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What got you into this lifestyle?
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Hey, just wondering what got you into this lifestyle? What was it that made you take the plunge for your first encounter?
Couples: who was the first to mention it? What was the reaction of your other half when mentioning it?
Females: what made you want to join or look into the life style?
Men: what made you join the site? What picked your interests?
Looking forward to peoples answers  |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
Gapping Fanny |
Because I’ve been a sadistic degenerate for as long as I can remember.
I was lucky enough to marry someone who was happy to join me in the lifestyle and find her own path, which led us to fab to find people to meet and play with. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I joined the site after going to a club and being asked there if I was on Fab…
I had been single for about 6 months. I had no idea about the online world of FAB, but knew about a local club. After watching quite a few documentaries on the lifestyle over the years it was something that had really got my interest.
Never even thought to look it up online. I only knew that the club must be the place to meet others so that’s why I went and it was one of the best things I’ve done   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My current partner. Our second date for her 30th birthday was that she wanted to go to Chams. She’d been before and wanted to take me.
Mind you our first “date” was supposed to be a one night stand / booty call so, not exactly a conventional relationship |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Always been interested in the lifestyle and one bank holiday weekend when I was sat all alone I took the plunge, never looked back since and have made some good friends through it too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t consider myself in the ‘lifestyle’ yet and may never as it keeps stalling for whatever reasons. The right time, the right people never seem to coincide.
I looked into it as I’d love to explore sex and kinks in many different way. I found fab website and jumped right in.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was in a vanilla marriage he cheated on me for about a year without me knowing. Being on here gave me a bit of a confidence boost . Met my now bf on here ... |
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I progressed into this lifestyle after joining Eureka 35 years ago with the intention of merely swimming and sunbathing.
I soon found out what went on in the woods and far more recently discovered that some of the people I 'came across' were also on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Unexpectedly I was taken to a club, one Sunday evening.
Friend of mine, introduced me to his social side he kept hidden for three months.
He knew it wasn't going to be a shock for me and he knows I like surprises....
Certainly was an eye opener...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It was he that suggested when we got together but I wasn't comfortable. A while later it came up again but I wasn't comfortable sharing him. So I got a single profile on here and other sex sites and slept around for a few years. I'm not more open to clubs, parties, swapping, etc. So we've started as a couple. Xx |
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My wife and I met another couple at a naturist sauna, got friendly and as we all fancied each other's partners we swapped.
Realizing just how sexually liberating and exciting it was we met lots of couples & singles via the d contact mags.
A wonderful world of good sex and no risk of being tempted to have affairs. |
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Finding myself single and wanting to explpre more i took myself off to kesterals for the day, loved it so much that i stayed for ab fabs for the evening, very liberating and curioisity took hold.
Love the like minded people on the scene, have introduced a girlfriend or 2 to clubs all have enjoued, great to see people do have open minds and not followers. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hey, just wondering what got you into this lifestyle? What was it that made you take the plunge for your first encounter?
Couples: who was the first to mention it? What was the reaction of your other half when mentioning it?
Females: what made you want to join or look into the life style?
Men: what made you join the site? What picked your interests?
Looking forward to peoples answers "
Simply put... I just love sex (I'm a filthy man. If I was a women, I'm sure I'd be a nymphomaniac hahaha).
I joined because I like the whole lifestyle. Socialising/going to events/clubs, having horny open sex and the liberated-ness of it all. |
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By *helroyCouple
over a year ago
Skegness |
After years of my mates talking and some times feeling her bum and sometimes boobs and telling me about it I wanted it to go further she went away on girly weekends all ways told her if she got up to owt she had my blessings never happen till one time she met someone she like they only kiss and masabated each other when she came home told I took her to bed after we talk about me been with her next so we join a swigging site and took some time to find the right guy we never stop now love the life style |
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Long story, but the quick version is the local LBGTQplus group pointed me here when I was looking for a new girl friend with benefits.
My Husband found me here so we knew from our profiles what we were looking for, we just took things forwards from there.
(Lizzie) |
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Very short story as the long version is yawn....
Hubs called my bluff on our 10th wedding anniversary and took me to chams, then covid hit, then clubs opened back up and we haven't looked back since! Love the life!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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While watching porn the ideas come to us. The hubby use to bring it up while making love. Telling me his fantasies of him and other using me as their sex toy. Then it actually happened while away for the weekend. Met a great guy in the same hotel my first mmf. But it was definitely not my last. We have now turned our attention to clubs and no looking back  |
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We had talked about it as fantasy for a long time. I had got to the stage in my life where I craved something more and when we talked about it hubby suggested we actually tried it. He found fab and set us up a profile. We should have done it years ago.
