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So frustrating really wish there was a rating system or ability identify time wasters free time and ability to meet is precious and people that say they’re coming and then ghost are just annoying.
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Agree, but over time I’ve developed an ability to sort the wheat from the chaff just by chatting and reading their profiles.
But I do wonder if I’ve passed by on some great meets  .
Of course, have still had my fair share of timewasters, but it just makes the real meets more special  |
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over a year ago
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""Time wasters" means different things to different people.
All the fools that do not read a profile, but still message when they are clearly unsuitable, are the worst time wasters in my opinion "
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""Time wasters" means different things to different people. Yip most days this happens
All the fools that do not read a profile, but still message when they are clearly unsuitable, are the worst time wasters in my opinion
Couldn’t agree more "
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"Agree, but over time I’ve developed an ability to sort the wheat from the chaff just by chatting and reading their profiles.
But I do wonder if I’ve passed by on some great meets .
Of course, have still had my fair share of timewasters, but it just makes the real meets more special "
Latest one exchanged a few messages to arrange including those morning and then last one read and not replied to.
Will only be meeting verified people from now on.
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"If its happening a lot to you op.. the common denominator is you.
Change your selection process trust your gut instinct look for red flags."
lol ok then how could you possibly know what has gone on most of the time it’s people that are up for it when they’re horny and then obviously don’t have the bottle to actually meet and it’s not all the time however even 1 or 2 people spoil it when we go to the effort of making ourselves available and accommodating |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think your time is only truly wasted if you’ve agreed venue, date, time, etc, spend time getting ready and travelling only to get radio silence or a very lame last min excuse. |
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"lol ok then how could you possibly know what has gone on most of the time it’s people that are up for it when they’re horny and then obviously don’t have the bottle to actually meet and it’s not all the time however even 1 or 2 people spoil it when we go to the effort of making ourselves available and accommodating "
So change your selection process trust your gut instinct look for red flags... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Am with you OP. We have a lot of couples message us and seem keen, say they think we will click, make all the right noises and then suddenly … tumble and they’re gone. Sometimes gone gone - definite time wasters. Sometimes their profile is then hidden. Sometimes just stop talking. I reckon there are a lot on here who like to talk the talk, like to perv on the pics, love the fantasy that it could happen but when it comes to the crunch … computer (or maybe partner/lack of one???) says no.
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"If its happening a lot to you op.. the common denominator is you.
Change your selection process trust your gut instinct look for red flags.
lol ok then how could you possibly know what has gone on most of the time it’s people that are up for it when they’re horny and then obviously don’t have the bottle to actually meet and it’s not all the time however even 1 or 2 people spoil it when we go to the effort of making ourselves available and accommodating "
Oh yes, the horny wankers who aren't interested once they've got off.
I find chatting for a while without chatting sex (no wank-fodder) tends to stop that. I fell for it quite a few times when I first joined, but as the post above said, I realised I kept putting myself in a situation where I would get stood up, so I changed my approach.
I'm sure you'll find a way that works for you OP |
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"lol ok then how could you possibly know what has gone on most of the time it’s people that are up for it when they’re horny and then obviously don’t have the bottle to actually meet and it’s not all the time however even 1 or 2 people spoil it when we go to the effort of making ourselves available and accommodating
So change your selection process trust your gut instinct look for red flags..."
Ok unless they’re aren’t any, perfectly acceptable conversations leading up to it but then reading latest message to give final details and not replying I fail to see how there’s a red flag there and too late to organise another meet with someone genuine |
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"Am with you OP. We have a lot of couples message us and seem keen, say they think we will click, make all the right noises and then suddenly … tumble and they’re gone. Sometimes gone gone - definite time wasters. Sometimes their profile is then hidden. Sometimes just stop talking. I reckon there are a lot on here who like to talk the talk, like to perv on the pics, love the fantasy that it could happen but when it comes to the crunch … computer (or maybe partner/lack of one???) says no.
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Exactly this |
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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago
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"If its happening a lot to you op.. the common denominator is you.
