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It's something iv seen alot of over the last few weeks. And it's totally confuses me. Everyone has their preferences, and this is in no way shaming anyone but it just got me asking myself why straight married men fuck a guy? Is it because its just a hole to fuck or something else, I don't get it..also some of the come fuck me and leave profiles state they only want straight guys..no guys etc...would just like to understand all aspects of fab...
Fuck..I'm trying so hard to make this sound like I'm not shaming or hating because that's not what it's about..just genuinely interested.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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They're not straight if they're fucking men... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"They're not straight if they're fucking men..."
Think some guys can't handle bthe notion of not being straight |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"They're not straight if they're fucking men...
Think some guys can't handle bthe notion of not being straight"
Agreed! |
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By *JAM...Man
over a year ago
Peterborough |
I work at a bi night at a swingers club and there are many variations of gay as we all know.
I agree that if you play with the opposite sex you are bisexual not curious! Curious is thoughts and actions speak louder than words.
but some people can't voice it, I'd say it's more to do with confidence and people's life situations that withdraw them from being honest with themselves it's not that there trying to hide anything.
At the end of the day labeling people into a group usually ends up people feeling isolated and cast aside from everyone else it doesn't matter what you are as long as we're all happy who cares what people think about you. |
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By *umslaveTV/TS
over a year ago
Sheffield |
5 of my last 10 winks this week are from straight men. It's not difficult to get them in the sack tbh. Men are visual creatures and are often heavily gynophiliac. I used to get bothered, sometimes still do, but if everyone's having fun and no one's getting hurt what does it matter? We're all sexual beings. |
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By *mizhereMan
over a year ago
Thame area |
I would t know I’ve always been bi but the number of women who want to see their men fucked and sucked when They are so called straight is amazing |
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By *UFC9Man
over a year ago
Whitley Bay & Tamworth |
Can’t be straight, simple as that! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's not difficult they are "fab" straight  |
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Why don’t we just stop with the labels ?
Why can’t we just say we like to do what feels good at the time ..?
I openly admit that every so often I like to suck a nice cock ( I’m very cock fussy lol)
But it’s very rare ..
I don’t fuck guys, I won’t fuck a woman in the ass either..
So one label can’t tell the full story of someone ..
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Maybe just exploring a bi side of themselves |
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By *usie pTV/TS
over a year ago
taunton |
If they are only giving they are straight, its when they like to suck cock or get fucked that it all becomes murky lol |
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We are attracted to people.
If Mrs is sucking a cock and Mr is turned on watching it she might ask him to join her, that's _ased on the moment, not Mr wanting to kiss the guy, fuck him etc, just part of the role play.
The labels don't always fit |
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By *rMrs84Couple
over a year ago
Doncaster |
"They're not straight if they're fucking men..."
we have a winner. They’re at least bi, I indemnify ask romAntically straight but sexually bi.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"5 of my last 10 winks this week are from straight men. It's not difficult to get them in the sack tbh. Men are visual creatures and are often heavily gynophiliac. I used to get bothered, sometimes still do, but if everyone's having fun and no one's getting hurt what does it matter? We're all sexual beings."
What does it matter?
They are lying, that is what matters! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"They're not straight if they're fucking men...
Think some guys can't handle bthe notion of not being straight"
To both.
Denial |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not convinced that sexual orientation is just a matter of genitalia. Its more complex than that. Let people label themselves however they feel comfortable and appropriate. |
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By *JAM...Man
over a year ago
Peterborough |
"I work at a bi night at a swingers club and there are many variations of gay as we all know.
I agree that if you play with the opposite sex you are bisexual not curious! Curious is thoughts and actions speak louder than words.
but some people can't voice it, I'd say it's more to do with confidence and people's life situations that withdraw them from being honest with themselves it's not that there trying to hide anything.
At the end of the day labeling people into a group usually ends up people feeling isolated and cast aside from everyone else it doesn't matter what you are as long as we're all happy who cares what people think about you. "
What do I know I can't even write shit properly just to clarify "I agree that if you play with the same sex you are bisexual..." Bloody auto correct  |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
"I work at a bi night at a swingers club and there are many variations of gay as we all know.
I agree that if you play with the opposite sex you are bisexual not curious! Curious is thoughts and actions speak louder than words.
but some people can't voice it, I'd say it's more to do with confidence and people's life situations that withdraw them from being honest with themselves it's not that there trying to hide anything.
At the end of the day labeling people into a group usually ends up people feeling isolated and cast aside from everyone else it doesn't matter what you are as long as we're all happy who cares what people think about you.
What do I know I can't even write shit properly just to clarify "I agree that if you play with the same sex you are bisexual..." Bloody auto correct "
Or bi curious as it depends from first engagement of same sex if still curious  |
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By *9alMan
over a year ago
Bridgend |
I am a bi man, I meet a few married "straight " men , we all need sex & men are not too fussy |
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"They're not straight if they're fucking men..."
I totally agree but these men claim to be straight and most of them married...I.dont get it. |
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By *ob08Man
over a year ago
Macclesfield |
"They're not straight if they're fucking men...
I totally agree but these men claim to be straight and most of them married...I.dont get it."
Denial is not just a river in Egypt |
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"Why don’t we just stop with the labels ?
Why can’t we just say we like to do what feels good at the time ..?
I openly admit that every so often I like to suck a nice cock ( I’m very cock fussy lol)
But it’s very rare ..
I don’t fuck guys, I won’t fuck a woman in the ass either..
So one label can’t tell the full story of someone ..
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Well unfortunately it's not me that has created these labels.. but how else was I supposed to word it lol...I'm not a lovely of the label BBW but it still gets used. |
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This wasn't really about labels guys..it was rather a question as to why straight men fuck men, no other way of wording it with using said labels.. however folk saying their shouldn't be labels etc..most of you have labels of some sort in your profile like pretty much everyone on fab...its not a case of putting in your profile...OK looking for a person/someone...doesn't really matter who just anyone..so we all use labels to make it clear who we are looking for, so pls don't shame anyone for doing what everyone does on fab and using certain terms, and remember the world of fab didn't create these labels..its society and that's what we all know. |
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By *aliceWoman
over a year ago
Birmingham |
Labels are important because prejudice exists and visibility is important. The more people who are out the more normalised it'll be in the eyes of society.
And if you really want a world without labels good luck at the supermarket. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This wasn't really about labels guys..it was rather a question as to why straight men fuck men, no other way of wording it with using said labels.. however folk saying their shouldn't be labels etc..most of you have labels of some sort in your profile like pretty much everyone on fab...its not a case of putting in your profile...OK looking for a person/someone...doesn't really matter who just anyone..so we all use labels to make it clear who we are looking for, so pls don't shame anyone for doing what everyone does on fab and using certain terms, and remember the world of fab didn't create these labels..its society and that's what we all know."
Because they aren't straight....they just like to say they are. Your wording is an oxymoron. Properly straight giys don't fuck men. They just put straight because they don't like/want people knowing they fuck giys as well |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I remember my first time and my second time and my third and finally after a few years I decided I was no longer going to hide my bi side totally . Even now I do not openly say that in public as most do the same too |
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I’m married and straight no matter if I’m not getting any sex here or at home I would still not fuck or let a man suck me off |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can't really see it as a problem to be honest,
It may be something they need to do in life,
My wife enjoyed watching x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Everyone is on their own path.. The Rainbow Pride symbol was a great symbol to represent all the shades in between and my wife and I are somewhwere in that spectrum and ever changing.we used to try and label and quantify it but now we just get on with it.. but yes.. lots of straight folks leave us messages and thats just the way it is.. |
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Is it possible that these guys are just pragmatists? From their perspective, it might just be that a hole is a hole.... After all the only difference between fucking a man in the ass and a woman, is that often the guy you're fucking cumms easier and harder than most women, and that feels great on your cock...
