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Advice for a single guy in a club
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Treat it just like a normal club , be very sociable with both male and female of couple , don’t follow couples or singles around , make sure you look smart smell nice , compliment the ladies , even tell the husbands their wife’s look nice ,couples will let you know if they are interested in single guys , to save you wasting your time , don’t go assuming you will get your leg over , some couples are there to be social , some enjoy people watching and if your lucky some may go further ,a no is a no , you be surprised how friendly clubs are , even if you don’t get to play , the facilities are good and plenty to look at |
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By *enm83Man
over a year ago
Stockport |
"I’m going to a club for the first time to get the full swinging experience.. any tips or advice you guys could give me would be much appreciated "
Likewise, will be my first club experience on Friday. Both bricking it and excited in the same vein! |
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By *enm83Man
over a year ago
Stockport |
"Treat it just like a normal club , be very sociable with both male and female of couple , don’t follow couples or singles around , make sure you look smart smell nice , compliment the ladies , even tell the husbands their wife’s look nice ,couples will let you know if they are interested in single guys , to save you wasting your time , don’t go assuming you will get your leg over , some couples are there to be social , some enjoy people watching and if your lucky some may go further ,a no is a no , you be surprised how friendly clubs are , even if you don’t get to play , the facilities are good and plenty to look at "
Good advice x |
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Don't be sycophantic, just relax, be approachable and NEVER touch anybody in any scenario without asking first.
If you see or hear anything obviously out of order, be an advocate.
As an example, I was putting on a solo display and told the spectators I did not want any 'help' or to be touched.
Cue one fuckwit who decided to slowly and carefully slide onto the bed and put his hands between my legs.
That's was bad enough but a man I knew well watched the whole thing and did nothing.
Most of all, just be a lovely, decent human and you'll have a ball.
Don't get d*unk! |
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By *hilccc OP Man
over a year ago
West Lancashire |
Thanks for the advice! It’s what I was thinking anyway! I’m going to chill and chat and feel the vibe.. hopefully watch a bit but I’ve got no expectations of fun straight away.. so if it does happen it’s a bonus!! I’m quite a chatty guy anyway so I’ll just chat away! |
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By *hilccc OP Man
over a year ago
West Lancashire |
"Don't be sycophantic, just relax, be approachable and NEVER touch anybody in any scenario without asking first.
If you see or hear anything obviously out of order, be an advocate.
As an example, I was putting on a solo display and told the spectators I did not want any 'help' or to be touched.
Cue one fuckwit who decided to slowly and carefully slide onto the bed and put his hands between my legs.
That's was bad enough but a man I knew well watched the whole thing and did nothing.
Most of all, just be a lovely, decent human and you'll have a ball.
Don't get d*unk!"
Definitely won’t be getting d*unk! And why didn’t that guy you was with stop him?!! I guess he’s not with you now ?? |
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By *hilccc OP Man
over a year ago
West Lancashire |
"I’m going to a club for the first time to get the full swinging experience.. any tips or advice you guys could give me would be much appreciated
Likewise, will be my first club experience on Friday. Both bricking it and excited in the same vein!"
Good luck mate |
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"Don't be sycophantic, just relax, be approachable and NEVER touch anybody in any scenario without asking first.
If you see or hear anything obviously out of order, be an advocate.
As an example, I was putting on a solo display and told the spectators I did not want any 'help' or to be touched.
Cue one fuckwit who decided to slowly and carefully slide onto the bed and put his hands between my legs.
That's was bad enough but a man I knew well watched the whole thing and did nothing.
Most of all, just be a lovely, decent human and you'll have a ball.
Don't get d*unk!
Definitely won’t be getting d*unk! And why didn’t that guy you was with stop him?!! I guess he’s not with you now ??"
I wasn't with him, we just know each other well and went often to the same club.
I would have expected him to quietly nudge the bloke into reality and if he carried on, nudge me instead. |
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By *hilccc OP Man
over a year ago
West Lancashire |
"Don't be sycophantic, just relax, be approachable and NEVER touch anybody in any scenario without asking first.
If you see or hear anything obviously out of order, be an advocate.
As an example, I was putting on a solo display and told the spectators I did not want any 'help' or to be touched.
Cue one fuckwit who decided to slowly and carefully slide onto the bed and put his hands between my legs.
That's was bad enough but a man I knew well watched the whole thing and did nothing.
Most of all, just be a lovely, decent human and you'll have a ball.
Don't get d*unk!
Definitely won’t be getting d*unk! And why didn’t that guy you was with stop him?!! I guess he’s not with you now ??
I wasn't with him, we just know each other well and went often to the same club.
I would have expected him to quietly nudge the bloke into reality and if he carried on, nudge me instead. "
Dick!! |
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over a year ago
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Smile and look friendly and confident.
Don’t drink too much and don’t cluster in a pack with other single males.
If someone interests us then we smile and make eye contact.
If you approach a likely couple then be friendly to the guy but lots of flattery to her may get you anywhere!
Oh and don’t turn it into an interrogation of her whilst ignoring the husband completely like someone did to us last week.
Good luck. |
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By *hilccc OP Man
over a year ago
West Lancashire |
"Smile and look friendly and confident.
Don’t drink too much and don’t cluster in a pack with other single males.
