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"We make it obvious that we are looking for bi men. Why do so many "straight" men keep texting us? It's very annoying. We know blokes will pretend to be anything to get to the girl but pleeeesssee fellas. We weren't born yesterday!" Is that a bit like bi men pretending to be straight? | |||
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"We make it obvious that we are looking for bi men. Why do so many "straight" men keep texting us? It's very annoying. We know blokes will pretend to be anything to get to the girl but pleeeesssee fellas. We weren't born yesterday!" Tell them that to get into the room that you ,(the lady) are in, they have to unlock the door. The only way to do that is to suck your husband almost to completion (obviously you want to see the finale)....Or he has to offer up his arse for you or your husband to do with what you will. It might sound drastic...but I think they would probably enjoy it....I know I would. | |||
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So, in response to the original question in this thread, perhaps there are guys out there feeling similarly to me and reaching out to you in case their particular thing could be a good fit for that which you are seeking?…. | |||
"Interesting discussion… Very recently, I had an exchange with the female of a couple (wonderful person and with very similar views to mine on how the “perfect MFM meet” would be like) about the “bi/curious” being out the question. I was totally honest and open about me being straight BUT having an unexpected and inexplicable kink for giving BJs. This meant that, regardless of all the aspects we felt the same about in terms of what they were looking for and what would make it nice and most enjoyable, there wouldn’t be any chances of getting together at all. I respect that, for whatever reason, they simply don’t want a “bi/curious” guy to be part of their playing. The thing I wanted to put out there is the fact that, as everybody knows, sexuality and sexual orientation isn’t an straightforward matter. There are tons of socially set ideas of what each of the “labels” mean or should mean. This makes it tricky for some to accept other person’s reality. Using my case as an example, which is why I gave the above background info, I can see why it’ll be hard to accept that I identity as “straight”. Those set “ideas” mean, at the very least, that I should be “bi-curious”. I disagree as I’m not curious in any way, only sexually attracted to women, and couldn’t kiss or be sensual with another guy at all. Thus I feel “straight, with an inexplicable kink”, if that makes sense
So, in response to the original question in this thread, perhaps there are guys out there feeling similarly to me and reaching out to you in case their particular thing could be a good fit for that which you are seeking?…."Perfectly put 
Also, there had to once be a time when a bi guy was straight but made the switch.
But I can see your point OP and don’t doubt there are guys out there with that intention.
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"Interesting discussion… Very recently, I had an exchange with the female of a couple (wonderful person and with very similar views to mine on how the “perfect MFM meet” would be like) about the “bi/curious” being out the question. I was totally honest and open about me being straight BUT having an unexpected and inexplicable kink for giving BJs. This meant that, regardless of all the aspects we felt the same about in terms of what they were looking for and what would make it nice and most enjoyable, there wouldn’t be any chances of getting together at all. I respect that, for whatever reason, they simply don’t want a “bi/curious” guy to be part of their playing. The thing I wanted to put out there is the fact that, as everybody knows, sexuality and sexual orientation isn’t an straightforward matter. There are tons of socially set ideas of what each of the “labels” mean or should mean. This makes it tricky for some to accept other person’s reality. Using my case as an example, which is why I gave the above background info, I can see why it’ll be hard to accept that I identity as “straight”. Those set “ideas” mean, at the very least, that I should be “bi-curious”. I disagree as I’m not curious in any way, only sexually attracted to women, and couldn’t kiss or be sensual with another guy at all. Thus I feel “straight, with an inexplicable kink”, if that makes sense
So, in response to the original question in this thread, perhaps there are guys out there feeling similarly to me and reaching out to you in case their particular thing could be a good fit for that which you are seeking?…."A man giving bj's isn't straight. | |||
"Is it straight, or Fab straight? ??" Ah the age old question ! | |||
