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Honesty - Are some bi guys straight?

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Confused Marge here. Came across a TV on fab who classes herself as Gay. At least 25 percent of the male verifications advertise themselves as straight (and theres a lot of them). Is there a lack of honesty here or have they made a mistake on their details? We do not see bi guys. It does not bother me but it bothers hubby. Now when I see straight, I just dont know if I believe it or not. Also, why would guys do this.

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By *innamon!Woman over a year ago

no matter

definitely a lack of honesty .. they dont know themselves half the time..

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By *it of fun cplCouple over a year ago

village between York and Hull

A lot of people are put off by Bi Guys so guys tend to put straight. Just because someone is bi it does not mean they are going to pounce on the fella in a MMF situation although some guys think that is what will happen if they meet a bi guy.

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By *lgernonMan over a year ago

cupar

I dont think its a lack of honesty. I think a lot of guys think that jumping on the happy flower bus of freeform gender and sexual identity will make them somehow less worthy. Ironic imo.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A lot of people are put off by Bi Guys so guys tend to put straight. Just because someone is bi it does not mean they are going to pounce on the fella in a MMF situation although some guys think that is what will happen if they meet a bi guy."

hit the nail on the head most guys won't put bi as it scares straight cpls away for some reason

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I can understand what everyone is talking about. Hubby has a couple of friends (one passed away recently) who are/were gay and he is quite happy with the friendship, going for a beer etc. He has an aversion to the sexual side of things. After seeing this lady/TV's page this morning, it has rather annoyed/upset me to think that although we advertise that we dont see bi guys on our page. We may be seeing one who is declaring himself straight and being dishonest about it. I can see that I am going to have to do further checks using the search facility for future meetings. I really think certain alleged straight guys should be more truthful.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes, cos during the meet he will probably ignore you completely and try and have sex with your husband. These gayers can't help themselves, if they see a willy they have to have it. They often jump through all the hoops it takes to meet a couple just so they can get to touch the guys willy. If there were more single guys on here then they wouldn't have to prey on couples.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Yes, cos during the meet he will probably ignore you completely and try and have sex with your husband. These gayers can't help themselves, if they see a willy they have to have it. They often jump through all the hoops it takes to meet a couple just so they can get to touch the guys willy. If there were more single guys on here then they wouldn't have to prey on couples.

I like the tongue in cheek lol but thats not what I am trying to say as you can obviously read what I have stated. Its got nothing to do with "bi bashing". Its just a matter of honesty.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i dont knw i been away poorly for last week and bit; came back to same question posed many a time..

Sadly Bi men dont like coming of the closet for fear of missing out of female sex scene -- cynical i know; but sadly true

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Thanks for taking it in the spirit it was intended!

Just to clarify that some tv's, those who think of themselves as transgendered, often put gay to mean that they like women.

Just trying to help.

And a previous poster was correct, a huuuge amount of bi men put straight on here as it puts the majority of people off meeting.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I will never understand what it is that people dont like about bi guys.....they dont look different or act different and youd never know they were bi unless they told you.

I can understand not wanting to meet black guys or Asian or other colours or fat or skinny guys as thats a visual preference and you may not like what you see...... its s bit like saying you wont meet Christians or Protistants

So cmon inform us as to what it is you dont like about them as its nothing visual

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Again and this is just my experience. I would never mail a straight couple who say no bi men but if they don't state that I will give it a shot as I love women however the amount of abuse some of these people send back is amazing if a guys straight fine I'm not going to rape him and would be happy to just play with the female. So if most other bi guys get the same treatment then no wonder they say they are straight

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By *ishopstippleMan over a year ago

Purley

I put optional bi on my profile because that what i am.

If the male in the couple isnt bi then im not going want to do anything with/to him. If he is bi and I fancy him I will ask if he wants to play too. Simples

So why do so many block/reject bi's its an honest option to most. Not gay with hetro tendancies which seems to be the imterpretation.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I will never understand what it is that people dont like about bi guys.....they dont look different or act different and youd never know they were bi unless they told you.

So cmon inform us as to what it is you dont like about them as its nothing visual

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Thought I said he just had an aversion to the sexual side of things. The thought of two men having sex together, just does not feel right for him. (Im trying to be polite here lol)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I will never understand what it is that people dont like about bi guys.....they dont look different or act different and youd never know they were bi unless they told you.

