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What’s your policy on kissing during a meet?
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To the couples out there, we wondered what your policy was on kissing when playing with others.
Personally, we love it and feel it enhances the experience but we’ve come across other couples where they have a strict ‘no kissing’ policy.
This is not a judgemental post at all - we respect everybody’s personal choice. We’re just curious. |
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over a year ago
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Kissing plays such an important part in the build up to some good sex, feeling the passion flowing as your lips touch and tongues explore each other's mouths.
I'd struggle to not kiss during a sexual encounter, it would feel so unnatural and cold. |
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Kissing is just one part of sex.. same as those that dont want anal, or any other part of sex.
I rarely kiss on a meet. Its never caused me any issues.. and never been called cold, clinical or without passion. I can tease without having to kiss.. I can build the moment up without having to.
Yes I do on occasion but it's rare i do. |
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No problem with anyone's rules or limits
But if we knew up front that kissing was a no , then we probably wouldn't meet
But if we were in a situation in a couples room , then we wouldn't walk away
Kissing is very important to us both |
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"I wouldn’t meet anyone that had a no kissing rule. Laughable tbh
To call someone else's preference laughable is very disrespectful. "
There are reasons why people choose to Kia or not and I agree they should be respected and not made to feel they are being laughed at because of their choices |
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"I wouldn’t meet anyone that had a no kissing rule. Laughable tbh
To call someone else's preference laughable is very disrespectful.
There are reasons why people choose to Kia or not and I agree they should be respected and not made to feel they are being laughed at because of their choices "
Exactly. I totally get that some couples like to reserve kissing between themselves only. They see it as something intimate between them only. Anyone finding that laughable isn't really understanding swinging from a couple's perspective. |
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"I wouldn’t meet anyone that had a no kissing rule. Laughable tbh
To call someone else's preference laughable is very disrespectful. "
Personally I think being invited to fuck someone and being told you can’t kiss them is incredibly disrespectful  |
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"I wouldn’t meet anyone that had a no kissing rule. Laughable tbh
To call someone else's preference laughable is very disrespectful.
Personally I think being invited to fuck someone and being told you can’t kiss them is incredibly disrespectful "
Surely you talk about boundaries beforehand? Meeting a couple without doing that is just asking for misunderstanding and totally naive. we can all roll our eyes. |
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"I wouldn’t meet anyone that had a no kissing rule. Laughable tbh
To call someone else's preference laughable is very disrespectful.
Personally I think being invited to fuck someone and being told you can’t kiss them is incredibly disrespectful
Surely you talk about boundaries beforehand? Meeting a couple without doing that is just asking for misunderstanding and totally naive. we can all roll our eyes."
And I didn't mean to refer to just couples. I meant anyone. |
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"I wouldn’t meet anyone that had a no kissing rule. Laughable tbh
To call someone else's preference laughable is very disrespectful.
There are reasons why people choose to Kia or not and I agree they should be respected and not made to feel they are being laughed at because of their choices
Exactly. I totally get that some couples like to reserve kissing between themselves only. They see it as something intimate between them only. Anyone finding that laughable isn't really understanding swinging from a couple's perspective. "
Agreed. |
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"I wouldn’t meet anyone that had a no kissing rule. Laughable tbh
To call someone else's preference laughable is very disrespectful.
Personally I think being invited to fuck someone and being told you can’t kiss them is incredibly disrespectful
Surely you talk about boundaries beforehand? Meeting a couple without doing that is just asking for misunderstanding and totally naive. we can all roll our eyes."
Oh I agree as soon as someone said that I would think how disrespectful is that. Your just treating a person like a marital aid / sex toy. I’m staggered to know people think like that never mind actually request it. |
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I met this with couples - no kissing - and starting as a couple we (friend and I) had that rule. Not my inclination, but never said that. When we found a couple we really liked, we broke through that barrier and treated it as passionate. With kissing. This can be something about your entire outlook on the world and how passionately you go about everything? |
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Our first meet was with a couple were the lady wouldn't kiss. Have to say it just didn't work and we wouldn't do it again as it was sprung on us at the last minute. Literally when we were all in the bed and she said no kissing. But to each their own,just definitely not for us |
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over a year ago
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"I like it but you have to respect people's boundaries "
Same. Kissing comes so naturally to me, but being the one who is going into a meet with another couple, it's one of the questions I always ask beforehand to establish if it's one of their rules or boundaries. I've been pretty lucky so far though that any couple I've met have been into it and ok with it. But I do respect those who choose not to do it. |
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We find it odd that there are people who say 'no kissing...that's just for own partners/spouses'.
