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By *scarpat OP Man
over a year ago
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OK so.... I got chatting to a lady, a meet was on the cards and we swapped face pics, she was just my type. So far so good. I found out I'd been in her work that day and I mentioned I'd been served by a dark haired lady who was a bit of a munter... This is where it starts to go wrong.
The blonde attractive lady I'd been chatting to was infact Mrs munter from the shop!
If she had sent me a life like picture I'd have said a very polite no thank you and no feelings would be hurt.
We all have a type so be honest with your pics and find the right person for you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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How do you know she was the lady that served you?
Did you use the word munter?
If I was chatting to a guy that refered to some women as munters I would probably block them 
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Looks arnt everything pics don't tell the whole story you can't be everybody's cup of tea there's no need for name calling im sure she was a nice person you may of had a laugh and an amazing time treat others how you'd like to be treated yourself its nice to be nice ?? |
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"Looks arnt everything pics don't tell the whole story you can't be everybody's cup of tea there's no need for name calling im sure she was a nice person you may of had a laugh and an amazing time treat others how you'd like to be treated yourself its nice to be nice ?? "
Accepted and agreed. However - if the lady in question sent a picture of someone else then she was catfishing - pure and simple - and lying about what you look like or who you are is never ok!
And can you really that you’re sure someone who catfishes others is a nice person? If she’s a catfish I’d say we can assume she’s not a nice person - because she deliberately lies and wastes people’s time!
I do believe there’s someone out there for everyone - even on fab - but you don’t find them by lying. And let’s face it - even the most unattractive (insofar as the societal norm goes) ladies on here will get meets because we’re in such high demand - so there really isn’t any reason for women to lie. |
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"She has mislead him, sure, it’s shit. He’s called (what he believed at the time to be a random lady, serving him in a shop), a munter.
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Yep - and that’s wrong. However - it’s more wrong to deliberately lie about who you are and send pictures of someone else.
I once drove over an hour to meet a guy on the fishy site. Fortunately we’d agreed to meet somewhere public - a Macdonalds for a coffee. The guy approached me and sat with me - tried to convince me he was the same guy but had shaved his head - and then confessed he’d sent pics of a friend because the friend was far more attractive. He then launched into a speech about how honest he was and how he’d treat me like a Princess. He totally creeped me out tbh. I told him it wasn’t happening and went to the car. He followed me out into the car park. I was scared to death. I dashed into the car, locked all the doors and sounded my horn when he didn’t go away. I’m only glad I had the sense to meet him in a very public place.
This woman might have ‘just’ been lying about what she looked like. She might also have been a total bunny boiler.
Yep - the op was wrong to use a derogatory word to describe her looks - but she was far more wrong IMO to lie about who she was. Maybe she’ll think twice about doing it again now she’s had her feelings hurt! |
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"She has mislead him, sure, it’s shit. He’s called (what he believed at the time to be a random lady, serving him in a shop), a munter.
Yep - and that’s wrong. However - it’s more wrong to deliberately lie about who you are and send pictures of someone else.
I once drove over an hour to meet a guy on the fishy site. Fortunately we’d agreed to meet somewhere public - a Macdonalds for a coffee. The guy approached me and sat with me - tried to convince me he was the same guy but had shaved his head - and then confessed he’d sent pics of a friend because the friend was far more attractive. He then launched into a speech about how honest he was and how he’d treat me like a Princess. He totally creeped me out tbh. I told him it wasn’t happening and went to the car. He followed me out into the car park. I was scared to death. I dashed into the car, locked all the doors and sounded my horn when he didn’t go away. I’m only glad I had the sense to meet him in a very public place.
This woman might have ‘just’ been lying about what she looked like. She might also have been a total bunny boiler.
Yep - the op was wrong to use a derogatory word to describe her looks - but she was far more wrong IMO to lie about who she was. Maybe she’ll think twice about doing it again now she’s had her feelings hurt! "
It’s horrific that you’ve been through that, of course it’s fucking awful and these people are lowest of the low.
This woman was also wrong.
What I can’t get my head around is that at the time he called the lady in the shop “a munter”, he thought he was talking about a random lady, serving people in a shop! He didn’t know that was her at that point.
That’s the point I was making. |
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"She has mislead him, sure, it’s shit. He’s called (what he believed at the time to be a random lady, serving him in a shop), a munter.
Yep - and that’s wrong. However - it’s more wrong to deliberately lie about who you are and send pictures of someone else.