So cmon inform us as to what it is you dont like about them as its nothing visual

Thought I said he just had an aversion to the sexual side of things. The thought of two men having sex together, just does not feel right for him. (Im trying to be polite here lol)"

I know this will not come across well but I don't understand how that prevents you meeting bi guys as they wouldn't be having sex with him if he is straight.

also does the same apply to women who like to meet bi guys as well as they would be directly involved in man on man as well ?

not a dig just curious

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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Ha ha ha

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't care who knows about my sexuality on here, at least I'm being honest by saying I'm bisexual, not just Straight. At the end of the day why lie in the first place, you're only cheating yourself!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There are many many straight guys on fab who like having their cocks sucked by a guy but won't suck another guys. Suppose a bj is a bj to many straight guys as its quicker and easier than meeting single ladies.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I will never understand what it is that people dont like about bi guys.....they dont look different or act different and youd never know they were bi unless they told you.

So cmon inform us as to what it is you dont like about them as its nothing visual

Thought I said he just had an aversion to the sexual side of things. The thought of two men having sex together, just does not feel right for him. (Im trying to be polite here lol)

I know this will not come across well but I don't understand how that prevents you meeting bi guys as they wouldn't be having sex with him if he is straight.

also does the same apply to women who like to meet bi guys as well as they would be directly involved in man on man as well ?

not a dig just curious"
I cannot tell you what goes on inside my husbands head but If I am going to have sex with a guy who is bi. It would turn him off completely. It just does not do it for him, probably because he knows that the guy has been with another guy. Other than that I cannot help you any further. Its all about choices and its best to have an honest choice than a dishonest one

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By *amBiUKMan over a year ago

Plymouth

I've noticed this too I've had couples contact me knowing I'm bi and wanting a bi guy to join them and in looking at their profile the male status is straight

If you want bi fun be open n say your bi I prefer girls but I like cock too and love to join couples yes I'm bi and I enjoy it

Come on guys be open n honest it gets you more meets

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

Also, you can think of Tpeople as like a third sex, until they've completed full reassignment, when they may then use a label such as male or female, if they wish to.

If someone, male or female has some form of sexual contact with the same sex, let alone Tgendered, just once, and they may never do it again, is it justification to change their public labeling?

Back to T's - if for example,someone has breasts, looks and feels like a woman, is almost there, and a guy enjoys the breasts, should his sexuality be questioned by others?

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

maybe just meet the ones who declare on their profiles:

am 10000% straight

am straighter than a roman road

am not into guys ever

gay bi guys stay away

there are a good few to choose from

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I will never understand what it is that people dont like about bi guys.....they dont look different or act different and youd never know they were bi unless they told you.

So cmon inform us as to what it is you dont like about them as its nothing visual

Thought I said he just had an aversion to the sexual side of things. The thought of two men having sex together, just does not feel right for him. (Im trying to be polite here lol)

I know this will not come across well but I don't understand how that prevents you meeting bi guys as they wouldn't be having sex with him if he is straight.

also does the same apply to women who like to meet bi guys as well as they would be directly involved in man on man as well ?

not a dig just curiousI cannot tell you what goes on inside my husbands head but If I am going to have sex with a guy who is bi. It would turn him off completely. It just does not do it for him, probably because he knows that the guy has been with another guy. Other than that I cannot help you any further. Its all about choices and its best to have an honest choice than a dishonest one "

So for hubby it must be a mental thing then or do straight guys play with you in a different way to bi guys?

So if he watched you play with a "straight" guy and enjoyed the experience but then the next day you told him "oh by the way, that guy was actually bi" would he then find it disgusting??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In essence, yes people lie about their sexuality! And some lie about other things, age, that they smoke etc etc.

Should they, no probably not, but sorry to say, its the attitude of people like your husband that breeds this behaviour!

And lets be honest, just because someone is bi doesn't mean they would jump on your husband!

I have met couples where the husband is straight and respect this and resist sucking their cock, despite how thick juicy and suckable it may look! Throbbing in front of me just asking to be lick and sucked! oops got distracted there!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I will never understand what it is that people dont like about bi guys.....they dont look different or act different and youd never know they were bi unless they told you.