It's fine to suck a cock, lick a vag, have anal sex, lick each others arseholes, piss on someone, have bareback sex with strangers, swallow bodily fluids...but then get sketchy about kissing!?
If it's down to 'intimacy', which seems to be the main reason given for no kissing others rule, then there's certainly some bizarre interpretations of intimacy..lol |
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We have a no kissing rule/boundary/limit whatever you want to call it. It's on our profile.
Other people judge, say sex with us would be cold, clinical, like prostitution or robotic. As if they'd ever get the chance to find out  |
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"We have a no kissing rule/boundary/limit whatever you want to call it. It's on our profile.
Other people judge, say sex with us would be cold, clinical, like prostitution or robotic. As if they'd ever get the chance to find out "
I respect your choices and bonus points for making it clear from the start but I would avoid you or anyone else purely on that basis alone. |
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"We have a no kissing rule/boundary/limit whatever you want to call it. It's on our profile.
Other people judge, say sex with us would be cold, clinical, like prostitution or robotic. As if they'd ever get the chance to find out
I respect your choices and bonus points for making it clear from the start but I would avoid you or anyone else purely on that basis alone. "
Then we're both happy |
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Just to throw a spanner in the works, everything my wife allows or doesn’t is entirely at her discretion. She is the one doing it after all. She is more than happy to be kissed all over from her feet to her cheeks and everywhere in between, but so far has not felt comfortable with the lips (on her face!). She says it is a bit personal, like someone is “making love” with her which is not what we as a couple are looking for. |
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"Just to throw a spanner in the works, everything my wife allows or doesn’t is entirely at her discretion. She is the one doing it after all. She is more than happy to be kissed all over from her feet to her cheeks and everywhere in between, but so far has not felt comfortable with the lips (on her face!). She says it is a bit personal, like someone is “making love” with her which is not what we as a couple are looking for. "
Looks like you have loads of horny fun too  |
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No way would we meet couples who don't kiss. It's probably the most sensual start to swapping with another partner. There wouldn't be a connection without kissing which would just make sex perfunctory...... Not sexy at all. |
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We kiss…
It’s a big part of meeting others for us.
With our regular good friends we kiss all the time, even on socials.
When playing in a club, sometimes we’ll impose a ‘no kiss’ rule on the other if they’re on their own at the club.
Kissing is important to us. It’s a big part of the passion. |
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I wouldn’t be happy not kissing on a meet. It would make it clinical for me.
However, people are entitled to their boundaries. The only time it’s disrespectful is if it’s landed on you last minute and hidden/lied about during conversations.
I chatted to a couple for quite a few weeks. We all chatted on the phone and the likes. Kissing came up often and nothing was said. They only chucked in the “btw we don’t kiss on meets” just before we met. Then they labelled me the time waster when I cancelled.
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"I wouldn’t be happy not kissing on a meet. It would make it clinical for me.
However, people are entitled to their boundaries. The only time it’s disrespectful is if it’s landed on you last minute and hidden/lied about during conversations.
I chatted to a couple for quite a few weeks. We all chatted on the phone and the likes. Kissing came up often and nothing was said. They only chucked in the “btw we don’t kiss on meets” just before we met. Then they labelled me the time waster when I cancelled.
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Shocking !!! Just goes to show they were just using you like you would a sex toy. |
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over a year ago
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"To the couples out there, we wondered what your policy was on kissing when playing with others.
Personally, we love it and feel it enhances the experience but we’ve come across other couples where they have a strict ‘no kissing’ policy.
This is not a judgemental post at all - we respect everybody’s personal choice. We’re just curious."
Love kissing, love kissing other partners, love my partner really kissing passionately , such a turn on . |
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"We find it odd that there are people who say 'no kissing...that's just for own partners/spouses'.
It's fine to suck a cock, lick a vag, have anal sex, lick each others arseholes, piss on someone, have bareback sex with strangers, swallow bodily fluids...but then get sketchy about kissing!?
If it's down to 'intimacy', which seems to be the main reason given for no kissing others rule, then there's certainly some bizarre interpretations of intimacy..lol"
You literally read my mind on this one.
Agree . Mrs x |
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"We find it odd that there are people who say 'no kissing...that's just for own partners/spouses'.
