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By *un before OP Man
over a year ago
london colney |
When is something going to be done about it .
fed up with single males (yes a lot are twats ) getting the blame when so many couples with female missing and has always be missing , and other couple then getting false meetings set up |
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Not sure if it will ever be fixed, over and above verifications and photo verification I’m not sure what more the site can do.
It’s frustrating for sure, we were contacted by a couple for a meet a while back, the lady wanted to play with us alone. Then she wanted a social first for safety, which is no problem at all. Then her husband was coming to the social just to make sure, and it eventually evolved into husband would come and meet us alone as she was nervous, but if we wanted to play with him we could.
Criminal mastermind right there! |
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"When is something going to be done about it .
fed up with single males (yes a lot are twats ) getting the blame when so many couples with female missing and has always be missing , and other couple then getting false meetings set up"
What are "Single Guys getting the blame" for?
Obviously, the pretend couples where there is no female are actually single guys too...
In reality, the only thing that you can do, is be the best that YOU can be on here. There is no point ranting about what others are doing, they are really not spoiling things for you. The biggest factor to any individual's success on here is themselves.
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By *andy2123Couple
over a year ago
Portsmouth |
"When is something going to be done about it .
fed up with single males (yes a lot are twats ) getting the blame when so many couples with female missing and has always be missing , and other couple then getting false meetings set up
What are "Single Guys getting the blame" for?
Obviously, the pretend couples where there is no female are actually single guys too...
In reality, the only thing that you can do, is be the best that YOU can be on here. There is no point ranting about what others are doing, they are really not spoiling things for you. The biggest factor to any individual's success on here is themselves.
Spot on xx
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Sadly I view any communication with a couple as being with the make half, either on here or Kik, even when they claim to be the female half. I suspect most of them are guys getting off on men getting off over their wives. Normally have no verifications or if they do they are with men on cam. |
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over a year ago
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I the male half does 99% of the messages here and here 99 % of the time.
I guess one way you could ascertain if there really is a real couple there is asking probing questions, seek new pictures and the one that often seals the deal - ask to say at leasy a hello to the female on the phone before you start your 300 mile round trip.
Even with the reviews some get, be weary, don't trust anyone as the reviews may be spot on but the person/s you are meeting are not what they claim to be.
Let me know if this has helped you or others as seeking answers etc will catch out some of the fools but the phone call and speaking with the wife just a few words , you are hhalf way there unless they have jointly set up a profile just to take the p. |
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"Sadly I view any communication with a couple as being with the make half, either on here or Kik, even when they claim to be the female half. I suspect most of them are guys getting off on men getting off over their wives. Normally have no verifications or if they do they are with men on cam. "
Its always wise to be cautious, but you may want to remember that
(a) men tend to have thicker skins when dealing with numpties on here
(b) We all play roles in our relationships (so men may vet for her to choose)
(c) Verifications are a public scoreboard, and not everyone wants to play that game. You are not someone else, so no indication you (or we) would have a good time. Everyone has a fresh start  |
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"I the male half does 99% of the messages here and here 99% of the time.
I guess one way you could ascertain if there really is a real couple there is asking probing questions, seek new pictures and the one that often seals the deal - ask to say at leasy a hello to the female on the phone before you start your 300 mile round trip.
Even with the reviews some get, be weary, don't trust anyone as the reviews may be spot on but the person/s you are meeting are not what they claim to be.
Let me know if this has helped you or others as seeking answers etc will catch out some of the fools but the phone call and speaking with the wife just a few words , you are hhalf way there unless they have jointly set up a profile just to take the p."
Your proposed meet tomorrow sounds a lot of fun! Shame I can't accommodate! |
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Your profile comes across as very negative OP. You state you have no chance, so this is where you may be going wrong and attracting the wrong type of people.
If a couple agree to meet, just ask if you can quickly speak to the female on the phone. You will soon know pretty quickly if it's a genuine couple or not.
And before anyone says it, you don't have to jump through hoops answering phones if nothing has been arranged. I wouldn't give out my number to a random stranger demanding to speak to me if I have no interest in meeting them.
If anyone plans to meet, it's because there is an attraction by both parties. Most swingers rarely back out of a quick phone call if they planning on having a social or fun.
There are loads of tips on how to avoid time wasters on the forums.