Change your selection process trust your gut instinct look for red flags.
lol ok then how could you possibly know what has gone on most of the time it’s people that are up for it when they’re horny and then obviously don’t have the bottle to actually meet and it’s not all the time however even 1 or 2 people spoil it when we go to the effort of making ourselves available and accommodating "
I have no clue what the conversations between you and others are.
if you know "they're up for it when they're horny and obviously no bottle" if its obvious you had warnings  . if its hindsight and supposition about horn and bottle.. learn from your experiences you're the common denominator. |
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"I had someone turn up an hour late for a meet after telling him repeatedly I couldn't meet if he was late
he actually messaged to say he was leaving 5 minutes after the agreed time & I knew he was a good 20 minute drive away so I replied saying leave it for that night, he saw it replied, saying it would be fine & still turned up, obviously it wasn't fine as I had plans later in the evening
So when he turned up I told him the meet wasn't going ahead, he complained he travelled & I'd wasted his time, I said I was clear in our messages that I only had a short gap in my evening & if he couldn't arrive as agreed it wasn't my fault and I wasn't going to rearrange my later plans to accommodate him
He thinks I'm in the wrong, I think he's in the wrong, if we were able to rate people it could start all out war "
Yeah I think it would but that’s really bad form to continue to turn up after you’ve given him that information |
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"If its happening a lot to you op.. the common denominator is you.
Change your selection process trust your gut instinct look for red flags.
lol ok then how could you possibly know what has gone on most of the time it’s people that are up for it when they’re horny and then obviously don’t have the bottle to actually meet and it’s not all the time however even 1 or 2 people spoil it when we go to the effort of making ourselves available and accommodating
I have no clue what the conversations between you and others are.
if you know "they're up for it when they're horny and obviously no bottle" if its obvious you had warnings . if its hindsight and supposition about horn and bottle.. learn from your experiences you're the common denominator."
No the horny and ghosting is general observations from several years on fab not this particular case and as a reasonably well and recently verified couple we’re the stable part of the equation so I fail to see how you continue to assert that it’s somehow our fault that others aren’t genuine |
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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago
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"If its happening a lot to you op.. the common denominator is you.
Change your selection process trust your gut instinct look for red flags.
lol ok then how could you possibly know what has gone on most of the time it’s people that are up for it when they’re horny and then obviously don’t have the bottle to actually meet and it’s not all the time however even 1 or 2 people spoil it when we go to the effort of making ourselves available and accommodating
I have no clue what the conversations between you and others are.
if you know "they're up for it when they're horny and obviously no bottle" if its obvious you had warnings . if its hindsight and supposition about horn and bottle.. learn from your experiences you're the common denominator.
No the horny and ghosting is general observations from several years on fab not this particular case and as a reasonably well and recently verified couple we’re the stable part of the equation so I fail to see how you continue to assert that it’s somehow our fault that others aren’t genuine"
Change nothing, keep doing the same thing see how that works out for you.. a guy called Einstein said to do the same things over and o er again and expect a different result is insanity.
I've not been ghosted had my time wasted in my years on fab my instincts processes red flags are working.
You have a good evening and lots of fun |
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"If its happening a lot to you op.. the common denominator is you.
Change your selection process trust your gut instinct look for red flags.
lol ok then how could you possibly know what has gone on most of the time it’s people that are up for it when they’re horny and then obviously don’t have the bottle to actually meet and it’s not all the time however even 1 or 2 people spoil it when we go to the effort of making ourselves available and accommodating
I have no clue what the conversations between you and others are.
if you know "they're up for it when they're horny and obviously no bottle" if its obvious you had warnings . if its hindsight and supposition about horn and bottle.. learn from your experiences you're the common denominator.
No the horny and ghosting is general observations from several years on fab not this particular case and as a reasonably well and recently verified couple we’re the stable part of the equation so I fail to see how you continue to assert that it’s somehow our fault that others aren’t genuine
Change nothing, keep doing the same thing see how that works out for you.. a guy called Einstein said to do the same things over and o er again and expect a different result is insanity.
I've not been ghosted had my time wasted in my years on fab my instincts processes red flags are working.
