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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Just curious to know other peoples experiences when their partner found out they crossdress. mine is very supportive and enjoys helping me transform into a sexy play mate and weve had a little fun with similar people |
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By *i14Man
over a year ago
Rayleigh |
I wish she did and dressed me up like a slut! Love to go lingerie shopping with a woman knowing she’s going to take me home and dress me up then watch and make me service any cock she tells me to!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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She doesn't but she probably suspects.
After all, there are only so many reasons you can think of to keep your body pretty much hair free full time lol..
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"She doesn't but she probably suspects.
After all, there are only so many reasons you can think of to keep your body pretty much hair free full time lol..
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Suspects so much that 10 minutes after posting this they're not on the site anymore....?
My ex-wife cited it as an example of unreasonable behaviour in our divorce. Kind of screws your trust in people! Last girlfriend knew but didn't want anything to do with it. Now I'm full time guess the next one won't really have much of a choice! |
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Told every long term partner and my ex wife about my crossdressing, in each case it wasn’t an issue after the initial shock. It’s just different levels of involvement that’s all.
I honestly can’t understand why someone would hide it, especially in a new relationship. Why would you knowingly start a relationship and hide a part of your personality ?
Recently started another relationship (created a forum post about it) and she was fine with it as well.
Met plenty of couples over the years at Tgirl events and non of them were ‘lucky’ to find a female partner. They were just honest at the start, answered any questions from their partners and respected their fears and concerns.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Its intresting to see the responses as i know theres a few on hear whos other half wont entertain it in any form so i suppose those of us whos partners embrace it were the lucky ones |
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By *yandbumCouple
over a year ago
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Bum knows I like to crossdress. She "caught" me at home alone 6 years after we got together dressed in some of her burlesque clothes so I came clean and showed her my fet profile where I had posted a few pics. I think it was a bit of a shock but she has been supportive and gives me a certain amount of space to indulge. We have attended a few kink events together where I am dressed as Ky but in general, she much prefers me as a guy. |
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"Its intresting to see the responses as i know theres a few on hear whos other half wont entertain it in any form so i suppose those of us whos partners embrace it were the lucky ones"
Considering the fact that she warned me I shouldn't open my birthday/crimbo presents in front of my parents I think she's coming round.
The dress I got for my birthday is awesome. (Although she did say... fuck, I wish I could look like that)
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"Early on in our relationship she said she found crossdressers disgusting and said "you're not one of them are you?" to which I obviously replied "no"  been hiding it ever since"
Why ‘obviously’ 
Why not say, yes I am and this is obviously not going to work out. Then go and find someone who is more accepting ? |
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By *umslaveTV/TS
over a year ago
Sheffield |
"Early on in our relationship she said she found crossdressers disgusting and said "you're not one of them are you?" to which I obviously replied "no" been hiding it ever since
Why ‘obviously’
Why not say, yes I am and this is obviously not going to work out. Then go and find someone who is more accepting ? "
Pretty much zero confidence in myself.  |
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"Early on in our relationship she said she found crossdressers disgusting and said "you're not one of them are you?" to which I obviously replied "no" been hiding it ever since
Why ‘obviously’
Why not say, yes I am and this is obviously not going to work out. Then go and find someone who is more accepting ?
Pretty much zero confidence in myself. "
No judgment from me, just sorry you have to live like that. There’s nothing wrong with you or your dressing and it certainly isn’t disgusting.
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By *umslaveTV/TS
over a year ago
Sheffield |
"Early on in our relationship she said she found crossdressers disgusting and said "you're not one of them are you?" to which I obviously replied "no" been hiding it ever since
Why ‘obviously’
Why not say, yes I am and this is obviously not going to work out. Then go and find someone who is more accepting ?
Pretty much zero confidence in myself.
No judgment from me, just sorry you have to live like that. There’s nothing wrong with you or your dressing and it certainly isn’t disgusting.
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Thank you it means a lot. |
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By *yandbumCouple
over a year ago
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"Early on in our relationship she said she found crossdressers disgusting and said "you're not one of them are you?" to which I obviously replied "no" been hiding it ever since"
Ouch! I wonder how she would have reacted if she caught you dressed at home? |
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By *umslaveTV/TS
over a year ago
Sheffield |
"Early on in our relationship she said she found crossdressers disgusting and said "you're not one of them are you?" to which I obviously replied "no" been hiding it ever since
Ouch! I wonder how she would have reacted if she caught you dressed at home? "
She never will I'm far far too careful. I barely get the chance anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All but one of my ex's knew and only one totally freaked out about it. The others were very accepting of it to various degrees. There were a couple in particular who were more than accepting and those were particularly good times. |
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Gemma ultimately cost me my marriage so I find myself single & in the almost impossible situation of looking for a lady who will at minimum accept & hopefully embrace & run with Gemma in future. On this small island it's a big ask indeed but maybe one day I'll hit lucky & find someone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When my late wife and I got together, I was honest and open about it, it was something she took a little bit of getting used to, but at that point I wasn’t dressing regularly either.
