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Dogging sicko's in Gloucester

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

We went to a lovely swinging club in Gloucester on Saturday and had a great time, after it ended in early hours we decided to go to a well known beauty spot overlooking gloucester to watch the early morning sunrise, as it was only 2am we thought we'd grab a nap.

We were woken by guys, obviously doggers roaming like packs of wolves staring into every parked car. I thought there was a code amongst doggers about putting lights on or something if people are interested, we werent so we had a black quilt over us in a black interior so we couldnt be even accused of teasing. God knows how ordinary visitors to the area must feel as we were on verge of calling police!! Seriously guys you need medical help, go visit a Pschychiatrist ASAP as you definately need it, roaming around at 3am staring into cars is just peculiar behaviour, whats every one els'e _iew?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Perhaps they was police looking for doggers

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Perhaps they was police looking for doggers

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Lol we wish they were police at least would of got shot of them...but no just desperate guys and I mean desperate it was bloody freezing outside, they were just very sick in the head guys Im afraid

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We went to a lovely swinging club in Gloucester on Saturday and had a great time, after it ended in early hours we decided to go to a well known beauty spot overlooking gloucester to watch the early morning sunrise, as it was only 2am we thought we'd grab a nap.

Granted their behaviour was impolite but I think the reaction/condemnation is a tad over the top!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

No imsorry you werent there it was very intimidating, and what happened to the rules most decent doggers abide by?, guys rtoaming around staring into cars uninvited and our reaction is considered over the top lol......your having a laugh arent you!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Granted their behaviour was impolite but I think the reaction/condemnation is a tad over the top! "

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

Did you roll your window down and tell them politely that you weren't interested

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Also. Are you sure they was diggers?? Did they have a sign or was they running round with there cocks out?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

But they didn't try to gain access to the car, or attack you? Granted it must have been scary but I agree you're going over the top

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

no there werea group of them and as soon as Bev lifted her head to look and they noticed there was a woman in the car word got out and bloody cars came from everywhere desperate for some fun by the seems of it, so we drove off to a quieter location to get some sleep. Funny how we are criticised for our apparent over the top reaction lol dont you think its normal to stop in a car park then, doggers rights prevail over all others do they lol its sad what about a family wanting to break the journey and sleep for a couple of hours and to be woken by there wierdo's

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Come on..2am..secluded carpark. Understandable if you wanted a rest but wouldnt it have been better to book a hotel rather than use a dogging spot? Lol

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By *ola cubesMan over a year ago

coatbridge

wonder if you should be arrested for your immorale behaviour i mean going to a club for sex aint exactly the norm

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Perhaps other might think your behaviour as 'weird' - sleeping under a black quilt at 3 in the morning in a beauty spot ? They could reasonably think that you were there for action.

I'm not condoning their actions by any stretch, but as they say, there are 2 sides to every story - sometimes even 3

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Come on..2am..secluded carpark. Understandable if you wanted a rest but wouldnt it have been better to book a hotel rather than use a dogging spot? Lol

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No we wanted to watch a lovely sunrise its a great spot we found and again why should we have our interest ruin to accomodate these sad people, to be honest i dont think our reaction was severe enough, and we should have called the police which is what id do next time for sure

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By *uncpl2015Couple over a year ago

Bridgend Area

Completely agree, disgusting behaviour but totally believable, as its the behaviour you can expect from alot on this site too though sadly. This is our problem at the moment, far too few grown up mature and mentally mature swingers/doggers on the site. Its been taken over by alot of immature people (mainly single guys in that ... and no not all we know) but thats how alot behave and its not on.

We don't go dogging but was considering it and there is supposed to be a code but there we go, once groin brain kicks in all sensible thoughts and use of head brain even if they did have one stop working completely. lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"sicko's" & "weirdo's"?

That's very unfair to judge others

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Perhaps other might think your behaviour as 'weird' - sleeping under a black quilt at 3 in the morning in a beauty spot ? They could reasonably think that you were there for action.

I'm not condoning their actions by any stretch, but as they say, there are 2 sides to every story - sometimes even 3

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lol its a quilt we didnt take that colour specifically we just took something to keep us warm, it was bloody freezingand have you never done anything romantic like want to watch the sunrise, a lovely idea ruined by idiots im afraid

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"no there werea group of them and as soon as Bev lifted her head to look and they noticed there was a woman in the car word got out and bloody cars came from everywhere desperate for some fun by the seems of it, so we drove off to a quieter location to get some sleep. Funny how we are criticised for our apparent over the top reaction lol dont you think its normal to stop in a car park then, doggers rights prevail over all others do they lol its sad what about a family wanting to break the journey and sleep for a couple of hours and to be woken by there wierdo's"

Are you not being a little economic with facts here??

First you said you couldn't be seen, then you say you was.

Word got out quickly and a load of carse turned up. It sounds like a heist in a movie lol

How many cars wad there to look in. You make it sound like a multi story.

I have a suspicion you have embelished the facts to suit your own agenda on this one.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

""sicko's" & "weirdo's"?

That's very unfair to judge others

Especially given that they had just come from a swinging club.

Maybe there is a pecking order of weirdness nowadays and doggers are more weird than swingers ...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Come on..2am..secluded carpark. Understandable if you wanted a rest but wouldnt it have been better to book a hotel rather than use a dogging spot? Lol

No we wanted to watch a lovely sunrise its a great spot we found and again why should we have our interest ruin to accomodate these sad people, to be honest i dont think our reaction was severe enough, and we should have called the police which is what id do next time for sure"

and you missed the sunrise after all that hassle? Lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Come on..2am..secluded carpark. Understandable if you wanted a rest but wouldnt it have been better to book a hotel rather than use a dogging spot? Lol

and you missed the sunrise after all that hassle? Lol "
too true lol wemissed the sunrise too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"wonder if you should be arrested for your immorale behaviour i mean going to a club for sex aint exactly the norm

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

I do think it was inappropriate to come right upto the car and yes it might have made it a bit alarming.

But you identify them as doggers, so you kinda knew what their objective was... Sex, not to gang rape and burn out the car...

Sorry you had the experience. I believe a polite no thanks would suffice to most. There will be a network and if a couple appear, they may text each other, it is true the pack mentality spoils dogging.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Are you not being a little economic with facts here??