Also as a str8 guy you can easily find someone local to bend over for you or who really wants to suck you off and swallow your load within a few minutes of looking....
I'm Bi so this is just pure speculation on my behalf.... And personally I really don't care what people call themselves...
Ps not sure about the "the act makes you Bi" philosophy.....
If you went into a glory hole believing that a woman was giving you the best BJ of your life, but it was actually a bloke and you don't know, so keep going back, does that make you Bi?
6 months later you find out and say "oh well it's the best bj's I've ever had so I'll just close my eyes and pretend that it's a woman.... are you instantly Bi, or just a pragmatist? |
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"This wasn't really about labels guys..it was rather a question as to why straight men fuck men, no other way of wording it with using said labels.. however folk saying their shouldn't be labels etc..most of you have labels of some sort in your profile like pretty much everyone on fab...its not a case of putting in your profile...OK looking for a person/someone...doesn't really matter who just anyone..so we all use labels to make it clear who we are looking for, so pls don't shame anyone for doing what everyone does on fab and using certain terms, and remember the world of fab didn't create these labels..its society and that's what we all know.
Because they aren't straight....they just like to say they are. Your wording is an oxymoron. Properly straight giys don't fuck men. They just put straight because they don't like/want people knowing they fuck giys as well "
I suppose it was more aimed at married men who fucks guys...and are on here on their own. |
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"It's something iv seen alot of over the last few weeks. And it's totally confuses me. Everyone has their preferences, and this is in no way shaming anyone but it just got me asking myself why straight married men fuck a guy? Is it because its just a hole to fuck or something else, I don't get it..also some of the come fuck me and leave profiles state they only want straight guys..no guys etc...would just like to understand all aspects of fab...
Fuck..I'm trying so hard to make this sound like I'm not shaming or hating because that's not what it's about..just genuinely interested.
Female part of the couple her. Xx"
He's not straight |
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Just an observation. The most common request I get for stories from users of this site come from men asking about stories with a bi/gay slant. I am guessing that when a guy reaches a certain age he probably starts to wonder what would it be like.
You have to admit that it is easier to get a male stranger to give you a blowjob than to get a female stranger to give you a blowjob. (A point made in my latest story)
I never query it, I just write. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some guys put straight on their profile and still fuck guys,im guessing coz they want it all but some woman wont meet bi guys so i guess its to trick them but who knows |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sadly you will encounter some of the most dishonest people in your life in this scene. I really think to try and guess their motives is nigh on impossible.
Some on here would make great politicians bullshit a plenty. |
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One of the issues is that a lot of women do not like bi men. So if they put bi in their profile their chances of getting a woman will go down drastically. But they are clearly bi - a fully straight guy would not see a man as a hole.
If you feel they don't respect you don't meet them. There are plenty of guys who see women as just any hole will do but they are so easy to spot and avoided. |
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By *aseMan
over a year ago
Gourock |
I've seen lots of these post, And can't understand them ! If their fucking a guy they aren't straight..End off.. |
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Then they are not straight , and would probably fuck a hoover , they are being very dishonest with their partners , we would not entertain them |
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The 'straight married man" who meets other men for sex is either a liar and a cheat, or just a liar, if his wife knows.
Labels are helpful on here.
If only to find the sort of people who are interested in yourself.
Fab-straight guys, who are gaming the system, spoil it for everyone who is honest.
And as a gynephile, I'm not much attracted to manly men, but some TVs are gorgeous, so I'm listed as bi.
The labelling system isn't great, so I explain everything in the profile. If people can't read, I don't meet with them |
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Can’t speak for all but the general responses From people I’ve spoken to when they’ve made a similar proposition to myself the responses are generally as follows:
* perceived sense of greater discretion
* power dynamic of thinking they can ‘turn’ someone
* person is less likely to want anything more than the physical
* to the idea no kissing |
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"One of the issues is that a lot of women do not like bi men. So if they put bi in their profile their chances of getting a woman will go down drastically. But they are clearly bi - a fully straight guy would not see a man as a hole.
If you feel they don't respect you don't meet them. There are plenty of guys who see women as just any hole will do but they are so easy to spot and avoided. "
Are you joking?
You need to read threads more or chat to other women..
I’ve always been honest I’m bi and it’s never been a problem for any woman, Infact many absolutely love it ..
It’s couples that have a problem, but I feel a deeply rooted denial problem for that lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can’t speak for all but the general responses From people I’ve spoken to when they’ve made a similar proposition to myself the responses are generally as follows:
* perceived sense of greater discretion
* power dynamic of thinking they can ‘turn’ someone
* person is less likely to want anything more than the physical
* to the idea no kissing"
Nail on the head |
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By *umourCouple
over a year ago
Rushden |
Oh dear! We are both down as straight, but have indulged in same sex sucking and licking in the heat of the moment. It is not our primary want, so straight we stay. But we also have this in our profile so people can judge.
"Although we are both down as straight, we are not frightened of same sex body parts. Some touching may go on if all agree, not Bi, more having fun that is acceptable to all"
So although straight is down, we are honest about the whole same sex thing. |
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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago
Maidstone |
"Labels are important because prejudice exists and visibility is important. The more people who are out the more normalised it'll be in the eyes of society.
And if you really want a world without labels good luck at the supermarket."
This... I so agree!
In my younger days I volunteered for a Sexual Health Outreach Project (handing out free condoms, sexual health advice etc.) and the number of men who genuinely say they are straight but happy to have sex with men.
The label we used is MSM Men (who have) Sex (with) Men...
And then there are straight men who (kindly) consider me as female so how's that for a spanner in the works...? Lol |
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I've said many times that I am straighter than a bloody Roman Road, but I do get how straight guys could be attracted to T Girls because, some look absolutely fabulous to the extent that many look like arm candy on the highest level to be seen out with, let alone play with. So it's hardly surprising that many straight guys are prepared to push their own boundaries and experiment. |
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By *aseMan
over a year ago
Gourock |
"I've said many times that I am straighter than a bloody Roman Road, but I do get how straight guys could be attracted to T Girls because, some look absolutely fabulous to the extent that many look like arm candy on the highest level to be seen out with, let alone play with. So it's hardly surprising that many straight guys are prepared to push their own boundaries and experiment. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had a bj from a man by mistake
we were taking part in a group session and a man joined in under the covers as I was blindfolded and helped the ladies, eventually sucking me, so therefore I lost my 'straight' cherry, but I didnt find him attractive but a good bj nonetheless hehe |
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A man intentionally fucking another man is not a heterosexual act - therefore not straight. We need rules - without rules where would we be? Exactly!! France! 
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By *j321Man
over a year ago
Huddersfield |
If there fucking men there bi |
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I am on Fab for the relaxed attitudes and laissez faire attitude to sexual expression.
So it does grip my shit when people still resist the need to be honest about themselves...often to themselves.
I get frustrated by the mindset and can be unyielding at times.
Perhaps I should encourage more, but I think I am jealous. I see the efficacy in being bi, but unfortunately am abhorred by the idea of sex with a man. Of any type.
Something deep inside of me takes over and I just feel...horrified.
I am straight.
