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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can’t believe there are men that haven’t got the message that sending unsolicited dick pics is more of a turn off than a turn on. I get them all the time and I never reply to anyone who sends them. I love looking at dicks on men’s profiles but there’s something about receiving a dick pic off a stranger when I haven’t asked for it that I find really disgusting. I’d feel the same if a stranger came up to me in the street and exposed himself to me, I’m sure the men who send them would never do that so I don’t know why they think it’s ok to force it on people via a message on here. |
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The amount of guys who I have blocked in the past week is insane....all for the same reason, too...
Unsolicited dick pics without reading my profile, where I have very clearly stated that I don't want such photos. |
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over a year ago
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"It’s a complete red flag. It’s actually on the thin end of the sexual assault wedge. It’s also a consent violation. All things that add up to not wanting any interaction. "
I do feel violated when I receive them. I think it’s also a good indication of what sort of a person he is as it feels like an aggressive and forceful act that’s done without considering the feelings of anyone else other than themselves. Plus it’s very well publicised on nearly every profile and in forums that it’s not what people want but they do it anyway and I have no interest in talking to someone who knowingly and intentionally does something against the wishes of others. |
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Ah Jesus, we are totally fed up of getting pics of massive cocks saying I can show you a good time..fancy a fuck...yeah right like I'm just going to jump into bed with you because you have a big cock and you think that's all that matters...come on lads..be a little more creative |
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"It’s a complete red flag. It’s actually on the thin end of the sexual assault wedge. It’s also a consent violation. All things that add up to not wanting any interaction.
I do feel violated when I receive them. I think it’s also a good indication of what sort of a person he is as it feels like an aggressive and forceful act that’s done without considering the feelings of anyone else other than themselves. Plus it’s very well publicised on nearly every profile and in forums that it’s not what people want but they do it anyway and I have no interest in talking to someone who knowingly and intentionally does something against the wishes of others. "
One of my biggest turn offs is seeing a man spread his cheeks for the camera.their was a post on here about the pics you hate seeing the most..that was mine and men taking pics.of their dicks over a toilet...Next thing I know we have a dick pix sent to us asking if we wanted to see piss...then another msg froma diffrent lad with his cheeks spread apart asking if we like...what the actual fuck is wrong with these men that they have no respect for women or couples! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It’s a complete red flag. It’s actually on the thin end of the sexual assault wedge. It’s also a consent violation. All things that add up to not wanting any interaction.
I do feel violated when I receive them. I think it’s also a good indication of what sort of a person he is as it feels like an aggressive and forceful act that’s done without considering the feelings of anyone else other than themselves. Plus it’s very well publicised on nearly every profile and in forums that it’s not what people want but they do it anyway and I have no interest in talking to someone who knowingly and intentionally does something against the wishes of others.
One of my biggest turn offs is seeing a man spread his cheeks for the camera.their was a post on here about the pics you hate seeing the most..that was mine and men taking pics.of their dicks over a toilet...Next thing I know we have a dick pix sent to us asking if we wanted to see piss...then another msg froma diffrent lad with his cheeks spread apart asking if we like...what the actual fuck is wrong with these men that they have no respect for women or couples!"
Hubby said that these are not men, they are delusional little boys.
A man wouldn't act that way x |
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"It’s a complete red flag. It’s actually on the thin end of the sexual assault wedge. It’s also a consent violation. All things that add up to not wanting any interaction.
I do feel violated when I receive them. I think it’s also a good indication of what sort of a person he is as it feels like an aggressive and forceful act that’s done without considering the feelings of anyone else other than themselves. Plus it’s very well publicised on nearly every profile and in forums that it’s not what people want but they do it anyway and I have no interest in talking to someone who knowingly and intentionally does something against the wishes of others.
One of my biggest turn offs is seeing a man spread his cheeks for the camera.their was a post on here about the pics you hate seeing the most..that was mine and men taking pics.of their dicks over a toilet...Next thing I know we have a dick pix sent to us asking if we wanted to see piss...then another msg froma diffrent lad with his cheeks spread apart asking if we like...what the actual fuck is wrong with these men that they have no respect for women or couples!"