First you said you couldn't be seen, then you say you was.

Word got out quickly and a load of carse turned up. It sounds like a heist in a movie lol

How many cars wad there to look in. You make it sound like a multi story.

I have a suspicion you have embelished the facts to suit your own agenda on this one. "
no you arepicking through what we said toprove your point, to make it clear as you obviously have a problem understanding......we arrived, we placed a quilt over us, we went to sleep as we are not doggers, we were woken up by people staring into car, bev lifted head to look out to see what was happening...... and they saw her, and by the time we decided to drive off there were about 5 cars around us... is that easy enough for you to understand or would you like me to get a 5 year old to explain lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Family beauty spot 7am - dusk....dogging action carpark..dusk- 7am. I think thats fair enough. Might write a strongly worded letter to the Council to get these rules sorted out once and for all. hahaaa. Doggers have to get their fun sometime

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"wonder if you should be arrested for your immorale behaviour i mean going to a club for sex aint exactly the norm

mmmmmm your profile says interested inswinging clubs, you have pictures of your self semi naked so is this considered normal as well,

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

we started doggin a few years ago and yes there was a code of conduct but that seems to hace changed now and like you say they are acting very seedy and desperate now and seem to just feel they can do what they want , they have no respect anymore and hence we haven't been this year as you do tend to feel a bit scared when they approach your car when you haven't given them the nod as such

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Family beauty spot 7am - dusk....dogging action carpark..dusk- 7am. I think thats fair enough. Might write a strongly worded letter to the Council to get these rules sorted out once and for all. hahaaa. Doggers have to get their fun sometime

Sorry the point here is if they abide by rules using lights as signales nobody would care but approaching cars who arent putting out signs is a bit wierd, dont forget its still summer and these car parks are for tourist stop overs, ask any council or policeman I dont think any were specifically made for doggers use, maybe I should write a letter to the council...great idea

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Are you not being a little economic with facts here??

First you said you couldn't be seen, then you say you was.

Word got out quickly and a load of carse turned up. It sounds like a heist in a movie lol

How many cars wad there to look in. You make it sound like a multi story.

I have a suspicion you have embelished the facts to suit your own agenda on this one. no you arepicking through what we said toprove your point, to make it clear as you obviously have a problem understanding......we arrived, we placed a quilt over us, we went to sleep as we are not doggers, we were woken up by people staring into car, bev lifted head to look out to see what was happening...... and they saw her, and by the time we decided to drive off there were about 5 cars around us... is that easy enough for you to understand or would you like me to get a 5 year old to explain lol"

Why try and get arsey with me because you gave mot had the responses you desired on here.

Swingers are far to quick to judge each other and others when they do something in the lifestyle that they don't agree with. As others have said why didn't you put window down and tell them mo thanks?? Perhaps they seen the fact you seen them and didn't scarlet straight away as a sign of intent??

And as four trying to be funny with the five year old remark...... Its you that obviously needs to out your toys back in the pram. Your pp screams "look at me".

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Good idea. But don't forget to tell them you wad on your way back from a sex club with your wife. Make them fully aware of the facts in your letter, that way it will get the response it deserves

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Being sensible now actually maybe you should write a letter. In all honesty it can be scary to have this happen when you least expect it. Our first experience with dogging was scary..on turning into carpark lane we had 5 cars following in after us..i was nervously laughing so much. We thought fook this and I tried to do 3 point turn and ended up in a ditch! (women drivers eh) lol

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By *ola cubesMan over a year ago

coatbridge

"wonder if you should be arrested for your immorale behaviour i mean going to a club for sex aint exactly the norm

mmmmmm your profile says interested inswinging clubs, you have pictures of your self semi naked so is this considered normal as well,

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yes my profile does say that thanks for reminding me incase i forgot .......but the fact remains most people _iew what you are doing in clubs as wrong as for a letter to the council good idea but remember to also mention that clubs havent to be touched as you wnjoy dirty filthy sex with strangers.never mind the people of that area whos home prices go down when its found out what goes on.perhaps they are wrong for staring in your car but sicko weirdos really given your own behaviour

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By *ethany10Couple over a year ago

falkirk

Never seen the attraction of dogging myself. I gave up sex in cars when I was a teenager. Prefer the comfort of a proper bed to play in.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Never seen the attraction of dogging myself. I gave up sex in cars when I was a teenager. Prefer the comfort of a proper bed to play in."

This was our one and only time tbh lol My OH didnt believe it was so busy in The New Forest after moving from Scotland so took him on a road trip haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"wonder if you should be arrested for your immorale behaviour i mean going to a club for sex aint exactly the norm

mmmmmm your profile says interested inswinging clubs, you have pictures of your self semi naked so is this considered normal as well,

yes my profile does say that thanks for reminding me incase i forgot .......but the fact remains most people _iew what you are doing in clubs as wrong as for a letter to the council good idea but remember to also mention that clubs havent to be touched as you wnjoy dirty filthy sex with strangers.never mind the people of that area whos home prices go down when its found out what goes on.perhaps they are wrong for staring in your car but sicko weirdos really given your own behaviour

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Are you a little confused here? you mention us having dirty sex with others, but arent you doing the same, or did you come on here by accident looking for a religeous site and ticked all the swinging boxes in error, lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Very judgemental. People in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. If you don't like it, don't go again!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"wonder if you should be arrested for your immorale behaviour i mean going to a club for sex aint exactly the norm

mmmmmm your profile says interested inswinging clubs, you have pictures of your self semi naked so is this considered normal as well,

The person you quote is not judging or should I sat slagging other swingers/doggers off.

Its hard to try and take the high ground when in the eyes of others taking your wife to a club to get fucked is worse than men dogging. many vanillas would see you as sick and weird allowing your wife to have sex with others. How would you.like it if people come on here to slate your actions???

Moral of this story is don't go throwing stones if you live in a glass house

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By *ola cubesMan over a year ago

coatbridge

"wonder if you should be arrested for your immorale behaviour i mean going to a club for sex aint exactly the norm

mmmmmm your profile says interested inswinging clubs, you have pictures of your self semi naked so is this considered normal as well,

Are you a little confused here? you mention us having dirty sex with others, but arent you doing the same, or did you come on here by accident looking for a religeous site and ticked all the swinging boxes in error, lol"
lol i really aint confused i know what i do and know that most of society frowns on it i dont sit in judgement of anyone can you say the same ??

