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Finding couples is so fucking hard
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Why is it so hard to find genuine couples who like another man pleasing the wife?
I had better success in the days of contact mags. Is it mainly an age thing? Is 56 really too old for most? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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because there are compared to men so few couples its that simple zillions of men vrs 100s of couples ... when you bear in mind mind most couples on fab either only play in clubs / dont play at all/ fake then its even more less % |
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"I feel for the OP but I just tend to find younger men (20s/30s) more attractive, hungrier and open-minded.
And they can keep it up without a blue pill  "
and they need less time between cumming and can actually keep up with me sometimes lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I feel for the OP but I just tend to find younger men (20s/30s) more attractive, hungrier and open-minded.
And they can keep it up without a blue pill
and they need less time between cumming and can actually keep up with me sometimes lol"
This is very true |
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There are tons of genuine couples, but matching a couple is harder than matching a single person as there are twice as many people having to be a yes.
As a couple, the sheer number of messages we get from single guys can be overwhelming to get through, the ones that stand out usually grab our attention by being interesting and personal towards both of us. One liners like, "I wan2 cum in Ur Mrs" don't go down too well lol. |
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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago
Peterborough / Stamford |
"Why is it so hard to find genuine couples who like another man pleasing the wife?
I had better success in the days of contact mags. Is it mainly an age thing? Is 56 really too old for most?"
56 is at the top end of what Char would like. She doesn't really want guys older than I am.
We can't give profile advice as you've not asked for it, but there's a couple of things there that would mean a quick delete from us, I'm afraid.
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"Why is it so hard to find genuine couples who like another man pleasing the wife?
I had better success in the days of contact mags. Is it mainly an age thing? Is 56 really too old for most?
56 is at the top end of what Char would like. She doesn't really want guys older than I am.
We can't give profile advice as you've not asked for it, but there's a couple of things there that would mean a quick delete from us, I'm afraid.
(Bry)"
What would those things be then, that would make you delete or not reply? |
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We look for guys. But there is a very small number in here that boobs finds attractive. She doesn’t like older , doesn’t like larger , doesnt like muscular and doesn’t like big dicks and likes them to look a little Mediterranean. 99.99% of guys don’t look like that. And I’m sure other females/ couples have their own specific desires. You just have to find the 0.01% that is looking for you. |
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"What would those things be then, that would make you delete or not reply?
As I said, the OP hasn't asked for profile advice so we can't give it.
(Bry)"
Oh I see, no worries then...it would be good to get some tips lol |
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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago
Near Wells |
How many people knew and about contact mags etc years ago? Out of those, how many advertised and replied?
Now Not many I expect and a very small number of the population. Nowadays Google anything to find what you want and most people can use Google. More competition I'm afraid. |
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There’s a lot more options on here now, so only the single guys that stand out are going to do well.
If you’ve got just cock pics, no intriguing pics, phone in your hand pics, then that would be a no.
If your profile is limited, a few sentences, words then it would be a no.
If your message was generic/copy and paste, boring then it would be a no.
Age doesn’t really come into it…if you are selling yourself well you’ll be picked up by couples.
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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago
Peterborough / Stamford |
"Why is it so hard to find genuine couples who like another man pleasing the wife?"
Consider numbers. Char and I do maybe three or four meets each month, sometimes a few more, sometimes less. I'd say we are pretty average with those numbers.
Let's assume that half of those are repeat visits with guys we've formed a friendship with.
That means we might need two, maybe three *new* guys each month.
That's fewer than one each week.
We get an average of maybe fifteen messages a day right now, so that's 15 messages x 7 days = 105 guys asking to meet us every week.
We need one of them. So 99% of messages we get aren't going to be successful.
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"There are tons of genuine couples, but matching a couple is harder than matching a single person as there are twice as many people having to be a yes.
As a couple, the sheer number of messages we get from single guys can be overwhelming to get through, the ones that stand out usually grab our attention by being interesting and personal towards both of us. One liners like, "I wan2 cum in Ur Mrs" don't go down too well lol. "
100% agreeing we as a couple do not look for someone to ease the female it's about all 3 being engaged and enjoying the threesome and that doesn't mean there having to be bi play. Respect a couple being a couple and the there are 2 people in a couple |
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"Referring to "the wife", "can I fuck your wife please" and a whole bunch of other things fairly off putting. It's a swinger's site but that doesn't mean respect is left at the door. "
Without a doubt, totally agree with this comment. Respect is a must. I'm not sure what guys think if they send messages like that.... |
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By *4G-GBBukCouple
over a year ago
Glasgow/London |
"Referring to "the wife", "can I fuck your wife please" and a whole bunch of other things fairly off putting. It's a swinger's site but that doesn't mean respect is left at the door.