So the guys tgatvarent should celebrate their freedom and larger menu of possible partners, not hide their light under a bushel. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Exactly this sexualities are not _ased on general preference, they are fluid and thats why we have the term bisexual |
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By *r X46Man
over a year ago
Liverpool |
I'm bi. I don't fancy men or would ever have a relationship with one. However, I get as much sexual pleasure with guys as I do with women |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
East London |
Nobody has ever questioned my straight label on Fab when I've said I get the urge to lick a pussy now and then.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nobody has ever questioned my straight label on Fab when I've said I get the urge to lick a pussy now and then.
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I’d never say never. I’ve not yet tried a same sex meet…but who knows what the future holds |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m married and bisexual as is my wife
We both enjoy the pleasure to be gained from sexual partners of the same sex
Hope this helps |
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"I'm bi. I don't fancy men or would ever have a relationship with one. However, I get as much sexual pleasure with guys as I do with women"
Hetero-romantic
Bi-sexual
It's not difficult if you use words.
And separate love from sex.
I can't imagine being in a relationship with another man (never say never) but playing with one is possible. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"They're not straight if they're fucking men..."
Dead right.
Just own it. |
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"I'm bi. I don't fancy men or would ever have a relationship with one. However, I get as much sexual pleasure with guys as I do with women"
This... Or put another way, as a man there are many women I would shag, but never want to date, be that on the grounds of looks or personality. I put men in that same group. You never know one day I may find a man I care a bit more about. My wife feels similarly about women, although she would entertain romantic involvement.
It's not strictly about sexuality, it's about 'standards' and what people you choose to spend your time with. A five minute BJ in the bushes is significantly less time investment than a marriage.
I might call myself bi... But if I started hanging out at the local gay bar the regulars might label me a tourist  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"They're not straight if they're fucking men..."
Dead right.
Just own it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"They're not straight if they're fucking men..."
Absolutely this.  |
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It surprises us how many couples have the female as bi, and the male as straight. It seems there's a huge difference in the sexes.
In reality it's more of a difference related to how males can't accept, admit, be comfortable with being anything other than straight.
Most men will willingly play with a cross dresser, and many, in the right circumstances will play with a man to some extent. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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From my point as I "was" straight until I came here... I'd like to keep it straight but the women don't bother reply so I at least chat and fantasy about meeting with tv... before I wouldn't even think of it but as I'm so hungry I don't worry anymore |
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1) They're not straight.
2) They're clinging to heterosexual privilege through marriage to a woman.
3) They're living a lie.
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"1) They're not straight.
2) They're clinging to heterosexual privilege through marriage to a woman.
3) They're living a lie.
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1) they love their wife and marriage
2) they just fancy a bit of cock from time to time.
3) they know who they are but can't be bothered to explain themselves all the time.
* Cheating on the wife is an entirely separate issue to the fact they are doing it with a bloke not a bird. And not all of these guys are cheating. |
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I think because it’s a hole to fuck, it’s easy no hassle just cum and go |
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I used to do massage in a room at my home, and I happily massaged men and women.
Then I joined Fab and the massages became more sensual and the wives wanted to see their husbands get wanked so I did that.
Then it progressed to purely sexual meets with couples and I sucked a few cocks and they both sucked me.
Through this profile I have met and fucked some attractive TVs and a couple of TS.
I have not and will not meet men 121, they do not interest me.
So am I bisexual, bicurious, gay ?
I have no idea I don't believe in labels we are all sexual beings and we are all on a spectrum some more towards one end than the other. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I used to do massage in a room at my home, and I happily massaged men and women.
Then I joined Fab and the massages became more sensual and the wives wanted to see their husbands get wanked so I did that.
Then it progressed to purely sexual meets with couples and I sucked a few cocks and they both sucked me.
Through this profile I have met and fucked some attractive TVs and a couple of TS.
I have not and will not meet men 121, they do not interest me.
So am I bisexual, bicurious, gay ?
I have no idea I don't believe in labels we are all sexual beings and we are all on a spectrum some more towards one end than the other."
Your not straight |
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"I used to do massage in a room at my home, and I happily massaged men and women.
Then I joined Fab and the massages became more sensual and the wives wanted to see their husbands get wanked so I did that.
Then it progressed to purely sexual meets with couples and I sucked a few cocks and they both sucked me.
Through this profile I have met and fucked some attractive TVs and a couple of TS.
I have not and will not meet men 121, they do not interest me.
So am I bisexual, bicurious, gay ?
I have no idea I don't believe in labels we are all sexual beings and we are all on a spectrum some more towards one end than the other.
Your not straight"
Which is why I list myself as bicurious on my profile |
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If a man identifies as a woman, and is fucked by a straight guy…. Does that make the straight guy bi? |
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"5 of my last 10 winks this week are from straight men. It's not difficult to get them in the sack tbh. Men are visual creatures and are often heavily gynophiliac. I used to get bothered, sometimes still do, but if everyone's having fun and no one's getting hurt what does it matter? We're all sexual beings.
What does it matter?
They are lying, that is what matters! "
And this is what people get upset about. If they are lying, so blatantly, about something so simple what else are they lying about? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have to say men having sexy with men in any shape… not straight  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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They're experimental without a label and not on here to settle an inquisitive mind, I imagine!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's actually a strange thing. When on a couples profile I put on as straight but touching does and will happen. I have no fear of touching men or being touched. Crossing sword and DP spring to mind. Other things I've done may be crossing the line of what others may label. However I think and believe I am straight. "Think and believe" being the important words here. Only real label is "be true to yourself". |
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It might be a cop-out, but the term hete exible can apply too.
I have a good friend. Straight, married, kids. (I know all of that means nothing). His brother is gay, he comes from a very open-minded family and is secure in his sexuality. He admits that some aspects of his personality and some of his non-sexual likes (such as TV programs viewed) could be perceived as stereotypically gay.
He is a good friend. We have never had sex, but we have definitely crossed boundaries. We have shared a bed and spooned. We will cuddle on the sofa. He has admitted that there is something between us but it will never be more than what it is. He knows I am gay. Is he gay. No. Is he Bi? I don’t think so. He generally doesn’t have any interest in men, except in his moments with me. Maybe pansexual? Attracted to the person, rather than the gender?
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By *aseMan
over a year ago
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"It might be a cop-out, but the term heteexible can apply too.
I have a good friend. Straight, married, kids. (I know all of that means nothing). His brother is gay, he comes from a very open-minded family and is secure in his sexuality. He admits that some aspects of his personality and some of his non-sexual likes (such as TV programs viewed) could be perceived as stereotypically gay.
He is a good friend. We have never had sex, but we have definitely crossed boundaries. We have shared a bed and spooned. We will cuddle on the sofa. He has admitted that there is something between us but it will never be more than what it is. He knows I am gay. Is he gay. No. Is he Bi? I don’t think so. He generally doesn’t have any interest in men, except in his moments with me. Maybe pansexual? Attracted to the person, rather than the gender?
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over a year ago
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Definitely not straight. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oxymoronic |
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By *umourCouple
over a year ago
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The thing is... Label if you want. Label someone else if you want and it makes you feel better. To say someone isn't straight because they may be attracted to others of the same sex seems to be a protection, a distancing tool to quite a few on here.
Call me what you want, I can be anything you want me to be in your mind, but that is probably where it will stay, in your mind. The preoccupation with labels is astounding! Just be who or what you want, no one else matters. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Never mind on here, on Fabguys, which is stated to be for gay and bisexual men, you will find plenty of men who claim to be 'bi-curious' or even straight even though they have profiles with several or many verifications from meetings with men. It's a funny old world! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"They're not straight if they're fucking men..."
