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I have been on fab for a while now, and I have always wanted to really know, Why is it that almost every couple profile only have pictures of the wife. ! I honestly would like to know how does this work.? Is it that when couples meet other the husband doesn’t get involved. Or do they just watch, can you lovely couples help me put with answers ?
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I’m guessing it’s to do with a few things really. Could be part of the couple’s fantasy (to see the attraction a wife brings) or even because women are likely to get way more attention on Fab so to put pics of a ‘hot wife’ would almost always guarantee interest/replies. It works for me and catches my eye anyway lol. |
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Some find it a confidence thing, I.e they perceive the lady to be more photogenic, others seem to think it attracts the bill they are looking for.
There are a number of reasons, often many don’t think it through as they post xx |
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Couples profiles with only female pics are also a real frustration for us.
It could be a variety of things:
- Laziness
- shyness
- the female is better looking
- females are often bi, whereby the male is straight... So female maybe is considered more enticing for both
- it is the male behind the camera
Whatever the case, we would probably not engage with them until we have some idea what the male half looks like. |
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We have a mix but definitely biased towards her rather than him.
But in fairness she looks better naked and in lingerie. That and I'm sure everyone has seen enough pictures of mens dicka and asses |
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"Couples profiles with only female pics are also a real frustration for us.
It could be a variety of things:
- Laziness
- shyness
- the female is better looking
- females are often bi, whereby the male is straight... So female maybe is considered more enticing for both
- it is the male behind the camera
Whatever the case, we would probably not engage with them until we have some idea what the male half looks like. "
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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago
Catthorpe |
In our case it's Mrs who is the only one physically playing. I'm only present as that's our set up, I do send a face pic to let the guy(s) know who will be behind the pics/vids but I doubt it makes any difference to them if I send it or not, the focus is upon her which is exactly how I want it to be. |
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There’s both of us on our profile, but most definitely a bias to more of her then me. Her pictures will generally get 10-20 times the amount of love mine do. Giving the people what they prefer hahaha
Also I’m normally the one with my camera in my hand. She’s a work of art and I love the attention that she gets, it’s a turn on for me.
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Just checked and we have 19 pics of either us as a couple or Paul on his own out of 85 public ones. Paul actually dislikes having his photo taken full stop so having that many is good going for him. |
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"In our case it's Mrs who is the only one physically playing. I'm only present as that's our set up, I do send a face pic to let the guy(s) know who will be behind the pics/vids but I doubt it makes any difference to them if I send it or not, the focus is upon her which is exactly how I want it to be. "
Well whatever your reason, keep bloody doing it because it’s working haha. Stunning!! |
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"Just checked and we have 19 pics of either us as a couple or Paul on his own out of 85 public ones. Paul actually dislikes having his photo taken full stop so having that many is good going for him."
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"There’s both of us on our profile, but most definitely a bias to more of her then me. Her pictures will generally get 10-20 times the amount of love mine do. Giving the people what they prefer hahaha
Also I’m normally the one with my camera in my hand. She’s a work of art and I love the attention that she gets, it’s a turn on for me.
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As I said on another thread, we 99% of the time look for single men and Tv/ cd's for me - fem to play with. As we're a Stag and Vixen couple he's always there and joins in, always being last in. So no real need for pics of him. We have body shots of him on profile, and face pics if requested.
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We’re confident enough to have a variety of pictures of us both . If people look at our profile & we’re what they’re looking for then it’s up to them to initiate. But yes it nice in general to see both on a couple’s profile ,but everyone sets up their profile as they want to |
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I think our profile is pretty 50/50 after all we are both on here and want to meet as a couple, we would rather potential meets could see us both than just one of us, maybe that has a different impact on our profile, maybe those profiles that just have the female on show have more success? Maybe they are only looking for men? We are looking for couples and you wouldn't go through the argos catalogue wanting a toaster and kettle and only look at the toaster and go blind getting the kettle!