You have a good evening and lots of fun"
Actually that’s miss attributed to Einstein however it’s not quite the same as having a conversation with someone that’s seems perfectly genuine only to be let down at the last minute and being on fab for years and having as few verifications as you means I’ll pass on taking your advice if it’s all the same lol
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"Time wasters are pretty easy to spot and deal with.
There are loads of threads on how to manage your potential meets.
Like someone has said there is one common denominator. "
Oh here we go again yes we’re a genuine couple with recent verifications who after chatting with someone for a few weeks we arrange to meet and then get ghosted yeah there were loads of warning signs not but yet somehow it’s our fault get real |
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
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The longer you are on here the easier it is to spot the fake and timewasters.
Probably past up on some good meets but also pretty sure that the number of fakes we have passed on is far greater. |
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"Time wasters are pretty easy to spot and deal with.
There are loads of threads on how to manage your potential meets.
Like someone has said there is one common denominator.
Oh here we go again yes we’re a genuine couple with recent verifications who after chatting with someone for a few weeks we arrange to meet and then get ghosted yeah there were loads of warning signs not but yet somehow it’s our fault get real"
Exactly "here we go again"
Lol how you deal with your meets is your business, but trying to change the system to suit your narrative because you have been ghosted or let down won't work.
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"Time wasters are pretty easy to spot and deal with.
There are loads of threads on how to manage your potential meets.
Like someone has said there is one common denominator.
Oh here we go again yes we’re a genuine couple with recent verifications who after chatting with someone for a few weeks we arrange to meet and then get ghosted yeah there were loads of warning signs not but yet somehow it’s our fault get real
Exactly "here we go again"
Lol how you deal with your meets is your business, but trying to change the system to suit your narrative because you have been ghosted or let down won't work.
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Why because someone can’t suggest an idea for something that could be helpful without getting shot down guess not that’s pretty par for the course for the forums as well nowadays didn’t realise we were the evil here for venting our issues thanks for all the support. |
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"Time wasters are pretty easy to spot and deal with.
There are loads of threads on how to manage your potential meets.
Like someone has said there is one common denominator.
Oh here we go again yes we’re a genuine couple with recent verifications who after chatting with someone for a few weeks we arrange to meet and then get ghosted yeah there were loads of warning signs not but yet somehow it’s our fault get real"
I don't think anyone has said it's your fault. It's not your fault they ghost or don't turn up. However the point being made is that if it's a regular occurrence there has to be a link or a common denominator and if there are red flags based on your previous experience and you don't see those or choose to ignore them then it will continue to happen.
I've been here 5 years and have never had a no show or been one because I get to know people before agreeing to meet and if there is even the slightest hint of them being flakey I stop chatting and won't meet with them.
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In our experience most time wasters are guys (often posing as couples) who just want to talk dirty/fantasise but have no intention of meeting. Refusing to engage in dirty talk with new contacts soon reveals them out as does asking to see both members of a couple on camera briefly. The people who get conned tend to be those who don't follow these basic rules.
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""Time wasters" means different things to different people.
All the fools that do not read a profile, but still message when they are clearly unsuitable, are the worst time wasters in my opinion "
By a curious coincidence I've just had to point out to a potential suiter the fact that had they taken the time to read my profile they would have been quite clearly aware that a meet with me was never on the cards.
Nevertheless, I was polite when I declined their offer. |
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"Time wasters are pretty easy to spot and deal with.
There are loads of threads on how to manage your potential meets.
Like someone has said there is one common denominator.
Oh here we go again yes we’re a genuine couple with recent verifications who after chatting with someone for a few weeks we arrange to meet and then get ghosted yeah there were loads of warning signs not but yet somehow it’s our fault get real
Exactly "here we go again"
Lol how you deal with your meets is your business, but trying to change the system to suit your narrative because you have been ghosted or let down won't work.
Why because someone can’t suggest an idea for something that could be helpful without getting shot down guess not that’s pretty par for the course for the forums as well nowadays didn’t realise we were the evil here for venting our issues thanks for all the support."
Your idea has been covered numerous occasions in the forum.
Moderator's have specifically said it will not be implemented, as it's easly open to abuse.
