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over a year ago
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100% agree.
I had a discussion at work once and was alarmed to hear people that I know have cheated saying how disgusting swinging was. Some people have some very odd views. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We'd never meet a married person. Just asking for trouble especially if they are local. We've had a few meets planned then they admit they are married and we cancel the meet immediately. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We despise cheating. We would never play with someone if their other half wasn’t aware. Any other couples play by the same rules?"
why just couples or are all singles men and women cheating in your world.
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"We despise cheating. We would never play with someone if their other half wasn’t aware. Any other couples play by the same rules?why just couples or are all singles men and women cheating in your world."
Might have something to do with the fact that we’re a couple and would like other couples outlooks on this?  |
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"I meant that if you invited another person to play, would they have to be single or would you play regardless without their other halves knowledge?"
We would play with a single someone from couple, BUT we would want to confirm with the other person that they knew and were OK with it.
We actually ended up meeting someone, found out they were part of a couple, but their partner wouldn't/couldn't confirm they were aware and consenting, so no further meets.
It's all about consent and being ethical for us
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If they have no respect for their own partner then they aren't going to have any for a randomer they hope to meet on here.
Plenty say that they have their reasons, excuses and sob stories but how do you know it isn't complete bullshit. If they are capable of lying and going behind their partners back, then they are more than capable of lying to members on here.
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"Does that rule apply at clubs too and if so, how can you guarantee not meeting with married males or females?"
It's a really good question and one that's not easy to answer.
Bottom line is, I suppose, that you can't guarantee but you can minimise the risk. I suppose even meeting couples there is no guarantee that both are cheating |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We despise cheating. We would never play with someone if their other half wasn’t aware. Any other couples play by the same rules?"
100% with this!!! It’s also something we cant accept or tolerate. Honesty from first contact is a must. |
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Ok fair enough im a cheater who has gone through the guilt stage. I certainly dont recommendit but situations CAN be different .You may say break up with your partner ,come clean if you want that lifestyle ....really lose your home kids income...really
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soo sorry ill live with being scum. |
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we only meet as a couple.
No secrets, no lies, no hiding things, no manipulating...
we both had it done to us with other partners and know how it feels so it's the rules of our open relationship to be honest and respectful at all times.
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"Ok fair enough im a cheater who has gone through the guilt stage. I certainly dont recommendit but situations CAN be different .You may say break up with your partner ,come clean if you want that lifestyle ....really lose your home kids income...really
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soo sorry ill live with being scum."
But you could potentially ruin your kids lives or they could end up hating you if you were to get caught. Is that really worth the risk just to get your willy wet? |
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"We despise cheating. We would never play with someone if their other half wasn’t aware. Any other couples play by the same rules?"
We understand everyone has their own circumstances and reasons for being here but we choose not to participate in anyone else's deciet or drama  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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we meet as a couple and as singles and still No secrets, no lies, no hiding things, no manipulating everyything we do is about us even when we meet alone..
when we got into this lifestyle we were very much the we are not meeting cheaters but as we found out as the years went by its impossible to know people lie / hide things when they want something... take a club setting in 28 years we've never heard anyone ask anyone if they are married ... the same goes for dogging you never hear anyone say are you married and the same goes for most arranged meets via fab...
you will never spot them all and if you've been on the scene a fair while you will 100% of met a cheater..
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
Yep, on our couple profile we've had fbs message and it's become clear one or both is married.
We would never knowingly meet anyone playing away, not when it could cause someone pain. There are plenty of actual couples and singles on fab. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We despise cheating. We would never play with someone if their other half wasn’t aware. Any other couples play by the same rules?"
Do you speak with their other half to confirm they’re aware? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We are very choosy who we play with. We have put on our profile clear statements regarding this "
Do you talk to the partners personally to make sure they know about it? |
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Absolutely, L created my own singles profile, even offering to speak with interested parties to prove I was not cheating and it was leggit.
Other than that I once won at snakes and ladders by going up a snake. |
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"We are very choosy who we play with. We have put on our profile clear statements regarding this
Do you talk to the partners personally to make sure they know about it?"
When we are messaged by people saying their other half is OK with it we always ask for her phone number but have never received one. |
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GCHQ must be overloaded with all the virtue signals emanating from this thread.
I’ve got no time to police how others conduct their relationships. I kind of operate a don’t ask, don’t tell policy, when it comes to the private lives of others.
However, given that as one ‘them black folks’ I tend to get most interest from Cuck/Hotwives/BBC lovers. Accordingly. it’s a bit of a moot point, as they are couples who both seem to indulge in the fetish. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We believe swinging is all about trust. We wouldn’t want anything to do with a cheating partner. Usually it’s easy to spot someone who’s cheating on here but almost impossible to do it in a club. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"GCHQ must be overloaded with all the virtue signals emanating from this thread.