I am sure half the men on here think that just because you're on a swinging site you're desperate for a shag or easy meat. Just wish they would make more effort and actually read the profiles before they send a message!! The brain is the most erogengous zone |
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"It’s a complete red flag. It’s actually on the thin end of the sexual assault wedge. It’s also a consent violation. All things that add up to not wanting any interaction. "
Thank you, you've put into words why those pics make me shudder and feel 'icky'. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've never seen the point in sending them to be honest. If I'm asked to send one then no bother.
It may be a swinging site but just like every other site I find people want a little bit of a blether first. You wouldn't walk into a bar or club with your cock hanging out to attract people lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It’s a complete red flag. It’s actually on the thin end of the sexual assault wedge. It’s also a consent violation. All things that add up to not wanting any interaction. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It’s a complete red flag. It’s actually on the thin end of the sexual assault wedge. It’s also a consent violation. All things that add up to not wanting any interaction.
I do feel violated when I receive them. I think it’s also a good indication of what sort of a person he is as it feels like an aggressive and forceful act that’s done without considering the feelings of anyone else other than themselves. Plus it’s very well publicised on nearly every profile and in forums that it’s not what people want but they do it anyway and I have no interest in talking to someone who knowingly and intentionally does something against the wishes of others.
One of my biggest turn offs is seeing a man spread his cheeks for the camera.their was a post on here about the pics you hate seeing the most..that was mine and men taking pics.of their dicks over a toilet...Next thing I know we have a dick pix sent to us asking if we wanted to see piss...then another msg froma diffrent lad with his cheeks spread apart asking if we like...what the actual fuck is wrong with these men that they have no respect for women or couples!
I am sure half the men on here think that just because you're on a swinging site you're desperate for a shag or easy meat. Just wish they would make more effort and actually read the profiles before they send a message!! The brain is the most erogengous zone "
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Nice bit of body shaming in some of these replies too, very nice ladies. Imagine if the shoe was on the other foot.
You could just try to be constructive and say don't appreciate unsolicited dick pics to your inbox. |
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Is it slightly ironic for this post to have come from a profile whose aviator has a dick in it?! Or is that OK because they're a couple?
Picture attachments are underneath messages so if you don't want to see what they have attached, don't scroll down to look.
I really don't get why it's such an offence on a site such as this. Understand if it was Facebook messenger or a dating app perhaps but if you've got pics of your bits out for all to see you really don't have much of a leg to stand on here. |
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"I've never seen the point in sending them to be honest. If I'm asked to send one then no bother.
It may be a swinging site but just like every other site I find people want a little bit of a blether first. You wouldn't walk into a bar or club with your cock hanging out to attract people lol"
Yet the first pic on your profile is your cock..... Interesting. |
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"Nice bit of body shaming in some of these replies too, very nice ladies. Imagine if the shoe was on the other foot.
You could just try to be constructive and say don't appreciate unsolicited dick pics to your inbox. "
NOBODY wants to see you dick unless they've asked for it.
What's difficult to understand?
The default is keep it in your trousers unless asked, NOT the reverse. |
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By *eaf44Man
over a year ago
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"Nice bit of body shaming in some of these replies too, very nice ladies. Imagine if the shoe was on the other foot.
You could just try to be constructive and say don't appreciate unsolicited dick pics to your inbox.
NOBODY wants to see you dick unless they've asked for it.
What's difficult to understand?
The default is keep it in your trousers unless asked, NOT the reverse."
Ha, I think some of those guys might be getting the wrong idea from all the fanny pics posted on the site..
What a minefield eh...! |
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"Is it slightly ironic for this post to have come from a profile whose aviator has a dick in it?! Or is that OK because they're a couple?
Picture attachments are underneath messages so if you don't want to see what they have attached, don't scroll down to look.
I really don't get why it's such an offence on a site such as this. Understand if it was Facebook messenger or a dating app perhaps but if you've got pics of your bits out for all to see you really don't have much of a leg to stand on here. "
Eh? What if the attachments are not dick pics but something else that is inoffensive?
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"Nice bit of body shaming in some of these replies too, very nice ladies. Imagine if the shoe was on the other foot.
You could just try to be constructive and say don't appreciate unsolicited dick pics to your inbox.