Without a doubt, totally agree with this comment. Respect is a must. I'm not sure what guys think if they send messages like that.... "
And he even says he's respectful...
I actually have a fair degree of sympathy and understanding but the ones that shout the loudest about the site being "hard" and "unfair" usually have the biggest red flags going. But what, what do I know |
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Forgetting you don’t fit our criteria-
Your profile needs a couple more pictures for body etc
The way you talk about your wife and I like etc
To get a couples attention is to talk to them as a couple for example I’m on here just as much as mark and if we meet a guy… it’s mostly my say ! I’m they one who’s fucking ! Mark kinda just joins in! So I’d probably have a little revamp on the profile and maybe think about the way you approach couples |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it all comes down to expectations 
As an older single guy on here you have to offer something that is going to stand out a bit
Whether it is chatting a lot in the forums, pictures, verifications or dogged persistence- I don’t know
But sexy friends are out there to be made and if you impress them the first meet then they will be happy to meet again as we all like to develop relationships
Keep being positive
I’m having fun - and I’m well past my “ use by date” |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't give up. I know it's frustrating but it might be just around the corner. There's been some good advice on this thread, and I think it is important to keep refeshing your profile. It took me a year to find the couple I am still seeing after three years, and I'm older than you. |
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We actually prefer meets with more mature guys.
Unfortunately for you op there are hundreds of men in competition with you.
Unless you tick all the right boxes at the particular time we are looking to meet, you will probably be passed over. I'm sure this is the case with most couples. |
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By *aughty50sCouple
over a year ago
Yorkshire - but we travel a lot |
"because there are compared to men so few couples its that simple zillions of men vrs 100s of couples ... when you bear in mind mind most couples on fab either only play in clubs / dont play at all/ fake then its even more less %"
Are most couples on Fab really like that? It's not been our experience. Maybe we've just been lucky. |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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"because there are compared to men so few couples its that simple zillions of men vrs 100s of couples ... when you bear in mind mind most couples on fab either only play in clubs / dont play at all/ fake then its even more less %
Are most couples on Fab really like that? It's not been our experience. Maybe we've just been lucky."
I find threads like this odd.
We never find problems finding couples or single women.
Tend to find if you walk down the same path you end up in the same place.
Weird that, don’t you think? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Wow! Some nice comments and some direct messages along the lines of your profile makes you look shite.
To be honest i refer to fucking a wife because i know that's what many husbands like. Swinging involves sex but yes, it's better when you resoect people too! Why do people assume you can't respect a woman as well as want to fuck her brains out.
Feels like swinging has gone down hill over the last 30 years. Lots of serial shaggers who simply fuck for the sake if it. If i were remotely interested in that type i'd probably be doing very well!
I like to get on well with both and would rather the husband like me because that makes sharing his wife more personal and enjoyable.
Think it might be time to draw a line under sites like this. |
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By *S2004Man
over a year ago
Bromsgrove |
"Wow! Some nice comments and some direct messages along the lines of your profile makes you look shite.
To be honest i refer to fucking a wife because i know that's what many husbands like. Swinging involves sex but yes, it's better when you resoect people too! Why do people assume you can't respect a woman as well as want to fuck her brains out.
Feels like swinging has gone down hill over the last 30 years. Lots of serial shaggers who simply fuck for the sake if it. If i were remotely interested in that type i'd probably be doing very well!
I like to get on well with both and would rather the husband like me because that makes sharing his wife more personal and enjoyable.
Think it might be time to draw a line under sites like this."
I think the comments refer to why you may be finding it difficult. You are right in that some couples like your approach but I would suggest that it limits your pool further. there is nothing wrong with that, as you may well meet people more in line with your interests but you will understanday reduce your interest levels
Essentially how many couples want a faceless 56 year old to fuck their wife? There undoubtedly will be some but harder to find.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Wow! Some nice comments and some direct messages along the lines of your profile makes you look shite.
To be honest i refer to fucking a wife because i know that's what many husbands like. Swinging involves sex but yes, it's better when you resoect people too! Why do people assume you can't respect a woman as well as want to fuck her brains out.
Feels like swinging has gone down hill over the last 30 years. Lots of serial shaggers who simply fuck for the sake if it. If i were remotely interested in that type i'd probably be doing very well!
I like to get on well with both and would rather the husband like me because that makes sharing his wife more personal and enjoyable.
Think it might be time to draw a line under sites like this.
I think the comments refer to why you may be finding it difficult. You are right in that some couples like your approach but I would suggest that it limits your pool further. there is nothing wrong with that, as you may well meet people more in line with your interests but you will understanday reduce your interest levels
Essentially how many couples want a faceless 56 year old to fuck their wife? There undoubtedly will be some but harder to find.
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Yeah, i get what you're saying. Hard on a site like this when you want to stay anonymous but have to show your face. Good reply though, thanks. |
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