Totally agree. It's like saying your a vegetarian but like eating meat.
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"They're not straight if they're fucking men..."
agree
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By *1bttmMan
over a year ago
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"They're not straight if they're fucking men...Totally agree. It's like saying your a vegetarian but like eating meat."
But I like vegetarian food sometimes but doesn't make me a vegetarian as I like meat. |
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"The thing is... Label if you want. Label someone else if you want and it makes you feel better. To say someone isn't straight because they may be attracted to others of the same sex seems to be a protection, a distancing tool to quite a few on here.
Call me what you want, I can be anything you want me to be in your mind, but that is probably where it will stay, in your mind. The preoccupation with labels is astounding! Just be who or what you want, no one else matters."
If you went to the supermarket and all the tins were labeless, would you buy them?
Why not ?
Yes, because you don't know what it is inside.
So why not label them for clarity? To allow people to know roughly what they are going to get?
It doesn't pass judgement or prevent people from making up their own minds about their experience eating what is in there.
Its a guide so that if I want beans I don't end up with custard.
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"They're not straight if they're fucking men...Totally agree. It's like saying your a vegetarian but like eating meat."
what we also find very common is single guys with straight on there profile, when you discuss inviting bi oral play in a mmf threesime they suddenly become Bi.
The reality is all they want to do in that scenario is get I deveils knickers.
Always say to them if you can't be true to yourself and up front t on your profile about your sexuality then is a good bye a d happy fabbing |
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By *1bttmMan
over a year ago
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I've had experiences with women in groups etc but identify as gay. I've no interest in women. So going by what the main consensus is on this thread, I should label myself as bi but I know I'm definitely not bi. I'm 100% gay. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have had a few meets with mf couples where their profile states the guy is straight but ends up with the guy wanting to be fucked to.
I am totally bi and i have sex with men and women...I always oblige  |
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"I've had experiences with women in groups etc but identify as gay. I've no interest in women. So going by what the main consensus is on this thread, I should label myself as bi but I know I'm definitely not bi. I'm 100% gay."
What do you mean "experiences" ? |
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By *1bttmMan
over a year ago
Shoreditch east London |
"I've had experiences with women in groups etc but identify as gay. I've no interest in women. So going by what the main consensus is on this thread, I should label myself as bi but I know I'm definitely not bi. I'm 100% gay.
What do you mean "experiences" ?"
Oral but no fucking. |
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Which way. In what context ?
Did they get you aroused alone?
Make you cum ?
No other guys around ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hey |
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horny guys fuck! think about sailors, prisons... anywhere there is a shortage of pussy! and guys decide a hot hole is a hot hole lol ok some need less encouragement than others |
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By *1bttmMan
over a year ago
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"Which way. In what context ?
Did they get you aroused alone?
Make you cum ?
No other guys around ?"
1-1, groups. Enjoyed it and yes aroused. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"fab straight" is such a load of shit as a term as it is just veiled shaming. But I don't put that on the guys - if this site was developed a bit better, there would be a lot more options to define your sexuality publicly, should you want to.
I looked at another site recently - no less than 20 options for your sexuality. Come on Fab overlords, work it out. |
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"Which way. In what context ?
Did they get you aroused alone?
Make you cum ?
No other guys around ?
1-1, groups. Enjoyed it and yes aroused."
So bisexual then.
Certainly at that time and maybe still now. It in no way completely defines you or your sexuality but it cannot be ignored you have found women sexually attractive as partners.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why are so many men so hesitant to drift from the label of 'straight'?
Why do so many women claim their men are straight when they know they suck cock?
Labels like bi-playful are just disingenuous
We are so afraid of labels that we openly discount their validity
To move towards acceptance of male bi-sexuality, we need to start being honest with ourselves
It is just so unhelpful to hide behind pseudo interpretations of sexuality
All this shit about 'I let guys suck me off, but I'd never kiss a man or be in a relationship with one so I am straight' it's just denial in its simplest form
Straight, bi, gay
That's it
Them's the choices
And they're all perfectly wonderful and we should be rejoicing in our sexual choices, not keeping them in dark corners or running from them
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By *1bttmMan
over a year ago
Shoreditch east London |
"Which way. In what context ?
Did they get you aroused alone?
Make you cum ?
No other guys around ?
1-1, groups. Enjoyed it and yes aroused.
So bisexual then.
Certainly at that time and maybe still now. It in no way completely defines you or your sexuality but it cannot be ignored you have found women sexually attractive as partners.
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No Im not bisexual, it was more the situation than the person. "Certainly at that time" u could argue my curiosity took over but my normal state of being is identifying as gay. If I was bisexual I'd be actively seeking encounters with women with a view to fuck them but I don't. No disrespect intended, I'm not sexually attracted to women. My full sexual focus is on men. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Loads on here |
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"Which way. In what context ?
Did they get you aroused alone?
Make you cum ?
No other guys around ?
1-1, groups. Enjoyed it and yes aroused.
So bisexual then.
Certainly at that time and maybe still now. It in no way completely defines you or your sexuality but it cannot be ignored you have found women sexually attractive as partners.
No Im not bisexual, it was more the situation than the person. "Certainly at that time" u could argue my curiosity took over but my normal state of being is identifying as gay. If I was bisexual I'd be actively seeking encounters with women with a view to fuck them but I don't. No disrespect intended, I'm not sexually attracted to women. My full sexual focus is on men."
I can assure you, there is nothing that would ever make me kiss a guy voluntarily. The rest would be at gun point. No idea why, but I have a deep disgust at the idea.
I have no issue with gay guys or women. I just physically shudder at the thought of me doing ANYTHING SEXUAL with a man. Possibly even with a man present.
So, you have voluntarily had sexual relations, got excited and orgasmed with a woman.
What is gay about that ?
Situational may apply to the fact that the 5% of your sexuality that likes women was able to be expressed, it cannot create the sexual interest that was expressed.
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By *urflrCouple
over a year ago
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I’m the female in a long term relationship with the love of my life who if you’re looking for labels would be categorised as an “MSM”, a man who sleeps with men. He would never have a relationship with a man, he doesn’t fancy men as such, but he enjoys sexual acts with men.
Is he straight/gay/bi? Does it matter, he’s him and I adore him. X |
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Says so on your profile.
Doesn't define him, just who he has sex with. |
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By *urflrCouple
over a year ago
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"Says so on your profile.
Doesn't define him, just who he has sex with. "
If that was to my post, then yeah exactly that, Bi is on profile as he’s not “straight” x |
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"They're not straight if they're fucking men...
Think some guys can't handle bthe notion of not being straight"
This |
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Surely if you suck a cock or have have your cock sucked by another bloke your at least bi sexual |
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Is he straight/gay/bi? Does it matter, he’s him and I adore him. X"
The reply was to this.
Of course it matters. He is bi.
I'm not saying he should get a t-shirt printed, but a clear understanding of who he likes sexually helps greatly...not least of all on a sex _ased Internet site.
He's not gay...he sleeps with you. So he must be bi.
Its almost a binary definition. |
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By *1bttmMan
over a year ago
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"Which way. In what context ?
Did they get you aroused alone?
Make you cum ?
No other guys around ?
1-1, groups. Enjoyed it and yes aroused.
So bisexual then.
Certainly at that time and maybe still now. It in no way completely defines you or your sexuality but it cannot be ignored you have found women sexually attractive as partners.