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"As I said on another thread, we 99% of the time look for single men and Tv/ cd's for me - fem to play with. As we're a Stag and Vixen couple he's always there and joins in, always being last in. So no real need for pics of him. We have body shots of him on profile, and face pics if requested.
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"We’re confident enough to have a variety of pictures of us both . If people look at our profile & we’re what they’re looking for then it’s up to them to initiate. But yes it nice in general to see both on a couple’s profile ,but everyone sets up their profile as they want to "
And gorgeous pictures and profile too x x |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
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"Couples profiles with only female pics are also a real frustration for us.
It could be a variety of things:
- Laziness
- shyness
- the female is better looking
- females are often bi, whereby the male is straight... So female maybe is considered more enticing for both
- it is the male behind the camera
Whatever the case, we would probably not engage with them until we have some idea what the male half looks like. "
This for me too, especially as I'm straight, so seeing the male is vital
On my couple profile we have lots of pics of my other half, as we'd never expect people just to want to engage if there's only one of us showing.
I said this on another thread yest, it makes me feel as though I'm not important if a profile meesages and its just all pics of the woman,as it holds no interest to me.
I totally get that some profiles it's only the lady that meets and there's no need for pics of her partner.
However if a couple want another couple, they should at least have 1 or 2 of the man. We just delete messages where the profile looks like its all about the woman.
Past experience has shown that if we chat to those profiles, it's always seems to take a while to see the Mr, then there's been no attraction to him. |
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"We’re confident enough to have a variety of pictures of us both . If people look at our profile & we’re what they’re looking for then it’s up to them to initiate. But yes it nice in general to see both on a couple’s profile ,but everyone sets up their profile as they want to
And gorgeous pictures and profile too x x "
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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago
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"In our case it's Mrs who is the only one physically playing. I'm only present as that's our set up, I do send a face pic to let the guy(s) know who will be behind the pics/vids but I doubt it makes any difference to them if I send it or not, the focus is upon her which is exactly how I want it to be.
Well whatever your reason, keep bloody doing it because it’s working haha. Stunning!! "
Thank you very much, the profile set up's working perfectly for us. |
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For us as a couple it’s only Mrs that plays.
We have a “one way open relationship”.
This is mainly a dominance thing where she can do what she likes when she likes, Mr has said on several occasions where he’s had chance to play or get involved that he has no desire to do so.
Because the most Mr will do is watch we feel there is no no need for his picture on our profile.
That’s just our dynamics! |
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"Couples profiles with only female pics are also a real frustration for us.
It could be a variety of things:
- Laziness
- shyness
- the female is better looking
- females are often bi, whereby the male is straight... So female maybe is considered more enticing for both
- it is the male behind the camera
Whatever the case, we would probably not engage with them until we have some idea what the male half looks like.
This for me too, especially as I'm straight, so seeing the male is vital
On my couple profile we have lots of pics of my other half, as we'd never expect people just to want to engage if there's only one of us showing.
I said this on another thread yest, it makes me feel as though I'm not important if a profile meesages and its just all pics of the woman,as it holds no interest to me.
I totally get that some profiles it's only the lady that meets and there's no need for pics of her partner.
However if a couple want another couple, they should at least have 1 or 2 of the man. We just delete messages where the profile looks like its all about the woman.
Past experience has shown that if we chat to those profiles, it's always seems to take a while to see the Mr, then there's been no attraction to him. "
Great answer
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We only look for single men for me to play with so no point in advertising what Mr looks like. We have pics of us both together so people can see us as a package if wanted, but during our meets, all the attention is centred on me so that’s who we show.
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"We only look for single men for me to play with so no point in advertising what Mr looks like. We have pics of us both together so people can see us as a package if wanted, but during our meets, all the attention is centred on me so that’s who we show.
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Exactly this. I (husband) do not play with anyone other than my wife. We are seeking guys to play with her too. Therefore, what I look like is irrelevant really. But look carefully and bits of me can be seen! |
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Sometimes maybe but we find that husbands think there not attractive and would not get meets if they posted their pictures so concentrating on the wife for creating traffic to the profile.