So cmon inform us as to what it is you dont like about them as its nothing visual

Thought I said he just had an aversion to the sexual side of things. The thought of two men having sex together, just does not feel right for him. (Im trying to be polite here lol)

I know this will not come across well but I don't understand how that prevents you meeting bi guys as they wouldn't be having sex with him if he is straight.

also does the same apply to women who like to meet bi guys as well as they would be directly involved in man on man as well ?

So for hubby it must be a mental thing then or do straight guys play with you in a different way to bi guys?

So if he watched you play with a "straight" guy and enjoyed the experience but then the next day you told him "oh by the way, that guy was actually bi" would he then find it disgusting??

I have never knowingly played with a bi guy and yes, hubby would be disgusted, if we found out later that he was bi. When I first started the topic the idea was just basically to have a discussion on, first of all honesty/dishonesty and secondly why certain bi guy's declare themselves straight yet are quite clearly bi and being dishonest to themselves and others. I did not realise this was going on till earlier today. Now I am extremely hesitant about trusting guys who declare themselves straight on here. Does anyone feel the same about this or are we just oddballs lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"In essence, yes people lie about their sexuality! And some lie about other things, age, that they smoke etc etc.

Should they, no probably not, but sorry to say, its the attitude of people like your husband that breeds this behaviour!

And lets be honest, just because someone is bi doesn't mean they would jump on your husband!

"
If you read all of what i have written here you will find absolutely nothing about my husband hating gay people or bi people. My husband does not have an attitude problem with this. This is purely a sexual thing that goes on inside his head and if he does have an aversion to two guys having sex or a bi guy having sex with me. Are you saying he is not allowed to have that aversion. All the topic does is question certain peoples honesty so dont try to turn it on its head and blame my husbands attitude

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There is lots of dishonesty going on and its not just focused to single males!

So within your play does hubby purely watch?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"There is lots of dishonesty going on and its not just focused to single males!

So within your play does hubby purely watch?"

yes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To op. It's already been answered that guys lie as there are many couples that won't meet bi guys.

Now your reason is same as we had a few years back. Master was totally adverse to it. But we realised that it's not really different. And to be honest did realise that in some ways it was a sexual form of phobia.

As our play progressed we ditched this and many other aversions. Like there was a time that master wouldn't kiss me after Id been covered with cum. Not even his. Now well totally different.

However whatever the op reasons they can say no bi. But I'd say over half the straight guys I've met are bi.

Cali

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There is lots of dishonesty going on and its not just focused to single males!

So within your play does hubby purely watch?

yes"

So where is the issue as to whether the guy is bi or straight if he is only playing with you?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

humm must admit getting irratated as to the problem he has as may i ask what the .... has it got to do hubby who a single guy has or has not been with before !! its not like your vowing in to a 3 way mariage ! as long as the guy is clean (sti free) polite and treats with respect then his past is his surly .... or am i being funny ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

When we started swinging I was just like your husband - no way would we meet bi guys - different now - and without the phobia I feel liberated . My wife loves watching gay men perform and I am happy for her to see it and although I don't get involved , I respect her desire to do so !

And as other posters have said - couples in particular who state the guy us bi get fewer meets !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's the idea that he has been with a guy. I understand as I used to have the same aversion as did my master.

I couldn't stop thinking that what if he had been with a guy etc etc. If I knew it turned me right off. Also wrongly or rightly as I only like dominant guys I found that I found that I couldn't see bi guys as dominant.

Our _iews over time have changed and now of feel a little silly for our _iews. But at the time they were important to us. And knowingly having a bi guy turned us both off.

Cali

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

bugger as if bing single guy on here is hard enough will get a C.V and some reffrences done to

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By *radleyandRavenCouple over a year ago

Herts

See, we have the opposite issue. - Trying to find bi guys and then get get inundated with messages from guys who have actually got "straight" on their profile.

I know a lot of guys say that they don't openly state that they are bi to avoid being harassed by loads of other guys, but then we can't help but think "Is he just CLAIMING" to be bi now to get to me?" (Amy).

Taking the thread back on track though, I don't know why anybody would choose to lie about their age, sexuality, presonal habits or preferences ect. - By doing that, you could be putting off people who think you are exactly what they're looking for!