You need to mark it down to experience unfortunately.
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"Time wasters are pretty easy to spot and deal with.
There are loads of threads on how to manage your potential meets.
Like someone has said there is one common denominator.
Oh here we go again yes we’re a genuine couple with recent verifications who after chatting with someone for a few weeks we arrange to meet and then get ghosted yeah there were loads of warning signs not but yet somehow it’s our fault get real
Exactly "here we go again"
Lol how you deal with your meets is your business, but trying to change the system to suit your narrative because you have been ghosted or let down won't work.
Why because someone can’t suggest an idea for something that could be helpful without getting shot down guess not that’s pretty par for the course for the forums as well nowadays didn’t realise we were the evil here for venting our issues thanks for all the support."
Nobody is shooting you down. This subject is generally repeated frequently.
Unfortunately the answers are always the same.
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"So frustrating really wish there was a rating system or ability to identify time wasters free time and ability to meet is precious and people that say they’re coming and then ghost are just annoying.
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No, you're wrong in my opinion...
Just because you or I have been ghosted means nothing next time they meet and the community has grown.
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"So frustrating really wish there was a rating system or ability to identify time wasters free time and ability to meet is precious and people that say they’re coming and then ghost are just annoying.
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No, you're wrong in my opinion...
Just because you or I have been ghosted means nothing next time they meet and the community has grown.
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Yes if they meet I’m not talking one strike and you’re out percentage out of 100% line eBay feedback |
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"Will only be meeting verified people from now on.
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That's not a guarantee either sadly.
Never said it was however at least recent veris mean they have actually met someone"
again its not as there are women on here giving out willy nilly veris some for money seen it often in our area and its high time the cam veri was gone as its a waste of space ... |
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"So frustrating really wish there was a rating system or ability to identify time wasters free time and ability to meet is precious and people that say they’re coming and then ghost are just annoying.
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No, you're wrong in my opinion...
Just because you or I have been ghosted means nothing next time they meet and the community has grown.
Yes if they meet I’m not talking one strike and you’re out percentage out of 100% line eBay feedback "
No no it's not like what at all it's a very scary and intimate act between two or more people not buy shit of eBay......
We been here years still get nervous we have 20 verifications or something like that and more meets not even verified 1st time is massive especially for a couple or single lady as to how Society judge women for their freedom of choice
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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""Time wasters" means different things to different people.
All the fools that do not read a profile, but still message when they are clearly unsuitable, are the worst time wasters in my opinion "
Why they are just wasting their own time not yours . |
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""Time wasters" means different things to different people.
All the fools that do not read a profile, but still message when they are clearly unsuitable, are the worst time wasters in my opinion "
I agree with that too  |
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"So frustrating really wish there was a rating system or ability to identify time wasters free time and ability to meet is precious and people that say they’re coming and then ghost are just annoying.
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No, you're wrong in my opinion...
Just because you or I have been ghosted means nothing next time they meet and the community has grown.
Yes if they meet I’m not talking one strike and you’re out percentage out of 100% line eBay feedback
No no it's not like what at all it's a very scary and intimate act between two or more people not buy shit of eBay......
We been here years still get nervous we have 20 verifications or something like that and more meets not even verified 1st time is massive especially for a couple or single lady as to how Society judge women for their freedom of choice
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No idea what you’re trying to say there have a good evening |
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"So frustrating really wish there was a rating system or ability to identify time wasters free time and ability to meet is precious and people that say they’re coming and then ghost are just annoying.
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No, you're wrong in my opinion...
Just because you or I have been ghosted means nothing next time they meet and the community has grown.
Yes if they meet I’m not talking one strike and you’re out percentage out of 100% line eBay feedback
No no it's not like what at all it's a very scary and intimate act between two or more people not buy shit of eBay......
We been here years still get nervous we have 20 verifications or something like that and more meets not even verified 1st time is massive especially for a couple or single lady as to how Society judge women for their freedom of choice
No idea what you’re trying to say there have a good evening"
Wow, it's not hard for you guys to meet I feel sorry for you.
Hopefully, you get all you want and are looking for.
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