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Anxious for getting my first blowjob from a guy as I'm straight
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Looking at your photos, you will have no problem getting a guy to suck your cock. You might even feel that you wanted to return the compliment.
Don't fall into the trap of thinking that sucking a cock makes you gay. Labels only serve to constrain what one does, just enjoy it, it's sex, nice and simple! |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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Denial is an awful thing.
Sucking a guys cock doesn’t make you gay or bisexual, it just confirms that you always were.
Straight means not having an attraction to or sexual desire for a member of your own gender. |
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"Denial is an awful thing.
Sucking a guys cock doesn’t make you gay or bisexual, it just confirms that you always were.
Straight means not having an attraction to or sexual desire for a member of your own gender. "
Both are just labels that society imposes and are irrelevant. If a guy prefers women, has no sense of sexual attraction or desire to have any sexual contact with another man, so be it; it doesn't need a label. That attraction itself will be subdivided into what sort of woman he likes, what's things they like; where do the labels stop?
It's just sex and fun,enjoy it not box oneself in! |
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As others have said lose the labels and you will find things so much easier
It then becomes down to two consenting adults having fun with each other, and its between you and them if thats fun with a male or a female, who cares so long as your having fun.
You may also possibly find the guy sucks you much better than youve been sucked by women |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anxious about my first blowjob from a guy, as I'm pretty sure I'm straight. Don't want to tell me gf, just want to see how it goes."
Great stuff. Shame you aren't nearer lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just enjoy it, a BJ is a BJ at the end of the day, just take it as someone wanting to give you pleasure, shut your eyes and imagine it's someone you really fancy, or don't, whatever, neithe5 makes you gay or bi (not that thats a bad thing) |
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If labels are unimportant why do so many bi guys continue to claim they are straight.
If they are so unimportant why do straight guys never casually and carelessly label themselves bi.
If they are so unimportant why is it almost always bi guys who make this argument.
Sorry op but I hope this doesn't come as too much of a shock but at the very least you are bi curious.
There is nothing remotely wrong with that badge but own it and wear it with pride. That's much more deserving of respect. |
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( Denial is an awful thing.
Sucking a guys cock doesn’t make you gay or bisexual, it just confirms that you always were.
Straight means not having an attraction to or sexual desire for a member of your own gender.)
Silly comment. Yes, those of us that like to suck cocks are not 100% straight i guess, but there is a massive leap from cock sucking to kissing a man or taking one in the arse! Maybe others are like me; I like cocks either watching them use my wife or sucking them myself, but i do not find men at all attractive and would vomit if one tried to kiss me! |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"If labels are unimportant why do so many bi guys continue to claim they are straight.
If they are so unimportant why do straight guys never casually and carelessly label themselves bi.
If they are so unimportant why is it almost always bi guys who make this argument.
Sorry op but I hope this doesn't come as too much of a shock but at the very least you are bi curious.
There is nothing remotely wrong with that badge but own it and wear it with pride. That's much more deserving of respect."
I agree completely.
The argument that ‘labels don’t matter’ always seems to come from guys that are desperate to cling to the straight label.
Being bisexual is great |
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"If labels are unimportant why do so many bi guys continue to claim they are straight.
If they are so unimportant why do straight guys never casually and carelessly label themselves bi.
If they are so unimportant why is it almost always bi guys who make this argument.
Sorry op but I hope this doesn't come as too much of a shock but at the very least you are bi curious.
There is nothing remotely wrong with that badge but own it and wear it with pride. That's much more deserving of respect.
I agree completely.
The argument that ‘labels don’t matter’ always seems to come from guys that are desperate to cling to the straight label.
Being bisexual is great"
"Labels don't matter", I just like sex and as far as I'm concerned it's the attractiveness, both physical and personality, of the person not their gender that matters.
Brendan Behan the playwrite once asked as to his sexuality rejoined if it was an attractive woman or an attractive man guess who he would chose.
Labels can actually be damaging when self ascribed due to social labelling in the case of people still at the exploring stage and getting type cast. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Fascinating what people tell themselves and how they judge things. Absolutely labels make no difference and serve no purpose to anyone other than the person being labelled.
Do what makes you happy with whoever makes you happy as long as you aren’t hurting anyone but trying to convince yourself you’re something you aren’t can’t really do you any good in the long run and can only lead to unnecessary shame so best just to accept you’re you and you’re happy and not worry too much more about it than that I reckon |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"( Denial is an awful thing.
Sucking a guys cock doesn’t make you gay or bisexual, it just confirms that you always were.
Straight means not having an attraction to or sexual desire for a member of your own gender.)
Silly comment. Yes, those of us that like to suck cocks are not 100% straight i guess, but there is a massive leap from cock sucking to kissing a man or taking one in the arse! Maybe others are like me; I like cocks either watching them use my wife or sucking them myself, but i do not find men at all attractive and would vomit if one tried to kiss me!"
What's silly about it? It doesn't seem silly to suppose that if you're a man who happily sucks a cock, that you have some attraction to men? Or do you separate the genitalia or the action from the person? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Isn't participating in any form of sexual act with a.n.other cheating? Regardless of their sex 
You may be in the wrong place!  "
No she isn’t. Swinging isn’t about cheating.