I’ve got no time to police how others conduct their relationships. I kind of operate a don’t ask, don’t tell policy, when it comes to the private lives of others.
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Exactly this, their private life is their own personal business. Do I agree with cheating? No. Would I ever do it personally? No. But I'm not going to bat anyone who does with a moral stick especially when you have no idea what is going on in their lives. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Until you have walked in there shoes. It's best not to judge. I would meet a married female . 
That’s because you have no morals. Deplorable behaviour "
Some people think swinging is cheating and that Swingers have no morals.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok fair enough im a cheater who has gone through the guilt stage. I certainly dont recommendit but situations CAN be different .You may say break up with your partner ,come clean if you want that lifestyle ....really lose your home kids income...really
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soo sorry ill live with being scum."
There are reasons for doing everything. I met people when I was married; and without his knowledge, but it was a marriage in name only. We had separate rooms and lived like housemates.
Not everyone has a perfect marriage or partnership with intimacy. My only hope is that if you have someone else, you'll be honest about it with me. Let me make my own decision as to whether I want to meet you. I know that lots of singles on here won't actually be single, but we'll probably never know the truth over who is and who isn't. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"GCHQ must be overloaded with all the virtue signals emanating from this thread.
I’ve got no time to police how others conduct their relationships. I kind of operate a don’t ask, don’t tell policy, when it comes to the private lives of others.
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This.
It’s really easy to judge, but you don’t know peoples stories. It’s rarely that simple. |
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Difficult one this, where we don’t really want to be meeting people where they are lying to their partners but the trouble is like said above you will never know how many single people are single. We also find genuinely single men are single for a reason and tend not to be what we are looking for. We tend to go with if they are a good looking fit guy then they are bound to be taken. |
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"We despise cheating. We would never play with someone if their other half wasn’t aware. Any other couples play by the same rules?"
I try not to play with those cheating but it's not always that obvious
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This is wat really pisses me off on here
The amount of liars 2timin shits on here
Shagging behind your own partners/hubbys/wives
Not giving a shit to them
Think its a buzz
One day your sins will find you out n then see who has the last laff
I will always make sure before meeting anyone they tell me the truth first
Either if they are single then great
But if they have a partner
Why are they on here
Especially when they say THE PARTNER DOESNT KNOW THEY ARE ON HERE
Just think of the result one day
If u just unexpedidly get cought out
Wat do u say to ur partner thrn
Hope u all feel guilty shits
If i was gonva shag a married felka or who had a gf i wuld make sure they have clarified it first with the partner
If not
FUCK OFF
Surelybif your swinging on here with someone
If they have a partner should they not know before had
I can see i am gonba be starting to block a lot of peopke on here soin
HONESTY IS THE BEST POLICY IN MY EYES
Think of it outside the box from here
If you were already in a relationship
Then one of u went out sat night kopped off with someone
Went back theirs n fucked them
Come hone all lovely dovey to ur partner
But they found out u had fucked someone behind their back
Wat are the consewuences
A) they kick u out the house if u live together
B) u have kids together
- they find out out wat u did behind their bsck
Then stop u seein ur kids
Wat do u do then
Go grovellin them back
I dont think do
Ur on ur own then
Either if ur lookin at shaggin behind ur partners backs
Is is cos ur sex life is shit with them
If so
Fuck them off on mutual grounds
THEN YOU CAN GO N FUCK WHO U WANT
Or try n sort it out
I will await to receive some msgs of your views
But remember
YOUR SINS WILL FIND YOU ALL OUT ONE DAY
Trust ur instincts
I know i deffo do
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This is wat really pisses me off on here
The amount of liars 2timin shits on here
Shagging behind your own partners/hubbys/wives
Not giving a shit to them
Think its a buzz
One day your sins will find you out n then see who has the last laff
I will always make sure before meeting anyone they tell me the truth first
Either if they are single then great
But if they have a partner
Why are they on here
Especially when they say THE PARTNER DOESNT KNOW THEY ARE ON HERE
Just think of the result one day
If u just unexpedidly get cought out
Wat do u say to ur partner thrn
Hope u all feel guilty shits