- Amy. x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"See, we have the opposite issue. - Trying to find bi guys and then get get inundated with messages from guys who have actually got "straight" on their profile.

- Amy. x"

Well do come and say hi then you two if you seek bi males hehe

I do know what you mean though, its like straight singles going to a bi night lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"When we started swinging I was just like your husband - no way would we meet bi guys - different now - and without the phobia I feel liberated . My wife loves watching gay men perform and I am happy for her to see it and although I don't get involved , I respect her desire to do so !

And as other posters have said - couples in particular who state the guy us bi get fewer meets !"

That is refreshing to read!

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By *amBiUKMan over a year ago

Plymouth

"See, we have the opposite issue. - Trying to find bi guys and then get get inundated with messages from guys who have actually got "straight" on their profile.

- Amy. x

Well do come and say hi then you two if you seek bi males hehe

I do know what you mean though, its like straight singles going to a bi night lol

"
hi Amy well I'm a bi military guy I'm genuine and defiantly bi and I'm in Watford a lot x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"There is lots of dishonesty going on and its not just focused to single males!

So within your play does hubby purely watch?

yes

So where is the issue as to whether the guy is bi or straight if he is only playing with you?"
So, do you actually think that I would intentionally have sex with a bi guy knowing that my hubby has an aversion to it. I dont think so.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There is lots of dishonesty going on and its not just focused to single males!

So within your play does hubby purely watch?

yes

So where is the issue as to whether the guy is bi or straight if he is only playing with you?So, do you actually think that I would intentionally have sex with a bi guy knowing that my hubby has an aversion to it. I dont think so. "

It is puzzling, could understand there being an issue if it was an active threesome but if he is just watching where is the issue?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Confused Marge here. Came across a TV on fab who classes herself as Gay. At least 25 percent of the male verifications advertise themselves as straight (and theres a lot of them). Is there a lack of honesty here or have they made a mistake on their details? We do not see bi guys. It does not bother me but it bothers hubby. Now when I see straight, I just dont know if I believe it or not. Also, why would guys do this."

We are what we are and circumstances ca bring out diferentactions, some that you would never normally do or even contemplate!

I ask though of guys that are so NO to even going near a bi guy, are they secure in their own sexuality? Is that it?

Why assume that as you are the same sex that any bi person that comes near you will fancy you?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"See, we have the opposite issue. - Trying to find bi guys and then get get inundated with messages from guys who have actually got "straight" on their profile.

- Amy. x"

I've had this problem too. A bloke claimed to be bi but when it came down to it he was just trying to get a meet with me and didn't want anything to do with my bloke.

As for the OP, I'm a bit torn on this one. I respect other people's wishes no matter what they are. If you don't want to meet a certain type of person then fair enough, that's up to you.

However I don't beieve that honesty is the best policy. I wouldn't list my entire sexual history just so that someone could pick through it and make sure I was 'ok to meet'.

I may have once had a meet with a ginger... but I'd never admit it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I may have once had a meet with a ginger... but I'd never admit it.

I had a meet with a closet ginger once

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"See, we have the opposite issue. - Trying to find bi guys and then get get inundated with messages from guys who have actually got "straight" on their profile.

- Amy. x

I've had this problem too. A bloke claimed to be bi but when it came down to it he was just trying to get a meet with me and didn't want anything to do with my bloke.

As for the OP, I'm a bit torn on this one. I respect other people's wishes no matter what they are. If you don't want to meet a certain type of person then fair enough, that's up to you.

However I don't beieve that honesty is the best policy. I wouldn't list my entire sexual history just so that someone could pick through it and make sure I was 'ok to meet'.

I may have once had a meet with a ginger... but I'd never admit it.

give them the bi test and make the guys play together first as you watch!!

If they don't play ball or with his balls then send em packing!

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By *umsuckMan over a year ago

Gateshead

"I don't care who knows about my sexuality on here, at least I'm being honest by saying I'm bisexual, not just Straight. At the end of the day why lie in the first place, you're only cheating yourself!!

Amen!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"See, we have the opposite issue. - Trying to find bi guys and then get get inundated with messages from guys who have actually got "straight" on their profile.

- Amy. x

I've had this problem too. A bloke claimed to be bi but when it came down to it he was just trying to get a meet with me and didn't want anything to do with my bloke.