Op, I think you’re taking a huge risk, and being very unfair to your gf, and communication is the way forward.
That aside, who cares, is you enjoying it it, go for it. |
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over a year ago
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"Isn't participating in any form of sexual act with a.n.other cheating? Regardless of their sex
You may be in the wrong place!
No she isn’t. Swinging isn’t about cheating.
Op, I think you’re taking a huge risk, and being very unfair to your gf, and communication is the way forward.
That aside, who cares, is you enjoying it it, go for it. "
*if you enjoy it |
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I've played with a lady for a few months now and it's developed into a Mistress/Sub relationship.
I've never been attracted to guys,
but Mistress wants to challenge my limits, as do I, so we're currently on the look out for bi couples, preferably also in a Domme/Sub relationship, where Mistress can watch me play with a guy, with her possibly joining in.
Whether I enjoy the experience remains to be seen. If I do, does that make me bi? Who cares!?
I'm not interested in labels, I'm interested in experiences. If I don't like it, at least I'll know.
If I find I do like it a whole new world opens up for me.
At the very least I'll be challenging myself and pleasing Mistress. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If labels are unimportant why do so many bi guys continue to claim they are straight.
If they are so unimportant why do straight guys never casually and carelessly label themselves bi.
If they are so unimportant why is it almost always bi guys who make this argument.
Sorry op but I hope this doesn't come as too much of a shock but at the very least you are bi curious.
There is nothing remotely wrong with that badge but own it and wear it with pride. That's much more deserving of respect."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’d love to suck your big, sexy cock. I don’t live too far from you either.
Maybe it would help ease you into it if you start by getting sucked off by men who are wearing ladies underwear....as I would if you let me suck you. |
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By *rad670Man
over a year ago
South Lakes |
My straight mind had been well and truly corrupted since joining fab, embrace every new experience that presents itself and see how it goes. Good oral is good oral whatever mouth is around you I suppose. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just enjoy it OP, don't over think it.
Doesn't mean you will suddenly fancy guy's, and so what if you do?!
Just imagine it's your favourite football player lol
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The only part of a male I find attractive is the cock, and only if it’s big. I’ve been this way for most of my adult life, but only a couple of years ago I sucked one, and another, and so on. And it’s cool. Makes for a great MMF. And now after that, I’m still the same….only into the cock zone.
So happy days.
OP…..it’s a short life mate. Why not give it all a go! |
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If you're interested try it (life is short and all love is good!), but what worries me is you say you don't want to tell your girlfriend. Why not? That seems like a potential rock in the road of your relationship - not that you want to try things, but that you can't talk about it. Worried that'll come back to bite one or the other of you. Be open. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Was in the same boat myself so went to a club on bi night.
Got invited to play with a few people, of which a few were women and some men. Had no issues when I moved my head from between a young ladies thighs and saw one of the guys taking me in his mouth.
Have played in that dynamic a few times since and must say thoroughly enjoy a mfm meet where both half's of a couple are happy to share me between both their mouths, it really is something to enjoy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you're interested try it (life is short and all love is good!), but what worries me is you say you don't want to tell your girlfriend. Why not? That seems like a potential rock in the road of your relationship - not that you want to try things, but that you can't talk about it. Worried that'll come back to bite one or the other of you. Be open. "
I guess it depends how important loyalty and monogamy is to his girlfriend. If she wants him to be completely faithful to her then it’s probably not a good idea to tell her that he wants to suck men’s dicks. I agree that it’s good to be open and honest in a relationship but if she is like that then the truth would probably end the relationship anyway.
Personally, if I was in a relationship with someone who wants me to be monogamous then I wouldn’t do anything behind her back so I’m never in a position where I need to lie or hide the truth but if OP’s girlfriend wants him to be faithful but he’s going with other people then it’s best that he hides it from her and lies about what he’s doing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Man to man - I’m a straight guy and I have never had any thoughts about doing anything with another man. In fact, the thought revolts me which makes me pretty sure that I’m straight.
However, if you’re curious about something, then try it if you feel comfortable doing so. You never know, it might just bring something out that’s never been uncovered in you. And if you find your gf attractive and you love her then there’s no reason that it should come between you both. Although I’d recommend speaking to her about it if she’s open to that sort of thing. And if she’s not then - well it’s up to you where you go from there  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Poor girlfriend "
You can’t say that without knowing anything about his girlfriend or the dynamic of their relationship. Maybe she will love her boyfriend receiving blow jobs from men and will be happy that he’s going to try it.
You’re assuming that she wants her boyfriend to be loyal and faithful and that she won’t like the idea of men sucking his cock. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Poor girlfriend
You can’t say that without knowing anything about his girlfriend or the dynamic of their relationship. Maybe she will love her boyfriend receiving blow jobs from men and will be happy that he’s going to try it.