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Ah well we all have different likes and dislikes, but I find the dogging thing strange, after all as swingers we dont go around peering into peoples houses and knocking on doors in the hope of finding people with similar interests, anyway im bored now and its time for work, thank you all for your interesting comments like you say we all have different opinions on any subject have as good day weekend all xx

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By *ethany10Couple over a year ago

falkirk

"Very judgemental. People in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. If you don't like it, don't go again!"

Is that not a little harsh? Surely these places are for anyone to use, not just dogging? Fair enough if you are going for that reasoning but if you are just going for another reason then I think the OP has a point.

Steve

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

""sicko's" & "weirdo's"?

That's very unfair to judge others

Especially given that they had just come from a swinging club.

Maybe there is a pecking order of weirdness nowadays and doggers are more weird than swingers ..."

One point being missed completely is, swinging in a swingers club or your home is 100% legal, Dogging in a public place is not legal. Also to watch doggers is illegal because non-consensual voyeurism became a criminal offence on May 2004.

They might of been a " normal couple " They might of had kids in the car,maybe a family travailing who stopped for a kip. The point is everyone has a right to stop in a carpark/beauty spot at anytime of the day and night without feeling intimidated or hassled by anyone, man woman or doggers.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And I'm not saying people shouldn't go dogging, I'm saying to engage your brains, your involved in an illegal act which can get you in trouble.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Unfortunately a lot of people don't know the rules, it's not as if it's written down on a sign in the car park .....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To be honest i think your behaviour is just as odd

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Unfortunately a lot of people don't know the rules, it's not as if it's written down on a sign in the car park .....

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No but it is written on here and alot of dogging sites, and to be honest if I were a dogger id want to know how to act to lessen the chances of being arrested, doing what these guys were doing does mean there is a high chance they will be reprted if the go peering into non swinging peoples cars, and like someone said earlier just because its early hours doesnt make the car park exclusive to doggers does it, tourists are allowed to be in there as after all thats what they were designed for

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"To be honest i think your behaviour is just as odd

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what the fact we went to a swingers club or the fact we wanted to watch a nice romantic sunrise? but your entitled to your opinion thanks for your comment though

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Unfortunately a lot of people don't know the rules, it's not as if it's written down on a sign in the car park .....

No but it is written on here and alot of dogging sites, and to be honest if I were a dogger id want to know how to act to lessen the chances of being arrested, doing what these guys were doing does mean there is a high chance they will be reprted if the go peering into non swinging peoples cars, and like someone said earlier just because its early hours doesnt make the car park exclusive to doggers does it, tourists are allowed to be in there as after all thats what they were designed for"

Your car wasn't a non swingers car though lol.

Perhaps they knew you was swingers.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Unfortunately a lot of people don't know the rules, it's not as if it's written down on a sign in the car park .....

Your car wasn't a non swingers car though lol.

Perhaps they knew you was swingers.

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lol yes never thought of that, perhaps my cock standing up like a periscope mgave it away lol

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"Ah well we all have different likes and dislikes, but I find the dogging thing strange, after all as swingers we dont go around peering into peoples houses and knocking on doors in the hope of finding people with similar interests, anyway im bored now and its time for work, thank you all for your interesting comments like you say we all have different opinions on any subject have as good day weekend all xx"

You might find it strange, that's your perogative of course but to call people sick, weirdo's etc is really not acceptable.

Some people might find swinging strange but i bet you that if they called you that you'd get offended. It's such a shame when people can't express an opinion without resorting to name calling

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Unfortunately a lot of people don't know the rules, it's not as if it's written down on a sign in the car park .....

Ah, but then we're the sensible bunch on here, who know how to read

And they are from Gloucester

(I can say that, being Glos, born and bred)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Very judgemental. People in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. If you don't like it, don't go again!

Steve"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Dogging is not illegal and any copper that tells u it is is lying ask them for there number and report them for fraud

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"Dogging is not illegal and any copper that tells u it is is lying ask them for there number and report them for fraud "

How is it fraud??

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By *ethany10Couple over a year ago

falkirk

"Dogging is not illegal and any copper that tells u it is is lying ask them for there number and report them for fraud "

I believe sex in a public place is though, is it not?

Steve

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

But its not a " doggers site" its a PUBLIC carpark. Just because doggers have taken it over doesn't make it right and lawful that the very people its there for shouldn't use it.

As I've said before, dogging is an illegal act,so its doggers who HAVE to respect others, not the other way round.

So its doggers who should only approach if invited,and if not invited then they should not approach. Thats why the dogging etiquette was put in place in the first place.......... simples.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Dogging is not illegal and any copper that tells u it is is lying ask them for there number and report them for fraud

How is it fraud?? "

When a copper lairs to quoting the law it's fraud been told that by a copper

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Dogging is not illegal and any copper that tells u it is is lying ask them for there number and report them for fraud

I believe sex in a public place is though, is it not?

Steve"

I'm not sure it actually is...unless it offends public decency...

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Very judgemental. People in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. If you don't like it, don't go again!

Steve

Yes they are used for more, but now they know it's a doggers site, don't go there at 2 am to watch the sunrise! Or just quite clearly say "I'm not interested, please bugger off". Just my opinion but calling the police isn't going to change anything. They'll stay away for a few nights then be back."
Well thats ok now we know but what about genuine tourists being confronted by these people? its a car park for the majority not exclusively for doggers, these places were designed for overnight stops to allow people to have a break during long journeys, so to somehow say they are for doggers use during the early hours is just not right, and to quote what someone else has previously we as swingers use our homes or clubs which is not illega, and a club has to be licenced by the council for its use and for a bar so in a way swinging is approved by the authorities

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Dogging is not illegal and any copper that tells u it is is lying ask them for there number and report them for fraud "

non-consensual voyeurism became a criminal offence in 2004.

