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Undatable.. Help please
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By *y Amore OP Man
over a year ago
london |
Having problems communicating with others on here. I would love some advise. Most of the ladies and couples I speak with snd get on very well with are out side London and being able to meet is near on impossible. I’ve been told that I’m not real, so I’ve now started jumping in to the cam rooms to help prove I’m not a catfish.
I’ve just deleted my information and am in the process or writing a new one.
PLEASE HELP. I’M FEELING UNDATABLE |
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Obviously a woman's/couples perspective is better but so far your profile looks good. You have a good body, nice pictures and I am sure are articulate enough to write a good personal statement section.
Remember as solo guys we are facing a lot of competition! Maybe trying the Club scene would bring results?
Good luck. |
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Best advice would be find a local social event or visit a club. Fab can be hard to come across as over message. Get yourself out and mingle with others, it’s a great way to socialise and meet others. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ignore the bitter ppl who berate you for asking for advice.
My advice, dont waste your time sending out messages like theyre CVs and worrying if your profile is up to scratch, thatll just bring you down when you dont have much luck over time. Of course it does help to have public photos
Stick to the forums, get yourself acquainted among the community and just enjoy being sociable on the online part of fab. And get yourself out to the clubs and meet ppl face to face. Plenty of ppl from the forum go to clubs so you might get recognised and itll help your chances of mingling a little more.
And obviously dont expect to be arranging meets right off the bat, takes time to put yourself out there and start getting noticed.
How you conduct yourself in the forums and when youre at clubs is going give you more success at finding potential play mates than relying on inboxing strangers and a profile bio that is mostly pointless as it can never be truly relied upon to judge a persons character. |
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By *y Amore OP Man
over a year ago
london |
"Best advice would be find a local social event or visit a club. Fab can be hard to come across as over message. Get yourself out and mingle with others, it’s a great way to socialise and meet others."
Thank you x |
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By *y Amore OP Man
over a year ago
london |
"Ignore the bitter ppl who berate you for asking for advice.
My advice, dont waste your time sending out messages like theyre CVs and worrying if your profile is up to scratch, thatll just bring you down when you dont have much luck over time. Of course it does help to have public photos
Stick to the forums, get yourself acquainted among the community and just enjoy being sociable on the online part of fab. And get yourself out to the clubs and meet ppl face to face. Plenty of ppl from the forum go to clubs so you might get recognised and itll help your chances of mingling a little more.
And obviously dont expect to be arranging meets right off the bat, takes time to put yourself out there and start getting noticed.
How you conduct yourself in the forums and when youre at clubs is going give you more success at finding potential play mates than relying on inboxing strangers and a profile bio that is mostly pointless as it can never be truly relied upon to judge a persons character."
Thank brother  |
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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago
STOKE ON TRENT |
"Having problems communicating with others on here. I would love some advise. Most of the ladies and couples I speak with snd get on very well with are out side London and being able to meet is near on impossible. I’ve been told that I’m not real, so I’ve now started jumping in to the cam rooms to help prove I’m not a catfish.
I’ve just deleted my information and am in the process or writing a new one.
PLEASE HELP. I’M FEELING UNDATABLE "
Darling you look handsome keep plodding on put a meet up in the meets section xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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its not you op it because there are already many of you as you may well know men out number women by alot ..
so that means you need to be you and asking for advice from those that dont know you is not going to help other than make you look like the rest of the boring profiles that got advice..
also its a swinging site not a dating site (well mostly) so you need to look at it from a different angle ...i do agree with what others have said it seems in todays world guys are being morer sussecful via the sosials and club route.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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will fill in later wont help either most people look at your profile before answering a message ...other men will tell you not to bother with a decent profile or decent messages but you dont want to be like them you want to stand out |
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By *y Amore OP Man
over a year ago
london |
"its not you op it because there are already many of you as you may well know men out number women by alot ..
so that means you need to be you and asking for advice from those that dont know you is not going to help other than make you look like the rest of the boring profiles that got advice..
also its a swinging site not a dating site (well mostly) so you need to look at it from a different angle ...i do agree with what others have said it seems in todays world guys are being morer sussecful via the sosials and club route.."
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"Best advice would be find a local social event or visit a club. Fab can be hard to come across as over message. Get yourself out and mingle with others, it’s a great way to socialise and meet others."