You’re assuming that she wants her boyfriend to be loyal and faithful and that she won’t like the idea of men sucking his cock. "
It's reasonable to assume that a woman doesn't want her boyfriend to cheat or to put her at risk of an STI. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Interesting comments on here. From being a bi to openly gay guy, if he wants to experiment why not. I understand about being open and honest, but maybe he is unable to. Maybe he just wants to try but loves his gf and scared it will end if he tells her.
If he has nothing to loose and not that fussed about it ending then be open..however any decent female should be understanding and respectful, however it seems females can do as they please without having the male consent...I see lot of females on here be very negative towards males wanting to try but find it acceptable to do as they please. Double standards. Happy Friday. Be respectful, be happy, be supportive, be honest. It will get people far in life..
*All of the above are my own opinion*
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"Interesting comments on here. From being a bi to openly gay guy, if he wants to experiment why not. I understand about being open and honest, but maybe he is unable to. Maybe he just wants to try but loves his gf and scared it will end if he tells her.
If he has nothing to loose and not that fussed about it ending then be open..however any decent female should be understanding and respectful, however it seems females can do as they please without having the male consent...I see lot of females on here be very negative towards males wanting to try but find it acceptable to do as they please. Double standards. Happy Friday. Be respectful, be happy, be supportive, be honest. It will get people far in life..
*All of the above are my own opinion*
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I don't see women being negative about experimentation or sexuality? It's the lack of honesty that is the issue. Why are you accusing women of double standards? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Anxious about my first blowjob from a guy, as I'm pretty sure I'm straight. Don't want to tell me gf, just want to see how it goes."
tell your GF, she'll love it |
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
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"If labels are unimportant why do so many bi guys continue to claim they are straight.
If they are so unimportant why do straight guys never casually and carelessly label themselves bi.
If they are so unimportant why is it almost always bi guys who make this argument.
Sorry op but I hope this doesn't come as too much of a shock but at the very least you are bi curious.
There is nothing remotely wrong with that badge but own it and wear it with pride. That's much more deserving of respect."
Exactly. |
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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago
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"Looking at your photos, you will have no problem getting a guy to suck your cock. You might even feel that you wanted to return the compliment.
Don't fall into the trap of thinking that sucking a cock makes you gay. Labels only serve to constrain what one does, just enjoy it, it's sex, nice and simple!"
I think you'll find the bisexual 'label' is far less constraining than the straight 'label' |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anxious about my first blowjob from a guy, as I'm pretty sure I'm straight. Don't want to tell me gf, just want to see how it goes."
If you like it, enjoy it!! Hope you have fun |
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"Anxious about my first blowjob from a guy, as I'm pretty sure I'm straight. Don't want to tell me gf, just want to see how it goes."
Your are not straight, which is fine in itself. You are a cheat though |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Anxious about my first blowjob from a guy, as I'm pretty sure I'm straight. Don't want to tell me gf, just want to see how it goes."
Fuck the labels pal. And don't feel guilty. Ul be sucking cock next. Then ul NEVER stop ! |
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"Was in the same boat myself so went to a club on bi night.
Got invited to play with a few people, of which a few were women and some men. Had no issues when I moved my head from between a young ladies thighs and saw one of the guys taking me in his mouth.
Have played in that dynamic a few times since and must say thoroughly enjoy a mfm meet where both half's of a couple are happy to share me between both their mouths, it really is something to enjoy."
This sounds like my ideal scenario |
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over a year ago
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"I don't see women being negative about experimentation or sexuality? It's the lack of honesty that is the issue. Why are you accusing women of double standards? "
Thankyou for your kind words. I stated my opinion and my observations. Thankyou again and best wishes |
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"Anxious about my first blowjob from a guy, as I'm pretty sure I'm straight. Don't want to tell me gf, just want to see how it goes."
I know what you mean as at first it made me feel very guilty, just enjoy it and accept that if you do it is just part of your sexual identity.
I wouldn't mind betting that once you've tried that a few times you will wonder how it feels to be fucked, that too is awesome when done properly. |
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"My straight mind had been well and truly corrupted since joining fab, embrace every new experience that presents itself and see how it goes. Good oral is good oral whatever mouth is around you I suppose."
I love this reply. My curiosity and the fact that Mistress has declared that it would turn her on for me to play with a guy are the motivators that will lead to it happening.
Mistress gives me the best oral I've ever had so I'll be instructed by the best.
She also deepthroats and the competitive side of me would like us to play with a really well hung guy and see who can swallow the most.
I certainly don't expect to win that competition though lol! |
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"Was in the same boat myself so went to a club on bi night.
Got invited to play with a few people, of which a few were women and some men. Had no issues when I moved my head from between a young ladies thighs and saw one of the guys taking me in his mouth.
Have played in that dynamic a few times since and must say thoroughly enjoy a mfm meet where both half's of a couple are happy to share me between both their mouths, it really is something to enjoy."
We're members of Jaydees, and if I find I like playing with guys I can see us attending their Spicy Bi Night events  |
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By *urio77Man
over a year ago
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"If labels are unimportant why do so many bi guys continue to claim they are straight.
If they are so unimportant why do straight guys never casually and carelessly label themselves bi.