If someone interests us then we smile and make eye contact.
If you approach a likely couple then be friendly to the guy but lots of flattery to her may get you anywhere!
Oh and don’t turn it into an interrogation of her whilst ignoring the husband completely like someone did to us last week.
Good luck. "
Thanks you very much! I’m looking forward to it now |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Reading those advises I'l be fit to the picture as I'm always polite and shy
LOL ..
even in normal dance clubs I never dance with a woman without asking out for a little talk (well usually they refuse to talk and then my mate dancing without talk and then drink together LOL)
What can I do .. I programmed on this way so if it makes me unlucky then destiny ..
What I'm more interested to ask is .. how a single guy who new on the place look like in the others eyes ..
Example single guy with a woman on his side even they not together = they want to explore and learn about swinging
Another eg.: a single guy coming to club knows nobody and drinking a alone = hungry coyote coming to see if he can hunt HAHAHA (I'm lauging about myself LOL, reminds coyote and road runner
LOLLLL |
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"Reading those advises I'l be fit to the picture as I'm always polite and shy
LOL ..
even in normal dance clubs I never dance with a woman without asking out for a little talk (well usually they refuse to talk and then my mate dancing without talk and then drink together LOL)
What can I do .. I programmed on this way so if it makes me unlucky then destiny ..
What I'm more interested to ask is .. how a single guy who new on the place look like in the others eyes ..
Example single guy with a woman on his side even they not together = they want to explore and learn about swinging
Another eg.: a single guy coming to club knows nobody and drinking a alone = hungry coyote coming to see if he can hunt HAHAHA (I'm lauging about myself LOL, reminds coyote and road runner
LOLLLL"
You couldn’t be further from the truth haha!
As someone who clubs very often I only play with single men lol! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Reading those advises I'l be fit to the picture as I'm always polite and shy
LOL ..
even in normal dance clubs I never dance with a woman without asking out for a little talk (well usually they refuse to talk and then my mate dancing without talk and then drink together LOL)
What can I do .. I programmed on this way so if it makes me unlucky then destiny ..
What I'm more interested to ask is .. how a single guy who new on the place look like in the others eyes ..
Example single guy with a woman on his side even they not together = they want to explore and learn about swinging
Another eg.: a single guy coming to club knows nobody and drinking a alone = hungry coyote coming to see if he can hunt HAHAHA (I'm lauging about myself LOL, reminds coyote and road runner
LOLLLL
You couldn’t be further from the truth haha!
As someone who clubs very often I only play with single men lol! "
Oh really layla  |
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"I’m going to a club for the first time to get the full swinging experience.. any tips or advice you guys could give me would be much appreciated "
You will be popular if you follow the advice given. Nice club too  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Loads of great advice here.
We were nervous about our first club visit. But there was absolutely no need at all. Try to relax and I'm sure you'll have a great time!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Reading those advises I'l be fit to the picture as I'm always polite and shy
LOL ..
even in normal dance clubs I never dance with a woman without asking out for a little talk (well usually they refuse to talk and then my mate dancing without talk and then drink together LOL)
What can I do .. I programmed on this way so if it makes me unlucky then destiny ..
What I'm more interested to ask is .. how a single guy who new on the place look like in the others eyes ..
Example single guy with a woman on his side even they not together = they want to explore and learn about swinging
Another eg.: a single guy coming to club knows nobody and drinking a alone = hungry coyote coming to see if he can hunt HAHAHA (I'm lauging about myself LOL, reminds coyote and road runner
LOLLLL
You couldn’t be further from the truth haha!
As someone who clubs very often I only play with single men lol! "
WOW.. I'm surprised .. but surprised on a good way  )))) umm .. so when will the next club opens :D lol |
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Don’t act weird, don’t follow women or couples round like a lost dog, don’t bang on the door of a locked room (it’s happened before, proper weird and off-putting) respect boundaries & don’t go in expecting anything |
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By *enm83Man
over a year ago
Stockport |
"How was your first night Phil?
I’ve not been yet I’m going over Christmas.. my mate wants to come with me but he’s got a bbc!! So I’d rather go on my own and chat "
That's what I did, message other people on here that are going the same night as an icebreaker. You will love it mate. |
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By *hilccc OP Man
over a year ago
West Lancashire |
"Be yourself.
If people accept you, you have got it right.
If not, it says more about you than them.
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Thanks!! I know I’m a nice guy… so I’ll just chat and see what happens.. it’s their lose if they don’t want to talk to me haha |
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By *hilccc OP Man
over a year ago
West Lancashire |
"Don’t act weird, don’t follow women or couples round like a lost dog, don’t bang on the door of a locked room (it’s happened before, proper weird and off-putting) respect boundaries & don’t go in expecting anything "
Thanks!! I’ll be the quiet single guy in the corner haha!x |
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By *hilccc OP Man
over a year ago
West Lancashire |
"If you go on the WALES forum, there's a thread in there about club etiquette. Should cover everything you should/would need to know  "
Thanks I’ll take a look mate! I guess you’ve been to 1 before |
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By *hilccc OP Man
over a year ago
West Lancashire |
"If you go on the WALES forum, there's a thread in there about club etiquette. Should cover everything you should/would need to know "
I can’t find it mate how long ago was it? I’ll just be myself and I’ll be fine! |
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