Hopefully it will help you in the near future. |
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"When is something going to be done about it .
fed up with single males (yes a lot are twats ) getting the blame when so many couples with female missing and has always be missing , and other couple then getting false meetings set up"
This is why we prefer going to clubs  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When is something going to be done about it .
fed up with single males (yes a lot are twats ) getting the blame when so many couples with female missing and has always be missing , and other couple then getting false meetings set upThis is why we prefer going to clubs "
Appears to be a safer option but even then dont let your gurad down especially if alone, female or male as may two faced crooks around that lie and lie and lie and if you are unlcuky, you may see the real side of them. So if you leave the club with them take their pic and post it to a trusted frined if possible or tell the club.
Meeting at your own place, phone, video chat and visit their place or check it out via eletrol register etc etc as only genuine people will give you their real details and not make feebel excuses. |
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"When is something going to be done about it .
fed up with single males (yes a lot are twats ) getting the blame when so many couples with female missing and has always be missing , and other couple then getting false meetings set up"
You can usually figure out who you’re chatting to I find, men & women communicate very differently. We’ve had a few rogue accounts get in touch, very annoying and time wasting |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When is something going to be done about it .
fed up with single males (yes a lot are twats ) getting the blame when so many couples with female missing and has always be missing , and other couple then getting false meetings set upThis is why we prefer going to clubs
Appears to be a safer option but even then dont let your gurad down especially if alone, female or male as may two faced crooks around that lie and lie and lie and if you are unlcuky, you may see the real side of them. So if you leave the club with them take their pic and post it to a trusted frined if possible or tell the club.
Meeting at your own place, phone, video chat and visit their place or check it out via eletrol register etc etc as only genuine people will give you their real details and not make feebel excuses."
I beg to differ. There is no way on God's green earth I would allow a stranger to take my photo in those circumstances. I mean if they don't trust me, what assurance do I have that they themselves are trustworthy? Nor would I allow anyone to visit our home to vet it...first and foremost this is our family space, and not just our home but also our children's, and again what assurances would we have that this stranger is trustworthy.
Obviously if it works for you that's cool but I think there are many couples who would find this approach a gross invasion of their privacy |
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over a year ago
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I do tend to chat with people here more than the wife does, she chats more directly. But I always put my name at the end of messages I send, so people know who they are talking to. We are a genuine 12 years together couple  - Griz |
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"When is something going to be done about it .
fed up with single males (yes a lot are twats ) getting the blame when so many couples with female missing and has always be missing , and other couple then getting false meetings set upThis is why we prefer going to clubs
Appears to be a safer option but even then dont let your gurad down especially if alone, female or male as may two faced crooks around that lie and lie and lie and if you are unlcuky, you may see the real side of them. So if you leave the club with them take their pic and post it to a trusted frined if possible or tell the club.
Meeting at your own place, phone, video chat and visit their place or check it out via eletrol register etc etc as only genuine people will give you their real details and not make feebel excuses."
I wouldn't say that's accurate.
Single women (including myself) stick to the clubs as there is always somebody aware of my presence should I ever need help.
Most of the clubs we have been to in the UK have strict entrance policies, with pro-active staff giving a great level of comfort and security to it's patrons.
Absolutely no way would I leave a club with a complete stranger.
I have no time for background checking people, I rely on the clubs to vet customers correctly.
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If you're engaging with a 'couple' ask to see them both on cam or actually speak to them at least. There's no need for anyone to show their face here just to prove they're a couple.
Most dodgy 'couples' accounts are being run by single guys using their ex's pics and that's why they're apt to talk the dirty talk (often posing as the female) but then disappear when chatting, camming or meeting is suggested. They're after wank material i.e. dirty chat and pic sharing NOT meeting. |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
"When is something going to be done about it .
fed up with single males (yes a lot are twats ) getting the blame when so many couples with female missing and has always be missing , and other couple then getting false meetings set upThis is why we prefer going to clubs
Appears to be a safer option but even then dont let your gurad down especially if alone, female or male as may two faced crooks around that lie and lie and lie and if you are unlcuky, you may see the real side of them. So if you leave the club with them take their pic and post it to a trusted frined if possible or tell the club.
Meeting at your own place, phone, video chat and visit their place or check it out via eletrol register etc etc as only genuine people will give you their real details and not make feebel excuses.