If they are so unimportant why is it almost always bi guys who make this argument.
Sorry op but I hope this doesn't come as too much of a shock but at the very least you are bi curious.
There is nothing remotely wrong with that badge but own it and wear it with pride. That's much more deserving of respect.
I agree completely.
The argument that ‘labels don’t matter’ always seems to come from guys that are desperate to cling to the straight label.
Being bisexual is great
"Labels don't matter", I just like sex and as far as I'm concerned it's the attractiveness, both physical and personality, of the person not their gender that matters.
Brendan Behan the playwrite once asked as to his sexuality rejoined if it was an attractive woman or an attractive man guess who he would chose.
Labels can actually be damaging when self ascribed due to social labelling in the case of people still at the exploring stage and getting type cast."
Brendan Behan would ride them both and then go to mass haha |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
I think you class as bi curious until you try it
If you like and want more you're bi, if you don't enjoy it you've tried it.
Might help to put what you want on your profile, many might not reply to men who have straight on their profiles. |
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By *alypsoWoman
over a year ago
Hinckley |
"Anxious about my first blowjob from a guy, as I'm pretty sure I'm straight. Don't want to tell me gf, just want to see how it goes."
Well it’s just a sexual act where there are no rules and anything goes. Doesn’t make you gay. |
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By *alypsoWoman
over a year ago
Hinckley |
"As others have said lose the labels and you will find things so much easier
It then becomes down to two consenting adults having fun with each other, and its between you and them if thats fun with a male or a female, who cares so long as your having fun.
You may also possibly find the guy sucks you much better than youve been sucked by women"
I beg to differ .. haha |
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It doesn't make you gay and who cares about labels.
Some men fuck fleshlights. It doesn't make their attraction to a lump of plastic does it.
There are several men who I blow where there is nothing gay about it on their part. They are giving the sissy what they love - a gorgeous very masculine guy to please and be around. The sissy has qualities the man can enjoy too - the sissy will try to give the man the best most dedicated blowjob the man has had, learning and doing everything the man likes. The sissy will permanently be a man's cocksucker expecting nothing in return, just the hope of nice cum to swallow.
The only expectation, the only rule, is the sissy should give the man a great blowjob. We have a great bond and for them there's nothing gay about it. It is a good release for them and they feel total appreciation, dedication and gratefulness.
I think anyone would suck the dick of a gorgeous guy like you. There's plenty of it too. Nice wet sloppy blowjob, lips massaging your big bulbous bellend and slowly sliding down your thick shaft until your bellend slides down my throat. Then my tongue out licking your balls for you as your cock is in my mouth and plenty more!
You do whatever you want x |
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"If labels are unimportant why do so many bi guys continue to claim they are straight.
If they are so unimportant why do straight guys never casually and carelessly label themselves bi.
If they are so unimportant why is it almost always bi guys who make this argument.
Sorry op but I hope this doesn't come as too much of a shock but at the very least you are bi curious.
There is nothing remotely wrong with that badge but own it and wear it with pride. That's much more deserving of respect."
Unlike cheating on your girlfriend and pretending you're into swinging, obviously. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Poor girlfriend
You can’t say that without knowing anything about his girlfriend or the dynamic of their relationship. Maybe she will love her boyfriend receiving blow jobs from men and will be happy that he’s going to try it.
You’re assuming that she wants her boyfriend to be loyal and faithful and that she won’t like the idea of men sucking his cock.
It's reasonable to assume that a woman doesn't want her boyfriend to cheat or to put her at risk of an STI. "
Sorry, I was actually trying to be sarcastic but it didn’t come across very well. My first assumption would always be that a woman doesn’t want her boyfriend cheating on her. I thought that my counter argument would sound so ridiculous that it was obvious I wasn’t being serious. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Poor girlfriend
You can’t say that without knowing anything about his girlfriend or the dynamic of their relationship. Maybe she will love her boyfriend receiving blow jobs from men and will be happy that he’s going to try it.
You’re assuming that she wants her boyfriend to be loyal and faithful and that she won’t like the idea of men sucking his cock.
It's reasonable to assume that a woman doesn't want her boyfriend to cheat or to put her at risk of an STI.
Sorry, I was actually trying to be sarcastic but it didn’t come across very well. My first assumption would always be that a woman doesn’t want her boyfriend cheating on her. I thought that my counter argument would sound so ridiculous that it was obvious I wasn’t being serious."
Afraid fhe sarcasm wasn't obvious! Tbh I read so much insane drivel that I didn't even question it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m listed as bi-curious, but hate labels in general. My mantra is generally ‘if it feels good, then do it and go with the flow.’
Sexuality is a spectrum and we’re all on various parts of it. I’ve tried sucking cock many years ago and didn’t particularly enjoy it, but I wouldn’t have known I didn’t enjoy it if I’d never tried it. That said, I have no problem with a guy sucking my cock, especially in a MMF scenario as in my opinion, this is the perfect situation for me to do it. It also satisfies my assertive nature if a man is sucking my cock and then watching me pleasure his wife. I have absolutely no interest in kissing guys (again, tried it and didn’t like it) and would never be in a relationship with a guy, but different strokes for different folks.
