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Separating sex from feelings
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"Hi sexy mates I was wondering if it really s possible just to have sex as in the physical act without any feelings for the other person. I am concerned as I went to a swinger club ( Vanilla alternative ) and altjough I got busy quickly. I found myself kissing and really feeling something. I was also then interacting with other couples that made I feel special rather than an act. To me I ah b wired but th sex bit s a bi product of the eet an th relationship r net reaction in he the other party. I feel like a prat for even mentioning this as I'm sure most people concentrate on a ard cok an a wet pussy only. Comments welcome Ps my feel lings my expan why I never get meets of course I should concentrate on the act only maybe as obviously I'm oing something wrong or maybe I'm on he wrong site. Xxxx" Depends what you mean by feelings? I cant do clinical sex, if im having sex with someone i need to have a connection to make it feel good Thats not to be mistaken for falling for someone tho, all because sex feel special does not mean im falling in love with them | |||
"Hi sexy mates I was wondering if it really s possible just to have sex as in the physical act without any feelings for the other person. I am concerned as I went to a swinger club ( Vanilla alternative ) and altjough I got busy quickly. I found myself kissing and really feeling something. I was also then interacting with other couples that made I feel special rather than an act. To me I ah b wired but th sex bit s a bi product of the eet an th relationship r net reaction in he the other party. I feel like a prat for even mentioning this as I'm sure most people concentrate on a ard cok an a wet pussy only. Comments welcome Ps my feel lings my expan why I never get meets of course I should concentrate on the act only maybe as obviously I'm oing something wrong or maybe I'm on he wrong site. Xxxx Depends what you mean by feelings? I cant do clinical sex, if im having sex with someone i need to have a connection to make it feel good Thats not to be mistaken for falling for someone tho, all because sex feel special does not mean im falling in love with them" You've put it so much better than I did  | |||
"Hi sexy mates I was wondering if it really s possible just to have sex as in the physical act without any feelings for the other person. I am concerned as I went to a swinger club ( Vanilla alternative ) and altjough I got busy quickly. I found myself kissing and really feeling something. I was also then interacting with other couples that made I feel special rather than an act. To me I ah b wired but th sex bit s a bi product of the eet an th relationship r net reaction in he the other party. I feel like a prat for even mentioning this as I'm sure most people concentrate on a ard cok an a wet pussy only. Comments welcome Ps my feel lings my expan why I never get meets of course I should concentrate on the act only maybe as obviously I'm oing something wrong or maybe I'm on he wrong site. Xxxx Depends what you mean by feelings? I cant do clinical sex, if im having sex with someone i need to have a connection to make it feel good Thats not to be mistaken for falling for someone tho, all because sex feel special does not mean im falling in love with them" Well put! Sex without feelings of attraction can be done but it's rubbish and it's hard to even be turned on by it. When we define attractiveness, personality is the thing that attracts me more than the physical things but that isn't the same thing as the emotional attachment of a real couple. Swinging buddies are for the weekend, your wife is for life  | |||
"Hi sexy mates I was wondering if it really s possible just to have sex as in the physical act without any feelings for the other person. I am concerned as I went to a swinger club ( Vanilla alternative ) and altjough I got busy quickly. I found myself kissing and really feeling something. I was also then interacting with other couples that made I feel special rather than an act. To me I ah b wired but th sex bit s a bi product of the eet an th relationship r net reaction in he the other party. I feel like a prat for even mentioning this as I'm sure most people concentrate on a ard cok an a wet pussy only. Comments welcome Ps my feel lings my expan why I never get meets of course I should concentrate on the act only maybe as obviously I'm oing something wrong or maybe I'm on he wrong site. Xxxx" It's a piece of piss for me, I don't have any feelings full stop!  | |||
"It's very easy to have sex with no feelings for the other person. I can enjoy the sex act and not fancy the guy at all. It's people who put all the emphasis on feelings. Sex is there to be enjoyed. " Couldnt just shag anyone there has to be at least some sort of attraction be it physical or mental we arent looking fpr relationships but couldnt just have sex with someone who doesnt at least make us twitch | |||
"Hi sexy mates I was wondering if it really s possible just to have sex as in the physical act without any feelings for the other person. I am concerned as I went to a swinger club ( Vanilla alternative ) and altjough I got busy quickly. I found myself kissing and really feeling something. I was also then interacting with other couples that made I feel special rather than an act. To me I ah b wired but th sex bit s a bi product of the eet an th relationship r net reaction in he the other party. I feel like a prat for even mentioning this as I'm sure most people concentrate on a ard cok an a wet pussy only. Comments welcome Ps my feel lings my expan why I never get meets of course I should concentrate on the act only maybe as obviously I'm oing something wrong or maybe I'm on he wrong site. Xxxx Depends what you mean by feelings? I cant do clinical sex, if im having sex with someone i need to have a connection to make it feel good Thats not to be mistaken for falling for someone tho, all because sex feel special does not mean im falling in love with them" This! | |||
While we love the company of others and class some people we've met as friends there has never been any emotional compromise. It is what it is - damn good fun!! So enjoy it!! 
