recognised but I would not want to be approached publicly, a private message yes.. if you fit my criteria/filters. If not.. no.. because you don't fit what I'm looking for. X |
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I noticed a co-worker by her tattoo on here and our locations were within a quarter mile one day whilst at work.
I quickly compared it to her Instagram and it was definitely her.
We all went out for a few drinks a few weeks later and I was sat next to her. I had my phone in my lap and out of view of everyone but her. I loaded fab up and logged in. I then was just looking around the site and she saw and smirked.
She whispered to me, I’ve always wondered who it was whilst I sat at my desk. This is a pleasant surprise. |
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By *batMan
over a year ago
Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales) |
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There's someone on our cruise now, who's messaged over a couple of days, saying they've seen us in a particular bar or wherever. They've got a blank profile, not sent a pic, or let themselves be known. Being knowingly watched feels creepy and is actually annoying and rather pointless.
C"
That would be sooooo annoying. I'd be happy for someone to contact me discreetly, but a sort of half message/acknowlegement is just stupid.
Gbat |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How would you react if you recognised some of Fab while in a pub or shopping?
Would you go out of your way to chat to them, ignore them or hope that you are able to persuade them into having a chance encounter?
Only ask as this indeed happened to me last night, this guy came up to me while I was along and outright asked if I was Mrs Tinman.
We would not mind being recognised if we were by ourselves, but not if we were with others. Also we would expect anyone who approached us to use commonsense and not shout across the street."
I would be quite happy, as long as I’m alone and my kids aren’t with me |
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"How would you react if you recognised some of Fab while in a pub or shopping?
Would you go out of your way to chat to them, ignore them or hope that you are able to persuade them into having a chance encounter?
Only ask as this indeed happened to me last night, this guy came up to me while I was along and outright asked if I was Mrs Tinman."
So mrs Tinman, how did you react? |
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If someone recognises me IRL then fair play to them, seeing as at the moment I'm a fair bit different in everyday life than my profile pics suggest. Though that is changing, slowly!
I have recognised folk on here before, other than catch their eye I do nothing. If its people I've met I tend to ignore unless they approach then it's as a friend. I have no problem with it personally but understand everyone is entitled to privacy so tend to leave folk alone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Happened to me years ago she approached me at the bar when I was with a mate .. he didn't hear thankfully .. she said into my ear are you on fabswingers and I said "sometimes... " .. was off and on bank then. I figured out who she was and I did persist but she's one of these window shoppers .. views you a lot but zero replies ...  |
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By *umblefunMan
over a year ago
London/ South West (Devon, Somerset). |
Never ever out anyone, if you can ask someone discreetly that might be a possibility but be prepared to be knocked back, and hard. ( no pun intended). The same if you recognise someone from a club. |
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I had the opposite to this recently - met a young lady in a pub in town the other day. She ended up coming back to mine, we had some fun together, spent the next day together too just hanging out and getting to know each other. The next day after she'd gone home I logged in here and who did I see popping up as a new local user but her... sent her a short message saying 'hey, fancy seeing you here' or words to that effect... five minutes later, profile deleted. Doh. Obviously that might not have been strictly my doing, but still a bit of a blow to the ego (and a shame as we were getting on really well and the last thing I wanted was for things to get awkward). I mean, with hindsight perhaps I should have texted her instead saying 'hey, saw you on Fab' rather than clog up her inbox. Oh well, I'll leave it a few days and reattempt contact via other means, I suppose. Like I said she was hanging out with me in my house for the best part of two days, so I'm guessing she must have liked me or she'd have left much sooner, I'm sure. |
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My next door neighbour come across my profile on here and seen the birth mark I have on my leg and knew it was me straight away so she asked me by message on snapchat I told her it is me and then that was it ice was broken and we have been having fun ever since x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My next door neighbour come across my profile on here and seen the birth mark I have on my leg and knew it was me straight away so she asked me by message on snapchat I told her it is me and then that was it ice was broken and we have been having fun ever since x"
That's a bonus m8  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I recognised one of the ladies I work with on fab. It may not have been clear face picture on her profile but the moles on the side of her face, plus name and age give it away. I have not said anything about fab to her. Maybe she will recognise me from my old single profile and we can laugh about it. I now know why she is always smiling. |
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By *23RouteCouple
over a year ago
Huddersfield |
We were sat outside at our local pub when a chap appeared on a push bike and wife said , is that him who called into to ours from fab ? It was , was a complete stranger before he called at ours . We invited him to sit with us , rather horny . Didn’t mention a thing and wife has seen him since on his bike and never mentioned anything . Fantastic chap !!!!!! |
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We got recognised when we were out for a family meal.