NOBODY wants to see you dick unless they've asked for it.
What's difficult to understand?
The default is keep it in your trousers unless asked, NOT the reverse.
Ha, I think some of those guys might be getting the wrong idea from all the fanny pics posted on the site..
What a minefield eh...! "
Unsolicited pictures attached to messages? From women, not men pretending to be women? |
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Not sure we understand some of the bile/aggression on this thread. They send you block. Done. Short effective learning curve. As for it being sexual assault that is a challenging comparison in this specific context (a swinging site driven overwhelmingly by sexual content).
We all have preferences and there are lots of ways to manage it. Vilifying and demonising is not perhaps the most positive or productive.  |
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"Not sure we understand some of the bile/aggression on this thread. They send you block. Done. Short effective learning curve. As for it being sexual assault that is a challenging comparison in this specific context (a swinging site driven overwhelmingly by sexual content).
We all have preferences and there are lots of ways to manage it. Vilifying and demonising is not perhaps the most positive or productive. "
No. In every context, seeing anyone's genitals without consent is wrong.
Wrong. |
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"Oh my goodness, thank you! Sick n tired of wrinkly hairy pricks that they still out from under their beer bellies like it's the most eritic thing you'll ever see!!! ??
Just gross! "
And pressing that dildo against your gunt is attractive? |
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"Not sure we understand some of the bile/aggression on this thread. They send you block. Done. Short effective learning curve. As for it being sexual assault that is a challenging comparison in this specific context (a swinging site driven overwhelmingly by sexual content).
We all have preferences and there are lots of ways to manage it. Vilifying and demonising is not perhaps the most positive or productive.
No. In every context, seeing anyone's genitals without consent is wrong.
Wrong."
Agreed. But you GAVE consent when you joined. You GAVE consent to the site owners. You put up images (or not). You have multiple options to manage it. You can block all images. This site is overwhelmingly driven by sexual content. You are warned and still consented. Now you want to revoke that consent. Absolutely right. Turn off all images.
You asserted elsewhere
"NOBODY wants to see you dick unless they've asked for it".
"The default is keep it in your trousers unless asked"
Nobody? You are sure on that? How? And the 'default'? This appears projection rather than reality. Agreed if people state please don't it should be honoured (and may well not be). Perhaps the 'certainty' people operate under may aggravate their reaction but the body-shaming and extrapolating is more worrying than sad individuals who cannot (will not?) get meets by failing to follow etiquette. You are actively demonising and conflating those as sexual assault, which we (for 2) *in this context* disagree with. |
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"Not sure we understand some of the bile/aggression on this thread. They send you block. Done. Short effective learning curve. As for it being sexual assault that is a challenging comparison in this specific context (a swinging site driven overwhelmingly by sexual content).
We all have preferences and there are lots of ways to manage it. Vilifying and demonising is not perhaps the most positive or productive.
No. In every context, seeing anyone's genitals without consent is wrong.
Wrong.
Agreed. But you GAVE consent when you joined. You GAVE consent to the site owners. You put up images (or not). You have multiple options to manage it. You can block all images. This site is overwhelmingly driven by sexual content. You are warned and still consented. Now you want to revoke that consent. Absolutely right. Turn off all images.
You asserted elsewhere
"NOBODY wants to see you dick unless they've asked for it".
"The default is keep it in your trousers unless asked"
Nobody? You are sure on that? How? And the 'default'? This appears projection rather than reality. Agreed if people state please don't it should be honoured (and may well not be). Perhaps the 'certainty' people operate under may aggravate their reaction but the body-shaming and extrapolating is more worrying than sad individuals who cannot (will not?) get meets by failing to follow etiquette. You are actively demonising and conflating those as sexual assault, which we (for 2) *in this context* disagree with. "
I stick by my stance; In every context, seeing someone's genitals without consent is wrong.
If I were to actively search profiles I would expect to see genitalia, that's the nature of the site, not for them to be sent without my consent.
I have not body shamed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Gents
Free advice for you all, a dick pic will get you further away from the pussy you crave
Simples "
Also unsolicited, repeated friends requests without any previous interaction. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it slightly ironic for this post to have come from a profile whose aviator has a dick in it?! Or is that OK because they're a couple?