Under The Sexual Offences Act (2003), it is an offence to intentionally expose your genitals in public with the intent that you'll be seen and cause alarm or distress. Even if you're hoping for a round of applause, you risk arrest. The law applies to males and females, but has been phrased carefully to avoid prosecuting naturists and streakers (who still risk breaking public nuisance laws).

You can and WILL cause alarm or distress to the police officer concerned.

So yes Dogging is illegal simples and anyone who tells you otherwise needs to take a law degree

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Dogging is not illegal and any copper that tells u it is is lying ask them for there number and report them for fraud

How is it fraud??

When a copper lairs to quoting the law it's fraud been told that by a copper "

Its only Fraud if he intends to deceive, if he simply miss quotes or gets it wrong its not fraud

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Very judgemental. People in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. If you don't like it, don't go again!

Steve

Yes they are used for more, but now they know it's a doggers site, don't go there at 2 am to watch the sunrise! Or just quite clearly say "I'm not interested, please bugger off". Just my opinion but calling the police isn't going to change anything. They'll stay away for a few nights then be back. Well thats ok now we know but what about genuine tourists being confronted by these people? its a car park for the majority not exclusively for doggers, these places were designed for overnight stops to allow people to have a break during long journeys, so to somehow say they are for doggers use during the early hours is just not right, and to quote what someone else has previously we as swingers use our homes or clubs which is not illega, and a club has to be licenced by the council for its use and for a bar so in a way swinging is approved by the authorities"

Sorry, where did I criticise you going to clubs? I didn't. I go to clubs. I also didn't say beauty spots were for doggers, just that they'd use them regardless. I just think it's unfair to make such harsh judgements about peoples sexual preferences. Same as on fab, if you see something you don't like move on.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Dogging is not illegal and any copper that tells u it is is lying ask them for there number and report them for fraud

I believe sex in a public place is though, is it not?

Steve

I'm not sure it actually is...unless it offends public decency..."

The Sexual Offences Act (2003) doesn't legislate specifically against sex in public places, but that doesn't make it legal.

Public order offences exist to guard against outraging taste and decency. There are distinctions in law about where you can get it on. Sex in private dwellings (such as your house) is fine, even if it's in your front room with the windows open. But public settings (like shagging in the supermarket aisle), funnily enough, aren't legal. "In public" means the conduct must happen in a place where there is a high possibility of at least two members of public possibly seeing it (thus the supermarket-shagging ban).

But sex in isolated places is technically OK, so long as you have a reasonable expectation of privacy - and, of course, you don't get spotted.

Another part of the Act to watch out for is trespassing with intent to commit a sexual offence. The Sexual Offences Act deems it illegal to trespass onto somebody else's property to get it on, any time day or night. This includes outdoor places as well as buildings.

Police will usually only act on a complaint from a third-party or witness. So, if you're not rumbled, your al fresco fumble should be fine. But be careful.

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By *orset manMan over a year ago

Bournemouth

why do people go dogging?- seems dangerous to me- middle of nowhere- waiting for God knows who to turn up in the dark and the Police in my area are active in visiting the known places

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By *ola cubesMan over a year ago

coatbridge

dont actually think dogging is illegal as what is it ?? you have said walking around with your genitalia out this is covered in the public decency order not sex offence but my understanding of dogging is genitalia comes out once its agreed that they want you over to watch or participate with them if its non consensual then its basically rape surly? just my thoughts and probably wrong

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think that the op is a bit harsh on the comments about being weirdos etc.

If I went to something like that then at night you can expect something. However I am sure a quick sorry guys. Just after some sleep would have done.

I do love the way swingers can judge. Then again I get told often i'm just a slut. Lol

Cali

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In Great Britain, dogging comes under laws related to voyeurism, exhibitionism or public displays of sexual behaviour; however, the laws on dogging are ambiguous. Prosecution is possible for a number of offences such as section 5 of the Public Order Act 1986, indecent exposure under section 66 of the Sexual Offences Act 2003 or for the common law offence of outraging public decency. However, ACPO (Association of Chief Police Officers) policy is that arrests are a last resort and a more gradual approach should be taken in such circumstances.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We have been in the same situation in broad day light!!

Before we even thought about swinging, we went to a well know beauty spot to do some walking! It was around 2ish in the afternoon we had gone back to the car for our flask of tea and something to eat!! Within 5 mins another car came and parked very close to our car, we thought nothing of it and continued to eat, another min later a second car pulled up again very close to our car, and some more cars had also pulled into the car park, all the cars had single men in them, and they were all staring into our car, 10 mins later 4 of these men were just standing by our car staring in and yes it made us feel very uncomfortable, now we were not dressed in a sexy manner, hiking gear infact!! When we got out of the car to continue our walking we were followed by no less then 6 guys!!

We decided to head back to the car and park in a different car park! This is where it became scary!! All of the blokes jumped back into their cars and chased us, the one behind us was flashing his lights and was on our tail!!!

Now we were there for no other reason than walking! Our clothes were walking clothes, it was in the middle of the day!!

We felt very intimidated!! We didn't know the score with dogging!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Any farmers out there with a spare field and wooded area we can use ??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I do think that the OP is OTT, surely you must have known you were in a dogging spot?

Yes it is not nice to be startled like that, but you should have said a polite no thanks.

Also yes it is a public car park, but again, you must have known what other activities take place there.

Calling them sickos/weirdos and saying they are in need of a psychiatrist is extremely OTT and perhaps one should pay a visit for extreme paranoia as you seem to be describing a scene for a horror film and perhaps not the whole facts

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm guessing the place in question may start with'B and end in 'P' !

It's notorious! And having once been there with a young lady myself - never again!!!!

Regardless of whether you're actually looking for fun, sleep or just stopping to make a phone call - there's dozens of weirdos in clapped out mondeos surrounding you and acting in a very intimidating manner!

Avoid it like the clap!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I think that the op is a bit harsh on the comments about being weirdos etc.

If I went to something like that then at night you can expect something. However I am sure a quick sorry guys. Just after some sleep would have done.

