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"Feels like I need to change something if I want any luck " Try having a nice big smile on your profile pic….. may help??? | |||
"Feels like I need to change something if I want any luck " Your profile is sparse to say the least. Men far outnumber women, so your profile needs to make any woman who looks at it want to get to know you. Think of your profile as your shop window. As it stands, I know it's telling me nothing more than your basic bio. | |||
Does your window dressing entice them it...to want to see more?? | |||
"Feels like I need to change something if I want any luck Your profile is sparse to say the least. Men far outnumber women, so your profile needs to make any woman who looks at it want to get to know you. Think of your profile as your shop window. As it stands, I know it's telling me nothing more than your basic bio." I've been looking at it like the first message is enough but I see your right, my only issue is I don't want to bore people with my life story | |||
"Think of your profile as a shop window (we all know how much women like to shop)
Does your window dressing entice them it...to want to see more??"What sort of things would you expect to see in this window? | |||
"Think of your profile as a shop window (we all know how much women like to shop)
Does your window dressing entice them it...to want to see more??
What sort of things would you expect to see in this window?"Pics that leave something to the imagination...open shirt, unbuttoned trousers etc...teasing shots x | |||
"Feels like I need to change something if I want any luck Your profile is sparse to say the least. Men far outnumber women, so your profile needs to make any woman who looks at it want to get to know you. Think of your profile as your shop window. As it stands, I know it's telling me nothing more than your basic bio. I've been looking at it like the first message is enough but I see your right, my only issue is I don't want to bore people with my life story " Many people check out the profile before opening, or deciding whether to open the message | |||
 . There are lots of good pointers. Put yourself in the shoes of someone who could be looking for a single man and what they'd like to know. Plus what will get you to stand out from others.
Likewise pics - they have to feel attracted to you and thus need to see the physical form that they may shag with. | |||
"Think of your profile as a shop window (we all know how much women like to shop)
Does your window dressing entice them it...to want to see more??
What sort of things would you expect to see in this window?
Pics that leave something to the imagination...open shirt, unbuttoned trousers etc...teasing shots x"Thanks, I'll definitely make some changes like this | |||
"Feels like I need to change something if I want any luck Your profile is sparse to say the least. Men far outnumber women, so your profile needs to make any woman who looks at it want to get to know you. Think of your profile as your shop window. As it stands, I know it's telling me nothing more than your basic bio. I've been looking at it like the first message is enough but I see your right, my only issue is I don't want to bore people with my life story Many people check out the profile before opening, or deciding whether to open the message" So I'm more likely to attract woman than bore them if my profiles longer? | |||
"Read a few of the posts from single men who have been given advice on their profiles. . There are lots of good pointers. Put yourself in the shoes of someone who could be looking for a single man and what they'd like to know. Plus what will get you to stand out from others.
Likewise pics - they have to feel attracted to you and thus need to see the physical form that they may shag with. "I didn't think of it this way, thanks for making me realise it | |||
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"What do people do who have a physical disability/ impairment that’s led to a change to their body? Doesn’t change who they are as a person but so many people on here are more interested in the cover of the book than the pages on the inside." Accept that some people are just looking for some additional fun, and as such their preferences may mean they will over look those people who don’t fit their fantasy. Try not to let it define who you are. Show people that you can live a full and exciting life. Get out to clubs and events so people can see how it does or doesn't affect you, but always remember no one owes you anything. Lastly if you are looking for a relationship, you may have better luck on other sites. | |||
"So I've been on here a couple months now and like many single men it's not the easiest for me but I can't tell if I'm doing something wrong or if my profile is the problem. Do people have any advice? " Hello OP Firstly, you will need to accept some facts. Some people on here will have zero interest in meeting with you simply because of your age. Others will be rude to you because they are dismissive of your right to meet your way. Don't get into arguements over it; the world has changed and how people meet today is different to how it was 10 years ago, let alone 30 or 40. There is nothing you can do about your age, so don't fret. You shouldn't look on it as a negative, because for some potential meets your age is a selling point. Concentrate on finding the people that would like to meet a young man like you. Refine your search by ticking the "I must match their age requirements too" box. Also refine your search by age, distance etc. There is no point contacting people hundreds of miles away given your travel restrictions. Once you have those search results READ their profiles. It's such basic advice but so few follow it. Don't bother messaging those whose profile you don't meet. If it says they are looking for something that doesn't match who you are then that's not you so don't waste your time or theirs. Consider how you approach people, don't just write 'Hi', 'Fancy a chat' or any other generic one liner, It WILL get you ignored. Messaging like that doesn't work on Fab like it does with instant messaging services. Can you imagine writing Hi, waiting three days and then getting a msg back saying hi, to which you reply how are you and have to wait another three or four days for a reply? If you followed the advice above and read the persons profile then there should be some common ground to write about. Never be so crude as to send messages like 'Hey im free monday. Wanna come to my place and let me use that pussy?' You wouldn't say that sort of thing in person, so don't say it online. Now, providing you have sent a message that will entice them to look further they will 99% of the time look at your profile before responding. So now you have to sell yourself. Why do you think people should be interested in meeting with you? Write something about you, what you have to offer, what your limits are etc. Basically - make people interested in you. As a single guy you are already fighting an uphill battle; as a young guy too your battle isn't uphill, its practically up a cliff! That doesn't mean you won't have any luck, but you really need your profile to make the best possible first impression. Dick pics are not the way to promote yourself, especially not as a profile pic if your trying to show your maturity. Everyone knows what a dick looks like, and believe it or not very few people actually want to look at row upon row of cocks when they look at a profile page. Your probably better off to leave your dick pics in your private file, if someone really wants to see it they will ask. Smiling face pics are invaluable. Next time it's a lovely day, get out and take some selfies somewhere nice and somewhere local, sometimes the location of the pic could be a starting point to a conversation. Maybe the Fred Dibnah statue, the Town Hall, Queens Park, or any other local landmark would be a good backdrop. However your profile is not everything. Getting involved with the forums and the chatroom are both great ways of getting to know people with no pressure and no first time nerves. Rather than relying on a message, show your maturity and join in conversations, you never know someone might take an interest and take it further. Finally, Get off the site and meet people socially or try a club. You could always sign up to an organised social, where you may meet many people from the area, and perhaps make a better impression face to face than via the Internet. It might be a little nerve wracking the first time, but what harm can having a coffee or a pint with a stranger really do? Some will give you a chance, some won't, but we wish you luck | |||