What I’m trying to say is that you’re obviously tempted by a guy sucking your cock. From my experience, it’s better to try it and either enjoy it or not enjoy it. At least that way you’ll know.
Anyway, good luck with whatever you decide to do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Had a meeting with a guy lined up last night but got cold feet. Feel a bit of a dick about it tbh, but what I'm trying to say is it's not unusual to be anxious |
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By *1bttmMan
over a year ago
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"Half the guys I meet on grndr are "STR8"
They just like having their dicks deep throated.
Why is it you think they are actually straight?"
Maybe the ideal person here to answer yr question is the OP, who in his profile identifies as str8. If a guy comes to me saying he's str8 I don't ask for a full analysis of his sexual identity as I'm not interested. Neither do I challenge him on his own label. |
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"Half the guys I meet on grndr are "STR8"
They just like having their dicks deep throated.
Why is it you think they are actually straight?
Maybe the ideal person here to answer yr question is the OP, who in his profile identifies as str8. If a guy comes to me saying he's str8 I don't ask for a full analysis of his sexual identity as I'm not interested. Neither do I challenge him on his own label. "
In other words they pretend to be be straight and you pretend to believe them?
Pretty much sums up this conundrum. |
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By *1bttmMan
over a year ago
Shoreditch east London |
"Half the guys I meet on grndr are "STR8"
They just like having their dicks deep throated.
Why is it you think they are actually straight?
Maybe the ideal person here to answer yr question is the OP, who in his profile identifies as str8. If a guy comes to me saying he's str8 I don't ask for a full analysis of his sexual identity as I'm not interested. Neither do I challenge him on his own label.
In other words they pretend to be be straight and you pretend to believe them?
Pretty much sums up this conundrum. "
Ask the OP why he pretends to be str8, I can't answer for him.
I don't overthink or actually want to know why anyone labels/identifies themselves in certain ways. All I know and can empathise with is someone coming to terms with their sexuality. It's not always as 'black n white' as someone else's experience. I've experienced that "pretend", something I don't expect everyone to understand. We all have our own sexual awakening that's unique to us. |
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"Anxious about my first blowjob from a guy, as I'm pretty sure I'm straight. Don't want to tell me gf, just want to see how it goes."
My hubby was as straight as they come..when we first talked about swinging I asked him would you suck a cock..he replied with...I will try anything once...so joined and set up a meet with a bi guy...and once he started sucking him off he loved it..it made us both very very horny. |
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"Anxious about my first blowjob from a guy, as I'm pretty sure I'm straight. Don't want to tell me gf, just want to see how it goes.
My hubby was as straight as they come..when we first talked about swinging I asked him would you suck a cock..he replied with...I will try anything once...so joined and set up a meet with a bi guy...and once he started sucking him off he loved it..it made us both very very horny."
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"Anxious about my first blowjob from a guy, as I'm pretty sure I'm straight. Don't want to tell me gf, just want to see how it goes."
My first bj from a guy was exceptional, it was a glory hole experience and yes I’ve been back. Don’t knock it until you have tried it. |
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"Anxious about my first blowjob from a guy, as I'm pretty sure I'm straight. Don't want to tell me gf, just want to see how it goes."
Just go for it, been with my wife for years she knows that I love cock, strapon sex is mind blowing.
Just relax and enjoy your life |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm on the same boat... thinking more often about letting a guy suck me... I'm a straight have a gf but the idea of guy suck me off works for me fine so I'd like to try it too |
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"I’ve had a mmf and we both sucked each other’s cocks before fucking his wife! It was great, I’m not attracted to men and don’t consider myself as gay. "
I'm in much the same situation, love hard cocks but don't usually find their owners attractive. I do like the sex though! |
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I dont understand this hesitancy to say you're bi. It's not a 'label'.
Yes sexuality can be a spectrum but if you're a man who is open to the idea of another man sucking your cock then you're bi!
Some bi men don't like penetration, but they're still bi. |
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"Was in the same boat myself so went to a club on bi night.
Got invited to play with a few people, of which a few were women and some men. Had no issues when I moved my head from between a young ladies thighs and saw one of the guys taking me in his mouth.
Have played in that dynamic a few times since and must say thoroughly enjoy a mfm meet where both half's of a couple are happy to share me between both their mouths, it really is something to enjoy.
We're members of Jaydees, and if I find I like playing with guys I can see us attending their Spicy Bi Night events "
Well, our meet went ahead last Saturday and I sucked cock and got fucked. And I enjoyed it!
So we've arranged a meet with another guy for this Saturday and I'm hoping to be at Jaydees Bi Night in January.
So my advice for anyone tempted to try same sex fun is to try it. For me it's opened a whole new world of fun. |
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"Was in the same boat myself so went to a club on bi night.
Got invited to play with a few people, of which a few were women and some men. Had no issues when I moved my head from between a young ladies thighs and saw one of the guys taking me in his mouth.
Have played in that dynamic a few times since and must say thoroughly enjoy a mfm meet where both half's of a couple are happy to share me between both their mouths, it really is something to enjoy.