There so much negativity around guys and their pictures that they're never good enough with comments like show some personality
How do you put personality into a photograph without looking like a creep or awkward very difficult for an average Guy and this thing about dick pictures not wanting to fall down that hole as well..  |
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My couples profile had photos of us both as its a couples account
I think some couples see the wives as a trophy the one with the value, the one that will secure the meet, or at least that's how they come across to me
Personally we wouldn't consider a meet with any account like that, we want to see both parties unless of course like you say the male doesn't get involved but then the profile should have that clearly explained but even then I think I'd still want to see a photo of who the guy in the corner watching would be |
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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago
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We have few pics of me (Bry) on our profile but I only play with the occasional bi guy. Single guys don't care what I look like, they only want to see Char, and we're only looking for couples and women for Char so again, it really doesn't matter what I look like.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have more pics of him? But we don’t have loads and loads of pics anyways ! We aren’t really into sharing loads like that - we have a select few
He is more confident than I am and enjoys the attention (I would if I had a body like him too lol ) |
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Our public pictures were originally just one of each of us to give an idea of what we look like, but found I enjoyed sharing my pics, and it then maybe got a little out of hand. Call it a vanity project.
Our private pictures are a good mix of both of us and are shared with people we are interested in meeting or talking to.
So to our mind, the public pictures don’t really matter, nobodies entitled to see any pics of us, unless we are planning on meeting or talking to them, in which case they absolutely get to see both of us.
We also attach pics of both of us when we send a message to people we’re interested in, so don’t really see it as important what is publicly on show for people just browsing. |
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We’re a stag/vixen couple so most pictures are of Mrs. We like to be discreet and Mr has very distinctive tattoos so we’re limited to what pictures we can put on of him. |
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We have never really thought about it. Guess it tends to be Mrs posing and Mr enjoying the camera, so our pics are always disproportionate towards Mrs. We have a good few in our friends area though.
Good feedback, we shall have to strike a better balance as we share entirely when it comes to play. Although a little watching can also be fun, but rarely lasts long until the voyeur gets involved ?? |
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over a year ago
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We are a bit guilty of this, our profile is heavy with pics of me, but we do make sure there’s pics of Mr on here as well. Need to put some more on.
My very first question when approached by a couple with only pics of the lady is ‘where is your man?’ - as much as I love the ladies I do like to see the man’s pics (and that doesn’t have to mean his cock) too. |
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For us, me and I guess most couples here:
Men are more eager and more interested in their OH's pussy than they are in their willy.
Men are openly more dirty minded.
Women are less open re their desires so stay quiet.
Woem pics get more noted.
Men a lot more than women want to see their OH fucked hard amd by many. |
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"There so much negativity around guys and their pictures that they're never good enough with comments like show some personality
How do you put personality into a photograph without looking like a creep or awkward very difficult for an average Guy and this thing about dick pictures not wanting to fall down that hole as well.. "
We would really like to share more of Mr Furvert but in reality it seems like his image is only appreciated by the people outside his/our demographics (gay, TV and TS) we would not say he'd be unfit, old or overweight but it's never a case where its liked by a lady or a couple, completely the opposite for our pictures of Mrs Furvert?
There's a heavy bias towards the female image and a somewhat negative one of the male one so hardly surprising and makes us reluctant to show him off we're sad to say as its a 50/50 thing for us on our profile and it's administration. |
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"We have a mixture but definitely more of Mrs than Mr. This is for a number of reasons but the big one is that often Mr is behind the camera"
Not looking at ur photos it’s out but that’s not a nudist beach you guys are naked at is it? |
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I guess it is about being gentleman, i mean if you have a lady you would let her go first. Even her picture go first. Ok let me be clear. Putting a picture of both man and lady would be maybe more ideal, but nothing wrong putting the pic of lady alone to be honest. |
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We both play, we both meet together so we both have pics, together and separate.
