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over a year ago
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"It’s not an allergy, and no STI or anything like that.
I’ve heard other women say that this has happened to them."
It may be your pelvic floor has tightened without experiencing penetration for a prolonged period. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It’s not an allergy, and no STI or anything like that.
I’ve heard other women say that this has happened to them.
It may be your pelvic floor has tightened without experiencing penetration for a prolonged period. "
I believe that is exactly what has happened.  |
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over a year ago
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"Yes sometimes, I end up tight as a virgin if I go without for a while and then it can be uncomfortable as I stretch and sometimes tear xx"
I tried it (briefly) twice and it was unbearable. It hardly goes in and it’s so uncomfortable and not pleasant at all  |
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"Yes sometimes, I end up tight as a virgin if I go without for a while and then it can be uncomfortable as I stretch and sometimes tear xx
I tried it (briefly) twice and it was unbearable. It hardly goes in and it’s so uncomfortable and not pleasant at all "
Lots of lube and take it slowly. Go on top as well so you have the control. I usually loosen after a bit and it's not so bad, then fine the next time (if it isn't too long in between). Although when I'm that tight they usually cum fast, but that also helps as it either stops the sex before it's hurting too much, or the extra lube from the guy makes it easier to keep going xx |
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"Yes sometimes, I end up tight as a virgin if I go without for a while and then it can be uncomfortable as I stretch and sometimes tear xx
I tried it (briefly) twice and it was unbearable. It hardly goes in and it’s so uncomfortable and not pleasant at all
Lots of lube and take it slowly. Go on top as well so you have the control. I usually loosen after a bit and it's not so bad, then fine the next time (if it isn't too long in between). Although when I'm that tight they usually cum fast, but that also helps as it either stops the sex before it's hurting too much, or the extra lube from the guy makes it easier to keep going xx"
I don’t think I could try it again, it was excruciating, which made me tense up, which made it worse!
Luckily, I don’t do it very often anyway (hence the issue) so I’m fine with dropping the penetration
Thank god I’m single! Hahaha  |
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over a year ago
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"Has anyone experienced discomfort with penetration after a prolonged period of no sexual activity? Women only obviously "
I've know a few partners to be very tight and had to take time getting used to penatration.
Or feeling bruised inside from deep positions.
I guess it's as a guy you need to be patient, sympathetic and caring towards them |
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Hi - I realise this is not really a thread for a guy, but...
Have you tried a dilator? Sorry if I'm speaking out of turn - just happened to catch a bit of a TV doc on the company Love Honey and how they were also seeking to make those less "medical" so women who needed them didn't necessarily have to use NHS issue stuff which might be a bit clinical!
Again, sorry for butting in - definitely not trying to mansplain! Hope you're feeling better soon x |
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over a year ago
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"Hi - I realise this is not really a thread for a guy, but...
Have you tried a dilator? Sorry if I'm speaking out of turn - just happened to catch a bit of a TV doc on the company Love Honey and how they were also seeking to make those less "medical" so women who needed them didn't necessarily have to use NHS issue stuff which might be a bit clinical!
Again, sorry for butting in - definitely not trying to mansplain! Hope you're feeling better soon x"
No, I haven’t tried anything.
I just wanted to know that this had happened to other women and I wasn’t the only one really |
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"Hi - I realise this is not really a thread for a guy, but...
Have you tried a dilator? Sorry if I'm speaking out of turn - just happened to catch a bit of a TV doc on the company Love Honey and how they were also seeking to make those less "medical" so women who needed them didn't necessarily have to use NHS issue stuff which might be a bit clinical!
Again, sorry for butting in - definitely not trying to mansplain! Hope you're feeling better soon x
No, I haven’t tried anything.
I just wanted to know that this had happened to other women and I wasn’t the only one really "
Yeah happens to me a fair bit. I tend to do casual sex meets in batches, I'll do quite a lot and then take a break. So if I also go through a bit of a dry spell with hubby during a break from meeting then this can happen xx |
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"Hi - I realise this is not really a thread for a guy, but...