I do love the way swingers can judge. Then again I get told often i'm just a slut. Lol

Cali"
Sorry we are not criticising Doggers in general as I am sure the majority abide by a code of conduct which many would find acceptable, and each to their own, but to be woken up by guys staring through our windowswas a shock to say the least, and we were more entitled to be there as we were using what it was designed for a car park nothing else, I didnt even get my hands in Bevs Knickers there,

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Granted their behaviour was impolite but I think the reaction/condemnation is a tad over the top! "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm guessing the place in question may start with'B and end in 'P' !

It's notorious! And having once been there with a young lady myself - never again!!!!

Avoid it like the clap!!! "
Oh so now were judging Mondeo drivers

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I do think that the OP is OTT, surely you must have known you were in a dogging spot?

Yes it is not nice to be startled like that, but you should have said a polite no thanks.

Also yes it is a public car park, but again, you must have known what other activities take place there.

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No why should we assume every car park is a dogging spot, we were there in the day having a picnic and thought after our club visit it would be nice to return to watch a romantic sunrise, how can you say we must of known, I suppose every car park has that potential but no we did not know or we would not have gone, and yes I do think these guys were sick and wierd the way they behaved.

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By *layfullsamMan over a year ago

Solihull

If its where i think you were its got a bad name and was closed down by the police a few years ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"If its where i think you were its got a bad name and was closed down by the police a few years ago"
Well by the amount of cars about at that time the Poloice didnt succeed... note to self send second mail to Chief constable complaining police not doing job correctly as well as reporting Doggers lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm guessing the place in question may start with'B and end in 'P' !

It's notorious! And having once been there with a young lady myself - never again!!!!

Avoid it like the clap!!! Oh so now were judging Mondeo drivers

Yes! They're sick and weird! Lol

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By *hite_Stallion26Man over a year ago

leicester

"Come on..2am..secluded carpark. Understandable if you wanted a rest but wouldnt it have been better to book a hotel rather than use a dogging spot? Lol

Haha thats it - they known what the place was like and you choice to sleep there? You expect to get hassle lol btw twoplustwo - what a great arse you got

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

you wanted to watch the sun rise at 3am its still dark then and if was planning to have a sleep would still have missed it though

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

it is a strange world this swinging malarky, it was only a little while ago that a couple posted complaining that they had sat in the car and no guys approached them.... the guys of course were slagged them off as timewasters....

if only there were rules that all knew, adhered to and never deviated.

and people didn't slag off others within the same community.

after 3..

I see trees of green........ red roses too

I see em bloom..... for me and for you

And I think to myself.... what a wonderful world.

I see skies of blue..... clouds of white

Bright blessed days....dark sacred nights

And I think to myself .....what a wonderful world.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm guessing the place in question may start with'B and end in 'P' !

It's notorious! And having once been there with a young lady myself - never again!!!!

Avoid it like the clap!!! "

Exactly what is wrong with mondeo's?!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Whilst the initial post was a bit dramatic what is a real eye opener is how others have responded....

Whilst we Swing we do not go Dogging for a variety of reasons but at the same time we would not want to be intimidated just because we wanted to do something closer to the realms of acceptable like watch a Sun rise!

I really feel sorry for how this couple felt and how they feel intimidated its a sad indictment as to how low the community has become and how it is being spoiled by new comers with little or no regard for manners and or etiquette.

On the up side the idiots who approached this couple and acted the way they did should count themselves lucky they hadnt approached myself and Jayne in that way otherwise they would have left with more than their tails between there legs.

a truly sad tale of how new comers are ruining the dogging scene.

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

Finding men staring into a car that is parked up at 2 AM would suggest they were doggers looking to see if anyone is in the car.

A polite no thanks would have probably got them to go look in someone else's car instead.

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By *ola cubesMan over a year ago

coatbridge

"Finding men staring into a car that is parked up at 2 AM would suggest they were doggers looking to see if anyone is in the car.

A polite no thanks would have probably got them to go look in someone else's car instead.

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ahhhh the voice of reason refreshing first thing in the morning lol

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

Whilst the initial post was a bit dramatic what is a real eye opener is how others have responded....

a truly sad tale of how new comers are ruining the dogging scene.

we have one side of a story and it was only recently someone posted that they had been let down by someone, painted a very negative position... got a lot of 'oh my god that is awful, that person is a twat and their loss really'

not realising the other person was reading the forums, they put their side of the story...

OP did a complete backtrack and apologised, they were miffed and wanted to vent off... however not all factual......

not suggesting this OP is, but when posting for a reaction, you will get it....... however, it may not be the one you wanted or expected

In my very humble opinion, there is too much ranting about situations where other members of fab have been involved in, as they very rarely get to put their point over.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Who goes and parks up at 2am to watch the sunrise 4 hours later......what a load of tosh!

You parked up in a "beauty spot" at that time of night not knowing it was a dogging spot......what a load of tosh!

I will finish my contribution to suggest that your opinion on those dogging need to see a phsychiatrist as follows.....he who judges the colors of man, must have forgotten that the color of his blood is the same as any other (Conroy Sewepagaham)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Guys you have made a huge mistake in voicing any kind of complaint on here about how others behaviour may shock or upset you.

It gets thrown back in your face and ends up being your own fault.

What you have told the forum of these doggers and how they behaved should have ended with condemnation of their actions not accusations about your reasons for being there.

We agree totally with you and think their behaviour was reprehensible and needed pointing out.

Just avoid the carpark and complaining on here in future guys.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Finding men staring into a car that is parked up at 2 AM would suggest they were doggers looking to see if anyone is in the car."

Or, after nicking a car? lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Give the OP's a break folks !!

They had a bad experience and wanted to vent!

Whether you agree, disagree - or just don't give a fig - don't forget - it is 'Rant Thursday' after all !!

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Who goes and parks up at 2am to watch the sunrise 4 hours later......what a load of tosh!

You parked up in a "beauty spot" at that time of night not knowing it was a dogging spot......what a load of tosh!

Erm, what the feck has the colour of someones blood got to do with the op having a rant at being disturbed by doggers??

And i guess you haven't had a partner before, (or if you have, i guess you aren't quite a romantic type of guy)?? Theres nothing wrong with going to a 'beauty' spot to watch a sunrise!!

Quite frankly, what a lot of 'tosh'!!

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

"Give the OP's a break folks !!

There are ways of doing it though, normally calling people unstable, sickos and weirdos for trying to act out a sexual kink is not a good way to do it.