Honestly I second this. As someone who wasn’t getting anywhere ether I decided to go to a club, it was the best decision I ever made. I met some lovely people and had fun, you live in London so I’m sure there are plenty of clubs round you.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Good looking guy with a great body and relatively young in age..........can’t get laid?
We mortals are doomed, boomed I tell you Captain Mainwearing
I'm a fat ugly bastard, I was boomed anyway"
Oooops boomed..........  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Good looking guy with a great body and relatively young in age..........can’t get laid?
We mortals are doomed, boomed I tell you Captain Mainwearing
I'm a fat ugly bastard, I was boomed anyway"
I too fall into the obese facially challenged group with an added disadvantage of having a small wiener...........I am boomed |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Reset your expectations.
Fab is not a dating site. It's a site for swingers. If you want to be datable, you're in the wrong place.
Rhymes with Pinder maybe better suited. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Having problems communicating with others on here. I would love some advise. Most of the ladies and couples I speak with snd get on very well with are out side London and being able to meet is near on impossible. I’ve been told that I’m not real, so I’ve now started jumping in to the cam rooms to help prove I’m not a catfish.
I’ve just deleted my information and am in the process or writing a new one.
PLEASE HELP. I’M FEELING UNDATABLE "
May I ask why it’s near on impossible for you to meet anyone who lives outside of London? |
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"Reset your expectations.
Fab is not a dating site. It's a site for swingers. If you want to be datable, you're in the wrong place.
Rhymes with Pinder maybe better suited. "
I know people that have found partners thru fab, why not, if people want to use it to date there’s nothing wrong with that. If you are ENG and wanting to date, conventional dating apps are pretty naff. People use fab in all different ways, each to their own. |
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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago
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"will fill in later wont help either most people look at your profile before answering a message ...other men will tell you not to bother with a decent profile or decent messages but you dont want to be like them you want to stand out"
Agree. “Fill in later” when you’ve posted a request for advice isn’t great. Get your profile sorted then there’s more to advise on. |
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By *y Amore OP Man
over a year ago
london |
"Reset your expectations.
Fab is not a dating site. It's a site for swingers. If you want to be datable, you're in the wrong place.
Rhymes with Pinder maybe better suited. "
Thanks, I’m not hear looking for the one although it would be nice. I’m here to explore my sexual side more. But thank you for your suggestion. |
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By *y Amore OP Man
over a year ago
london |
"Having problems communicating with others on here. I would love some advise. Most of the ladies and couples I speak with snd get on very well with are out side London and being able to meet is near on impossible. I’ve been told that I’m not real, so I’ve now started jumping in to the cam rooms to help prove I’m not a catfish.
I’ve just deleted my information and am in the process or writing a new one.
PLEASE HELP. I’M FEELING UNDATABLE
May I ask why it’s near on impossible for you to meet anyone who lives outside of London?"
It’s just been that way.. More people outside of London have engaged in conversation from out side of london. |
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By *y Amore OP Man
over a year ago
london |
"Reset your expectations.
Fab is not a dating site. It's a site for swingers. If you want to be datable, you're in the wrong place.
Rhymes with Pinder maybe better suited.
I know people that have found partners thru fab, why not, if people want to use it to date there’s nothing wrong with that. If you are ENG and wanting to date, conventional dating apps are pretty naff. People use fab in all different ways, each to their own."
Thank you  xx |
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By *y Amore OP Man
over a year ago
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"will fill in later wont help either most people look at your profile before answering a message ...other men will tell you not to bother with a decent profile or decent messages but you dont want to be like them you want to stand out
Agree. “Fill in later” when you’ve posted a request for advice isn’t great. Get your profile sorted then there’s more to advise on. "
I’m about to rewrite my page. I did mention that I’ve recently deleted my information I order to make write a new one |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Having problems communicating with others on here. I would love some advise. Most of the ladies and couples I speak with snd get on very well with are out side London and being able to meet is near on impossible. I’ve been told that I’m not real, so I’ve now started jumping in to the cam rooms to help prove I’m not a catfish.
I’ve just deleted my information and am in the process or writing a new one.
PLEASE HELP. I’M FEELING UNDATABLE
May I ask why it’s near on impossible for you to meet anyone who lives outside of London?
It’s just been that way.. More people outside of London have engaged in conversation from out side of london. "
Why don’t you meet up with the people from outside of London that you talk to then? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Whats the first rule of the undateable club ?"
All members should create a profile on fab, if you don’t already have one, and start a thread about not getting any meets and ask how to improve your profile to get meets. |
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