It's fine to suck a cock, lick a vag, have anal sex, lick each others arseholes, piss on someone, have bareback sex with strangers, swallow bodily fluids...but then get sketchy about kissing!?
If it's down to 'intimacy', which seems to be the main reason given for no kissing others rule, then there's certainly some bizarre interpretations of intimacy..lol
You literally read my mind on this one.
Agree . Mrs x"
And for me that intimacy is a fundamental and exciting part of the fun. |
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"We have a no kissing rule/boundary/limit whatever you want to call it. It's on our profile.
Other people judge, say sex with us would be cold, clinical, like prostitution or robotic. As if they'd ever get the chance to find out
I respect your choices and bonus points for making it clear from the start but I would avoid you or anyone else purely on that basis alone. "
 As would we.
People seem to have a hard time differentiating between love and passion while kissing. It's possible to kiss and be kissed passionately without it being 'loving'. Perhaps there's insecurities that need addressing..who knows?
Anyway, as with all things, each to their own..there's no right or wrong..but definitely not for us if there's no kissing involved. |
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It’s couples who generally have the no kissing rule. It’s up to them how they chooses to invite others into their relationship. If people don’t like a couples preferences, then they don’t have to meet them. No drama. Anyone calling people disrespectful for having a preference is more disrespectful for not respecting others preferences.
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I wouldn’t choose to meet a couple who had a no kissing rule in place as I enjoy the sensuality as part of the fun.
However, I once replied to a last minute ‘meet us’ post on SDC, a couple staying in Cardiff St Mary’s Street Travel Lodge, we met for a drink in the big Walkabout before heading back to their hotel, where they set out their rules and no kissing was really the one they had.
I went with the flow as we were getting on really well and it was a fantastic fun filled time in their room, kissing or no kissing.
In reality, I spent most of my time behind her when the action started, either with hubby the other end or as a dp, so kissing wouldn’t really have been an option!! |
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When I played as part of a couple with my ex I just could not bring myself to kiss others. I tried once and the guy's tongue was just cold; bleurgh. After that I just didn't do it. I rarely meet now as a singleton, but I do have that one friend and kissing him is possibly my favourite part of our time together. Kissing is intimate and sexy but for me kissing a stranger is just kinda "cold"  |
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"We have a no kissing rule/boundary/limit whatever you want to call it. It's on our profile.
Other people judge, say sex with us would be cold, clinical, like prostitution or robotic. As if they'd ever get the chance to find out
I respect your choices and bonus points for making it clear from the start but I would avoid you or anyone else purely on that basis alone.
As would we.
People seem to have a hard time differentiating between love and passion while kissing. It's possible to kiss and be kissed passionately without it being 'loving'. Perhaps there's insecurities that need addressing..who knows?
Anyway, as with all things, each to their own..there's no right or wrong..but definitely not for us if there's no kissing involved."
The insecurities thing is often mentioned. I wonder why people think they can infer insecurity from one boundary but not another  |
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"I think we’re a bit odd on the kissing front . It’s ok to kiss when we meet a couple but no kissing when we borrow a male husband/ partner "
We totally get that.
If we’ve borrowed a male from a couple known well to us then kissing is automatic. But, a new single guy from a couple might be different.
We’d have to respect the decision and feelings of the missing partner.
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I've had "no kissing" meets in the past which have felt incredibly cold, made me feel really uncomfortable and wanted to escape ASAP. Personally speaking, kissing, flirtatious behaviour and getting to know your partner (s) is all part of the build up, the turn on and an amazing opportunity to intimately connect with whoever you've decided to play with... |
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"We have a no kissing rule/boundary/limit whatever you want to call it. It's on our profile.
Other people judge, say sex with us would be cold, clinical, like prostitution or robotic. As if they'd ever get the chance to find out
I respect your choices and bonus points for making it clear from the start but I would avoid you or anyone else purely on that basis alone.
As would we.
People seem to have a hard time differentiating between love and passion while kissing. It's possible to kiss and be kissed passionately without it being 'loving'. Perhaps there's insecurities that need addressing..who knows?
Anyway, as with all things, each to their own..there's no right or wrong..but definitely not for us if there's no kissing involved.