If i was gonva shag a married felka or who had a gf i wuld make sure they have clarified it first with the partner
If not
FUCK OFF
Surelybif your swinging on here with someone
If they have a partner should they not know before had
I can see i am gonba be starting to block a lot of peopke on here soin
HONESTY IS THE BEST POLICY IN MY EYES
Think of it outside the box from here
If you were already in a relationship
Then one of u went out sat night kopped off with someone
Went back theirs n fucked them
Come hone all lovely dovey to ur partner
But they found out u had fucked someone behind their back
Wat are the consewuences
A) they kick u out the house if u live together
B) u have kids together
- they find out out wat u did behind their bsck
Then stop u seein ur kids
Wat do u do then
Go grovellin them back
I dont think do
Ur on ur own then
Either if ur lookin at shaggin behind ur partners backs
Is is cos ur sex life is shit with them
If so
Fuck them off on mutual grounds
THEN YOU CAN GO N FUCK WHO U WANT
Or try n sort it out
I will await to receive some msgs of your views
But remember
YOUR SINS WILL FIND YOU ALL OUT ONE DAY
Trust ur instincts
I know i deffo do
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Was a rant really necessary? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This is wat really pisses me off on here
The amount of liars 2timin shits on here
Shagging behind your own partners/hubbys/wives
Not giving a shit to them
Think its a buzz
One day your sins will find you out n then see who has the last laff
I will always make sure before meeting anyone they tell me the truth first
Either if they are single then great
But if they have a partner
Why are they on here
Especially when they say THE PARTNER DOESNT KNOW THEY ARE ON HERE
Just think of the result one day
If u just unexpedidly get cought out
Wat do u say to ur partner thrn
Hope u all feel guilty shits
If i was gonva shag a married felka or who had a gf i wuld make sure they have clarified it first with the partner
If not
FUCK OFF
Surelybif your swinging on here with someone
If they have a partner should they not know before had
I can see i am gonba be starting to block a lot of peopke on here soin
HONESTY IS THE BEST POLICY IN MY EYES
Think of it outside the box from here
If you were already in a relationship
Then one of u went out sat night kopped off with someone
Went back theirs n fucked them
Come hone all lovely dovey to ur partner
But they found out u had fucked someone behind their back
Wat are the consewuences
A) they kick u out the house if u live together
B) u have kids together
- they find out out wat u did behind their bsck
Then stop u seein ur kids
Wat do u do then
Go grovellin them back
I dont think do
Ur on ur own then
Either if ur lookin at shaggin behind ur partners backs
Is is cos ur sex life is shit with them
If so
Fuck them off on mutual grounds
THEN YOU CAN GO N FUCK WHO U WANT
Or try n sort it out
I will await to receive some msgs of your views
But remember
YOUR SINS WILL FIND YOU ALL OUT ONE DAY
Trust ur instincts
I know i deffo do
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We disagree with cheating but that’s all a bit much. Technically we’re all sinners here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This is wat really pisses me off on here
The amount of liars 2timin shits on here
Shagging behind your own partners/hubbys/wives
Not giving a shit to them
Think its a buzz
One day your sins will find you out n then see who has the last laff
I will always make sure before meeting anyone they tell me the truth first
Either if they are single then great
But if they have a partner
Why are they on here
Especially when they say THE PARTNER DOESNT KNOW THEY ARE ON HERE
Just think of the result one day
If u just unexpedidly get cought out
Wat do u say to ur partner thrn
Hope u all feel guilty shits
If i was gonva shag a married felka or who had a gf i wuld make sure they have clarified it first with the partner
If not
FUCK OFF
Surelybif your swinging on here with someone
If they have a partner should they not know before had
I can see i am gonba be starting to block a lot of peopke on here soin
HONESTY IS THE BEST POLICY IN MY EYES
Think of it outside the box from here
If you were already in a relationship
Then one of u went out sat night kopped off with someone
Went back theirs n fucked them
Come hone all lovely dovey to ur partner
But they found out u had fucked someone behind their back
Wat are the consewuences
A) they kick u out the house if u live together
B) u have kids together
- they find out out wat u did behind their bsck
Then stop u seein ur kids
Wat do u do then
Go grovellin them back
I dont think do
Ur on ur own then
Either if ur lookin at shaggin behind ur partners backs
Is is cos ur sex life is shit with them
If so
Fuck them off on mutual grounds
THEN YOU CAN GO N FUCK WHO U WANT
Or try n sort it out
I will await to receive some msgs of your views
But remember
YOUR SINS WILL FIND YOU ALL OUT ONE DAY
Trust ur instincts
I know i deffo do
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Wow, you must be perfect in every way and must’ve never made a mistake to be able to be so judgmental and critical of others.
I assume by ‘your sins will find you all out one day’ you mean that all cheaters will go to hell....if that’s the case hell will be a very crowded place.