I once drove over an hour to meet a guy on the fishy site. Fortunately we’d agreed to meet somewhere public - a Macdonalds for a coffee. The guy approached me and sat with me - tried to convince me he was the same guy but had shaved his head - and then confessed he’d sent pics of a friend because the friend was far more attractive. He then launched into a speech about how honest he was and how he’d treat me like a Princess. He totally creeped me out tbh. I told him it wasn’t happening and went to the car. He followed me out into the car park. I was scared to death. I dashed into the car, locked all the doors and sounded my horn when he didn’t go away. I’m only glad I had the sense to meet him in a very public place.
This woman might have ‘just’ been lying about what she looked like. She might also have been a total bunny boiler.
Yep - the op was wrong to use a derogatory word to describe her looks - but she was far more wrong IMO to lie about who she was. Maybe she’ll think twice about doing it again now she’s had her feelings hurt!
It’s horrific that you’ve been through that, of course it’s fucking awful and these people are lowest of the low.
This woman was also wrong.
What I can’t get my head around is that at the time he called the lady in the shop “a munter”, he thought he was talking about a random lady, serving people in a shop! He didn’t know that was her at that point.
That’s the point I was making. "
I get that - and it was definitely wrong. I interjected purely because - until I did - no-one had accepted that she’d been at any fault for being a liar - in fact the couple I first responded to said they were sure she was a lovely person! Seriously?  I just wanted to stick to the theme of the post - which I believe was about being honest about who you are and what you look like. Clearly the op hasn’t shown himself in a great light either. |
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"She had a lucky escape by the sounds of it. "
Yeah. The poor wee innocent catfishing liar.
Think it’s time I left the thread. It seems women can do no wrong on this site - even out and out liars who deliberately waste peoples time! |
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"Also if you know the person you are talking to works at the same place as the "munter", you wouldn't refer to someone's colleague like that, surely?!
There's wrong on both sides here. "
Agree absolutely. I used to work in retail. I was clean - that’s all that could be said. Glasses on, no makeup, grey roots abound with my hair scraped into a bun. I doubt I was ever the subject of any fantasies.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been catfished twice on 3 meetings on POF.
I stayed incase we got on and had a laugh.
The 1st 1 i couldn't wait to get away but was still there for an hour listening to her.
The 2nd about 2 weeks,chatted and she was easy going and had a sense of humour.
Ended up quickly going from coffee to drinks,she wasn't my time in terms of looks,but looks aren't everything.
Hence why we where out for 7 hours and i got home d*unk and alone...well a 16 inch pizza did find its way back with me ...lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OK so.... I got chatting to a lady, a meet was on the cards and we swapped face pics, she was just my type. So far so good. I found out I'd been in her work that day and I mentioned I'd been served by a dark haired lady who was a bit of a munter... This is where it starts to go wrong.
The blonde attractive lady I'd been chatting to was infact Mrs munter from the shop!
If she had sent me a life like picture I'd have said a very polite no thank you and no feelings would be hurt.
We all have a type so be honest with your pics and find the right person for you. "
Ooooh harsh,,, I hope you’ve learnt from that experience |
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"OK so.... I got chatting to a lady, a meet was on the cards and we swapped face pics, she was just my type. So far so good. I found out I'd been in her work that day and I mentioned I'd been served by a dark haired lady who was a bit of a munter... This is where it starts to go wrong.
The blonde attractive lady I'd been chatting to was infact Mrs munter from the shop!
If she had sent me a life like picture I'd have said a very polite no thank you and no feelings would be hurt.
We all have a type so be honest with your pics and find the right person for you. "
Both of you sound vile lol.
1) don’t call women your not into names for no reason and then bitch about it to other women
2) check people are legit if your actually planning to meet them
3) she’s vile for pretending to be someone else too!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"OK so.... I got chatting to a lady, a meet was on the cards and we swapped face pics, she was just my type. So far so good. I found out I'd been in her work that day and I mentioned I'd been served by a dark haired lady who was a bit of a munter... This is where it starts to go wrong.
The blonde attractive lady I'd been chatting to was infact Mrs munter from the shop!
If she had sent me a life like picture I'd have said a very polite no thank you and no feelings would be hurt.
We all have a type so be honest with your pics and find the right person for you.
Both of you sound vile lol.
1) don’t call women your not into names for no reason and then bitch about it to other women
2) check people are legit if your actually planning to meet them
3) she’s vile for pretending to be someone else too!