Kx |
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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago
Peterborough / Stamford |
Char and I knew each other through a car club. I got divorced, she was essentially separated and we got chatting online. That progressed to meets, and eventually she moved in, got divorced, and we got married.
However...before it got too far we had been talking "stuff" and it turned out she was (is) into BDSM and that doesn't do it for me. I said I had no problem with her carrying on seeing guys for that. That progressed to whether I'd want to watch, which went on to "no, but I'd like to watch you fuck" which led on to us joining here and finding a guy to fulfil that.
I'm not the best performer and I just always want Char to have as much and as varied and as good sex as possible. If I can't always offer it then I'm happy for her to get it elsewhere
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We got into the after a late night conversation about sex. Asked Mrs Brum if there was a thing she would like to try. She replied sex with a woman.
I mentioned swinging sites and we discussed it for a few months before joining one. Never found the single female, learnt a lot during our time and Mrs Brum is now fully bi sexual. |
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By *rsonMan
over a year ago
Hounslow |
"Char and I knew each other through a car club. I got divorced, she was essentially separated and we got chatting online. That progressed to meets, and eventually she moved in, got divorced, and we got married.
However...before it got too far we had been talking "stuff" and it turned out she was (is) into BDSM and that doesn't do it for me. I said I had no problem with her carrying on seeing guys for that. That progressed to whether I'd want to watch, which went on to "no, but I'd like to watch you fuck" which led on to us joining here and finding a guy to fulfil that.
I'm not the best performer and I just always want Char to have as much and as varied and as good sex as possible. If I can't always offer it then I'm happy for her to get it elsewhere
(Bry)"
Great backstory. Really good that it works out like that  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I never knew it existed and when I told guys at work I was joining dating sites one guy said you should try FAB - oh my god it was like opening the doors to Narnia. I lived my life always thinking I was missing out on something - now I know what it was!! I honestly didn't know there was clubs and parties etc, I was so naive. Not anymore!!!! Fantastic. |
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By *rsonMan
over a year ago
Hounslow |
can’t really remember but then I’ve always been a bit obsessed with sex due to a sheltered childhood. I remember my first party was in Bristol - I went when I was still living with my Mum so probably after uni - about 22yo.
I got the train there from London, said I was meeting a mate for fishing. Great party, very full on and I was literally like a dog with two dicks. Except with just one.
There was a gorgeous girl I met there who was getting absolutely ruined by everyone and I remember as I was fucking her she looked into my eyes said ‘you’re hot, this is wild, I’m only 18’.
And if by some chance you’re reading this now, you’ll be about 43. please get in touch, I’d love a second series babe x |
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We both every now and then would say that we both wished we'd experienced more sexually before we'd met, didn't think it would work out. Eventually we decided that because we both kept bringing it up that we really needed to try things and find out. It could have gone either way buy thankfully it felt so right when we eventually went all the way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been involved with bdsm for a few years. Discovered I'm not monogamous and wanted to widen my horizons a little. I knew it existed, so I joined in the summer. |
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By *randMrsPCouple
over a year ago
Nr Salisbury |
We came across fab when searching for info on the naturist beach at Maspalomas when planning a holiday. Thought we'd visit a club when we were there just to see. We didn't end up going on holiday as we were both full of a cold. We got back and booked our first club visit, The mighty Vanilla Alternative. Not looked back since! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Started off as a bucket list thing as neither of us had ever been to a club. Like rabbits in the headlights we stared open mouthed at what people got up to but we found that we liked the friendly atmosphere so different to other nights out with drinking and music. Not so slowly our barriers came down and years later here we are not hardened but infrequent professionals |
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"We came across fab when searching for info on the naturist beach at Maspalomas when planning a holiday. Thought we'd visit a club when we were there just to see. We didn't end up going on holiday as we were both full of a cold. We got back and booked our first club visit, The mighty Vanilla Alternative. Not looked back since!"
Quite spontaneous too! |
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L and I met in a lap Dancing club and I was always interested in her stories of dancing and we spoke about her dancing with other girls and couples and we soon got talking about involving others into our relationship. She knew friends that used fab so we gave it a go and so far have loved every minute and met some amazing people on here and in clubs. |
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"Hey, just wondering what got you into this lifestyle? What was it that made you take the plunge for your first encounter?
Couples: who was the first to mention it? What was the reaction of your other half when mentioning it?
Females: what made you want to join or look into the life style?
Men: what made you join the site? What picked your interests?