I beg to differ. There is no way on God's green earth I would allow a stranger to take my photo in those circumstances. I mean if they don't trust me, what assurance do I have that they themselves are trustworthy? Nor would I allow anyone to visit our home to vet it...first and foremost this is our family space, and not just our home but also our children's, and again what assurances would we have that this stranger is trustworthy.
Obviously if it works for you that's cool but I think there are many couples who would find this approach a gross invasion of their privacy "
I completely agree .There is no way I'd allow someone to take a picture of me or know my address or my actual full name when I first meet them. I would find it a complete and utter invasion of my privacy and I wouldn't trust anyone before I know them well with my personal details. If someone needed that much info to meet me and I had to jump through hoops to prove I am genuine then they could move on and find someone else. I also wouldn't expect anyone else to disclose their info to me. And it's why I do a social meet in a public place when I first meet someone . |
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By *ikAshCouple
over a year ago
London |
"Not sure if it will ever be fixed, over and above verifications and photo verification I’m not sure what more the site can do.
It’s frustrating for sure, we were contacted by a couple for a meet a while back, the lady wanted to play with us alone. Then she wanted a social first for safety, which is no problem at all. Then her husband was coming to the social just to make sure, and it eventually evolved into husband would come and meet us alone as she was nervous, but if we wanted to play with him we could.
Criminal mastermind right there! "
This made me laugh… we’ve had a couple of these. I wonder if they think if you actually meet the man, you’ll say, don’t worry we’re happy for a threesome as opposed to a foursome. Ridiculous! Thankfully we suss them out before we get to the meet stage! |
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Sadly, we have had a lot of fakes.
We arent into just meeting after one message of the club scene as wife is nervous at first. so for us, it takes a bit of chatting and getting to know the couple before we meet. However, we have tended to find a lot of messages or requests for pics and then silence after a few messages or when it comes to plan a meet. Its a shame but guess some chaps are getting a kick from it. |
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We are a real couple, one way of proving someone is real is to buy a pay as you go SIM card, tell them to ring you on it withholding their number. It’s quite fun asking the fake single ladies how did you take your pics if your laying on a bed with arms/feet lol  |
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We had this quite early on. Took messages over to KIK and quickly realised this couple wasn’t all it seemed. Caught him out and he stopped responding. Found out he later met up with another couple bit ‘unfortunately’ the female couldn’t make it that time. So deceiving |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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there fake if they dont talk on the phone ????? lol been on this site from the very beginning and other sites before this one we have never ever given out our phone number / email / apps yet we do very well on fab and always have done .... fakes are so easy to spot as long as you dont get sucked in a thats the problem people get sucked into things that they want to happen even tho they know it wont |
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"When is something going to be done about it .
fed up with single males (yes a lot are twats ) getting the blame when so many couples with female missing and has always be missing , and other couple then getting false meetings set upThis is why we prefer going to clubs
Appears to be a safer option but even then dont let your gurad down especially if alone, female or male as may two faced crooks around that lie and lie and lie and if you are unlcuky, you may see the real side of them. So if you leave the club with them take their pic and post it to a trusted frined if possible or tell the club.
Meeting at your own place, phone, video chat and visit their place or check it out via eletrol register etc etc as only genuine people will give you their real details and not make feebel excuses."
Crikey!
I have been attending clubs with my husband for years, with no problems at all. What we have had is lots of fun with others.
There's also no way I am allowing anyone I meet there to take my photo, nor would I leave the club with a random stranger.
In my experience clubs are the best way to swing. No problems with no shows and a chouce of "victims"   |
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"there fake if they dont talk on the phone ????? lol been on this site from the very beginning and other sites before this one we have never ever given out our phone number / email / apps yet we do very well on fab and always have done .... fakes are so easy to spot as long as you dont get sucked in a thats the problem people get sucked into things that they want to happen even tho they know it wont"
Yeah because that’s exactly what we said  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The bottoms line.