As we started to play as a couple and we discovered the cuckold scene, things sort of developed and I was allowed to dress the part of the sissy maid when our friend came round to play.
As things started to stop between us due to her illness, I was again open and honest about wanting to explore my dressing side a little more, she openly encouraged me and even helped with choosing outfits and taking photos and even agreed to let me attend a tranny party one night, which was the first time I had ever been out dressed, my wife did my nails and make up and chose my outfit for the night.
For me personally, I am glad I was honest from the beginning, I do miss the fun with her though  xx |
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By *pertureTV/TS
over a year ago
New Ferry, wirral in stockings and sussies |
she's known from the start as i told her, i had more girls stuff than guy stuff, we have played and also been shopping together, but her sex drive is far lower than mine so its not that often these days |
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Yes. I only told her 3 weeks ago and she's been great.
Gave me a pair of red hooker heels for Christmas. Wow....
She admits the biggest turn on is she can assume the male role of just stripping off while I make the effort! |
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My wife always knew I am bi.
I came out as cross dresser by texting her a photo of me in a Basque.
She was pretty freaked out.
However, over time we worked on it to the point where she was happy to teach me some make up tricks.
Nowadays we've been to a club with me dressed, told some very close friends....its cool |
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"She doesn't but she probably suspects.
After all, there are only so many reasons you can think of to keep your body pretty much hair free full time lol..
Suspects so much that 10 minutes after posting this they're not on the site anymore....?
My ex-wife cited it as an example of unreasonable behaviour in our divorce. Kind of screws your trust in people! Last girlfriend knew but didn't want anything to do with it. Now I'm full time guess the next one won't really have much of a choice! "
Wonder how many of us have also had it used against us in a divorce, plus if I didn’t give what she wanted financially she would tell work and family, I gave her what she asked for , trust with others after the divorce who I have let into Katie’s life is about 0% after a while, it’s a novelty to some women but a lifetime for us gurlz irrespective of how many times we try to say that’s it and purge, I just know katie will be back |
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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago
village life, closest main town inverness |
"She doesn't but she probably suspects.
After all, there are only so many reasons you can think of to keep your body pretty much hair free full time lol..
Suspects so much that 10 minutes after posting this they're not on the site anymore....?
My ex-wife cited it as an example of unreasonable behaviour in our divorce. Kind of screws your trust in people! Last girlfriend knew but didn't want anything to do with it. Now I'm full time guess the next one won't really have much of a choice!
Wonder how many of us have also had it used against us in a divorce, plus if I didn’t give what she wanted financially she would tell work and family, I gave her what she asked for , trust with others after the divorce who I have let into Katie’s life is about 0% after a while, it’s a novelty to some women but a lifetime for us gurlz irrespective of how many times we try to say that’s it and purge, I just know katie will be back "
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I can see why it's hard to be able to trust again but there's someone out there for
everyone and hope you find that someone who will appreciate you for who you are |
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By *ave65Man
over a year ago
Rotherham |
My ex-girlfriend did as we ended up going out shopping it all started when she come home with some new sexy underwear and she asked me how she looked and I said that the knickers look better on me as a joke and she said I bet they would but because she was on a size 8 to 10 they would not fit me so we went shopping. And she’s only 5 foot and I’m 511 so as you can see in some of the pictures we got matching stockings suspender belt and knickers and of course she’s got a new set as well and when we get home we fucked all afternoon dressed up as she said she loved the feeling of the nylon stockings Robin with her stocking as she was riding me |
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"My ex-girlfriend did as we ended up going out shopping it all started when she come home with some new sexy underwear and she asked me how she looked and I said that the knickers look better on me as a joke and she said I bet they would but because she was on a size 8 to 10 they would not fit me so we went shopping. And she’s only 5 foot and I’m 511 so as you can see in some of the pictures we got matching stockings suspender belt and knickers and of course she’s got a new set as well and when we get home we fucked all afternoon dressed up as she said she loved the feeling of the nylon stockings Robin with her stocking as she was riding me "
Very similar, dressed for an ex in stockings at her request, she loved it..I'm more into a nice pair of panties...not necessarily wearing them x |
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By *ecker30Man
over a year ago
Northwich |
My wife found a bag in the garage hidden with my sexy lingerie and some butt plugs and some high heeled boots. She asked me to explain. I told her I occasionally like to have a wank dreaming about being dressed as a sissy and fucked by a woman with a strapon!
She said she doesn't know me any more, I'm not a man! Made me burn my bag a stuff. We've not had sex since 18 months! Even though it was only occasional before. She thinks I'm gay and theres something I'm not telling her!
So didn't go so well! |
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I don’t dress but this is my story and, to be honest, reading how some of you on here have lost relationships etc, it makes me quite sad that I found someone who would have not only accepted it, she would have actively encouraged it.