Picture attachments are underneath messages so if you don't want to see what they have attached, don't scroll down to look.
I really don't get why it's such an offence on a site such as this. Understand if it was Facebook messenger or a dating app perhaps but if you've got pics of your bits out for all to see you really don't have much of a leg to stand on here. "
The level of vitriol and hypocrisy on this site never ceases to amaze me.
I appreciate women get a lot of dick pics and it can be annoying, but making personal, derogatory remarks on a public forum just to feel big and clever is hardly attractive either is it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Thing is, there are people on this site who aren't bothered about receiving dick pics. People who like receiving them or at least aren't bothered.
Forum users, especially in the Lounge, have quite different attitudes about lots of things. It's a clash of two different groups and it's not going to change. Ever. |
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"Not sure we understand some of the bile/aggression on this thread. They send you block. Done. Short effective learning curve. As for it being sexual assault that is a challenging comparison in this specific context (a swinging site driven overwhelmingly by sexual content).
We all have preferences and there are lots of ways to manage it. Vilifying and demonising is not perhaps the most positive or productive.
No. In every context, seeing anyone's genitals without consent is wrong.
Wrong.
Agreed. But you GAVE consent when you joined. You GAVE consent to the site owners. You put up images (or not). You have multiple options to manage it. You can block all images. This site is overwhelmingly driven by sexual content. You are warned and still consented. Now you want to revoke that consent. Absolutely right. Turn off all images.
You asserted elsewhere
"NOBODY wants to see you dick unless they've asked for it".
"The default is keep it in your trousers unless asked"
Nobody? You are sure on that? How? And the 'default'? This appears projection rather than reality. Agreed if people state please don't it should be honoured (and may well not be). Perhaps the 'certainty' people operate under may aggravate their reaction but the body-shaming and extrapolating is more worrying than sad individuals who cannot (will not?) get meets by failing to follow etiquette. You are actively demonising and conflating those as sexual assault, which we (for 2) *in this context* disagree with.
I stick by my stance; In every context, seeing someone's genitals without consent is wrong.
If I were to actively search profiles I would expect to see genitalia, that's the nature of the site, not for them to be sent without my consent.
I have not body shamed."
I agree Topsy. I have never sent a dick pic, and not just because I haven't got one.
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"Not sure we understand some of the bile/aggression on this thread. They send you block. Done. Short effective learning curve. As for it being sexual assault that is a challenging comparison in this specific context (a swinging site driven overwhelmingly by sexual content).
We all have preferences and there are lots of ways to manage it. Vilifying and demonising is not perhaps the most positive or productive.
No. In every context, seeing anyone's genitals without consent is wrong.
Wrong.
Agreed. But you GAVE consent when you joined. You GAVE consent to the site owners. You put up images (or not). You have multiple options to manage it. You can block all images. This site is overwhelmingly driven by sexual content. You are warned and still consented. Now you want to revoke that consent. Absolutely right. Turn off all images.
You asserted elsewhere
"NOBODY wants to see you dick unless they've asked for it".
"The default is keep it in your trousers unless asked"
Nobody? You are sure on that? How? And the 'default'? This appears projection rather than reality. Agreed if people state please don't it should be honoured (and may well not be). Perhaps the 'certainty' people operate under may aggravate their reaction but the body-shaming and extrapolating is more worrying than sad individuals who cannot (will not?) get meets by failing to follow etiquette. You are actively demonising and conflating those as sexual assault, which we (for 2) *in this context* disagree with.
I stick by my stance; In every context, seeing someone's genitals without consent is wrong.
If I were to actively search profiles I would expect to see genitalia, that's the nature of the site, not for them to be sent without my consent.
I have not body shamed."
Which is why it is so handy that you gave and continue to give (even at as you read) your CONSENT. You deliberately conflate a legal position (re consent in life) with a site where you and EVERYONE has given their consent as if it is a conspiracy and Fab admins are failing. There is no inconsistancy. There is no legal debate. Consent is given. Want more controls? speak to fab admins - but do not make it an issue of sexual assault.