We're members of Jaydees, and if I find I like playing with guys I can see us attending their Spicy Bi Night events
Well, our meet went ahead last Saturday and I sucked cock and got fucked. And I enjoyed it!
So we've arranged a meet with another guy for this Saturday and I'm hoping to be at Jaydees Bi Night in January.
So my advice for anyone tempted to try same sex fun is to try it. For me it's opened a whole new world of fun. "
Glad to hear you enjoyed your first bi meet, I found it addictive once I'd tried it |
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"If a man's sucking your penis you aren't straight my friend. Just accept it"
In a nutshell
‘He gave me a blow job which was weird because I’m straight’
I’d reassess myself. |
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By *panddaCouple
over a year ago
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"Denial is an awful thing.
Sucking a guys cock doesn’t make you gay or bisexual, it just confirms that you always were.
Straight means not having an attraction to or sexual desire for a member of your own gender. "
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Don’t stress. Getting a blowjob from another guy is just something every straight guy has to do. |
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One of the worst BJ's ever was the one I had from a guy. Not sure if it was because I was very d*unk or just don't fancy men. Either way I'm not desperate for a repeat. |
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"One of the worst BJ's ever was the one I had from a guy. Not sure if it was because I was very d*unk or just don't fancy men. Either way I'm not desperate for a repeat. "
Short of being entirely out cold I couldn't get that d*unk. |
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"Anxious about my first blowjob from a guy, as I'm pretty sure I'm straight. Don't want to tell me gf, just want to see how it goes.
Don’t stress. Getting a blowjob from another guy is just something every straight guy has to do."
Again and again and again. Just to be sure.  |
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The weird thing about this post is that OP doesn’t explain whether he’s actually got a meet arranged with a man who will be giving him a blow job or whether it’s something he’s planning to do in the future.
I don’t really understand why he’d arrange to meet a man, or even consider it, if he’s pretty sure he’s straight and the thought of getting a blow job off a man makes him feel anxious. It’s normal to feel nervous before a meet but feeling anxious is a different matter all together. People normally get anxious if they are about to do, or thinking about doing, something they really don’t want to do and they know they won’t enjoy doing it. Feeling nervous is normally a sign of being excited about something and wanting it to go well because it means a lot to you, you get nervous thinking about how it could go wrong and how upset you’d be if it does. I try to avoid doing things that make me feel anxious but embrace things that make me feel nervous. |
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"Anxious about my first blowjob from a guy, as I'm pretty sure I'm straight. Don't want to tell me gf, just want to see how it goes.
Don’t stress. Getting a blowjob from another guy is just something every straight guy has to do."
I presume this is meant ironically? |
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"Anxious about my first blowjob from a guy, as I'm pretty sure I'm straight. Don't want to tell me gf, just want to see how it goes.
Don’t stress. Getting a blowjob from another guy is just something every straight guy has to do.
I presume this is meant ironically?"
Don’t you know that every straight guy has to get a blow job from another guy? They don’t have a choice, they have to do it. Not many straight men like to talk about it though as they’re embarrassed so it’s not very well known. |
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"Anxious about my first blowjob from a guy, as I'm pretty sure I'm straight. Don't want to tell me gf, just want to see how it goes.
Don’t stress. Getting a blowjob from another guy is just something every straight guy has to do.
I presume this is meant ironically?
Don’t you know that every straight guy has to get a blow job from another guy? They don’t have a choice, they have to do it. Not many straight men like to talk about it though as they’re embarrassed so it’s not very well known. "
You might well be....
right.
Sorry but I was momentarily distracted by a pig flying past my window. |
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That was a joke about every straight guy having to get a blow off another guy by the way. I thought it would be obvious that I was joking but judging by a private message I’ve just received I obviously need to tell you that I was joking |
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"That was a joke about every straight guy having to get a blow off another guy by the way. I thought it would be obvious that I was joking but judging by a private message I’ve just received I obviously need to tell you that I was joking "
I was joking too. Lol
It was actually a squadron of pig's flying in close formation |
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"That was a joke about every straight guy having to get a blow off another guy by the way. I thought it would be obvious that I was joking but judging by a private message I’ve just received I obviously need to tell you that I was joking
I was joking too. Lol
It was actually a squadron of pig's flying in close formation "
Haha, I didn’t mean you, I realised you knew I was joking from your reply. Someone messaged me privately criticising me for saying it. I don’t know why he was too scared to reply in the forum... |
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"That was a joke about every straight guy having to get a blow off another guy by the way. I thought it would be obvious that I was joking but judging by a private message I’ve just received I obviously need to tell you that I was joking
I was joking too. Lol
It was actually a squadron of pig's flying in close formation
Haha, I didn’t mean you, I realised you knew I was joking from your reply. Someone messaged me privately criticising me for saying it. I don’t know why he was too scared to reply in the forum..."
Perhaps he was scared that gay is contagious. |
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"Anxious about my first blowjob from a guy, as I'm pretty sure I'm straight. Don't want to tell me gf, just want to see how it goes.