As for the OP, I'm a bit torn on this one. I respect other people's wishes no matter what they are. If you don't want to meet a certain type of person then fair enough, that's up to you.

However I don't beieve that honesty is the best policy. I wouldn't list my entire sexual history just so that someone could pick through it and make sure I was 'ok to meet'.

I may have once had a meet with a ginger... but I'd never admit it.

give them the bi test and make the guys play together first as you watch!!

If they don't play ball or with his balls then send em packing!

I will do next time!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"See, we have the opposite issue. - Trying to find bi guys and then get get inundated with messages from guys who have actually got "straight" on their profile.

- Amy. x

I've had this problem too. A bloke claimed to be bi but when it came down to it he was just trying to get a meet with me and didn't want anything to do with my bloke.

As for the OP, I'm a bit torn on this one. I respect other people's wishes no matter what they are. If you don't want to meet a certain type of person then fair enough, that's up to you.

However I don't beieve that honesty is the best policy. I wouldn't list my entire sexual history just so that someone could pick through it and make sure I was 'ok to meet'.

I may have once had a meet with a ginger... but I'd never admit it.

give them the bi test and make the guys play together first as you watch!!

If they don't play ball or with his balls then send em packing!

I will do next time!

Glad to be of service x

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By *radleyandRavenCouple over a year ago

Herts

"give them the bi test and make the guys play together first as you watch!!

If they don't play ball or with his balls then send em packing!

See, we always do social meets first and we met one guy and he was still happy afterwards, saying he couldn't wait ect and he found us both very attractive, and then when we met up for a play meet he turned up on the night and suddenly decided he didn't want Vincent anywhere near him. - And then turned sour when he was shown the door...

But that's what I mean. Why lie? Some people seem to think you'll go ahead and play anyway just because you've already put in all the effort, but really, you're only wasting our time AND your's.

- Amy x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"See, we have the opposite issue. - Trying to find bi guys and then get get inundated with messages from guys who have actually got "straight" on their profile.

- Amy. x

I've had this problem too. A bloke claimed to be bi but when it came down to it he was just trying to get a meet with me and didn't want anything to do with my bloke.

As for the OP, I'm a bit torn on this one. I respect other people's wishes no matter what they are. If you don't want to meet a certain type of person then fair enough, that's up to you.

However I don't beieve that honesty is the best policy. I wouldn't list my entire sexual history just so that someone could pick through it and make sure I was 'ok to meet'.

I may have once had a meet with a ginger... but I'd never admit it.

give them the bi test and make the guys play together first as you watch!!

If they don't play ball or with his balls then send em packing!

That's what we do...especially with the ones who have straight on their profile but claim to be Bi...

It's not like we spring it on them, we give them full warning that this is the way we play first time and that Bangers is not guaranteed to join in, it sorts out the wannabes...

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"I will never understand what it is that people dont like about bi guys.....they dont look different or act different and youd never know they were bi unless they told you.

So cmon inform us as to what it is you dont like about them as its nothing visual

I like anal play. However, I get turned on by embarrassment factor of my playmates. I like to see them flushing red, fighting the enjoyment, especially when tied up.

I don't get that with bi men, even orally bi men. I also can't see the flushing with black men, so for MY pleasure I play with men that meet my hedonistic pleasure.

A couple have passed through the net but as I always meet socially first...the truth will out!

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"I will never understand what it is that people dont like about bi guys.....they dont look different or act different and youd never know they were bi unless they told you.

So cmon inform us as to what it is you dont like about them as its nothing visual

Thought I said he just had an aversion to the sexual side of things. The thought of two men having sex together, just does not feel right for him. (Im trying to be polite here lol)

I know this will not come across well but I don't understand how that prevents you meeting bi guys as they wouldn't be having sex with him if he is straight.

also does the same apply to women who like to meet bi guys as well as they would be directly involved in man on man as well ?

not a dig just curious"

Whilst I've answered your question I'm curious why you don't stick to people happy to meet bi guys and not ask members to justify their preferences because it excludes you.

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"I will never understand what it is that people dont like about bi guys.....they dont look different or act different and youd never know they were bi unless they told you.