Try not to meet alone
Tell someone who you are meeting and take pic send to friend otherwie do not go off with them imo
NEVER forget that being verified here has its limits and anyone can send a headless pic of themselves or couple and get verified. |
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We are pretty new to arranging a meet with other couples, have just been to a few clubs previously. The only way to get better at stopping fake accounts is to put up a pay wall. But then if it costs to join would fab be as popular? Unless you actually speak to each mew couples profile its very difficult. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We are pretty new to arranging a meet with other couples, have just been to a few clubs previously. The only way to get better at stopping fake accounts is to put up a pay wall. But then if it costs to join would fab be as popular? Unless you actually speak to each mew couples profile its very difficult. "
How would a paywall help? |
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We have the reverse problem. Even after having a 3 way phone call with single men, the men often back out. I think it is just a fab thing. And many times, the male says they accommodate but then suddenly they want an outside meeting i.e., it is not just couples that have the problem. |
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"I do tend to chat with people here more than the wife does, she chats more directly. But I always put my name at the end of messages I send, so people know who they are talking to. We are a genuine 12 years together couple - Griz "
We always end our messages with initial, think it’s easier to know who you’ve been chatting too |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We are a real couple, one way of proving someone is real is to buy a pay as you go SIM card, tell them to ring you on it withholding their number. It’s quite fun asking the fake single ladies how did you take your pics if your laying on a bed with arms/feet lol "
Using a mini tripod & the timer on the camera perhaps which is what I've done on many occasions  |
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"there fake if they dont talk on the phone ????? lol been on this site from the very beginning and other sites before this one we have never ever given out our phone number / email / apps yet we do very well on fab and always have done .... fakes are so easy to spot as long as you dont get sucked in a thats the problem people get sucked into things that they want to happen even tho they know it wont"
I never give my number out either. I also dont do phone calls. I have a hearing thing and find them difficult. Ive sent " live pics" but never personal information and definatly nothing to reveal my address! |
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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago
Peterborough / Stamford |
"After a few exchanges suggest a “social” just a drink etc… if they back out. Move on, either way it’s a waste of your time…."
Not always. We avoid socials simply because they take it out of Char just as much as a play meet and her fatigue and pain issues mean we might only get two opportunities in a month and a social would be a bit of a waste in our eyes. |
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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago
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"We have the reverse problem. Even after having a 3 way phone call with single men, the men often back out."
....or they just don't turn up. Two guys, neither arrived this evening. Both replied to messages almost two hours later with excuses but neither could be bothered to let us know. |
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I am sure there is a "Cult of Fake Profiles" on several sites, with several profiles. When one is deleted, others are created. I have also noticed lots of typical responses:
Absolutely
Definitely
Of course
I would not be surprised if they were not even based in the UK, what's the motive?, get off wasting peoples time? hacking, trying to sell something?
I think more verification should be done to stop them sending or receiving messages. |
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By *akie32Man
over a year ago
winchester |
oh look another singlr guy complaining that this isnt instashag, maybe try another site, this site is about swinging not shagging, there is a difference, read the countles other posts on the same vein, and then go out and go out and meet real people, you know those scary people that actuall go out and meet people |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If it looks like a single guy and quacks like a single guy… nah.. I tend to find that the fake couple accounts are more likely to be cheating guys, not single guys.
I do get put in the position sometimes where I’ll offer or be asked to take a verification selfie, which in itself has a perfectly reasonable. Just ask for hand gestures, but name written in paper if you do. But I look after this account.. and when I say “IV can you do a.. for..” I usually get a response of “I’ve not showered”, “I haven’t got makeup on”, “I’ve only just got back from work, can I just rest first” or “zzzzzzzzzzzz”.
If I get told that, sure, I understand. Just don’t expect aunt sexual context, sexting or nudes until you’ve able to. I say it:. Faaaaaake! / |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We have the reverse problem. Even after having a 3 way phone call with single men, the men often back out. I think it is just a fab thing. And many times, the male says they accommodate but then suddenly they want an outside meeting i.e., it is not just couples that have the problem."
Yup, many a single mans bottle crashes when the meet is actually on! Probably because they are so used to not getting anywhere on here due to the huge amount of singles on site.