Before you consider this as personal - agreed *you* have not engaged in body shaming. You did not even raise the sexual assault angle. Others have as part of their defence of their position and as partial justification for their vitriol. |
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"Not sure we understand some of the bile/aggression on this thread. They send you block. Done. Short effective learning curve. As for it being sexual assault that is a challenging comparison in this specific context (a swinging site driven overwhelmingly by sexual content).
We all have preferences and there are lots of ways to manage it. Vilifying and demonising is not perhaps the most positive or productive.
No. In every context, seeing anyone's genitals without consent is wrong.
Wrong."
So no genital pics in general then? Not even on public galleries? |
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"Oh my goodness, thank you! Sick n tired of wrinkly hairy pricks that they still out from under their beer bellies like it's the most eritic thing you'll ever see!!! ??
Just gross! "
As a male who has a bit of a belly thank you do much for highlighting that I am indeed gross because I don't have a 6 pack.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Oh my goodness, thank you! Sick n tired of wrinkly hairy pricks that they still out from under their beer bellies like it's the most eritic thing you'll ever see!!! ??
Just gross!
As a male who has a bit of a belly thank you do much for highlighting that I am indeed gross because I don't have a 6 pack. "
You're not gross. |
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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago
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We hate cock pics, but accept some people like them and that it's (increasingly) part and parcel of this site.
We preemtively block the flashers from our local updates and forum posts, and for the most part it works well.
It would be good if fab made it an option - it would be a simple fix. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Oh my goodness, thank you! Sick n tired of wrinkly hairy pricks that they still out from under their beer bellies like it's the most eritic thing you'll ever see!!! ??
Just gross!
And pressing that dildo against your gunt is attractive?"
That was unnecessary
Don't be that guy |
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Not always, I like to see what I could potentially be getting, as long as its with a face pic aswell though.
"Gents
Free advice for you all, a dick pic will get you further away from the pussy you crave
Simples "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This week I got a dick pic from a guy (my profile states its a turn off), his excuse, it also had his face and body (The angle put the dick first) so wasn't a dick pic.
Seriously, any pic with a dick in it, is a dick pic. If I want to know what you have, I'll ask |
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For you it may be, you don't speak for everyone
"Not sure we understand some of the bile/aggression on this thread. They send you block. Done. Short effective learning curve. As for it being sexual assault that is a challenging comparison in this specific context (a swinging site driven overwhelmingly by sexual content).
We all have preferences and there are lots of ways to manage it. Vilifying and demonising is not perhaps the most positive or productive.
No. In every context, seeing anyone's genitals without consent is wrong.
Wrong."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not sure we understand some of the bile/aggression on this thread. They send you block. Done. Short effective learning curve. As for it being sexual assault that is a challenging comparison in this specific context (a swinging site driven overwhelmingly by sexual content).
We all have preferences and there are lots of ways to manage it. Vilifying and demonising is not perhaps the most positive or productive.
No. In every context, seeing anyone's genitals without consent is wrong.
Wrong."
Wrong as in your opinion or legally wrong? |
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Also I think the argument here is being "sent" a dick pic, not having ones on your profile.
Could say it's the same for Fanny pics, but how many Women send a fanny pic with their opening message on here?
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"Oh my goodness, thank you! Sick n tired of wrinkly hairy pricks that they still out from under their beer bellies like it's the most eritic thing you'll ever see!!! ??
Just gross!
As a male who has a bit of a belly thank you do much for highlighting that I am indeed gross because I don't have a 6 pack.
You're not gross. "
Thank you outsider. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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None in my public profile, only visible in my friends only and then that only equates to 2 pics.
Don't see the need to have them on show, would rather see if I get a response due to the content of my message not my jeans.
Actually had a lady message me this week to say " what a refreshing profile " I like not being part of the crowd. |
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
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"Gents
Free advice for you all, a dick pic will get you further away from the pussy you crave
Simples "
You're certainly not speaking for me nor for a lot of other women, and it's impertinent to suggest you are.
Gents, show as many dick pics as you like. Those who don't like them don't need to look.
Simples.
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Call us old fashioned but it’s not really something we want to see straight off.
C isn’t going to be attracted to a pic of a cock. She might after she’s seen the face and got to know someone.