No Im not bisexual, it was more the situation than the person. "Certainly at that time" u could argue my curiosity took over but my normal state of being is identifying as gay. If I was bisexual I'd be actively seeking encounters with women with a view to fuck them but I don't. No disrespect intended, I'm not sexually attracted to women. My full sexual focus is on men.
I can assure you, there is nothing that would ever make me kiss a guy voluntarily. The rest would be at gun point. No idea why, but I have a deep disgust at the idea.
I have no issue with gay guys or women. I just physically shudder at the thought of me doing ANYTHING SEXUAL with a man. Possibly even with a man present.
So, you have voluntarily had sexual relations, got excited and orgasmed with a woman.
What is gay about that ?
Situational may apply to the fact that the 5% of your sexuality that likes women was able to be expressed, it cannot create the sexual interest that was expressed.
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Just to correct u, I didn't say I orgasmed. However my point is I don't identify or would ever claim to be bi regardless of my experiences. I identify wholly as gay.
There are many men on here that play in groups and aren't bi. U yrself said u couldn't do anything with a man and possibly even with a man present. Does that mean u think men that do aren't really straight?
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By *urflrCouple
over a year ago
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Is he straight/gay/bi? Does it matter, he’s him and I adore him. X
The reply was to this.
Of course it matters. He is bi.
I'm not saying he should get a t-shirt printed, but a clear understanding of who he likes sexually helps greatly...not least of all on a sex _ased Internet site.
He's not gay...he sleeps with you. So he must be bi.
Its almost a binary definition. "
Yeah I get that totally, I meant does it matter to me or should labels matter etc when I said that…
Our bi status is on our profile, not hidden, people can see before they choose to contact us. The more people that are honest on their profiles the better x |
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"Which way. In what context ?
Did they get you aroused alone?
Make you cum ?
No other guys around ?
1-1, groups. Enjoyed it and yes aroused.
So bisexual then.
Certainly at that time and maybe still now. It in no way completely defines you or your sexuality but it cannot be ignored you have found women sexually attractive as partners.
No Im not bisexual, it was more the situation than the person. "Certainly at that time" u could argue my curiosity took over but my normal state of being is identifying as gay. If I was bisexual I'd be actively seeking encounters with women with a view to fuck them but I don't. No disrespect intended, I'm not sexually attracted to women. My full sexual focus is on men.
I can assure you, there is nothing that would ever make me kiss a guy voluntarily. The rest would be at gun point. No idea why, but I have a deep disgust at the idea.
I have no issue with gay guys or women. I just physically shudder at the thought of me doing ANYTHING SEXUAL with a man. Possibly even with a man present.
So, you have voluntarily had sexual relations, got excited and orgasmed with a woman.
What is gay about that ?
Situational may apply to the fact that the 5% of your sexuality that likes women was able to be expressed, it cannot create the sexual interest that was expressed.
Just to correct u, I didn't say I orgasmed. However my point is I don't identify or would ever claim to be bi regardless of my experiences. I identify wholly as gay.
There are many men on here that play in groups and aren't bi. U yrself said u couldn't do anything with a man and possibly even with a man present. Does that mean u think men that do aren't really straight?
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No. I was just expressing the other end of the spectrum. Where I am so non bisexual that it could interfere with my play if men were present.
I do wish I was bi, it would give more scope for sexual diversity. But I am not.
If a guy is able to cross swords, then more power to him. I am envious. But he is still straight.
If he starts wanking and sucking a guy...well, we are in bi-land now.
Again, no issues.
But let's be clear with our semantics here.
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At least half of us are bisexual. If a straight man is playing with another guy he is bi simple as that.
Bisexual is a blurry label, some bisexual men are more attracted to men than women and vice versa. To be a bisexual man in society still has a lot of stigma due to social norms and conventions.
I think a lot of men cannot accept their bisexual side, and hide, or make excuses, or create roles such as cuckolding when secretly they like cock.
If you play with men you are bisexual simple as. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"At least half of us are bisexual. If a straight man is playing with another guy he is bi simple as that.
Bisexual is a blurry label, some bisexual men are more attracted to men than women and vice versa. To be a bisexual man in society still has a lot of stigma due to social norms and conventions.
I think a lot of men cannot accept their bisexual side, and hide, or make excuses, or create roles such as cuckolding when secretly they like cock.
If you play with men you are bisexual simple as."
From the “straight” man profile |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn't fuck a bloke, but if I'm meeting a couple in a mfm situation I'd have no problem sucking one off as part of the fun. Never gonna take or give it though, doesn't work for me |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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"At least half of us are bisexual. If a straight man is playing with another guy he is bi simple as that.
Bisexual is a blurry label, some bisexual men are more attracted to men than women and vice versa. To be a bisexual man in society still has a lot of stigma due to social norms and conventions.
I think a lot of men cannot accept their bisexual side, and hide, or make excuses, or create roles such as cuckolding when secretly they like cock.
If you play with men you are bisexual simple as.
From the “straight” man profile "
I personally don’t have a bi bone in my body.
I find men flouncing ludicrous.
Those who are fun, look at our verifications.
You have a sexuality, what do you need to prove?
You trying to top trumps my heterosexual?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"At least half of us are bisexual. If a straight man is playing with another guy he is bi simple as that.
Bisexual is a blurry label, some bisexual men are more attracted to men than women and vice versa. To be a bisexual man in society still has a lot of stigma due to social norms and conventions.
I think a lot of men cannot accept their bisexual side, and hide, or make excuses, or create roles such as cuckolding when secretly they like cock.
If you play with men you are bisexual simple as."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"At least half of us are bisexual. If a straight man is playing with another guy he is bi simple as that.
Bisexual is a blurry label, some bisexual men are more attracted to men than women and vice versa. To be a bisexual man in society still has a lot of stigma due to social norms and conventions.
I think a lot of men cannot accept their bisexual side, and hide, or make excuses, or create roles such as cuckolding when secretly they like cock.
If you play with men you are bisexual simple as.
From the “straight” man profile
I personally don’t have a bi bone in my body.
I find men flouncing ludicrous.
Those who are fun, look at our verifications.
You have a sexuality, what do you need to prove?
You trying to top trumps my heterosexual?
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Do bi men 'flounce'?
Is that how you can tell one from a straight fella?
Thanks for the tip
I'll look out for it |
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"At least half of us are bisexual. If a straight man is playing with another guy he is bi simple as that.
Bisexual is a blurry label, some bisexual men are more attracted to men than women and vice versa. To be a bisexual man in society still has a lot of stigma due to social norms and conventions.
I think a lot of men cannot accept their bisexual side, and hide, or make excuses, or create roles such as cuckolding when secretly they like cock.
If you play with men you are bisexual simple as.
From the “straight” man profile "
oh that has made laugh |
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By *umourCouple
over a year ago
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"The thing is... Label if you want. Label someone else if you want and it makes you feel better. To say someone isn't straight because they may be attracted to others of the same sex seems to be a protection, a distancing tool to quite a few on here.
Call me what you want, I can be anything you want me to be in your mind, but that is probably where it will stay, in your mind. The preoccupation with labels is astounding! Just be who or what you want, no one else matters.
If you went to the supermarket and all the tins were labeless, would you buy them?
Why not ?
Yes, because you don't know what it is inside.
So why not label them for clarity? To allow people to know roughly what they are going to get?
It doesn't pass judgement or prevent people from making up their own minds about their experience eating what is in there.
Its a guide so that if I want beans I don't end up with custard.