Don’t stress. Getting a blowjob from another guy is just something every straight guy has to do.
Again and again and again. Just to be sure. "
You can’t be too careful when it comes to being straight. Bisexuality can creep up on you if don’t have a bro suck it out regularly. |
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"That was a joke about every straight guy having to get a blow off another guy by the way. I thought it would be obvious that I was joking but judging by a private message I’ve just received I obviously need to tell you that I was joking
I was joking too. Lol
It was actually a squadron of pig's flying in close formation
Haha, I didn’t mean you, I realised you knew I was joking from your reply. Someone messaged me privately criticising me for saying it. I don’t know why he was too scared to reply in the forum...
Perhaps he was scared that gay is contagious."
Well if it is then he’s definitely caught it off me by sending me a private message. I might message him back privately to really give him a good blast of gay |
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"Anxious about my first blowjob from a guy, as I'm pretty sure I'm straight. Don't want to tell me gf, just want to see how it goes.
Don’t stress. Getting a blowjob from another guy is just something every straight guy has to do.
Again and again and again. Just to be sure.
You can’t be too careful when it comes to being straight. Bisexuality can creep up on you if don’t have a bro suck it out regularly."
I’m bisexual and I’ve never creeped up on a straight man, I always wait for them to come to me. |
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"All these straight men getting offers from other men to suck their dick. Where are my offers from other women to eat my pussy hahaha?? "
Haha that made me laugh lol I'm sure there must be loads of women who would love to eat your pussy! If u can't find any u can sit on my face anytime you want lol
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"Anxious about my first blowjob from a guy, as I'm pretty sure I'm straight. Don't want to tell me gf, just want to see how it goes.
Don’t stress. Getting a blowjob from another guy is just something every straight guy has to do.
Again and again and again. Just to be sure.
You can’t be too careful when it comes to being straight. Bisexuality can creep up on you if don’t have a bro suck it out regularly."
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"All these straight men getting offers from other men to suck their dick. Where are my offers from other women to eat my pussy hahaha?? "
Oh, straight women spontaneously lick one another’s pussies all the time. Usually in gym locker rooms, unless Pornhub has been lying to me all these years. |
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"All these straight men getting offers from other men to suck their dick. Where are my offers from other women to eat my pussy hahaha??
Oh, straight women spontaneously lick one another’s pussies all the time. Usually in gym locker rooms, unless Pornhub has been lying to me all these years."
Brilliant. Lol |
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"Anxious about my first blowjob from a guy, as I'm pretty sure I'm straight. Don't want to tell me gf, just want to see how it goes.
Don’t stress. Getting a blowjob from another guy is just something every straight guy has to do.
Again and again and again. Just to be sure.
You can’t be too careful when it comes to being straight. Bisexuality can creep up on you if don’t have a bro suck it out regularly."
Haha it just cums up |
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"All these straight men getting offers from other men to suck their dick. Where are my offers from other women to eat my pussy hahaha??
Oh, straight women spontaneously lick one another’s pussies all the time. Usually in gym locker rooms, unless Pornhub has been lying to me all these years."
Hahaha!! I'm off to the gym  |
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"All these straight men getting offers from other men to suck their dick. Where are my offers from other women to eat my pussy hahaha??
Oh, straight women spontaneously lick one another’s pussies all the time. Usually in gym locker rooms, unless Pornhub has been lying to me all these years.
Hahaha!! I'm off to the gym "
On the way, watch out for the road works filled with Road construction operatives who look like fashion models in I’ll-fitting PPE. If their radio starts playing bow chica bow wow music, run. Or don’t |
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"Anxious about my first blowjob from a guy, as I'm pretty sure I'm straight. Don't want to tell me gf, just want to see how it goes."
Mate. If you’re wanting your penis sucked by another man, you ain’t straight. Ok. |
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"Anxious about my first blowjob from a guy, as I'm pretty sure I'm straight. Don't want to tell me gf, just want to see how it goes.
Mate. If you’re wanting your penis sucked by another man, you ain’t straight. Ok. "
Joking aside, it’s called the Kinsey _Scale_ for a reason. |
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By *ugs12Man
over a year ago
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"Anxious about my first blowjob from a guy, as I'm pretty sure I'm straight. Don't want to tell me gf, just want to see how it goes.
Great stuff. Shame you aren't nearer lol"
Shame your not closer to me lol |
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"All these straight men getting offers from other men to suck their dick. Where are my offers from other women to eat my pussy hahaha??
Oh, straight women spontaneously lick one another’s pussies all the time. Usually in gym locker rooms, unless Pornhub has been lying to me all these years.
Hahaha!! I'm off to the gym
On the way, watch out for the road works filled with Road construction operatives who look like fashion models in I’ll-fitting PPE. If their radio starts playing bow chica bow wow music, run. Or don’t "
I didn't even make it out the door! A shirtless plumber with a big tool belt knocked at my door and needed to inspect my plumbing!! What are the odds!! |
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"All these straight men getting offers from other men to suck their dick. Where are my offers from other women to eat my pussy hahaha??
Hello!!! J x x "
Hello!!! |
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"Denial is an awful thing.