It’s used as a good filter…not for us to tell people what they should or shouldn’t have on their profile.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Gents
Free advice for you all, a dick pic will get you further away from the pussy you crave
Simples "
I agree. I never send dick pics unless requested and I'll never have a dick pic asy profile pic. |
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"I would never send without request. I have two dick pictures and one is hidden.
Those that send unsolicited dick pics should get a weeks ban"
I've never sent one but for every woman on here who doesn't like receiving them there is another who does.
Banning someone for something as innocuous as a pic is a bit of an overkill. |
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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago
Peterborough |
Where are the mods?
How about all cock pictures get labelled as being a cock picture, then your filters can then say "This is a cock picture and they have chosen not to receive them.
Other bodily parts could be added to that list too. |
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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago
Peterborough |
"I would never send without request. I have two dick pictures and one is hidden.
Those that send unsolicited dick pics should get a weeks ban
I've never sent one but for every woman on here who doesn't like receiving them there is another who does.
Banning someone for something as innocuous as a pic is a bit of an overkill."
Let the filters decide! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Gents
Free advice for you all, a dick pic will get you further away from the pussy you crave
Simples "
You literally have a dick in your profile maybe guys getting mixed messages |
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"I don't mind them at all alongside others but I always, always want to see the face first. Cocks alone get no response but I wouldn't block them x"
So you are not a cock-blocker then.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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From what I can gather, dick pics are generally unwanted by women but men seem to send them a lot. I've noticed a lot of profiles saying that they're unwelcome. I wouldn't send one unless someone asked...but I live being asked. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not sure we understand some of the bile/aggression on this thread. They send you block. Done. Short effective learning curve. As for it being sexual assault that is a challenging comparison in this specific context (a swinging site driven overwhelmingly by sexual content).
We all have preferences and there are lots of ways to manage it. Vilifying and demonising is not perhaps the most positive or productive.
No. In every context, seeing anyone's genitals without consent is wrong.
Wrong.
Agreed. But you GAVE consent when you joined. You GAVE consent to the site owners. You put up images (or not). You have multiple options to manage it. You can block all images. This site is overwhelmingly driven by sexual content. You are warned and still consented. Now you want to revoke that consent. Absolutely right. Turn off all images.
You asserted elsewhere
"NOBODY wants to see you dick unless they've asked for it".
"The default is keep it in your trousers unless asked"
Nobody? You are sure on that? How? And the 'default'? This appears projection rather than reality. Agreed if people state please don't it should be honoured (and may well not be). Perhaps the 'certainty' people operate under may aggravate their reaction but the body-shaming and extrapolating is more worrying than sad individuals who cannot (will not?) get meets by failing to follow etiquette. You are actively demonising and conflating those as sexual assault, which we (for 2) *in this context* disagree with.
I stick by my stance; In every context, seeing someone's genitals without consent is wrong.
If I were to actively search profiles I would expect to see genitalia, that's the nature of the site, not for them to be sent without my consent.
I have not body shamed."
How do you then feel about people like the OP who have a blatant erect dick picture as there main profile picture? As a forum user you can't avoid those dick pictures at all. At least with a unsolicited message with dick picture attachments you can choose to open it or not.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't mind them at all alongside others but I always, always want to see the face first. Cocks alone get no response but I wouldn't block them x
So you are not a cock-blocker then.
Good to know "
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It's the unsolicited minge pics that get me.
Lol but seriously, I did hear that there is potentially a law coming in to criminalise unsolicited dick pics - which I think is a great step forward. It's basically a form of indecent exposure!!
My cock gets an airing, but only if it's been invited or in my gallery (if this wasn't a sex site it'd be different!) But never unsolicited.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would never send without request. I have two dick pictures and one is hidden.
Those that send unsolicited dick pics should get a weeks ban"
 Oh come on, that's just OTT. |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
I don't ask for dick pics and ye I get sent them sometimes in messages from guys. It doesn't upset me or offend me it just makes me roll my eyes and usually just delete the message without answering them.I really don't see what they big deal is given the site we are on.
If it upset me as much as it seems to upset others I'd simply use my filters to stop messaging me completely and actually make the effort to find people I want to interact with on her rather than expect others to send messages and pics that appeal to me. It's a pretty simple solution but requires more effort from people who search for people and message first. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"dick pics being sent on a swingers site oh my what ever next ...