We find it frustrating that a lot of couples pics are mainly the woman in pics with just the odd torso/cock pic of the guy. If both are playing then makes sense (to us) to have pics of both.
But it’s up to other couples how they set up their profile
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
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I'm amazed that so many people on Fab feel the need to justify, explain or excuse their choice of pictures. Post whatever balance of M/F photos you like, if someone else doesn't approve they can move on to a profile that better suits them. |
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"I'm amazed that so many people on Fab feel the need to justify, explain or excuse their choice of pictures. Post whatever balance of M/F photos you like, if someone else doesn't approve they can move on to a profile that better suits them."
I'm often surprised how closed minded, many people are in such an open minded environment |
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Our pictures are predominantly the Mrs, as we're here mainly for her fantasies.
Not against the will of Mr, not at all.
He has far more experience in this scene than her, so happy to enjoy acting out her fantasies.
Mr has no interest in being involved with any other, where as Mrs does.
I suppose though many guys will be quicker to snap pictures of his Mrs than she of him because in general, guys tend to be more visual when it comes to sex.
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"I have been on fab for a while now, and I have always wanted to really know, Why is it that almost every couple profile only have pictures of the wife. ! I honestly would like to know how does this work.? Is it that when couples meet other the husband doesn’t get involved. Or do they just watch, can you lovely couples help me put with answers ?
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Simple - we're only interested in single straight guys for Mrs Flirty. As such images of Mr Flirty are unnecessary.
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There’s definitely more pictures of me than Mr on our profile, mainly because I can dress up and take photos of myself at work whenever I like! Also Mr isn’t the biggest fan of getting his photo taken, and when an opportunity arises, as I’m the one who takes all the photos, I get distracted and end up playing with him instead haha! The majority of Mr pics are in friends only tbh. I guess everyone has their own reasons  Miss pc |
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We do have pics of both but definitely more of MissJ. We don’t have definite reasons for this but all of the following comes into play:
- when we can meet again, threesomes MMF/MFM will be our main thing.
- we already have couples whom we want to meet but haven’t been able to do so because of Covid.
- MissJ both looks better and gets a bit of a frisson from being seen.
- Gaston takes most of the pics (though the threesome guys are highly likely to take some in the future).
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"I guess it is about being gentleman, i mean if you have a lady you would let her go first. Even her picture go first. Ok let me be clear. Putting a picture of both man and lady would be maybe more ideal, but nothing wrong putting the pic of lady alone to be honest."
putting pics of your wife etc on the whole or "first" - its market forces
just to remind everyone, I and I guesss most men and the few I have spoken to this about often get turned on more seeing their wife/gf get fucked hard than them have sex as a 4-some. Often the love making after the stranger has left is fantastic.
Sadly, if you have never seen you wife get fucked or been told by her about being fucked by a stranger by mutual consent, you are missing out on someonething than makes you want to cum thinking about it. |
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We have a daily equal share of pictures of both of us. We meet as a couple so it only seems right people get to see both of us.
Personally, I rarely bother interacting with couples if they only have pictures of the female half.
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"I have been on fab for a while now, and I have always wanted to really know, Why is it that almost every couple profile only have pictures of the wife. ! I honestly would like to know how does this work.? Is it that when couples meet other the husband doesn’t get involved. Or do they just watch, can you lovely couples help me put with answers ?
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Such great honest answers
Thank you guys for sharing x |
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It's usually me driving fab (Mr L) as Mrs L doesn't have the patience, but I find it difficult to know what pics of me to post!
Seems that women are far more photogenic, or maybe it's just because I don't know what women would want to see of me  |
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"I have been on fab for a while now, and I have always wanted to really know, Why is it that almost every couple profile only have pictures of the wife. ! I honestly would like to know how does this work.? Is it that when couples meet other the husband doesn’t get involved. Or do they just watch, can you lovely couples help me put with answers ?
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Can’t help you as we have both on ours!! |
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