Sucking a guys cock doesn’t make you gay or bisexual, it just confirms that you always were.
Straight means not having an attraction to or sexual desire for a member of your own gender. "
Insecurity and spite is an awful thing too. No need to project yours onto others. |
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"All these straight men getting offers from other men to suck their dick. Where are my offers from other women to eat my pussy hahaha??
Oh, straight women spontaneously lick one another’s pussies all the time. Usually in gym locker rooms, unless Pornhub has been lying to me all these years.
Hahaha!! I'm off to the gym
On the way, watch out for the road works filled with Road construction operatives who look like fashion models in I’ll-fitting PPE. If their radio starts playing bow chica bow wow music, run. Or don’t
I didn't even make it out the door! A shirtless plumber with a big tool belt knocked at my door and needed to inspect my plumbing!! What are the odds!! "
You should have held out for a pizza delivery boy. That way you would get a free meal, in addition to your plumbing unblocked. |
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"If labels are unimportant why do so many bi guys continue to claim they are straight.
If they are so unimportant why do straight guys never casually and carelessly label themselves bi.
If they are so unimportant why is it almost always bi guys who make this argument.
Sorry op but I hope this doesn't come as too much of a shock but at the very least you are bi curious.
There is nothing remotely wrong with that badge but own it and wear it with pride. That's much more deserving of respect.
I agree completely.
The argument that ‘labels don’t matter’ always seems to come from guys that are desperate to cling to the straight label.
Being bisexual is great
"Labels don't matter", I just like sex and as far as I'm concerned it's the attractiveness, both physical and personality, of the person not their gender that matters.
Brendan Behan the playwrite once asked as to his sexuality rejoined if it was an attractive woman or an attractive man guess who he would chose.
Labels can actually be damaging when self ascribed due to social labelling in the case of people still at the exploring stage and getting type cast."
That last post should have read 'an unattractive woman.
Either a typo or auto-correct. |
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I’ve had BJs off guys in 2 occasions and both were amazing!!!
I’m now very curious about sucking cock myself…in fact I’d love to try it!
Just go for it mate |
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"Denial is an awful thing.
Sucking a guys cock doesn’t make you gay or bisexual, it just confirms that you always were.
Straight means not having an attraction to or sexual desire for a member of your own gender.
Insecurity and spite is an awful thing too. No need to project yours onto others."
I am struggling to understand what's spiteful here? Clearly it's an opinion different from yours but that's all. |
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"Denial is an awful thing.
Sucking a guys cock doesn’t make you gay or bisexual, it just confirms that you always were.
Straight means not having an attraction to or sexual desire for a member of your own gender.
Insecurity and spite is an awful thing too. No need to project yours onto others.
I am struggling to understand what's spiteful here? Clearly it's an opinion different from yours but that's all. "
Being spiteful - trying to bring someone down, and embarrass, criticise or shame them.
Claiming someone is “in denial” and that it’s an “awful thing” simply for being curious is not a normal response. I bet he wouldn’t dare say that to a woman who expressed similar thoughts.
He should have just minded his own business and moved on instead of bringing negative energy to try and make the guy feel bad. |
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"Looking at your photos, you will have no problem getting a guy to suck your cock. You might even feel that you wanted to return the compliment.
Don't fall into the trap of thinking that sucking a cock makes you gay. Labels only serve to constrain what one does, just enjoy it, it's sex, nice and simple!"
There are no photos |
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"Anxious about my first blowjob from a guy, as I'm pretty sure I'm straight. Don't want to tell me gf, just want to see how it goes."
Let's get one thing correct, you are NOT "Straight"! |
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By *apxxxWoman
over a year ago
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"Anxious about my first blowjob from a guy, as I'm pretty sure I'm straight. Don't want to tell me gf, just want to see how it goes."
I got news for you...that straight thing you're on about...rethink because it's not you my sweet |
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"Had a meeting with a guy lined up last night but got cold feet. Feel a bit of a dick about it tbh, but what I'm trying to say is it's not unusual to be anxious"
I hope that you did at least get in touch with him and say that you wouldn't be meeting rather than just not turning up, which is what all too many do! |
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What happened to this forum rule being enforced?
“No nit-picking please
Unless someone specifically asks for their profile to be critiqued or if it's relevant to the thread…. We want the forum to be open and friendly to newbies and everyone starts somewhere.”
How is any open minded person meant to enjoy themselves when every time a person posts that they’re curious, they get bombarded with people telling them they’re gay or bi. |
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over a year ago
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"What happened to this forum rule being enforced?
“No nit-picking please
Unless someone specifically asks for their profile to be critiqued or if it's relevant to the thread…. We want the forum to be open and friendly to newbies and everyone starts somewhere.”
How is any open minded person meant to enjoy themselves when every time a person posts that they’re curious, they get bombarded with people telling them they’re gay or bi."
The op labelled himself!...a few of us relabelled him...I don't see where its not being open and friendly. |
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. But the minute I dress up I’m bi so what I’m saying is ..,, if it feels right just go for it .., life is short .., enjoy 