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Maybe peek a few profile pictures and see why obviously a few individuals think send my dick picture that will work hahaha |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We are trying to help the fellas get laid here by telling them a dick pick isn’t going to do if, make an effort be chatting be polite and more chance then sending random Willy pics |
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"We are trying to help the fellas get laid here by telling them a dick pick isn’t going to do if, make an effort be chatting be polite and more chance then sending random Willy pics "
I've been trying to chat, be polite and just include my lovely mug shot for about 6 months now and not got a single response... So I don't think chatting and being polite is the answer. I think looking like a Chippendale might be the way forward.
That's me screwed lol |
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All those guys that hide their dick pics in friends only folders miss the chance of us ladies contacting them. In my case I like to look at the profile, look at the pics, including dick pics. I like to see a guy who’s proud of his dick. I like to see the whole package.
If people say on their profile that they don’t want to receive them, then sending them is going against what they have requested in their profile, so they’ll just delete and block.
I don’t understand who people use an adults only swingers site for swinging fun, by sexually liberated people are so offended by dicks, but hey ho, i can only speak for myself. |
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This may be a sex positive adult website, but it doesn't mean manners and etiquette goes out of the window.
It would be like going to a sex club and constantly having someone wave their cock in your face as you're trying to eye up the talent or chat to your friends.
Yes you are in a sex club and you want cock, but it doesn't mean it's ok for guys to wave their cock in your face just because you are there.... Or does it? If it does... Let me know what club you'll be at... I'm on my way!!! Lol  |
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"What we find weird is that the 1% of men that have 12 inch cocks are ALL on Fab sending them to us… like a congregation…. 12 inch cocks for the record, are not the turn on people think they are."
I've always said if they can't get balls deep, they are too long.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i know plenty that like and want dick pics loads of couples wont meet with out them we like to see too as there will be some cocks i honestly will not play with ... i do agree that they should not be sent first message or at least wait till being asked if its not your thing and youve stated on your profile its not your thing and they ignore then used that as a filter and block as for what people put on there profiles thats there choice and again use it as a filter if its not your thing ....
some women think they are talking for all women and thats never the case cock pics has alway been a 50/50 topic some like some dont .... and again the forums are a tiny tiny part of opinions of fab and very rarely is the voice of swingers... |
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Good point well made. Whenever you think you have everything sussed, you'll discover somebody else that thinks your approach or profile is completely wrong
Best to just be yourself on here and those that suit you will (hopefully) gravitate towards you.
No point trying to speak to what's right or wrong on here as everyone wants something different.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i know plenty that like and want dick pics loads of couples wont meet with out them we like to see too as there will be some cocks i honestly will not play with ... i do agree that they should not be sent first message or at least wait till being asked if its not your thing and youve stated on your profile its not your thing and they ignore then used that as a filter and block as for what people put on there profiles thats there choice and again use it as a filter if its not your thing ....
some women think they are talking for all women and thats never the case cock pics has alway been a 50/50 topic some like some dont .... and again the forums are a tiny tiny part of opinions of fab and very rarely is the voice of swingers... "
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By *am069Man
over a year ago
London |
Yeah, unsolicited dick pics aren't great... particularly when there's nil accompany message  I get them too...
Been reading a load of responses posted here...
Unsolicited dick pics or spreadies is pretty shit if you have taken the time to make your preferences known, but honestly do you think those people read that part of your profile?
Body shaming is pretty low, however you may like to justify it... and I do stand in agreement with what others have already stated, namely that this is an adult site (debatable at times), and one can simply change preferences on ones own account.
And yes, you consented when you signed up. You can't have your cake and eat it, in some instances.
I for one have tried to adapt my own profile to appease the majority, and for who's benefit? Not mine...
I don't know if I'm coming or going with the flip flop ideologies of assumed site expectations anymore... well, certainly not cumming.
And that's a shame, as there are a tonne of really good people here, seems as though things like this make it exceedingly harder to find them.
I've hidden most of my pics for most of the things said in this thread... simply to not draw attention... and it works.
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By *am069Man
over a year ago
London |
"Yeah, unsolicited dick pics aren't great... particularly when there's nil accompany message I get them too...