The insecurities thing is often mentioned. I wonder why people think they can infer insecurity from one boundary but not another "
Well this thread is about kissing, so our comment only relates to kissing. For inference on other boundaries, we'd have to comment on the relevant thread topic should one be made.  |
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"Just to throw a spanner in the works, everything my wife allows or doesn’t is entirely at her discretion. She is the one doing it after all. She is more than happy to be kissed all over from her feet to her cheeks and everywhere in between, but so far has not felt comfortable with the lips (on her face!). She says it is a bit personal, like someone is “making love” with her which is not what we as a couple are looking for.
Looks like you have loads of horny fun too "
We do our best to entertain! |
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
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"I wouldn’t meet anyone that had a no kissing rule. Laughable tbh
To call someone else's preference laughable is very disrespectful.
Personally I think being invited to fuck someone and being told you can’t kiss them is incredibly disrespectful "
Personally I think that anyone who wants or expects to kiss someone that doesn't want to be kissed is incredibly disrespectful. |
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
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"We have a no kissing rule/boundary/limit whatever you want to call it. It's on our profile.
Other people judge, say sex with us would be cold, clinical, like prostitution or robotic. As if they'd ever get the chance to find out
I respect your choices and bonus points for making it clear from the start but I would avoid you or anyone else purely on that basis alone.
As would we.
People seem to have a hard time differentiating between love and passion while kissing. It's possible to kiss and be kissed passionately without it being 'loving'. Perhaps there's insecurities that need addressing..who knows?
Anyway, as with all things, each to their own..there's no right or wrong..but definitely not for us if there's no kissing involved.
The insecurities thing is often mentioned. I wonder why people think they can infer insecurity from one boundary but not another "
I don't enjoy anal. I'm not at all insecure, I just don't like it. Similarly I don't like kissing the men we okay with, but I do enjoy kissing other women. It does not make me the slightest bit insecure. |
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"We have a no kissing rule/boundary/limit whatever you want to call it. It's on our profile.
Other people judge, say sex with us would be cold, clinical, like prostitution or robotic. As if they'd ever get the chance to find out
I respect your choices and bonus points for making it clear from the start but I would avoid you or anyone else purely on that basis alone.
As would we.
People seem to have a hard time differentiating between love and passion while kissing. It's possible to kiss and be kissed passionately without it being 'loving'. Perhaps there's insecurities that need addressing..who knows?
Anyway, as with all things, each to their own..there's no right or wrong..but definitely not for us if there's no kissing involved.
The insecurities thing is often mentioned. I wonder why people think they can infer insecurity from one boundary but not another
I don't enjoy anal. I'm not at all insecure, I just don't like it. Similarly I don't like kissing the men we okay with, but I do enjoy kissing other women. It does not make me the slightest bit insecure. "
I think you need to be very secure in yourself to define a boundary and stick to it in the face of constant criticism.
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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago
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Kissing is the fun part especially in a build up towards a meet. I had a meet where kissing wasn't allowed and t felt strange.. as though it was missing something. Maybe it's just me but it was interesting when she mentioned that kissing was for intimate relationships only |
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over a year ago
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Coming from a couples view if you are new or still fairly new to the scene its abit too intimate/passionate for us. Their should be some things kept for you as a couple that you dont do on meets and for us when we have sex thr kissing is part of the love making. |
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I've only met one couple of here and they were happy to kiss ( well I missed the female half) but the meet ended early for other reasons so I don't know whether we wpuld have spent a lot of time kissing or not.
I'd be interested to know if there are any singles that aren't into kissing.
Sadly I've found a lot of people I've met haven't missed me much.
Something tells me I'm the common denominator in that.
For one on one meets kissing is really important, and I wouldn't meet one on one with someone that wouldn't kiss me. I'll definitely make a point of saying that if someone isn't intetested in kissing me then they can't be that attracted to me, or if they've kissed me briefly then they need to be honest and say they didn't enjoy it.
With couples i understand they may want kissing to be something they save for themselves, so it might not be essential.
I know I'm a single profile, but just thought I'd put my there cents in. |
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I think it's brilliant when couples I talk to have well-defined boundaries around what they do, or don't do with a third person ie me. Not least as it shows they've actually talked about them. Some I share, some I don't. But it's definitely not my place to judge them. Not wanting to kiss isn't disrespectful in itself - though of course, it could be conveyed disrespectfully like anything else.