The woman messaged us on here a few days later saying that she'd seen us.
I think that is absolutely the only thing to do if you recognise someone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I first joined I was very paranoid about being recognised. But now I'm not that bothered.
Yes I'm on here, yes I have some filthy kinks, it is what it is! It just stopped bothering me! |
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I think it depends on their profile. If they’ve got lots of full face pics on their public profile then they must know people will recognise them. Although if the profile is quite a recent one they might not have understood this yet.
If their profile is just body shots then that tells me they are being discrete and want to keep FAB secret.
Even if they are on public show, I’d still be cautious in speaking to them. Don’t want to come across creepy / like a stalker. |
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"We got recognised when we were out for a family meal.
The woman messaged us on here a few days later saying that she'd seen us.
I think that is absolutely the only thing to do if you recognise someone. "
We wouldn’t mind if they sent us a pm straight away either |
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By *aughtycp1Couple
over a year ago
Leicestershire |
We have face pics on our account and I (Mrs N) have been recognised once whilst out shopping. The guy was very discreet and I was just with Hubby. If it was just me and Hubby alone I would happily say hello. X |
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I struggle to fathom how anyone can see a picture on here and then remember that face when they see it out of the blue unless they have see the person a fair few times??
But I think I have a shit memory  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I recognised someone then I'd just give a wry smile when making eye contact. You don't know people's circumstances and maybe there's friends of theirs around at the time. If they wanted to aporoach me then that's fine. |
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By *egoMan
over a year ago
Preston |
I think etiquette from just a recognition from site would be to either ignore or a head tilt.
From a meet, maybe a smile depending on dynamics you may want a full convo but it’s entirely situational dependent.
Discretion is key to our community. |
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By *host63Man
over a year ago
Bedfont Feltham |
I qohks smile nod and leave it at that If we made eye contact.
Other than that I qoukd leave it alone Discreation is important in this lifestyle.
Saying that it woukdnt really bother me if someone approached me and asked. My circumstances are different but others may be damaged because of their job, family life.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If we've met them we acknowledge discreetly and take our cue from them. If we haven't met we'd behave as if they were any other person. Approaching people off fab is not discreet in my opinion and pretty poor form"
We agree x our vanilla life is very separate  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldnt approach her/them.
At that point, i dont know them, they dont know me. And i would respect that just because they have a profile on here, it doesnt mean that they dont have personal lives. Its just a respect thing for me. If someone approached me, i would be fine with it, but i would never approach someone myself. They may find it upsetting or even be frightened. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My wife was approached by a guy OUTSIDE THE SCHOOL GATES saying he'd seen her on Fab! She was shocked and a bit intimidated!
Lucky I wasn't there as I'd have had serious words! Fucking twat.
Outing someone is bad enough, but when they're with their kids and surrounded by other kids and teachers too?!"
How did he recognise her? |
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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago
Milton keynes |
I don't think I've ever come across anyone from fab out in public nor have I been approached before. Depends on what we are doing I suppose but I would say hi back if it was done discreetly of course |
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"How would you react if you recognised some of Fab while in a pub or shopping?
Would you go out of your way to chat to them, ignore them or hope that you are able to persuade them into having a chance encounter?
Only ask as this indeed happened to me last night, this guy came up to me while I was along and outright asked if I was Mrs Tinman."
That would be nice especially if they match my preferences.
Did he match yours? Mrs Tinman |
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