Been reading a load of responses posted here...
Unsolicited dick pics or spreadies is pretty shit if you have taken the time to make your preferences known, but honestly do you think those people read that part of your profile?
Body shaming is pretty low, however you may like to justify it... and I do stand in agreement with what others have already stated, namely that this is an adult site (debatable at times), and one can simply change preferences on ones own account.
And yes, you consented when you signed up. You can't have your cake and eat it, in some instances.
I for one have tried to adapt my own profile to appease the majority, and for who's benefit? Not mine...
I don't know if I'm coming or going with the flip flop ideologies of assumed site expectations anymore... well, certainly not cumming.
And that's a shame, as there are a tonne of really good people here, seems as though things like this make it exceedingly harder to find them.
I've hidden most of my pics for most of the things said in this thread... simply to not draw attention... and it works.
Sincere apologies to all offended "
And I feel like I need to defend myself... I never send any pics unless they are asked for... |
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"It’s a complete red flag. It’s actually on the thin end of the sexual assault wedge. It’s also a consent violation. All things that add up to not wanting any interaction. "
I’ve always thought that an unsolicited one is the electronic equivalent of flashing, whilst an asked-for one is like seeing a man take his trousers off once you’ve invited him into your bed. |
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"We are trying to help the fellas get laid here by telling them a dick pick isn’t going to do if, make an effort be chatting be polite and more chance then sending random Willy pics "
Your profile is mainly dick pics. Maybe you are sending the wrong vibes . |
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By *ayarMan
over a year ago
Wirral |
"Is it slightly ironic for this post to have come from a profile whose aviator has a dick in it?! Or is that OK because they're a couple?
Picture attachments are underneath messages so if you don't want to see what they have attached, don't scroll down to look.
I really don't get why it's such an offence on a site such as this. Understand if it was Facebook messenger or a dating app perhaps but if you've got pics of your bits out for all to see you really don't have much of a leg to stand on here. "
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"Yeah, unsolicited dick pics aren't great... particularly when there's nil accompany message I get them too...
Been reading a load of responses posted here...
Unsolicited dick pics or spreadies is pretty shit if you have taken the time to make your preferences known, but honestly do you think those people read that part of your profile?
Body shaming is pretty low, however you may like to justify it... and I do stand in agreement with what others have already stated, namely that this is an adult site (debatable at times), and one can simply change preferences on ones own account.
And yes, you consented when you signed up. You can't have your cake and eat it, in some instances.
I for one have tried to adapt my own profile to appease the majority, and for who's benefit? Not mine...
I don't know if I'm coming or going with the flip flop ideologies of assumed site expectations anymore... well, certainly not cumming.
And that's a shame, as there are a tonne of really good people here, seems as though things like this make it exceedingly harder to find them.
I've hidden most of my pics for most of the things said in this thread... simply to not draw attention... and it works.
Sincere apologies to all offended "
Why do you feel the need to adapt your profile to suit anyone never mind the majority?
You say it's not for your own benefit so therefore you are cutting off your nose to spite your face.
No matter what you do you will never please everyone so it's pointless trying.
It's often obvious that someone is just boxticking in their profile rather than presenting the best reflection of themselves.
Put what you want and don't apologise. |
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By *batMan
over a year ago
Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales) |
My two most fabbed pics show my dick.
One where it's erect and I'm with an attractive woman.
The other where it's a full frontal nude and I'm flaccid.
Some people have said they are dick pics, others that they are pics which show my dick.
I think it's the latter.
If I'm going to send a picture to someone, it will usually be as a response to a thread (Send ## to the poster above etc) or if I've been chatting, it's pic that fits in with the tone of the conversation we've had or matches the type of pic on their own profile.
I try hard to get this right, but if I don't then sorry for any offence.
But you can't please everyone!
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over a year ago
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"It’s a complete red flag. It’s actually on the thin end of the sexual assault wedge. It’s also a consent violation. All things that add up to not wanting any interaction.
I’ve always thought that an unsolicited one is the electronic equivalent of flashing, whilst an asked-for one is like seeing a man take his trousers off once you’ve invited him into your bed. "
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how strange, it's almost like sending dick pics doesn't work hmmm, interesting 