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She sent a picture that wasn't life like?
Was it actually of someone else? Or had she she the most flattering picture of herself?
Like when applying for a job, you show your best self. You don't reveal that you'll be hungover every morning and that you're really rather disorganised. That wouldn't be misrep.
And separately - of course you don't call someone a "munter" (a word I don't think I'd heard before), especially if they're a colleague of your new acquaintance. |
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I think people are giving the OP an unnecessarily hard time. All of us have thought people were unattractive and said it, no one is perfect. It’s not nice but I’m sure we’ve all done it. I’ve definitely used the term munter or similar to describe both men and women. I’m quite sure I’m not everyones cup of tea either and similar will have been said about me.
If the person he was referring to hadn’t have ended up being the women who deceived him about how she really looked I bet she wouldn’t have said anything about it.
Dishonesty is unacceptable in these situations. It’s not ok to be chatting to someone who has no clue what you look like because you’ve deceived them. You’re wasting everyone’s time. The women is out of order and the man was unkind. |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"She sent a picture that wasn't life like?
Was it actually of someone else? Or had she she the most flattering picture of herself?
Like when applying for a job, you show your best self. You don't reveal that you'll be hungover every morning and that you're really rather disorganised. That wouldn't be misrep.
And separately - of course you don't call someone a "munter" (a word I don't think I'd heard before), especially if they're a colleague of your new acquaintance. "
I have lots of face photos of me that look a lot different, because I change my hair colour, put on and lose weight.
I look different in make up and with my reading glasses on.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"She had a lucky escape by the sounds of it.
Yeah. The poor wee innocent catfishing liar.
Think it’s time I left the thread. It seems women can do no wrong on this site - even out and out liars who deliberately waste peoples time! "
to call someone he doesn't know a munter is a bit childish. |
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"She had a lucky escape by the sounds of it.
Yeah. The poor wee innocent catfishing liar.
Think it’s time I left the thread. It seems women can do no wrong on this site - even out and out liars who deliberately waste peoples time! to call someone he doesn't know a munter is a bit childish."
Agree absolutely. But at the time I first posted nobody even acknowledged that she’d done anything wrong - she was even referred to as a lovely lady by someone. That’s why I jumped in. I absolutely agree that calling someone a munter is unkind and wholly inappropriate. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Yeah she was in the wrong for catfishing! Not cool , not honest . It would have been an instant block for me if I found out ….. no denying she is in the wrong
But if you said to her “this other woman was a bit of a munter” I would be incredibly wary about how you think of women and the language you use towards women you don’t deem attractive
Sounds like you both had lucky escapes ! |
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I think the guy has every right to describe the lady how he likes ,
And I have my right to have my opinion that he's a twat for doing so.
As has been mentioned , if the lady's picture were merely showing herself in the best light, fair play.
I imagine the op took his dick pic at the angle to best show it off .
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By (user no longer on site)
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"OK so.... I got chatting to a lady, a meet was on the cards and we swapped face pics, she was just my type. So far so good. I found out I'd been in her work that day and I mentioned I'd been served by a dark haired lady who was a bit of a munter... This is where it starts to go wrong.
The blonde attractive lady I'd been chatting to was infact Mrs munter from the shop!
If she had sent me a life like picture I'd have said a very polite no thank you and no feelings would be hurt.
We all have a type so be honest with your pics and find the right person for you. "
That was like reading a sonnet from Shakespeare. |
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"Yeah she was in the wrong for catfishing! Not cool , not honest . It would have been an instant block for me if I found out ….. no denying she is in the wrong
But if you said to her “this other woman was a bit of a munter” I would be incredibly wary about how you think of women and the language you use towards women you don’t deem attractive
Sounds like you both had lucky escapes !"
Couldn’t agree with this more  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Sounds like she had a lucky escape; you clearly know how to impress the girls!
I can’t decide whether I’m glad men like you exist (as it gives hope for the rest of us) or sad because of the damage you do to women (and their views on men). The latter, totally, I think. How could you even have thought that this post would be well-received, or that anyone would agree with you? Really quite shocked by your attitude. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So you tried to big up the blonde by calling a potential friend a munter and it backfired lol "
Exactly, maybe it was a friend or a relative (or simply a much-liked colleague). Rude and lacking all sensitivity. Or maybe she just didn’t like a woman being called a ‘munter’? |
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