So cmon inform us as to what it is you dont like about them as its nothing visual

Thought I said he just had an aversion to the sexual side of things. The thought of two men having sex together, just does not feel right for him. (Im trying to be polite here lol)

I know this will not come across well but I don't understand how that prevents you meeting bi guys as they wouldn't be having sex with him if he is straight.

also does the same apply to women who like to meet bi guys as well as they would be directly involved in man on man as well ?

So for hubby it must be a mental thing then or do straight guys play with you in a different way to bi guys?

So if he watched you play with a "straight" guy and enjoyed the experience but then the next day you told him "oh by the way, that guy was actually bi" would he then find it disgusting??

I suppose the difference between us is I don't find bi men disgusting. On the odd occasion I watch porn it's only gay porn I enjoy.

I've stated my reason for "no bi men". I meet socially and very adept at sifting out the bi men.

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"There is lots of dishonesty going on and its not just focused to single males!

So within your play does hubby purely watch?

yes

It is puzzling, could understand there being an issue if it was an active threesome but if he is just watching where is the issue?

Why do people have to justify themselves. They are not being rude or derogatory. We will NEVER appeal to all.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yeah I lot of guys do play the bi card to get to the female half of a bi cpl. When I'm arranging a meet I always offer to meet the male half first or when we do meet start the playing with the male

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By *ishopstippleMan over a year ago

Purley

"Yeah I lot of guys do play the bi card to get to the female half of a bi cpl. When I'm arranging a meet I always offer to meet the male half first or when we do meet start the playing with the male

Yeah but I would never meet "a couple" as you on your own. There are too many "couples" out there that turn out to be single males.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Surely by default bi guys are straight? Is that what being bi is all about, that you fancy guys and gals?!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Surely by default bi guys are straight? Is that what being bi is all about, that you fancy guys and gals?! "

i love the bi guys. . .

Double the fun for everyone!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Surely by default bi guys are straight? Is that what being bi is all about, that you fancy guys and gals?!

i love the bi guys. . .

Double the fun for everyone!!"

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By *empting Devil.Woman over a year ago

Sheffield

I've had plenty of messages saying "your friend can suck my cock for a bit" thinking that will get them an invite to a threesome and to play with me

What makes me laugh is that they have put themselves on the no list when a more careful reading of my profile would show that I meet single guys! Fools!

And yes I get a fair few messages from 'straight' bi men. I can kind of understand, but when meet time can be limited I'm far less likely to say yes to someone who denies it and may turn out to just be saying it to get pussy.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sex is Sex surely its up to individuals to discuss what they are going to do sexually when they meet! I'm straight but must admit I don't mind a guy sucking my cock!! I'm sure also that there a lot of straight women who don't mind licking a pussy!!

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

" I'm straight but must admit I don't mind a guy sucking my cock!! I'm sure also that there a lot of straight women who don't mind licking a pussy!! "

As they say...each to their own

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By *empting Devil.Woman over a year ago

Sheffield

" I'm straight but must admit I don't mind a guy sucking my cock!! I'm sure also that there a lot of straight women who don't mind licking a pussy!!

I'm straight. So by definition I won't be licking any pussy.

And the flaw in your argument is that you don't suggest that they might let a woman lick there's

I have, in group situations glanced down and realised that the person licking me is female. In those circumstances I use the same criteria as when looking down to see a man I don't fancy licking me - am I enjoying it? If the answer is yes then I don't stop them.

BUT I don't arrange one on one meets with bi women if I can't find a man. I don't agree to meets with couples with a bi female and say I'll dabble just to get at him. And in group situations I will accept attentions below the neck if I am enjoying them but I will not return the favour and there will be no kissing - this holds true for men I find physically unattractive who happen to be gifted...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"See, we have the opposite issue. - Trying to find bi guys and then get get inundated with messages from guys who have actually got "straight" on their profile.

- Amy. x"

This is a similar story for us

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Sex is Sex surely its up to individuals to discuss what they are going to do sexually when they meet! I'm straight but must admit I don't mind a guy sucking my cock!! I'm sure also that there a lot of straight women who don't mind licking a pussy!! "

I suppose it depends on your individual idea's about this. I would have you down as a bi guy.

I am listed as straight because I have never had oral sex with another female and dont feel the urge to do so. If it ever happened I may feel differently.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I suppose it depends on your individual idea's about this. I would have you down as a bi guy.