Have you tried a dilator? Sorry if I'm speaking out of turn - just happened to catch a bit of a TV doc on the company Love Honey and how they were also seeking to make those less "medical" so women who needed them didn't necessarily have to use NHS issue stuff which might be a bit clinical!
Again, sorry for butting in - definitely not trying to mansplain! Hope you're feeling better soon x
No, I haven’t tried anything.
I just wanted to know that this had happened to other women and I wasn’t the only one really
Yeah happens to me a fair bit. I tend to do casual sex meets in batches, I'll do quite a lot and then take a break. So if I also go through a bit of a dry spell with hubby during a break from meeting then this can happen xx"
That’s good to know (not good that it’s happening but good that it’s not just me!), I’ve had everything checked out and there isn’t anything wrong. That was my main concern. |
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"Hi - I realise this is not really a thread for a guy, but...
Have you tried a dilator? Sorry if I'm speaking out of turn - just happened to catch a bit of a TV doc on the company Love Honey and how they were also seeking to make those less "medical" so women who needed them didn't necessarily have to use NHS issue stuff which might be a bit clinical!
Again, sorry for butting in - definitely not trying to mansplain! Hope you're feeling better soon x
No, I haven’t tried anything.
I just wanted to know that this had happened to other women and I wasn’t the only one really
Yeah happens to me a fair bit. I tend to do casual sex meets in batches, I'll do quite a lot and then take a break. So if I also go through a bit of a dry spell with hubby during a break from meeting then this can happen xx
That’s good to know (not good that it’s happening but good that it’s not just me!), I’ve had everything checked out and there isn’t anything wrong. That was my main concern. "
I've never had a STD either, even though I always go bare, its nothing to do with infection or anything hun don't worry xx |
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over a year ago
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My other thought (and I googled this as another buddy had it) was a retroverted uterus.. but if you've had everything checked out then this should have been ruled out. I only mention as you said it's prolonged sex that gets painful. Different positions help if so. |
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over a year ago
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None of my business, so feel free to ignore, but do you get the same sensation with toys/fingers? Might just need some gentle attention and I'm sure you will be absolutely fine.
Don't over think it, you'll make matters worse if you're tense! 
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over a year ago
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"Hi - I realise this is not really a thread for a guy, but...
Have you tried a dilator? Sorry if I'm speaking out of turn - just happened to catch a bit of a TV doc on the company Love Honey and how they were also seeking to make those less "medical" so women who needed them didn't necessarily have to use NHS issue stuff which might be a bit clinical!
Again, sorry for butting in - definitely not trying to mansplain! Hope you're feeling better soon x
No, I haven’t tried anything.
I just wanted to know that this had happened to other women and I wasn’t the only one really
Yeah happens to me a fair bit. I tend to do casual sex meets in batches, I'll do quite a lot and then take a break. So if I also go through a bit of a dry spell with hubby during a break from meeting then this can happen xx
That’s good to know (not good that it’s happening but good that it’s not just me!), I’ve had everything checked out and there isn’t anything wrong. That was my main concern.
I've never had a STD either, even though I always go bare, its nothing to do with infection or anything hun don't worry xx"
That was my concern. Good to hear |
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"My other thought (and I googled this as another buddy had it) was a retroverted uterus.. but if you've had everything checked out then this should have been ruled out. I only mention as you said it's prolonged sex that gets painful. Different positions help if so."
No, I’m medically ok |
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over a year ago
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"hrt (oestrogen cream) as an internal cream will sort you out
Are you on hrt patches already?"
No, I’m not menopausal yet, still having regular periods |
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over a year ago
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"Yes, my penis is usually very sore if I hadn't been using it for a week or more  "
Not quite sure that we share the same issue but thanks for the input |
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over a year ago
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"Yes- I tend to experience a lot of pain with sex. I avoid large penises which can help, and certain positions. "
I didn’t suffer with this before, only this last year really.
Do you suffer generally or only when you haven’t done it for a while?