Looking forward to peoples answers "
For us we were just talking about 3 sums one day, then a few mnths down the line it was talked about again..neither of us had ever done anything like that, we had a friend who is on fab and introduced us to it, but unfortunately where we live the lifestyle isn't huge. Very difficult to get a someone who is into swinging amd not just a quick fuck if you like....definatly impossible to find a bi couple to...so we have only had a few experiences when we joined..then covid happned and it was all put on a back burner obv, still had our account and chatting to folk..but the reality of swinging up here is very poor. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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On a lads holiday in my late teens, was approached by a guy about whether I’d like to join him and his wife that night. Still puts a smile on my face and makes me hard thinking of that night, and the enjoyable experiences I’ve had since as a result.
Was advised to join fab by a couple a few years ago, have and am still on other similar sites, but fab tops the lot for me |
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By *jayjMan
over a year ago
Farringdon, Central London |
"Hey, just wondering what got you into this lifestyle? What was it that made you take the plunge for your first encounter?
Couples: who was the first to mention it? What was the reaction of your other half when mentioning it?
Females: what made you want to join or look into the life style?
Men: what made you join the site? What picked your interests?
Looking forward to peoples answers "
A realisation that conventional didn’t work for me anymore. And thought it best to expand my horizons! |
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It started wife my wife wanting to have sex with a woman, did that then left it for about a year and a half then dipped out toe back in. Soon started full swapping, both realising that we enjoy watching wash other having sex with other people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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after getting divorced, I dated a few ladies on POF. I I'm Jen met one lady who just happened to be Bi, she introduced me to the wonderful world of Swinging, and I was hooked. plus being a randy bugger helped lol |
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Mine was my brother borrowed my laptop for few months when I got it back he left all history on it and the pics of him mrs and others I see fab signed up and joined found their profile blocked them thrn thr fun began |
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By *3xDECouple
over a year ago
nottingham |
My fwb and I were talking one days after knowing each other for many years and he mentioned that he thought I’d (Mrs) be interested in looking at Fab.
So I had a look, signed up, loved the attention and found information on the clubs which I had found out one of my best friends had been attending for years, so told her I was eager to try it out to which we did the following weekend, after a bit of Dutch courage met a couple off of here and we enjoyed ourselves.
Haven’t looked back since  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Paprika casually mentioned that she thought it was daft that threesomes in films were always two women when it should “obviously” be two guys. My ears pricked up and we went from there. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Because you only live once so why not . My wife and I been together for 10+ years and she's only been with me and one other guy before we met so it's always turned me on she's always been innocent and want to explore her naughty side with a MFM when it eventually happens . Was my idea to introduce it and she obliged to it more than I thought |
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When I was younger myself and my first boyfriend watched the film Boxing Helena, there’s a scene where she watches him with someone else, and during that scene I had my first proper orgasm, I realised I’d love to watch my boyfriend with someone else. Obviously we split up and with different partners I’d still think about them with other women, had a few random threesomes and realised I was also bi.
Then I met Mr on a random night out, we were quite merry and I told him the next relationship I was in I wanted to try swinging, he said he had been interested in it for years and two months later we were in Utopia in Telford. That was many years ago now and we haven’t looked back. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My sexy mind. Nobody at The local church book group wanted to talk about it, so I joined here.
I have an insatiable sexy appetite and adventurous mind that my usual friends would be disturbed by. It seem people on fab are not phased by anything |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Always been a fantasy to have group sex
Just finding the right woman that you love and wants to share your fantasies
Suppose maybe watching too much porn haha but once found out a couple of friends had enjoyed swinging for years and then released it actually happens in real life
First time we visited a club on holiday and walked out without playing
But made up for it the night after when we had a return visit
Both absolutely love it now but always remember to make time for each other |
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"Hey, just wondering what got you into this lifestyle? What was it that made you take the plunge for your first encounter?
Couples: who was the first to mention it? What was the reaction of your other half when mentioning it?
Females: what made you want to join or look into the life style?
Men: what made you join the site? What picked your interests?
Looking forward to peoples answers "
Bones was a glamour model, gg shoot, enjoyed it and thought of swinging, attended Xtaisa shortly after |
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I was in my early 20's and stayed overnight at the house of a couple I knew. They left some contact magazines (Rendezvous) on the bedside table. We talked next day. Nothing happened, but a couple of weeks later I bought a copy and the whole world changed... |
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By *ucianpoundCouple
over a year ago
Cap d’Agde, France |
Before we married the missus tearfully confessed to having been seduced by a swinger couple whilst visiting her parents.
My reaction was ….. how intriguing!
That was 40 years ago this year, not looked back since?? |
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We hooked up as Bunny had a feeling I was a degenerate and she was also. Her ex didn't enjoy exploring kinks and she admitted she liked some bondage and asked what I liked. Group Sex as an answer got her attention and a few months later we signed up for a couple account and hit the clubs and we've been exploring fantasies ever since |
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