I am listed as straight because I have never had oral sex with another female and dont feel the urge to do so. If it ever happened I may feel differently."

Tell me where i have this wrong but surely if you play with a guy, be that guy bi or straight, if you are just playing with him one on one while hubby watches effectively this is straight sex so where does the issue of whether they are straighty or bi come in?

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

why would a bi guy want to be with a couple knowing the husband thinks it is disgusting, even if the husband is not joining in...

why not just search for bi couples or bi tolerant straight couples

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I suppose it depends on your individual idea's about this. I would have you down as a bi guy.

I am listed as straight because I have never had oral sex with another female and dont feel the urge to do so. If it ever happened I may feel differently.

"
Im not sure what sort of answer you are looking for here. It sounds as though you are deliberately trying to provoke me into saying something derogatory about bi guys. To put things as simply as possible. If you know that your partner has a particular hang up about the sexual side of bi guys and I invited a bi guy round for sex, do you think that is acceptable behaviour for a loving partner to do. Its just not nice. You are also forgetting the start of this thread that I started. We like honest people and if we see a couple, or a single male, we expect the males to be straight and not lie about it. What else would they lie about. Do you think that a bi guy declaring himself as straight, made arrangements with me for sex, after seeing this thread. Is that acceptable behaviour, I dont think so. Its all about honesty

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I suppose it depends on your individual idea's about this. I would have you down as a bi guy.

I am listed as straight because I have never had oral sex with another female and dont feel the urge to do so. If it ever happened I may feel differently.

Im not sure what sort of answer you are looking for here. It sounds as though you are deliberately trying to provoke me into saying something derogatory about bi guys. To put things as simply as possible. If you know that your partner has a particular hang up about the sexual side of bi guys and I invited a bi guy round for sex, do you think that is acceptable behaviour for a loving partner to do. Its just not nice. You are also forgetting the start of this thread that I started. We like honest people and if we see a couple, or a single male, we expect the males to be straight and not lie about it. What else would they lie about. Do you think that a bi guy declaring himself as straight, made arrangements with me for sex, after seeing this thread. Is that acceptable behaviour, I dont think so. Its all about honesty "

well if its about honesty what is the issue with a bi guy having "straight" sex with you while hubby watches?

Do bi guys.....

look different?

Smell different?

play different?

You really make you partner sound like he has some phobia!

I'll be honest, if he was playing with you together with the other guy, perhaps there is a reason for issue as they may touch and then your husband might catch that incurable sickness called being bi!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I suppose it depends on your individual idea's about this. I would have you down as a bi guy.

I am listed as straight because I have never had oral sex with another female and dont feel the urge to do so. If it ever happened I may feel differently.

well if its about honesty what is the issue with a bi guy having "straight" sex with you while hubby watches?

Do bi guys.....

look different?

Smell different?

play different?

You really make you partner sound like he has some phobia!

I have tried to explain this to you a few times but you just dont get it. I think you must have journalistic tendencies, ie you dont answer my questions and if the answer I give you is not what is expected by you, you go at it from a different angle. The words educating pork come to mind lol. If I explain to you yet again, perhaps a little stronger this time so that it might actually get through. He abhor's the thought of two males having sex with each other. Now, listen carefully to this bit. It has absolutely nothing to do with hatred against bi guys or gay guys (the person). Only the thought of them having sex. Hubby is not a clauset bi guy or gay guy. The thought of a guy having sex with me who has previously had sex with another guy is abhorrent to him. I do hope you dont find this distasteful to bi guys or gay guys. This is something that my husband does not spend a great deal of time thinking about. At least he is honest about it. No my husband does not have a phobia. You want him to have a phobia. Both of us do not have to justify ourselves or my hubby's behavious to anyone. You have not answered previous questions I have asked you but just answer this. Would you rather meet an honest person or a dishonest person. Thats more than I can say about the bi guys who are declaring themselves straight. Its nice to see bi guys declaring themselves bi

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You are evidently struggling with this!

You stated hubby watches! Fact

So if YOU are playing with a guy where does it come into the equation and matter if the guy is bi or straight? It is a male and a female having sex that is straight sex! pure and simple!

Where is the issue about if the guy is bi elsewhere? You can deny it all you like but there are evidently issues there and I think it is you two that need to have some honesty!