My doctor seems to think it’s because I’ve done it less and less over the years and this year, hardly at all so things have changed in there. |
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"Yes- I tend to experience a lot of pain with sex. I avoid large penises which can help, and certain positions.
I didn’t suffer with this before, only this last year really.
Do you suffer generally or only when you haven’t done it for a while?
My doctor seems to think it’s because I’ve done it less and less over the years and this year, hardly at all so things have changed in there. "
I always have done, ever since I first started having sex. Can be worse when it’s been a while, but I think for me, it’s more related to who I’m with and the size of them. I’ve had nurses struggle to get in there at smear tests etc as well though. |
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over a year ago
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"Yes- I tend to experience a lot of pain with sex. I avoid large penises which can help, and certain positions.
I didn’t suffer with this before, only this last year really.
Do you suffer generally or only when you haven’t done it for a while?
My doctor seems to think it’s because I’ve done it less and less over the years and this year, hardly at all so things have changed in there.
I always have done, ever since I first started having sex. Can be worse when it’s been a while, but I think for me, it’s more related to who I’m with and the size of them. I’ve had nurses struggle to get in there at smear tests etc as well though. "
I’ve never had issues before, but then I’ve always been in a relationship. This is the first time I’ve been truly single really. It’s definitely starting to tighten right up.
It’s grim isn’t it  |
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Yes as I have a tendency to tense up especially if I'm a bit nervous. I've also had way more sex with women than me so I'm not used to penetration and get quite apprehensive! I need it to be slow and steady to start with  |
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over a year ago
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"Yes as I have a tendency to tense up especially if I'm a bit nervous. I've also had way more sex with women than me so I'm not used to penetration and get quite apprehensive! I need it to be slow and steady to start with "
I don’t think I’m nervous and this hasn’t been an issue for me in the past. Even slowly it was very uncomfortable and wouldn’t go in. Ahh well, there’s more to life isn’t there, gives me more time to do other things haha |
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"The real issue would be if I meet someone and want a relation with them. I think that’s going to be the only real issue. Cross that bridge if I come to it I suppose "
I knew someone this happened to. It was a bit difficult to begin with but it worked out she said |
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"The real issue would be if I meet someone and want a relation with them. I think that’s going to be the only real issue. Cross that bridge if I come to it I suppose
I knew someone this happened to. It was a bit difficult to begin with but it worked out she said "
Glad it worked out for her. Google tells me that it’s not uncommon (phew!), really thought there was something very wrong! |
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"The real issue would be if I meet someone and want a relation with them. I think that’s going to be the only real issue. Cross that bridge if I come to it I suppose
I knew someone this happened to. It was a bit difficult to begin with but it worked out she said
Glad it worked out for her. Google tells me that it’s not uncommon (phew!), really thought there was something very wrong! "
I’m sure there isn’t anything really wrong. As a trans woman my pelvic floor gets tight if nothing has been on me for a while. I have vaginal dilators that are ideal to get over this. Pm me if you’d like a link to the ones I have. (Can’t message you as you’ve blocked women) x |
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"The real issue would be if I meet someone and want a relation with them. I think that’s going to be the only real issue. Cross that bridge if I come to it I suppose
I knew someone this happened to. It was a bit difficult to begin with but it worked out she said
Glad it worked out for her. Google tells me that it’s not uncommon (phew!), really thought there was something very wrong!
I’m sure there isn’t anything really wrong. As a trans woman my pelvic floor gets tight if nothing has been on me for a while. I have vaginal dilators that are ideal to get over this. Pm me if you’d like a link to the ones I have. (Can’t message you as you’ve blocked women) x"
Thank you, very kind. I know I won’t put the effort in that is required to use dilators but I appreciate your offer and advice xx |
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"Yes! It's like it isn't used to stretching open . Usually it's fine by the next time. "
That’s right. It wouldn’t open and it was all tight inside and very very uncomfortable! I tried it twice and it was no better. I don’t have the patience or inclination to persist haha.