When I was a single on here years ago I got let down not once but twice by a couple local to me who a meet was arranged with ( they both got pissed both times “pre-match” )  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oh and verifications do not mean that is them. How can I be sure? Well.. I once found an account with my pictures on and I didn’t verify it.. and I also didn’t meet all those people who apparently met whoever ran the account and verified them. They were very complimentary though. Fucked like a train. Get in there. |
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"We are a real couple, one way of proving someone is real is to buy a pay as you go SIM card, tell them to ring you on it withholding their number. It’s quite fun asking the fake single ladies how did you take your pics if your laying on a bed with arms/feet lol
Using a mini tripod & the timer on the camera perhaps which is what I've done on many occasions "
Yeah we fully get that it’s more of the non explanation we get when we ask…who took the pics ? |
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It’s such a shame that there are fake couple profiles on here, but it’s just the way it is! I run our profile, message on forums and send our messages, but do often wonder if ladies believe that! But again it’s just the way it is! We had to block couples from messaging as were only looking for ladies, and we’re getting so many men messaging off the couple accounts, for me it’s obvious if it’s a man or woman writing. The fakes will always find a way in here no matter what changes are made in my view! Miss pc |
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By *un before OP Man
over a year ago
london colney |
"It’s such a shame that there are fake couple profiles on here, but it’s just the way it is! I run our profile, message on forums and send our messages, but do often wonder if ladies believe that! But again it’s just the way it is! We had to block couples from messaging as were only looking for ladies, and we’re getting so many men messaging off the couple accounts, for me it’s obvious if it’s a man or woman writing. The fakes will always find a way in here no matter what changes are made in my view! Miss pc "
So 30% belieave and rest think all singles males are scum ,n
Not all same am a polite perv and readprofiles |
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"Sadly I view any communication with a couple as being with the make half, either on here or Kik, even when they claim to be the female half. I suspect most of them are guys getting off on men getting off over their wives. Normally have no verifications or if they do they are with men on cam. "
I (female) am most likely to respond to messages if it's just chat but if any meets are organised it's usually hubby that answers them with me sitting next to him..but I know what you mean we have had so many fake couples.. |
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By *un before OP Man
over a year ago
london colney |
"When is something going to be done about it .
fed up with single males (yes a lot are twats ) getting the blame when so many couples with female missing and has always be missing , and other couple then getting false meetings set up
What are "Single Guys getting the blame" for?
Obviously, the pretend couples where there is no female are actually single guys too...
Look. Know got no chance is life and says that on profile
Is just when I’m a polite perv , just chatting and looking along comes a fake coupe profile and fucks it up
In reality, the only thing that you can do, is be the best that YOU can be on here. There is no point ranting about what others are doing, they are really not spoiling things for you. The biggest factor to any individual's success on here is themselves.
Cal"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s going to happen on any site, you just have to be vigilant.
I V, the female half do all the messaging on our account simply because I’m the more cautious one. It’s really not hard to know when something is not what it seems.
Believe me, over time your BS detector becomes spot on!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am sure there is a "Cult of Fake Profiles" on several sites, with several profiles. When one is deleted, others are created. I have also noticed lots of typical responses:
Absolutely
Definitely
Of course
I would not be surprised if they were not even based in the UK, what's the motive?, get off wasting peoples time? hacking, trying to sell something?
I think more verification should be done to stop them sending or receiving messages."
Absolutely |
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By *un before OP Man
over a year ago
london colney |
"When is something going to be done about it .
fed up with single males (yes a lot are twats ) getting the blame when so many couples with female missing and has always be missing , and other couple then getting false meetings set up
What are "Single Guys getting the blame" for?
Obviously, the pretend couples where there is no female are actually single guys too...
Look. Know got no chance is life and says that on profile
Is just when I’m a polite perv , just chatting and looking along comes a fake coupe profile and fucks it up
In reality, the only thing that you can do, is be the best that YOU can be on here. There is no point ranting about what others are doing, they are really not spoiling things for you. The biggest factor to any individual's success on here is themselves.
Cal"
Not. Ranting proofing point that , even this post Judged and not one person read my profile
Guess ignorance is bliss |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We are a couple, and if I'm honest I do most of the computations via message or kik etc ( Mrs ) I always sign it off as Mrs etc
We have come across a few "fake"couple profiles, it is very off putting.
Mrs x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not. Ranting proofing point that , even this post Judged and not one person read my profile
Guess ignorance is bliss "
Proving what point OP?
And how do you know that “not one person read your profile “?
Because I certainly did.
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Im the female half of us and its pretty much always me doing the messaging on here too. 