Let's face it, we are all on here for sexual kinks, does that mean if you or I are not into something someone else is into.. that we need help with our head and we are sick and weirdo's?

They did ask for _iews, they won't all be the same as the OP

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"Guys you have made a huge mistake in voicing any kind of complaint on here about how others behaviour may shock or upset you.

It gets thrown back in your face and ends up being your own fault.

What you have told the forum of these doggers and how they behaved should have ended with condemnation of their actions not accusations about your reasons for being there.

We agree totally with you and think their behaviour was reprehensible and needed pointing out.

Just avoid the carpark and complaining on here in future guys.

There are ways of making your point though. Yes those in the car park were (in the opinion of the OP) out of order, no question. However,they are not here to pit their side across.

All that has happened here is people have defended others who have been called sick, weird, psychologically unstable and in need of serious help.

Why is that so wrong?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

we regularly pull over for a rest if we've travelled to a club, and sometimes you just don't always know the area you choose to stop in.

If I experienced what the OP did, then I wouldn't be too pleased either.

On saying that though, we very rarely pull into secluded places and usually stop in laybys on main roads.

Nothing surprises me these days though

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So, you went to a club to have sex with strangers, then drove to a dogging spot (that you knew was a dogging spot) and settled down for a nap where you knew doggers were.

The doggers saw a couple parked up in a dogging spot and had a look at the couple to see if they were putting on a show.

You didn't tell them you weren't doggers or dogging, just having a rest.

You didn't move on somewhere quieter or to services where it would have been safer for you to have parked.

Maybe you should be the ones to have a psychiactric report done, or maybe consult someone on how to use common sense.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So, you went to a club to have sex with strangers, then drove to a dogging spot (that you knew was a dogging spot) and settled down for a nap where you knew doggers were.

The doggers saw a couple parked up in a dogging spot and had a look at the couple to see if they were putting on a show.

You didn't tell them you weren't doggers or dogging, just having a rest.

You didn't move on somewhere quieter or to services where it would have been safer for you to have parked.

Maybe you should be the ones to have a psychiactric report done, or maybe consult someone on how to use common sense."

Where on their original op does it mention that they KNEW it was a dogging spot?? And where does it say they KNEW doggers were about?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So, you went to a club to have sex with strangers, then drove to a dogging spot (that you knew was a dogging spot) and settled down for a nap where you knew doggers were.

The doggers saw a couple parked up in a dogging spot and had a look at the couple to see if they were putting on a show.

You didn't tell them you weren't doggers or dogging, just having a rest.

You didn't move on somewhere quieter or to services where it would have been safer for you to have parked.

Maybe you should be the ones to have a psychiactric report done, or maybe consult someone on how to use common sense.

Where on their original op does it mention that they KNEW it was a dogging spot?? And where does it say they KNEW doggers were about?

Beauty spot = dogging spot.

Taking a quilt and pillows to see the sun rise?!

Come on, surely they knew what the place was, or the male half at least.

I think his wife got spooked so he has got to play the 'how disgraceful!' card to keep his wife sweet.

The whole situation and reasoning smells of bullshit to me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So, you went to a club to have sex with strangers, then drove to a dogging spot (that you knew was a dogging spot) and settled down for a nap where you knew doggers were.

The doggers saw a couple parked up in a dogging spot and had a look at the couple to see if they were putting on a show.

You didn't tell them you weren't doggers or dogging, just having a rest.

You didn't move on somewhere quieter or to services where it would have been safer for you to have parked.

Maybe you should be the ones to have a psychiactric report done, or maybe consult someone on how to use common sense."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So, you went to a club to have sex with strangers, then drove to a dogging spot (that you knew was a dogging spot) and settled down for a nap where you knew doggers were.

The doggers saw a couple parked up in a dogging spot and had a look at the couple to see if they were putting on a show.

You didn't tell them you weren't doggers or dogging, just having a rest.

You didn't move on somewhere quieter or to services where it would have been safer for you to have parked.

Maybe you should be the ones to have a psychiactric report done, or maybe consult someone on how to use common sense.

Where on their original op does it mention that they KNEW it was a dogging spot?? And where does it say they KNEW doggers were about?

Beauty spot = dogging spot.

Taking a quilt and pillows to see the sun rise?!

Come on, surely they knew what the place was, or the male half at least.

I think his wife got spooked so he has got to play the 'how disgraceful!' card to keep his wife sweet.

The whole situation and reasoning smells of bullshit to me."

Eh?? So according to you, all known 'beauty' spots are now 'dogging' spots??

Haha, what a load of pish!! There is a 'beauty' spot down the road from me that families use for picnics! I guess that also makes it a dogging spot in your little world??

And, how do you know the op didn't pack their quilt to use after the club rather than use a hotel?? Maybe they fancied a bit of romance after their fun!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"So, you went to a club to have sex with strangers, then drove to a dogging spot (that you knew was a dogging spot) and settled down for a nap where you knew doggers were.

The doggers saw a couple parked up in a dogging spot and had a look at the couple to see if they were putting on a show.

You didn't tell them you weren't doggers or dogging, just having a rest.

You didn't move on somewhere quieter or to services where it would have been safer for you to have parked.

Maybe you should be the ones to have a psychiactric report done, or maybe consult someone on how to use common sense."
you are making alot of assumptions here, and if you read our other posts youd know the story, No we never new it was a dogging location because if you bothered to read our profile you would notice we are not from that area, as we are not doggers we do not know any dogging locations around the country, I see from your profile you are a dogger and our post may have touched a nerve, if you abide by the doggers code of pracxtice then this isnt aimed at you its aimed at the guys who think dogging is their right and they should be allowed to do anything they wish

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" 'beauty' spots are now 'dogging' spots??

Haha, what a load of pish!! There is a 'beauty' spot down the road from me that families use for picnics! I guess that also makes it a dogging spot in your little world??

And, how do you know the op didn't pack their quilt to use after the club rather than use a hotel?? Maybe they fancied a bit of romance after their fun!!

I would say most beauty spots these days after dark are used for something.. Its hardly new.. People would go in there cars for a kiss cuddle and a bit more maybe... younger people with no where to go etc..