Anyway, I have posted this elsewhere, but this is my story, all true, which kind of gives a different angle/take on this.
Many years ago when I was 19/20 I had a relationship with an older lady (early 30s) who taught me an awful lot about sex!
One night when we played she suggested I wear her stockings for some fun which I was up for and it went from there.
We started having sex with both wearing her stockings and suspenders, then she bought me my own set.
Before long we'd go out together to buy matching lingerie, sets, basques etc and we'd do photo shoots etc, sending the film off to PO boxes in the back of Escort to be developed!
Eventually we'd be going out for nights out, regular vanilla nights to normal clubs, dressed normal but with matching lingerie on, knowing each others secret.
Once or twice she went as far as making me up fully for a night of fun at home and styling my hair. I can't say I ever loved dressing and I certainly was never convincing but she found it incredibly horny and it drove her wild. That I did love!
It was on holidays in PdI that we first met a few genuine beautiful dressers on a night out and that really intrigued us both - and made us fuck like crazy back at the hotel. One of the last nights on holiday, a visit to the old yumbo centre saw one thing lead to another and ended with the most gorgeous TV masturbating in front of us until they came over my partners feet in her sandals.
That was the night I discovered I was attracted to dressers. Also, it was the night that led to our adventures involving others. |
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"Just curious to know other peoples experiences when their partner found out they crossdress. mine is very supportive and enjoys helping me transform into a sexy play mate and weve had a little fun with similar people "
Nope... very much in the closet Fullstop... even about the site, she's very straight and comments about stuff on tltv shows and films which I know she wouldn't except what I do... but hey ho...
I guess lots and lots keep it I the closet... Happy fabbimg everyone. |
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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago
village life, closest main town inverness |
"Just curious to know other peoples experiences when their partner found out they crossdress. mine is very supportive and enjoys helping me transform into a sexy play mate and weve had a little fun with similar people
Nope... very much in the closet Fullstop... even about the site, she's very straight and comments about stuff on tltv shows and films which I know she wouldn't except what I do... but hey ho...
I guess lots and lots keep it I the closet... Happy fabbimg everyone."
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No doubt you're right that there are lots which cannot share the fun,
which is a shame because there is a lot of fun to be had when you do it together |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My ex used to actively encourage it, it turned her on massively! We used to shop together, she used to help me dress, she even took me to a couple of gay bars dressed.
My current OH doesn't know, I raised the idea of wearing panties with her early on in our relationship and she flipped, have tried a couple of time since, but no change, so I no longer try!! I don't dress very often, and it's not a big part of who I am (despite all my pics on here probably saying something very different!) and some things are more important in life so it's best not raised again!! |
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Some horrific stories on this thread about some partner’s reactions. However this is why it’s important to ensure it’s something you discuss as early as possible in a relationship, if you have this desire. It’s only fair for the both of you.
You shouldn’t feel that putting on clothes is taboo or disgusting or wrong. They’re just clothes.
If you want to go further and appear as a woman in a wig and makeup, that’s also Ok. If someone makes you feel as if you’re in the wrong, then you’re not, they are.
Never forget if you’re not harming someone else and it makes you feel good, then you shouldn’t feel guilty. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No but I wish she would do tho and would play with me and others. She found me in her panties and went mad so never push it any more "
Same happened to me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My wife knew I liked stockings and suspenders but didn't know that I dressed until I walked in wearing them. After a look of shock the first thing she said was "Damn you look good in that" 
She now regularly buys me lingerie and helps me sizing other clothes |
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By *pertureTV/TS
over a year ago
New Ferry, wirral in stockings and sussies |
"No but I wish she would do tho and would play with me and others. She found me in her panties and went mad so never push it any more
Same happened to me"
maybe she was just annoyed that you stretched her, knickers, buy your own, that what i do |
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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago
village life, closest main town inverness |
"No but I wish she would do tho and would play with me and others. She found me in her panties and went mad so never push it any more
Same happened to me
maybe she was just annoyed that you stretched her, knickers, buy your own, that what i do"
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It's possible, who wants their knickers back all baggy in the crotch area  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In my last relationship she knew, and we played a couple of time, not often though. Quite regularly towards the end of the relationship however she regularly left her knickers at my house so I could wear them to work on a Friday, I had to take a pic at work to prove I’d followed her request. |
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By *vpamelaTV/TS
over a year ago
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I revealed that I like to cross dress in 2 previous relationships. I think one of the reasons I we parted was they couldn't tolerate it, let alone encourage it. It's now too important for me that I couldn't be with someone that couldn't accept it. Younger generation seem much more curious about it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My husband told me that his ex liked him to do it instead of being honest in the first place. It caused problems further down the line when I found out that it was his thing all along.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wish I could tell mine. She found out once before and like lots of other flipped.
She regularly tells me how she finds it ridiculous and sees nothing to like in it.
But I've dressed in secret most of my life and enjoy the escapism and the feeling.
Just wish I could tell her and it not be catastrophic.
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