"Interesting discussion… Very recently, I had an exchange with the female of a couple (wonderful person and with very similar views to mine on how the “perfect MFM meet” would be like) about the “bi/curious” being out the question. I was totally honest and open about me being straight BUT having an unexpected and inexplicable kink for giving BJs. This meant that, regardless of all the aspects we felt the same about in terms of what they were looking for and what would make it nice and most enjoyable, there wouldn’t be any chances of getting together at all. I respect that, for whatever reason, they simply don’t want a “bi/curious” guy to be part of their playing. The thing I wanted to put out there is the fact that, as everybody knows, sexuality and sexual orientation isn’t an straightforward matter. There are tons of socially set ideas of what each of the “labels” mean or should mean. This makes it tricky for some to accept other person’s reality. Using my case as an example, which is why I gave the above background info, I can see why it’ll be hard to accept that I identity as “straight”. Those set “ideas” mean, at the very least, that I should be “bi-curious”. I disagree as I’m not curious in any way, only sexually attracted to women, and couldn’t kiss or be sensual with another guy at all. Thus I feel “straight, with an inexplicable kink”, if that makes sense
So, in response to the original question in this thread, perhaps there are guys out there feeling similarly to me and reaching out to you in case their particular thing could be a good fit for that which you are seeking?…."Good points. It shows that on one hand labels are too restrictive yet on the other hand labels are useful filters against misunderstanding. Really you can only be “curious” until you’ve tried it one or a few times. If you go back to do it again then you are no longer curious! Some people spell things out on their profile saying things like “orally bi”. I think another factor is whether it is a purely sexual thing vs a relationship thing. Mrs B is fully bisexual and loves having sex with women in a swinging context. However, when asked if she would ever have a 1-on-1 relationship with a woman, it was a resounding no! We prefer to meet honestly straight guys (not Fab straight) because I (Mr B) do not get any sexual excitement from other men. We have been in situations (in clubs) where the other guy “tried it on” and it was responded to with a gentle “steady on fella” minimising any drama. Didn’t freak me out just not my (or our) thing. We used to be active on the fetish scene and have witnessed all sorts of sexual activity so it is not a case of judgement. Seeing Guy-on-guy has most often illicited more of an “ouch” response as all I can think of is “bloody hell that looks painful” but no turn on. Rambling now. Just to repeat first point, labels are a useful shorthand but are also too restrictive because there are many shades and permutations! | |||
"Interesting discussion… Very recently, I had an exchange with the female of a couple (wonderful person and with very similar views to mine on how the “perfect MFM meet” would be like) about the “bi/curious” being out the question. I was totally honest and open about me being straight BUT having an unexpected and inexplicable kink for giving BJs. This meant that, regardless of all the aspects we felt the same about in terms of what they were looking for and what would make it nice and most enjoyable, there wouldn’t be any chances of getting together at all. I respect that, for whatever reason, they simply don’t want a “bi/curious” guy to be part of their playing. The thing I wanted to put out there is the fact that, as everybody knows, sexuality and sexual orientation isn’t an straightforward matter. There are tons of socially set ideas of what each of the “labels” mean or should mean. This makes it tricky for some to accept other person’s reality. Using my case as an example, which is why I gave the above background info, I can see why it’ll be hard to accept that I identity as “straight”. Those set “ideas” mean, at the very least, that I should be “bi-curious”. I disagree as I’m not curious in any way, only sexually attracted to women, and couldn’t kiss or be sensual with another guy at all. Thus I feel “straight, with an inexplicable kink”, if that makes sense
So, in response to the original question in this thread, perhaps there are guys out there feeling similarly to me and reaching out to you in case their particular thing could be a good fit for that which you are seeking?….
Good points. It shows that on one hand labels are too restrictive yet on the other hand labels are useful filters against misunderstanding.
Really you can only be “curious” until you’ve tried it one or a few times. If you go back to do it again then you are no longer curious!
Some people spell things out on their profile saying things like “orally bi”.
I think another factor is whether it is a purely sexual thing vs a relationship thing.
Mrs B is fully bisexual and loves having sex with women in a swinging context. However, when asked if she would ever have a 1-on-1 relationship with a woman, it was a resounding no!
We prefer to meet honestly straight guys (not Fab straight) because I (Mr B) do not get any sexual excitement from other men. We have been in situations (in clubs) where the other guy “tried it on” and it was responded to with a gentle “steady on fella” minimising any drama. Didn’t freak me out just not my (or our) thing.
We used to be active on the fetish scene and have witnessed all sorts of sexual activity so it is not a case of judgement. Seeing Guy-on-guy has most often illicited more of an “ouch” response as all I can think of is “bloody hell that looks painful” but no turn on.