I dont think really either party are wrong here.. I am sure a polite word to them would have made them clear off... and realise their mistake.. Which is all they did.

I have yet to go dogging yet but looking forward to it.. I have had lots of outdoor sex though but always in the day.. and never had any problems.

I just think its a bit off to call them sickos just because they were out looking for some fun.. just in a different way to you... it was still part of the same thing.

Cali

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So, you went to a club to have sex with strangers, then drove to a dogging spot (that you knew was a dogging spot) and settled down for a nap where you knew doggers were.

The doggers saw a couple parked up in a dogging spot and had a look at the couple to see if they were putting on a show.

You didn't tell them you weren't doggers or dogging, just having a rest.

You didn't move on somewhere quieter or to services where it would have been safer for you to have parked.

Maybe you should be the ones to have a psychiactric report done, or maybe consult someone on how to use common sense.

Where on their original op does it mention that they KNEW it was a dogging spot?? And where does it say they KNEW doggers were about?

Beauty spot = dogging spot.

Taking a quilt and pillows to see the sun rise?!

Come on, surely they knew what the place was, or the male half at least.

I think his wife got spooked so he has got to play the 'how disgraceful!' card to keep his wife sweet.

The whole situation and reasoning smells of bullshit to me.

Eh?? So according to you, all known 'beauty' spots are now 'dogging' spots??

Haha, what a load of pish!! There is a 'beauty' spot down the road from me that families use for picnics! I guess that also makes it a dogging spot in your little world??

And, how do you know the op didn't pack their quilt to use after the club rather than use a hotel?? Maybe they fancied a bit of romance after their fun!!

How do you know it isnt?

How do you know the op's plans?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Where on their original op does it mention that they KNEW it was a dogging spot?? And where does it say they KNEW doggers were about?

I can generally spot somewhere likely to be a dogging spot even in a strange town but I think i would safely assume(obviously naively) that everyone would have packed up and gone home by 3am and it would be safe to have a bit of a kip before watching the sun come up...shows what I know...

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By *layfullsamMan over a year ago

Solihull

cant everyone agree to disagree and move on, the suns out and its to nice to argue

should be spending the time trying to get a meet to play naughty

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"you wanted to watch the sun rise at 3am its still dark then and if was planning to have a sleep would still have missed it though"
the whole idea was to wake up to a nice morning sun rise peering above the windscreen, not some stubbly faces at 2.30am lol, we parked to get some much needed sleep and to wake up to sunrise, we do have an alarm you know ...... god some people assume such stupid things on here lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So, you went to a club to have sex with strangers, then drove to a dogging spot (that you knew was a dogging spot) and settled down for a nap where you knew doggers were.

The doggers saw a couple parked up in a dogging spot and had a look at the couple to see if they were putting on a show.

You didn't tell them you weren't doggers or dogging, just having a rest.

You didn't move on somewhere quieter or to services where it would have been safer for you to have parked.

Maybe you should be the ones to have a psychiactric report done, or maybe consult someone on how to use common sense.

Where on their original op does it mention that they KNEW it was a dogging spot?? And where does it say they KNEW doggers were about?

Beauty spot = dogging spot.

Taking a quilt and pillows to see the sun rise?!

Come on, surely they knew what the place was, or the male half at least.

I think his wife got spooked so he has got to play the 'how disgraceful!' card to keep his wife sweet.

The whole situation and reasoning smells of bullshit to me.

Eh?? So according to you, all known 'beauty' spots are now 'dogging' spots??

Haha, what a load of pish!! There is a 'beauty' spot down the road from me that families use for picnics! I guess that also makes it a dogging spot in your little world??

And, how do you know the op didn't pack their quilt to use after the club rather than use a hotel?? Maybe they fancied a bit of romance after their fun!!

How do you know it isnt?

How do you know the op's plans?"

I don't!!! But i also don't just ASSUME that everyone should know where all the dogging spots are!! Do they pre install them in sat navs now??

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

'god some people assume such stupid things on here lol"

some even think doggers are sickos and needing psychiatric help

you have had a bad experience, move on and enjoy what swinging offers you.

Your original post raised some valid concerns, in my opinion it was the language you used to describe the guys was what got the reaction.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So, you went to a club to have sex with strangers, then drove to a dogging spot (that you knew was a dogging spot) and settled down for a nap where you knew doggers were.

The doggers saw a couple parked up in a dogging spot and had a look at the couple to see if they were putting on a show.

You didn't tell them you weren't doggers or dogging, just having a rest.

You didn't move on somewhere quieter or to services where it would have been safer for you to have parked.

Maybe you should be the ones to have a psychiactric report done, or maybe consult someone on how to use common sense.you are making alot of assumptions here, and if you read our other posts youd know the story, No we never new it was a dogging location because if you bothered to read our profile you would notice we are not from that area, as we are not doggers we do not know any dogging locations around the country, I see from your profile you are a dogger and our post may have touched a nerve, if you abide by the doggers code of pracxtice then this isnt aimed at you its aimed at the guys who think dogging is their right and they should be allowed to do anything they wish"

You made all the assumptions, I just thought I would join in.

No, you havent hit a nerve.

Yes, there are some people who go dogging who will have no consideration for other people there and the reason why others are there.

Maybe rethinking what you have written and the way it comes across to other people (dogger and non doggers) shows how think of other people.

You came from a swingers club where there are good and not so good people, you made your choices there, you had the choice when you parked up.

May I ask if you practiced safe sex at the club or drank alcohol before driving?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"'god some people assume such stupid things on here lol"

some even think doggers are sickos and needing psychiatric help

you have had a bad experience, move on and enjoy what swinging offers you.

Your original post raised some valid concerns, in my opinion it was the language you used to describe the guys was what got the reaction.

"
No I didnt say Doggers ned help, what I said was doggers not following a doggers guide and wandering from car to car peering in windows at 3am needed help,all I was pointing out was if they themselves had followed the doggers code of conduct they would wait for the signs from others cars, whatever they are interieor lights being flashed or something and approach those cars, not just go to every car in the car park and peer through every window lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"So, you went to a club to have sex with strangers, then drove to a dogging spot (that you knew was a dogging spot) and settled down for a nap where you knew doggers were.