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But it is not beans or any other consumer goods. It is a person. What does it matter if someone is bi or straight or at any point in between. You meet, discus boundaries (well we do!) and go from there. If you want to label, that just shows up your phobias. |
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By *aliceWoman
over a year ago
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"The thing is... Label if you want. Label someone else if you want and it makes you feel better. To say someone isn't straight because they may be attracted to others of the same sex seems to be a protection, a distancing tool to quite a few on here.
Call me what you want, I can be anything you want me to be in your mind, but that is probably where it will stay, in your mind. The preoccupation with labels is astounding! Just be who or what you want, no one else matters.
If you went to the supermarket and all the tins were labeless, would you buy them?
Why not ?
Yes, because you don't know what it is inside.
So why not label them for clarity? To allow people to know roughly what they are going to get?
It doesn't pass judgement or prevent people from making up their own minds about their experience eating what is in there.
Its a guide so that if I want beans I don't end up with custard.
But it is not beans or any other consumer goods. It is a person. What does it matter if someone is bi or straight or at any point in between. You meet, discus boundaries (well we do!) and go from there. If you want to label, that just shows up your phobias. "
Labels are important, because discriminaton exists and visibility is vital. How do you think we are going to reduce the amount of prejudice in the world if bi guys pretend to be straight? |
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Let’s just put this back here again because it’s a wonderful reply to the question.
"I work at a bi night at a swingers club and there are many variations of gay as we all know.
I agree that if you play with the opposite sex you are bisexual not curious! Curious is thoughts and actions speak louder than words.
but some people can't voice it, I'd say it's more to do with confidence and people's life situations that withdraw them from being honest with themselves it's not that there trying to hide anything.
At the end of the day labeling people into a group usually ends up people feeling isolated and cast aside from everyone else it doesn't matter what you are as long as we're all happy who cares what people think about you. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"They're not straight if they're fucking men...
Think some guys can't handle bthe notion of not being straight"
Spot on. I meet the husband of the couple I play with (who is straight on their profile) for bi play but he won't tell his wife and keeps saying 'of course, I'm not gay...'. Not wholly comfortable with the deceit, or the denial. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If they are only giving they are straight, its when they like to suck cock or get fucked that it all becomes murky lol"
What about a man that likes to get pegged by a woman? |
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By *pertureTV/TS
over a year ago
New Ferry, wirral in stockings and sussies |
its not as cut and dried as you all seem to think , I have been sucking cock and fanny since my teens, and I label myself bi for ease, however I have no interest in kissing men or being in a relationship with one, most of the men I have met have been self identified as straight, and who am I to question that. |
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"It's something iv seen alot of over the last few weeks. And it's totally confuses me. Everyone has their preferences, and this is in no way shaming anyone but it just got me asking myself why straight married men fuck a guy? Is it because its just a hole to fuck or something else, I don't get it..also some of the come fuck me and leave profiles state they only want straight guys..no guys etc...would just like to understand all aspects of fab...
Fuck..I'm trying so hard to make this sound like I'm not shaming or hating because that's not what it's about..just genuinely interested.
Female part of the couple her. Xx"
I call myself bi, but don't in any way, shape or form find men attractive, sexy etc.
I'll tell it as it is, Bi and Gay bottom guys are extremely easy to meet. They are happy with most scenarios, and will do pretty much anything that's asked of them.
I get extremely aroused when on my way to meet a guy, that i've only been chatting with for 5 minutes. Mainly because i know they will give me what i want. They are nearly always naked, on there knees, with the door open, when i arrive.
I walk in, get my cock out, and they suck me to completion. No dramas, no awkward small talk after.
It's as simple as this, bi and gay bottom guys will do what most guys partners won't!
My partner knows, and we play with guys together. I do it for the thrill, and the fact guys give insanely good blowjobs!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Straight people have an obsession with labelling other peoples sexuality when they feel it's different than their own.
The reality is its none of your f***ing business.
Whilst nobobody should be telling other people what their sexuality is - it particularly troublesome to see how many heterosexual people in this thread are willing to scream 'well they're not straight'. Not only does this have overtones of homophobia and 'othering' but for people who go on NO journey in experimenting and discovering their sexuality since theirs was assumed at birth you sure have a lot of opinions on others journey and experience. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Straight people have an obsession with labelling other peoples sexuality when they feel it's different than their own.
The reality is its none of your f***ing business.
Whilst nobobody should be telling other people what their sexuality is - it particularly troublesome to see how many heterosexual people in this thread are willing to scream 'well they're not straight'. Not only does this have overtones of homophobia and 'othering' but for people who go on NO journey in experimenting and discovering their sexuality since theirs was assumed at birth you sure have a lot of opinions on others journey and experience. "
I'm not straight and I have an issue with guys claiming to be straight whilst fucking guys
I also have an issue with gay guys claiming to be bi or curious in order to get fucks from the guys who claim to be straight
It's nothing but internalised homophobia - fear of being treated differently because of who you shag
Rather than challenge convention, we occupy this space of blurred grey where nothing changes
Stand up, be counted
Nothing will become easier in terms of acceptance for bi guys whilst they continue to deny their sexuality or aren't honest about it here, just in case they lose out in terms of people they'd like to shag because of the bi label
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"They're not straight if they're fucking men...
Think some guys can't handle bthe notion of not being straight
Spot on. I meet the husband of the couple I play with (who is straight on their profile) for bi play but he won't tell his wife and keeps saying 'of course, I'm not gay...'. Not wholly comfortable with the deceit, or the denial."
Yet you continue to meet even though you're not comfortable with it, and then meet them as a couple and look her in the eye and play with her knowing you've been banging her hubby behind her back? That's brutal and really sad. |
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Is as confusing to me , and when I questioned , this got slagged offf ,
I’m not bi or interested in men , but in these days makes me a bastard and alone
Confused dot com |
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"It's something iv seen alot of over the last few weeks. And it's totally confuses me. Everyone has their preferences, and this is in no way shaming anyone but it just got me asking myself why straight married men fuck a guy? Is it because its just a hole to fuck or something else, I don't get it..also some of the come fuck me and leave profiles state they only want straight guys..no guys etc...would just like to understand all aspects of fab...
Fuck..I'm trying so hard to make this sound like I'm not shaming or hating because that's not what it's about..just genuinely interested.
Female part of the couple her. Xx"
The spectrum is rather large. |
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"It's something iv seen alot of over the last few weeks. And it's totally confuses me. Everyone has their preferences, and this is in no way shaming anyone but it just got me asking myself why straight married men fuck a guy? Is it because its just a hole to fuck or something else, I don't get it..also some of the come fuck me and leave profiles state they only want straight guys..no guys etc...would just like to understand all aspects of fab...
Fuck..I'm trying so hard to make this sound like I'm not shaming or hating because that's not what it's about..just genuinely interested.
Female part of the couple her. Xx
The spectrum is rather large."
I fuck both male and female, also love receiving cock!! I call my self bi! |
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By *umourCouple
over a year ago
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Labels are important, because discriminaton exists and visibility is vital. How do you think we are going to reduce the amount of prejudice in the world if bi guys pretend to be straight?"
In your view! On this and many sites, you have to put something! I am not bi-curious, I am not Bi-sexual. But in the heat of the moment, who knows what can happen with the consent of all involved.
I am not "pretending" to be straight. I have to put something, but I don't only want to meet Bi people. So I put whet we do in the profile writeup. So tell me, how is labelling going to stop prejudice? Labelling segregates people and sets one against the other. Interested in how that would work! |
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I can never understand why people can’t say they are bi and be done with it when they are bi.