Just because it's not a boundary I share doesn't make it wrong! Instead of presuming why it's important to them - seeing you purely as a sex object / insecurity etc... Well sure, those are easy leaps to make. But that doesn't make it true. Why not ask if they'd be willing to expand on why they feel that way? Maybe they will, maybe they won't. That's up to them. Ultimately, we get to know each other and then we all make a choice if we want to meet. For some kissing is essential, for some it's not. Let's all just respect each other's choices and be kind though*
*Or try to be - we all mess up sometimes. I'm learning about the lifestyle all the time but have definitely made a few mistakes on my way! |
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Kissing is acceptable for us and something we always let people know about in early conversations. If someone said they didn't want to then that would be a discussion for us to have prior to agreeing to meet them. Each to their own. |
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By *ack688Man
over a year ago
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Kissing is definitely a must for me when having arranged meet ups. If something random happened in a club, especially if it was a group thing then I would still enjoy it but accept that it’s not been agreed. |
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As has been mentioned we all have a right to our comfort levels. If it clashes then there's no law that says you stell have to meet or play.
As part of a couple if the other couple didn't want to kiss It wouldn't be a problem for me. But when meeting alone (male half here) It would keep my enthusiasm for meeting. |
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"We have a no kissing rule/boundary/limit whatever you want to call it. It's on our profile.
Other people judge, say sex with us would be cold, clinical, like prostitution or robotic. As if they'd ever get the chance to find out
I respect your choices and bonus points for making it clear from the start but I would avoid you or anyone else purely on that basis alone.
As would we.
People seem to have a hard time differentiating between love and passion while kissing. It's possible to kiss and be kissed passionately without it being 'loving'. Perhaps there's insecurities that need addressing..who knows?
Anyway, as with all things, each to their own..there's no right or wrong..but definitely not for us if there's no kissing involved.
The insecurities thing is often mentioned. I wonder why people think they can infer insecurity from one boundary but not another
I don't enjoy anal. I'm not at all insecure, I just don't like it. Similarly I don't like kissing the men we okay with, but I do enjoy kissing other women. It does not make me the slightest bit insecure. "
We're the same in that we love fem/fem kissing but not MF. We don't reply to profiles that say kissing is a must. One night in a club we got questioned by a Lady "whose decision is it you don't kiss?", the answer was "both of us". At the time we didn't think too much of it, on reflection we were quite disturbed someone could question someone else's boundaries. We've met her since and had a friendly chat, we wouldn't and won't play with her though. We would imagine most singles kiss, though many couples don't. We would hope decent people respect ANY boundaries of anybody else when choosing to play. |
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"I wouldn’t meet anyone that had a no kissing rule. Laughable tbh
To call someone else's preference laughable is very disrespectful.
Personally I think being invited to fuck someone and being told you can’t kiss them is incredibly disrespectful
Surely you talk about boundaries beforehand? Meeting a couple without doing that is just asking for misunderstanding and totally naive. we can all roll our eyes.
Oh I agree as soon as someone said that I would think how disrespectful is that. Your just treating a person like a marital aid / sex toy. I’m staggered to know people think like that never mind actually request it. "
I'm a single woman and will rarely kiss. It's a sexual preference and for me one that I pretty much always choose not to do and it's not disrespectful to have a preference.
To be honest I've never treated anyone as a sex toy. Guys have always had a good time and I dont have any issues getting repeat meets. Although its rare I do 121 meets which helps... but those I have done and not kissed have still not found it an issue.
There are plenty of other things to do. X
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"To the couples out there, we wondered what your policy was on kissing when playing with others.
Personally, we love it and feel it enhances the experience but we’ve come across other couples where they have a strict ‘no kissing’ policy.
This is not a judgemental post at all - we respect everybody’s personal choice. We’re just curious."
I think policy might be a tad beuracratic.
We have been both kissers and non-kissers.
Soft swing and full swing.
No one seems to have minded either way from the people we have met.
We respect others boundaries and hope they would do the same.
We can't all be for everyone so if the dynamics don't match then there are plenty more people for everyone to meet.
We don't worry about what we don't want just what we do and whether the feeling is mutual with whoever we meet. |
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"To the couples out there, we wondered what your policy was on kissing when playing with others.
Personally, we love it and feel it enhances the experience but we’ve come across other couples where they have a strict ‘no kissing’ policy.
This is not a judgemental post at all - we respect everybody’s personal choice. We’re just curious."