I’m just happy that there’s nothing wrong |
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"The real issue would be if I meet someone and want a relation with them. I think that’s going to be the only real issue. Cross that bridge if I come to it I suppose
I knew someone this happened to. It was a bit difficult to begin with but it worked out she said
Glad it worked out for her. Google tells me that it’s not uncommon (phew!), really thought there was something very wrong!
I’m sure there isn’t anything really wrong. As a trans woman my pelvic floor gets tight if nothing has been on me for a while. I have vaginal dilators that are ideal to get over this. Pm me if you’d like a link to the ones I have. (Can’t message you as you’ve blocked women) x
Thank you, very kind. I know I won’t put the effort in that is required to use dilators but I appreciate your offer and advice xx"
You’re welcome. For the record I use one for 20 mins every couple of weeks. |
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"Yes! It's like it isn't used to stretching open . Usually it's fine by the next time.
That’s right. It wouldn’t open and it was all tight inside and very very uncomfortable! I tried it twice and it was no better. I don’t have the patience or inclination to persist haha.
I’m just happy that there’s nothing wrong "
Aww I'm glad we could help to reassure you. |
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I’ve never had issues before, but then I’ve always been in a relationship. This is the first time I’ve been truly single really. It’s definitely starting to tighten right up.
It’s grim isn’t it "
That’s interesting- first time you’ve tried to have sex on in a more casual relationship and you’d tensed up and couldn’t do it, even though you didn’t think you felt nervous. I definitely do have to feel comfortable and relaxed. Sometimes toys I’ve used loads of times are suddenly too uncomfortable and difficult to get in there.
The fwb I have now (sort of semi regularly) is a little thicker than I usually prefer but it’s hardly ever painful with him, even from when we first met. It’s odd isn’t it. |
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"The real issue would be if I meet someone and want a relation with them. I think that’s going to be the only real issue. Cross that bridge if I come to it I suppose
I knew someone this happened to. It was a bit difficult to begin with but it worked out she said
Glad it worked out for her. Google tells me that it’s not uncommon (phew!), really thought there was something very wrong!
I’m sure there isn’t anything really wrong. As a trans woman my pelvic floor gets tight if nothing has been on me for a while. I have vaginal dilators that are ideal to get over this. Pm me if you’d like a link to the ones I have. (Can’t message you as you’ve blocked women) x
Thank you, very kind. I know I won’t put the effort in that is required to use dilators but I appreciate your offer and advice xx
You’re welcome. For the record I use one for 20 mins every couple of weeks. "
Really? Well that shows my ignorance on the subject, I assumed it would be daily |
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I’ve never had issues before, but then I’ve always been in a relationship. This is the first time I’ve been truly single really. It’s definitely starting to tighten right up.
It’s grim isn’t it
That’s interesting- first time you’ve tried to have sex on in a more casual relationship and you’d tensed up and couldn’t do it, even though you didn’t think you felt nervous. I definitely do have to feel comfortable and relaxed. Sometimes toys I’ve used loads of times are suddenly too uncomfortable and difficult to get in there.
The fwb I have now (sort of semi regularly) is a little thicker than I usually prefer but it’s hardly ever painful with him, even from when we first met. It’s odd isn’t it. "
It wasn’t the first time, I was previously seeing someone casually, about once a week. Gradually moved away from him this year so haven’t don’t it much for the last year and not at all for the last few months. It’s all very weird. I do think it’s a use it or lose it situation for me |
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I had it when breastfeeding. Lasted for over 2 years. Just couldn't do it. Was so so painful. It went away and back to normal 5 months after I've stopped breastfeeding. It was the hormones that were doing it to me.
Maybe you're entering peri-menopause and your hormones are playing up? Maybe worth mentioning it to the GP as they can do blood tests to check the hormones. |
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"I had it when breastfeeding. Lasted for over 2 years. Just couldn't do it. Was so so painful. It went away and back to normal 5 months after I've stopped breastfeeding. It was the hormones that were doing it to me.