If you are attracted to and have sex (oral or whatever) with both sexes, then you are bisexual - face it, own it and be proud of it. When men who are clearly attracted to and have sex with other men, cling to the straight tag and suddenly “don’t see labels”, you have to wonder if they are afraid of what comes with being labelled as the other, and whether there is some self-hate with their fluid sexuality.
People who hate being themselves for belonging to a maligned section of society, often times will say anything to get away from that.
I say, be proud of who you are, get out of the murky grey area and obfuscation, stand up and be counted. Being proud of who you are is often the first step in fighting discrimination.
We all know different forms of sexuality have existed for centuries and are as probably as old as humans have been around, but we still act like it’s a new thing and an aberration. |
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By *aliceWoman
over a year ago
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Labels are important, because discriminaton exists and visibility is vital. How do you think we are going to reduce the amount of prejudice in the world if bi guys pretend to be straight?
In your view! On this and many sites, you have to put something! I am not bi-curious, I am not Bi-sexual. But in the heat of the moment, who knows what can happen with the consent of all involved.
I am not "pretending" to be straight. I have to put something, but I don't only want to meet Bi people. So I put whet we do in the profile writeup. So tell me, how is labelling going to stop prejudice? Labelling segregates people and sets one against the other. Interested in how that would work!"
Because visibility and representation erode stigma. The more people who are out the more normalised and integrated lgbtq people will be. It's not easy for everyone to be out, but you don't break down prejudice by pretending something doesn't exist and hiding away. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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They amount of married men that try to message is un real |
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"This wasn't really about labels guys..it was rather a question as to why straight men fuck men, no other way of wording it with using said labels.. however folk saying their shouldn't be labels etc..most of you have labels of some sort in your profile like pretty much everyone on fab...its not a case of putting in your profile...OK looking for a person/someone...doesn't really matter who just anyone..so we all use labels to make it clear who we are looking for, so pls don't shame anyone for doing what everyone does on fab and using certain terms, and remember the world of fab didn't create these labels..its society and that's what we all know.
Because they aren't straight....they just like to say they are. Your wording is an oxymoron. Properly straight giys don't fuck men. They just put straight because they don't like/want people knowing they fuck giys as well "
The obvious answer would be that they are not straight...but what about the profile of men who are bi/gay that specificly only want straight men..then their profile is full on these "straight men" the mind boggles. |
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Labels are important, because discriminaton exists and visibility is vital. How do you think we are going to reduce the amount of prejudice in the world if bi guys pretend to be straight?
In your view! On this and many sites, you have to put something! I am not bi-curious, I am not Bi-sexual. But in the heat of the moment, who knows what can happen with the consent of all involved.
I am not "pretending" to be straight. I have to put something, but I don't only want to meet Bi people. So I put whet we do in the profile writeup. So tell me, how is labelling going to stop prejudice? Labelling segregates people and sets one against the other. Interested in how that would work!"
Situationally Bi is a good one.
I used it for a while but I turned out to be straight. |
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If I get a nessage or a wink from someone who has straight on their profile then I will block them if they can't be honest with themselves then they aren't worth my time.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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They're not straight |
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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago
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"They're not straight "
Curvy is good anyway lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"They're not straight "
I agree, I would be asking myself some serious questions even if I had a single thought of fucking another man. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"They're not straight
Curvy is good anyway lol "
I have a slight bend upwards |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"They're not straight
I agree, I would be asking myself some serious questions even if I had a single thought of fucking another man. "
Now I do have the odd fantasy thought of fucking a TV/TS but chances are I wouldn't in real life |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I can never understand why people can’t say they are bi and be done with it when they are bi.
If you are attracted to and have sex (oral or whatever) with both sexes, then you are bisexual - face it, own it and be proud of it. When men who are clearly attracted to and have sex with other men, cling to the straight tag and suddenly “don’t see labels”, you have to wonder if they are afraid of what comes with being labelled as the other, and whether there is some self-hate with their fluid sexuality.
People who hate being themselves for belonging to a maligned section of society, often times will say anything to get away from that.
I say, be proud of who you are, get out of the murky grey area and obfuscation, stand up and be counted. Being proud of who you are is often the first step in fighting discrimination.
We all know different forms of sexuality have existed for centuries and are as probably as old as humans have been around, but we still act like it’s a new thing and an aberration."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The picture of the bum in red sheets on our profile is Dave’s.
75% of the fabs that photo has are from straight guys. Either they’re Bi and not saying or they need to go to specsavers for missing the hairy bit |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We love bi action...everyone involved they are such relaxed meets..so much fun knowing everything can be a shared experience. |
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I think sexuality is a continuum. At one end totally heterosexual at the other totally homosexual As we age I think we move on the continuum. Be it a reduction in testosterone or oestrogen and or boredom / exposure to other types of sex via porn or in person.
So lots of men and women will identify as what they always have been ‘straight’ but be desperate to explore their other side. We are all conceived as female and then mutate in the womb into males or trans or ……. I would have never contemplated anything other than vanilla heterosexual sex in my twenties Neither would my wife but now both of us would have to admit to being bi and loving it |
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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago
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"I think sexuality is a continuum. At one end totally heterosexual at the other totally homosexual As we age I think we move on the continuum. Be it a reduction in testosterone or oestrogen and or boredom / exposure to other types of sex via porn or in person.
So lots of men and women will identify as what they always have been ‘straight’ but be desperate to explore their other side. We are all conceived as female and then mutate in the womb into males or trans or ……. I would have never contemplated anything other than vanilla heterosexual sex in my twenties Neither would my wife but now both of us would have to admit to being bi and loving it "
That is pretty much what Alfred Charles Kinsey said back in the 1950's and we're still struggling with what bisexuality means. |
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Didn’t know that. Just a personal view _ased on a long journey with lots of bumps lumps and jumps |
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I'm a straight married guy and I've never played with a guy. I don't find men attractive at all but every once in a while I fantasise about sucking a guy off.
Maybe it makes me bi but who knows. |
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"It's something iv seen alot of over the last few weeks. And it's totally confuses me. Everyone has their preferences, and this is in no way shaming anyone but it just got me asking myself why straight married men fuck a guy? Is it because its just a hole to fuck or something else, I don't get it..also some of the come fuck me and leave profiles state they only want straight guys..no guys etc...would just like to understand all aspects of fab...
Fuck..I'm trying so hard to make this sound like I'm not shaming or hating because that's not what it's about..just genuinely interested.
Female part of the couple her. Xx
I call myself bi, but don't in any way, shape or form find men attractive, sexy etc.
I'll tell it as it is, Bi and Gay bottom guys are extremely easy to meet. They are happy with most scenarios, and will do pretty much anything that's asked of them.
I get extremely aroused when on my way to meet a guy, that i've only been chatting with for 5 minutes. Mainly because i know they will give me what i want. They are nearly always naked, on there knees, with the door open, when i arrive.
I walk in, get my cock out, and they suck me to completion. No dramas, no awkward small talk after.
It's as simple as this, bi and gay bottom guys will do what most guys partners won't!
My partner knows, and we play with guys together. I do it for the thrill, and the fact guys give insanely good blowjobs!!!"
This is probably the only answer that basically answers my question so thanks for that...I think people are getting confused as to what the question meant...all I wanted to understand was married me who go and fuck guys and why if they are straight...so it is a case of I need to fuck someone..he is there to let me do it and there is no question asked and I get what I need. |
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"I'm a straight married guy and I've never played with a guy. I don't find men attractive at all but every once in a while I fantasise about sucking a guy off.