So with that in mind why not be honest as to why there is such an issue for you to have straight sex with a guy who may have sucked some cock!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I reckon it's a bumsex issue, but it doesn't matter what the gender is in bumsex... both feel the same don't they

Wolf

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By *TR8HUNTERMan over a year ago

London

im gay and i love str8 cock lol

msg me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You are evidently struggling with this!

You stated hubby watches! Fact

So if YOU are playing with a guy where does it come into the equation and matter if the guy is bi or straight? It is a male and a female having sex that is straight sex! pure and simple!

Where is the issue about if the guy is bi elsewhere? You can deny it all you like but there are evidently issues there and I think it is you two that need to have some honesty!

So with that in mind why not be honest as to why there is such an issue for you to have straight sex with a guy who may have sucked some cock!"

I go back to a previous comment I made if its just the male watching is he repulsed by the female after as she will have sucked the guys cock too

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"You are evidently struggling with this!

You stated hubby watches! Fact

So if YOU are playing with a guy where does it come into the equation and matter if the guy is bi or straight? It is a male and a female having sex that is straight sex! pure and simple!

Where is the issue about if the guy is bi elsewhere? You can deny it all you like but there are evidently issues there and I think it is you two that need to have some honesty!

So with that in mind why not be honest as to why there is such an issue for you to have straight sex with a guy who may have sucked some cock!"

I really did have you down as an intelligent guy. If my hubby finds the thought of two guys having sex abhorrent and he also finds the thought of a bi guy having sex with me abhorrent (because the guy has been with another guy). I do not struggle with this at all. You are the one that is trying to dictate how we should react to bi guys. By the way you still never answered my question.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I realise that everyone has a choice who they meet, but seeing as many guys have straight on their profile despite sometimes playing bi then the chances are that many guys we meet have played with other men despite saying otherwise. Personally I have no issue with that as to me bi men are a huge turn on, but I realise others don't feel the same.

I have to say I find the use of the word abhorrent quite strong..just because something is not for you does not make it an abomination !!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

sorry what is your question? it seems to have got lost!

Back to the bi guy issue, from what you are saying then, hubby finds it disgusting, but why? it is straight sex!!!

Or is it that he thinks all us bi folk are diseased

so what happens if you have sex with a guy and then he tells you after he is bi? does hubby bath you in bleach?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not aimed at anyone. An observation for the people say because of having another man's cock in their mouth. That rules our many women here too!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"sorry what is your question? it seems to have got lost!

Back to the bi guy issue, from what you are saying then, hubby finds it disgusting, but why? it is straight sex!!!

Or is it that he thinks all us bi folk are diseased

so what happens if you have sex with a guy and then he tells you after he is bi? does hubby bath you in bleach?

"
Not happy with the answers again!, so you are upping the anti to disease now. You have already done the phobia bit. You dont have to think hubby is right or wrong. All you have to do is accept that is the way he is. We accept you, the way you are. Oh by the way the question was, "Would you rather meet someone who is honest or dishonest".

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

you aren't answering it though are you, you are dancing round the subject so you are being dishonest!

And i don't think you are accepting really, so dishonesty again!

why not get hubby to come tell all why it is disgusting to have sex with a bi guy!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"you aren't answering it though are you, you are dancing round the subject so you are being dishonest!

And i don't think you are accepting really, so dishonesty again!

why not get hubby to come tell all why it is disgusting to have sex with a bi guy! "
As I previously explained to you. He does not have to justify to you or anyone else why he feels like this but he does and it has absolutely nothing to do with you why he feels like this. I am the honest one here. You are the one who who keeps on trying to put words in our mouths and trying to up the anti to exacerbate the the thread out of all proportion. Oh by the way you still did not answer my question

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

don't want to put anything in your mouths lol

so tell me, what is the question?

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By *radleyandRavenCouple over a year ago

Herts

This thread is getting ridiculous now.

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By *radleyandRavenCouple over a year ago

Herts

margeandjohn:
""Would you rather meet someone who is honest or dishonest"."

And she is pretty much saying that hubby just doesn't get turned on knowing guys have fucked other guys. It's not disgust, fear, or hatred, the idea just doesn't float his boat. - Same as ANY other preference. Just leave it be. x

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