Maybe you're entering peri-menopause and your hormones are playing up? Maybe worth mentioning it to the GP as they can do blood tests to check the hormones."
I will do that, thank you |
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"The real issue would be if I meet someone and want a relation with them. I think that’s going to be the only real issue. Cross that bridge if I come to it I suppose
I knew someone this happened to. It was a bit difficult to begin with but it worked out she said
Glad it worked out for her. Google tells me that it’s not uncommon (phew!), really thought there was something very wrong!
I’m sure there isn’t anything really wrong. As a trans woman my pelvic floor gets tight if nothing has been on me for a while. I have vaginal dilators that are ideal to get over this. Pm me if you’d like a link to the ones I have. (Can’t message you as you’ve blocked women) x
Thank you, very kind. I know I won’t put the effort in that is required to use dilators but I appreciate your offer and advice xx
You’re welcome. For the record I use one for 20 mins every couple of weeks.
Really? Well that shows my ignorance on the subject, I assumed it would be daily "
Nope. I’m in bed now doing it. Slid it in, crossed my feet and now I’m watching YouTube and playing with my phone. It’s not really a chore. Posting here reminded me I haven’t done it in weeks. |
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"The real issue would be if I meet someone and want a relation with them. I think that’s going to be the only real issue. Cross that bridge if I come to it I suppose
I knew someone this happened to. It was a bit difficult to begin with but it worked out she said
Glad it worked out for her. Google tells me that it’s not uncommon (phew!), really thought there was something very wrong!
I’m sure there isn’t anything really wrong. As a trans woman my pelvic floor gets tight if nothing has been on me for a while. I have vaginal dilators that are ideal to get over this. Pm me if you’d like a link to the ones I have. (Can’t message you as you’ve blocked women) x
Thank you, very kind. I know I won’t put the effort in that is required to use dilators but I appreciate your offer and advice xx
You’re welcome. For the record I use one for 20 mins every couple of weeks.
Really? Well that shows my ignorance on the subject, I assumed it would be daily
Nope. I’m in bed now doing it. Slid it in, crossed my feet and now I’m watching YouTube and playing with my phone. It’s not really a chore. Posting here reminded me I haven’t done it in weeks. "
Wow! Do you don’t have to move it in and out? It just sits inside? I can just about our something in (with discomfort) but I can’t move it in and out |
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"The real issue would be if I meet someone and want a relation with them. I think that’s going to be the only real issue. Cross that bridge if I come to it I suppose
I knew someone this happened to. It was a bit difficult to begin with but it worked out she said
Glad it worked out for her. Google tells me that it’s not uncommon (phew!), really thought there was something very wrong!
I’m sure there isn’t anything really wrong. As a trans woman my pelvic floor gets tight if nothing has been on me for a while. I have vaginal dilators that are ideal to get over this. Pm me if you’d like a link to the ones I have. (Can’t message you as you’ve blocked women) x
Thank you, very kind. I know I won’t put the effort in that is required to use dilators but I appreciate your offer and advice xx
You’re welcome. For the record I use one for 20 mins every couple of weeks.
Really? Well that shows my ignorance on the subject, I assumed it would be daily
Nope. I’m in bed now doing it. Slid it in, crossed my feet and now I’m watching YouTube and playing with my phone. It’s not really a chore. Posting here reminded me I haven’t done it in weeks.
Wow! Do you don’t have to move it in and out? It just sits inside? I can just about our something in (with discomfort) but I can’t move it in and out "
Nope. I’m not playing with myself. I’m dilating. I’m still dilating! I forget the time.
These ones are the best ones. Much better than the ones they nhs would have given me. They’re quite pricey. There’s six to choose from. I have the four largest as I was given the middle two by my surgeon. I’ve never slept with a man with an average penis so I bought the bigger two 
They’re very smooth. Have dots as a scale so you can easily see the depth and they have a tip that curves up slightly to suit a woman’s body. |
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). Maybe try with a toy to see if it feels better or to get used to it again? Sorry I'm not more help 