Maybe it makes me bi but who knows. "
No I know not every married guy will go wobbly at the knees over fucking another man..but it does happen and the answer below sums it up really..its what that man needs and wants because he isn't getting it at home and if a man is willing to give it to him with no judgment or questions then they will take what's on offer. |
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I enjoy spending naked time with married men they are discrete eager to get relief without guilt of cheating on their wifes occasionally they like to fuck me but generally its oral. |
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A lot of men who would never have a relationship with a man and probably don't find them attractive have realised through fab that it's a lot easier to get sex off another man than it is a women |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Embrace and play with whom you like. You only live once. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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""fab straight" is such a load of shit as a term as it is just veiled shaming. But I don't put that on the guys - if this site was developed a bit better, there would be a lot more options to define your sexuality publicly, should you want to.
I looked at another site recently - no less than 20 options for your sexuality. Come on Fab overlords, work it out."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A lot of men who would never have a relationship with a man and probably don't find them attractive have realised through fab that it's a lot easier to get sex off another man than it is a women "
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Does it matter it's a sex site . Dating or long term there are other sites. Personally we prefer people who are open to at least trying something |
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over a year ago
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"I’m the female in a long term relationship with the love of my life who if you’re looking for labels would be categorised as an “MSM”, a man who sleeps with men. He would never have a relationship with a man, he doesn’t fancy men as such, but he enjoys sexual acts with men.
Is he straight/gay/bi? Does it matter, he’s him and I adore him. X"
Exactly this!! I have been thinking of a way to word this and couldn't think o f the best way!! This is how me and my husband are!! |
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"I’m the female in a long term relationship with the love of my life who if you’re looking for labels would be categorised as an “MSM”, a man who sleeps with men. He would never have a relationship with a man, he doesn’t fancy men as such, but he enjoys sexual acts with men.
Is he straight/gay/bi? Does it matter, he’s him and I adore him. X
Exactly this!! I have been thinking of a way to word this and couldn't think o f the best way!! This is how me and my husband are!! "
Same here |
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By *umourCouple
over a year ago
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"I’m the female in a long term relationship with the love of my life who if you’re looking for labels would be categorised as an “MSM”, a man who sleeps with men. He would never have a relationship with a man, he doesn’t fancy men as such, but he enjoys sexual acts with men.
Is he straight/gay/bi? Does it matter, he’s him and I adore him. X
Exactly this!! I have been thinking of a way to word this and couldn't think o f the best way!! This is how me and my husband are!!
Same here "
For some reason, there are lots on here who must have labels! Someone actually tried to say that not having labels is divisive, when in fact the opposite is true. As soon as someone is put in one camp, you have segregation and with that comes discrimination as is evident on this and other threads.
All you have to do is talk to people. Discuss wants, needs and parameters. If you do that, it doesn't matter the orientation of anyone, because we all should follow our rules. If I want to grab a cock to put into my lady, as long as we have discussed that, no harm done!
Doesn't make me Bi. If in the heat of the moment I suck a cock, doesn't make me Bi! So we just say we are Bi playful as some have to have somewhere to place us! |
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"I’m the female in a long term relationship with the love of my life who if you’re looking for labels would be categorised as an “MSM”, a man who sleeps with men. He would never have a relationship with a man, he doesn’t fancy men as such, but he enjoys sexual acts with men.
Is he straight/gay/bi? Does it matter, he’s him and I adore him. X
Exactly this!! I have been thinking of a way to word this and couldn't think o f the best way!! This is how me and my husband are!!
Same here
For some reason, there are lots on here who must have labels! Someone actually tried to say that not having labels is divisive, when in fact the opposite is true. As soon as someone is put in one camp, you have segregation and with that comes discrimination as is evident on this and other threads.
All you have to do is talk to people. Discuss wants, needs and parameters. If you do that, it doesn't matter the orientation of anyone, because we all should follow our rules. If I want to grab a cock to put into my lady, as long as we have discussed that, no harm done!
Doesn't make me Bi. If in the heat of the moment I suck a cock, doesn't make me Bi! So we just say we are Bi playful as some have to have somewhere to place us! "
Very well said, fk, fluid is what say it it suits and is fun why not x |
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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago
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If you're balls deep in the arse and your balls are touching your recipient's balls, it might be fair to say you may have veered slightly off the straight spectrum. |
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"If you're balls deep in the arse and your balls are touching your recipient's balls, it might be fair to say you may have veered slightly off the straight spectrum. "
Most definately, how about dvp with 2 cocks rubbing together? |
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"I’m the female in a long term relationship with the love of my life who if you’re looking for labels would be categorised as an “MSM”, a man who sleeps with men. He would never have a relationship with a man, he doesn’t fancy men as such, but he enjoys sexual acts with men.
Is he straight/gay/bi? Does it matter, he’s him and I adore him. X
Exactly this!! I have been thinking of a way to word this and couldn't think o f the best way!! This is how me and my husband are!!
Same here "
Fluid and enjoying the moment x |
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Do you think that it might be about a lack of language to use in order to identify themselves? I mean, for the LGBTQIA+ world, there has been countless explorations of identity. This brings about language to be able to categorise oneself exactly as one chooses. If your sexuality has been explored, debated, constructed, and labelled, like the queer academics have been doing, now, for decades, you can find the appropriate label to perfectly suit your own sexual niche amongst the “queerness” spectrum. But, I don’t really see this kind of discourse for the differing tropes of “straightness”. Maybe I’ve just missed it, but if queerness discards binary reasoning surely straightness has a similar “straight” spectrum too, right? But without the same level of discourse, the language isn’t there to be used to identify where one lands on it. |
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Just for clarification, I’m using the word “queer” in an academic sense, and not in a derogatory sense. Don’t want to be lambasted by anyone. |
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"Do you think that it might be about a lack of language to use in order to identify themselves? I mean, for the LGBTQIA+ world, there has been countless explorations of identity. This brings about language to be able to categorise oneself exactly as one chooses. If your sexuality has been explored, debated, constructed, and labelled, like the queer academics have been doing, now, for decades, you can find the appropriate label to perfectly suit your own sexual niche amongst the “queerness” spectrum. But, I don’t really see this kind of discourse for the differing tropes of “straightness”. Maybe I’ve just missed it, but if queerness discards binary reasoning surely straightness has a similar “straight” spectrum too, right? But without the same level of discourse, the language isn’t there to be used to identify where one lands on it. "
Maybe it's just social acceptance |
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"I'm a straight married guy and I've never played with a guy. I don't find men attractive at all but every once in a while I fantasise about sucking a guy off.
Maybe it makes me bi but who knows.
No I know not every married guy will go wobbly at the knees over fucking another man..but it does happen and the answer below sums it up really..its what that man needs and wants because he isn't getting it at home and if a man is willing to give it to him with no judgment or questions then they will take what's on offer. "
Probably why some people won't meet bi guys. |
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"Maybe it’s Maybelline. "
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"They're not straight if they're fucking men..."
Exactly.
Straight men don’t fuck men.
The definition is rather easy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Funny how we never see threads about straight women who have met other women. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There is no such thing as heteexible or bi-playful
If you have any type of sex with a member of the same sex, that is bi-sexual sex
That doesn't mean to say you are bi-sexual - after the encounter you may return to your otherwise straight life - but it does mean you have bi-sexual sex
There is no shame in it
More people need to accept it, own it and not be ashamed to say they engage in it for fear that it might put others off
For men, in particular, this is important as without it, the status quo will not shift |
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By (user no longer on site)
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The denial in here is staggering at times |
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