Rambling now. Just to repeat first point, labels are a useful shorthand but are also too restrictive because there are many shades and permutations!"Totally agree with you. Labels can’t ever perfectly reflect all the individual preferences or views
I’m amazed by your experience of a guy “trying it on”. I guess some people still think that, once someone is playing at a club, it’s a free for all
I can understand how that could put you off “risking” a repeat, thus not wanting to meet bi guys. That said, I kind see that situation as an unfortunate incident and it’s a shame you feel the need to exclude a lot of good people from your array of potential “play-friends”. Like, if a guy tried to have sex with Mrs B without protection, would you then decide to not play with guys at all? I’m not sure if I’m explaining my viewpoint properly | |||
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"We make it obvious that we are looking for bi men. Why do so many "straight" men keep texting us? It's very annoying. We know blokes will pretend to be anything to get to the girl but pleeeesssee fellas. We weren't born yesterday!" I think it's most likely the guys are bi but choosing to have straight on their profiles as they believe they will have more chance of a meet if they do. Shot themselves in the foot with you two haven't they | |||
"Interesting discussion… Very recently, I had an exchange with the female of a couple (wonderful person and with very similar views to mine on how the “perfect MFM meet” would be like) about the “bi/curious” being out the question. I was totally honest and open about me being straight BUT having an unexpected and inexplicable kink for giving BJs. This meant that, regardless of all the aspects we felt the same about in terms of what they were looking for and what would make it nice and most enjoyable, there wouldn’t be any chances of getting together at all. I respect that, for whatever reason, they simply don’t want a “bi/curious” guy to be part of their playing. The thing I wanted to put out there is the fact that, as everybody knows, sexuality and sexual orientation isn’t an straightforward matter. There are tons of socially set ideas of what each of the “labels” mean or should mean. This makes it tricky for some to accept other person’s reality. Using my case as an example, which is why I gave the above background info, I can see why it’ll be hard to accept that I identity as “straight”. Those set “ideas” mean, at the very least, that I should be “bi-curious”. I disagree as I’m not curious in any way, only sexually attracted to women, and couldn’t kiss or be sensual with another guy at all. Thus I feel “straight, with an inexplicable kink”, if that makes sense
So, in response to the original question in this thread, perhaps there are guys out there feeling similarly to me and reaching out to you in case their particular thing could be a good fit for that which you are seeking?….
Good points. It shows that on one hand labels are too restrictive yet on the other hand labels are useful filters against misunderstanding.
Really you can only be “curious” until you’ve tried it one or a few times. If you go back to do it again then you are no longer curious!
Some people spell things out on their profile saying things like “orally bi”.
I think another factor is whether it is a purely sexual thing vs a relationship thing.
Mrs B is fully bisexual and loves having sex with women in a swinging context. However, when asked if she would ever have a 1-on-1 relationship with a woman, it was a resounding no!
We prefer to meet honestly straight guys (not Fab straight) because I (Mr B) do not get any sexual excitement from other men. We have been in situations (in clubs) where the other guy “tried it on” and it was responded to with a gentle “steady on fella” minimising any drama. Didn’t freak me out just not my (or our) thing.
We used to be active on the fetish scene and have witnessed all sorts of sexual activity so it is not a case of judgement. Seeing Guy-on-guy has most often illicited more of an “ouch” response as all I can think of is “bloody hell that looks painful” but no turn on.
Rambling now. Just to repeat first point, labels are a useful shorthand but are also too restrictive because there are many shades and permutations!
Totally agree with you. Labels can’t ever perfectly reflect all the individual preferences or views
I’m amazed by your experience of a guy “trying it on”. I guess some people still think that, once someone is playing at a club, it’s a free for all
I can understand how that could put you off “risking” a repeat, thus not wanting to meet bi guys. That said, I kind see that situation as an unfortunate incident and it’s a shame you feel the need to exclude a lot of good people from your array of potential “play-friends”. Like, if a guy tried to have sex with Mrs B without protection, would you then decide to not play with guys at all? I’m not sure if I’m explaining my viewpoint properly "Totally valid points. I (Mr) have been swinging since 1999 and Mrs B since 2003 (and together over 15 yrs). Had all manner of experiences in that time and certainly know our preferences and turn ons. It’s not a case of being “put off” from meeting bi-guys but more a case it is just easier if there is no chance of boundaries being crossed or disappointment for anyone. That sounds a bit like “wow I am so irresistible all those bi-guys won’t be able to help themselves” but isn’t meant to come across that way. The reverse is that we only meet single girls who ARE bi and couples with bi females because that IS something we enjoy. We never meet straight girls for the reverse of the reason why we don’t meet bi-guys. | |||
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"Ok I have a fair bit to say about a few points here. The terms bisexual and bi-curious do not fit everyone's bi sexuality. I've struggled with my sexuality but only really know what it is now after alot of research. When I grow up bisexual meant you liked both men and women(would have a relationship with either) I've always fancied women but never men, I can appreciate a good looking guy but have never fancied one. But I do like cock, I like the look of them I like the feel of them. So to make it easier I would say I'm bisexual. But realistically I'm hetro-flexable. I Fancy women but will play with men. But I only play as a bottom with men. I have no interest in fucking a guy or having him suck me. This then now comes down to guys being lazy and not reading profiles. I have a solo profile and a M/F couple profile. The amount of messages we get from straight guys who don't bother reading the profile. We have one line in the couple's profile that says if you have read our profile please do X. The amount that just send a pic with one line like I'm straight but I'll suck his cock. Or nice pussy wanna meet. If guys just read the profile they might have more luck. We've been caught out by the fab bi guys. He said he was bi and he was up for doing all this stuff but when it came to it he looked uncomfortable when I touched him then came quick and dipped. People need to fill there profiles out property say what they want, and what they are prepared to do. Don't lie and make sure you read peoples profiles before messaging." Maybe he didn't fancy you in person.  | |||
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