D&K | |||
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 ) Days and weeks of continual text messages which culminated in us inviting them to visit (different excuses every time) and then him asking the mrs to meet him and possibly his mrs on her own! He also got very pissy if we had meets with others!
It felt like a good kick in the teeth as we had paid half their travel expenses (a whole 10 quid LOL) provided food and drink for a whole weekend (takeaways) So for a weekend of fun their outlay was £10! He expected me to pay for mrs to visit them and cover any expenses too as they are broke!
Our last contact with them was a text slanging match because i told them to Fook off as we only play as a couple, incidently their profile said the same! So i assume csome people find it hard to seperate having fun from relationships!
In essense after more no shows and a couple of bad experiences it has almost put us off meeting, Mrs has even suggested using escorts for fun! At least you know they'll turn up and not want emotional involvement!
Our 2 bobs worth rant over, I'm stepping off the soap box now! | |||
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"Hi sexy mates I was wondering if it really s possible just to have sex as in the physical act without any feelings for the other person. I am concerned as I went to a swinger club ( Vanilla alternative ) and altjough I got busy quickly. I found myself kissing and really feeling something. I was also then interacting with other couples that made I feel special rather than an act. To me I ah b wired but th sex bit s a bi product of the eet an th relationship r net reaction in he the other party. I feel like a prat for even mentioning this as I'm sure most people concentrate on a ard cok an a wet pussy only. Comments welcome Ps my feel lings my expan why I never get meets of course I should concentrate on the act only maybe as obviously I'm oing something wrong or maybe I'm on he wrong site. Xxxx" Some can have no feelings at all but in general I think you have to have the 'like' feeling. If you are talking emotional attachment then yes its not that hard but we are a couple and so not looking to have any deep emotional attachments to people. | |||
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"Sex with / without feelings. Humans have feelings, it's just that the emotions we experience, and how we interpret them, can all be different, person to person. Some are phased by somethings happening, whilst others would hardly notice a thing. There are some people who often get involved romantically at the drop of a hat, and this can bring pain as well as pleasure for them. Learning how to understand yourself, including your emotions, is an aspect of wisdom/intelligence, in my book. Learning how to manage your emotional state - and I don't mean being cold and calcuating, nor ignoring your feelings - is a great tool for us as adults. Children will cry, get elated, hurt etc, with little control, but adults usually temper things, as well as seek out appropriate partners to develop mutually sympathetic emotional connections with. If one person kind of feels over-lovey, and the other doesn't, then it can be something that pushes one of them away. So, it's probably more natural for you, the poster, to seek out partners where you can feel connected, but to sustain emotions there that are intimate, passionate but not the first springs of romantic/love connections. This could partly help you, as well as your partners get more out of the sex that you're having. If these emotions have any message within them, such as wanting a more meaningful partnership, then listen, as if we ignore our own needs often, they likely won't just vanish away. Good luck!" Eloquently put but there are also some of us who don't have feelings in any shape or form, so couldn't give a flying fuck about any of that clap trap  | |||
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