The doggers saw a couple parked up in a dogging spot and had a look at the couple to see if they were putting on a show.

You didn't tell them you weren't doggers or dogging, just having a rest.

You didn't move on somewhere quieter or to services where it would have been safer for you to have parked.

You made all the assumptions, I just thought I would join in.

No, you havent hit a nerve.

Yes, there are some people who go dogging who will have no consideration for other people there and the reason why others are there.

Maybe rethinking what you have written and the way it comes across to other people (dogger and non doggers) shows how think of other people.

You came from a swingers club where there are good and not so good people, you made your choices there, you had the choice when you parked up.

May I ask if you practiced safe sex at the club or drank alcohol before driving?

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of topic a bit but yes we always practice safe sex, we do intend to live for a considerable time yet lol, and Bev drank but I never drink and drive

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't!!! But i also don't just ASSUME that everyone should know where all the dogging spots are!! Do they pre install them in sat navs now??

*goes off to check "points of interest" on the Tomtom...

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Hell Ive never had such a response on the forums before im quite pleased I raised the subject. wonder how my next post will be received ....... should people be allowed to reply in forums or should this be banned lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So, you went to a club to have sex with strangers, then drove to a dogging spot (that you knew was a dogging spot) and settled down for a nap where you knew doggers were.

The doggers saw a couple parked up in a dogging spot and had a look at the couple to see if they were putting on a show.

You didn't tell them you weren't doggers or dogging, just having a rest.

You didn't move on somewhere quieter or to services where it would have been safer for you to have parked.

You made all the assumptions, I just thought I would join in.

No, you havent hit a nerve.

Yes, there are some people who go dogging who will have no consideration for other people there and the reason why others are there.

Maybe rethinking what you have written and the way it comes across to other people (dogger and non doggers) shows how think of other people.

You came from a swingers club where there are good and not so good people, you made your choices there, you had the choice when you parked up.

May I ask if you practiced safe sex at the club or drank alcohol before driving?

of topic a bit but yes we always practice safe sex, we do intend to live for a considerable time yet lol, and Bev drank but I never drink and drive"

So you used common sense to remove any risks by not drinking and practicing safe sex, if you felt that threatened or intimidated at the dogging spot you would have taken your wife away from the area you are complaining about.

It does seem pre-planned that you would take the bedding and your tipsy wife to a well known place famous for outdoor, nightly shenanigans.

If she had fancied one of the men there, would she have played safely with him/them?

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

"'god some people assume such stupid things on here lol"

some even think doggers are sickos and needing psychiatric help

you have had a bad experience, move on and enjoy what swinging offers you.

Your original post raised some valid concerns, in my opinion it was the language you used to describe the guys was what got the reaction.

No I didnt say Doggers ned help, what I said was doggers not following a doggers guide and wandering from car to car peering in windows at 3am needed help,all I was pointing out was if they themselves had followed the doggers code of conduct they would wait for the signs from others cars, whatever they are interieor lights being flashed or something and approach those cars, not just go to every car in the car park and peer through every window lol"

for being non doggers you seem to be quite firm in your decision that all other participating in activities you don't, follow some invisible code.....

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

others*

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hell Ive never had such a response on the forums before im quite pleased I raised the subject. wonder how my next post will be received ....... should people be allowed to reply in forums or should this be banned lol "

When posting a question in what is effectively a public forum everyone is entitled to an opinion - good or bad. If you're not prepared for it - don't post it!

Or, in my own immortal words : "Opinions are like arseholes - everybody has one and the last time I checked its not illegal to fart in public."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

When posting a question in what is effectively a public forum everyone is entitled to an opinion - good or bad. If you're not prepared for it - don't post it!

Or, in my own immortal words : "Opinions are like arseholes - everybody has one and the last time I checked its not illegal to fart in public.""

Some people do like to labour over a point though

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just read all this post ......I now have a headache and can't believe people still drive Mondeo's !

Goin for a sleep

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

When posting a question in what is effectively a public forum everyone is entitled to an opinion - good or bad. If you're not prepared for it - don't post it!

Or, in my own immortal words : "Opinions are like arseholes - everybody has one and the last time I checked its not illegal to fart in public.""
Think you missed the point matey lol was supposed to be tongue in cheek our last comment but never mind

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So, you went to a club to have sex with strangers, then drove to a dogging spot (that you knew was a dogging spot) and settled down for a nap where you knew doggers were.

The doggers saw a couple parked up in a dogging spot and had a look at the couple to see if they were putting on a show.

You didn't tell them you weren't doggers or dogging, just having a rest.

You didn't move on somewhere quieter or to services where it would have been safer for you to have parked.

You made all the assumptions, I just thought I would join in.

No, you havent hit a nerve.

Yes, there are some people who go dogging who will have no consideration for other people there and the reason why others are there.

Maybe rethinking what you have written and the way it comes across to other people (dogger and non doggers) shows how think of other people.

You came from a swingers club where there are good and not so good people, you made your choices there, you had the choice when you parked up.

May I ask if you practiced safe sex at the club or drank alcohol before driving?

of topic a bit but yes we always practice safe sex, we do intend to live for a considerable time yet lol, and Bev drank but I never drink and drive

It does seem pre-planned that you would take the bedding and your tipsy wife to a well known place famous for outdoor, nightly shenanigans.

If she had fancied one of the men there, would she have played safely with him/them?"

Did you just read the original post and jump down down to the bottom to post your own opinion? (which you are entitled to), but, if you actually took the time to read a few more, you would have found the op DID drive away to 'a quieter area'!!

While i don't agree with with the ops choice of words in his post, i also don't agree with people who just ASSUME that other people should know where the known dogging areas are!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

a friendly word of warning please dont use specific locations on here you will be banned happy to discuss specifics over mail if you like

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

When posting a question in what is effectively a public forum everyone is entitled to an opinion - good or bad. If you're not prepared for it - don't post it!

Or, in my own immortal words : "Opinions are like arseholes - everybody has one and the last time I checked its not illegal to fart in public."Think you missed the point matey lol was supposed to be tongue in cheek our last comment but never mind"

Hmm - So was my retort. See, its easy to take something the wrong way!!

Perhaps Smileys should be standard tags after posts!