We love it. Kissing is a massive turn on for us both and watching eachother as we kiss & play with another couple is a real turn on. Xx |
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over a year ago
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"I wouldn’t meet anyone that had a no kissing rule. Laughable tbh "
It works both ways. We wouldn't meet anyone who has no respect or understanding for boundaries or considered them laughable |
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I love kissing, it's so intimate. But, this is the reason some couples don't want to share their kisses. They reserve kisses for themselves. I always discuss boundaries and consent before a meet. It clarifies so much, and leaves less chance for awkwardness during the meet. |
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over a year ago
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We don't get people saying they don't kiss because it's too intimate.
Ffs you'll fuck someone but not kiss them, how is that not intimate??!!
If you don't kiss we won't want to fuck you either! |
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over a year ago
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I’d rather not kiss randomers, I have done (reluctantly) but I’d really rather not.
It does nothing for me unless there are feelings attached and it’s just going through the motions.
Kissing someone that you love is amazing and I’d do it all day. |
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I know I’m not in a relationship but I have to say that sex without kissing is terrible!
Sex is about the sights, the smells, the tastes, the touch. Lose kissing and you lose the passion. In my opinion anyway |
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"I know I’m not in a relationship but I have to say that sex without kissing is terrible!
Sex is about the sights, the smells, the tastes, the touch. Lose kissing and you lose the passion. In my opinion anyway "
If one of us has a cold but still feels horny we might do sex without kissing just between ourselves.
We have also seen plenty of group sex where oral and sex tends to be the only requirement.
Indeed gloryholes are designed for sex without kissing or even seeing and plenty of people use them.
I'm all for people having their own preferences and limits and more power to them.
As for those who can't get why some don't kiss that's fine, we can't all understand each others internal emotions and responses.
It would require us all to be empaths to actually understand each other even if we come from a different perspective.
For me cuddling, kissing and holding hands is far more intimate than sex.
The is a difference between intimate and physical contact.
We do kiss but that is our choice and we are happy to respect those who choose otherwise.
Its not laughable or weird or wrong, it's just different. |
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"I know I’m not in a relationship but I have to say that sex without kissing is terrible!
Sex is about the sights, the smells, the tastes, the touch. Lose kissing and you lose the passion. In my opinion anyway
If one of us has a cold but still feels horny we might do sex without kissing just between ourselves.
We have also seen plenty of group sex where oral and sex tends to be the only requirement.
Indeed gloryholes are designed for sex without kissing or even seeing and plenty of people use them.
I'm all for people having their own preferences and limits and more power to them.
As for those who can't get why some don't kiss that's fine, we can't all understand each others internal emotions and responses.
It would require us all to be empaths to actually understand each other even if we come from a different perspective.
For me cuddling, kissing and holding hands is far more intimate than sex.
The is a difference between intimate and physical contact.
We do kiss but that is our choice and we are happy to respect those who choose otherwise.
Its not laughable or weird or wrong, it's just different. "
Some mornings we simply touch each other up and and have a very nice spoon fuck, which sets us up nice for the day! We're also very naughty in that sometimes we haven't even kissed. Variety is the spice of life for us (We don't have chips with every meal either  ) |
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over a year ago
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Kissing is a must for us. We have met a couple who didn't want to and we were OK with it, but wouldn't again. While we are fumbling and getting to know the other couple, kissing increases the passion.
For us no kissing is almost the same as those who want people to arrive, clothes off and straight down to it. Just not for us. |
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"Kissing is a must for us. We have met a couple who didn't want to and we were OK with it, but wouldn't again. While we are fumbling and getting to know the other couple, kissing increases the passion.
For us no kissing is almost the same as those who want people to arrive, clothes off and straight down to it. Just not for us. "
That was me and bunny yesterday. We had 10 minutes before the kids were due back.
No time for pleasantries.  |
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"Kissing is a must for us. We have met a couple who didn't want to and we were OK with it, but wouldn't again. While we are fumbling and getting to know the other couple, kissing increases the passion.
For us no kissing is almost the same as those who want people to arrive, clothes off and straight down to it. Just not for us.
That was me and bunny yesterday. We had 10 minutes before the kids were due back.
No time for pleasantries. "
This was a rule for us at one point no kissing but since being at the club and chatting to others we just go with the flow now really.. x |
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"To the couples out there, we wondered what your policy was on kissing when playing with others.
Personally, we love it and feel it enhances the experience but we’ve come across other couples where they have a strict ‘no kissing’ policy.
This is not a judgemental post at all - we respect everybody’s personal choice. We’re just curious."
No kissing = no meet for me |
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