You’re obviously a religious person as you describe cheating as a ‘sin’ but you seem to have forgotten that religion teaches people to be forgiving, tolerant, understanding, empathetic, nonjudgmental etc....I haven’t read the bible from cover to cover but I’m pretty sure there’s nothing in it that says we should criticise, judge and condemn anyone who sins in any way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you’re talking to someone who’s in a relationship and that person tells you their other half knows they’re on here and is ok with it, do you automatically believe them?
The only reason I can think that anyone would admit that they’re cheating on their partner is because it turns them on to say that (a bit of a role play I guess). Otherwise, surely it’s best to just lie and say they’re either single or their partner is ok with it. I’m assuming that as they’re prepared to cheat on their partner then they’re prepared to lie to the person they’re cheating with. |
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"If they have no respect for their own partner then they aren't going to have any for a randomer they hope to meet on here.
Plenty say that they have their reasons, excuses and sob stories but how do you know it isn't complete bullshit. If they are capable of lying and going behind their partners back, then they are more than capable of lying to members on here.
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Sadly all too true. There are plenty on here who won’t even admit to having partners and will continue to cheat and deceive behind their backs without a care in the world about the consequences or the hurt they are causing  |
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"100% agree.
I had a discussion at work once and was alarmed to hear people that I know have cheated saying how disgusting swinging was. Some people have some very odd views.
Such an oxymoron!!!"
Such an ‘oriblemoron!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We despise cheating. We would never play with someone if their other half wasn’t aware. Any other couples play by the same rules?"
Lots just lie about not cheating. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would just be thankful to have the chance to be a cheater…. It’s not like having a single male profile on here makes any woman in a 100 mile radius want to jump into bed with you! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Cheating is bad, of course, but until I’ve walked in someone’s shoes and know their full details of their personal situation and what had compelled them to cheat it’s difficult to paint a broad brush of condemnation.
One thing my many years on Fab on various accounts has shown me is that often the most vocal “anti-cheaters” in public in the forums are the biggest hypocrites when it comes to their private behaviour.
Read into that what you want … 
And often there’s also a discrepancy between cheating men and cheating women when it comes to who people will accept to join them in a raunchy threesome …
However I fully respect peoples choice to avoid cheaters, and the moral and ethical reasons for doing so. If you are playing away, it’s only fair to disclose upfront so people can make a fully informed choice if they want to meet. |
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"We despise cheating. We would never play with someone if their other half wasn’t aware. Any other couples play by the same rules?"
I don’t care if they are married and their husband/partner doesn’t know. I’m only for a good time and not a long time! |
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We have had loads of messages from couple profiles where it's only the guy meeting at the moment, we do message back but would ask speak to the female via a phone call before any actual meets took place |
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"We despise cheating. We would never play with someone if their other half wasn’t aware. Any other couples play by the same rules?"
I try and avoid cheats don’t like the way they treat their partner and don’t expect any respect for me from them |
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"Interesting. I do wonder how people who say this play with people in clubs. You can't know people's true circumstances."
It’s true you can’t but when you chat first and build a rapport you can get a sense about what they can give and if it’s enough for you xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We despise cheating. We would never play with someone if their other half wasn’t aware. Any other couples play by the same rules?
I don’t care if they are married and their husband/partner doesn’t know. I’m only for a good time and not a long time! "
This is a sensible view tbh.
How can anyone be so sure especially in clubs when it can just happen! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Interesting. I do wonder how people who say this play with people in clubs. You can't know people's true circumstances.
It’s true you can’t but when you chat first and build a rapport you can get a sense about what they can give and if it’s enough for you xx"
But in a club sometimes not much chat happens before play takes part. |
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"Interesting. I do wonder how people who say this play with people in clubs. You can't know people's true circumstances.
It’s true you can’t but when you chat first and build a rapport you can get a sense about what they can give and if it’s enough for you xx
But in a club sometimes not much chat happens before play takes part. "
Well it depends on how you play and sometimes it’s just an extra cock and you don’t talk so it’s okay if he’s cheating as there is no drama |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We despise cheating. We would never play with someone if their other half wasn’t aware. Any other couples play by the same rules?
I don’t care if they are married and their husband/partner doesn’t know. I’m only for a good time and not a long time! "
I suppose people have different definitions of a good time. |
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As someone mentioned earlier on this thread ...if they manage to lie to their wife's they can find a way lying to anyone on here and also someone else mentioned about single guys from clubs ! The club doesn't ask them if they are married or not when they sign up and this policy "not going/playing with married guys' it's out of your hands! You can only reduce the chances but at the end you are still not 100% sure unless you know him very well ! |
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