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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not necessarily, Dragon has had subs who have been both bi and not - although it has been a struggle to find genuine subs who want to play with a guy as well |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Our profile is very specific and it seems to be working pretty well! We've now got several bi sub's chained up in the cellar! 
Very clear "
Haha thanks! Its certainly sorted out the wheat from the chaff! We only get the genuine sissies messaging us now, virtually no cock shot merchants at all! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Our profile is very specific and it seems to be working pretty well! We've now got several bi sub's chained up in the cellar!
Very clear
Haha thanks! Its certainly sorted out the wheat from the chaff! We only get the genuine sissies messaging us now, virtually no cock shot merchants at all!"
A place I think about reaching |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Everyone has their own limits and if a sub says one of his limits is that he won’t do anything sexual with a man then that should obviously be respected and he could still do an adequate job as a sub to the right Dominant I reckon.
For me personally, if I wasn’t bi and was told to do anything sexual with a man then I would do as I was told as I always do, unless what I’m told to do is morally wrong, would cause me unbearable pain or long term injury or affects my family. There are lots of things I do and have done that are uncomfortable for me physically and/or emotionally but I still do them and am happy to suffer that way to please my Dominant. If I wasn’t Bi then I would just consider sex with a man as another uncomfortable task I would have to do when told to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Everyone has their own limits and if a sub says one of his limits is that he won’t do anything sexual with a man then that should obviously be respected and he could still do an adequate job as a sub to the right Dominant I reckon.
For me personally, if I wasn’t bi and was told to do anything sexual with a man then I would do as I was told as I always do, unless what I’m told to do is morally wrong, would cause me unbearable pain or long term injury or affects my family. There are lots of things I do and have done that are uncomfortable for me physically and/or emotionally but I still do them and am happy to suffer that way to please my Dominant. If I wasn’t Bi then I would just consider sex with a man as another uncomfortable task I would have to do when told to. "
Well we wouldn't want to do anything to anyone who wouldn't want us to do it to them! Where's the fun in that? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Everyone has their own limits and if a sub says one of his limits is that he won’t do anything sexual with a man then that should obviously be respected and he could still do an adequate job as a sub to the right Dominant I reckon.
For me personally, if I wasn’t bi and was told to do anything sexual with a man then I would do as I was told as I always do, unless what I’m told to do is morally wrong, would cause me unbearable pain or long term injury or affects my family. There are lots of things I do and have done that are uncomfortable for me physically and/or emotionally but I still do them and am happy to suffer that way to please my Dominant. If I wasn’t Bi then I would just consider sex with a man as another uncomfortable task I would have to do when told to.
Well we wouldn't want to do anything to anyone who wouldn't want us to do it to them! Where's the fun in that?"
Personally I’ve had things done to me that I didn’t want to have done to me but have endured it to obey and please my Dominant as I believe that to be part of my duty as a sub. The pleasure for me comes from knowing I’ve been a good sub and pleased my Dominant rather than the act itself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Everyone has their own limits and if a sub says one of his limits is that he won’t do anything sexual with a man then that should obviously be respected and he could still do an adequate job as a sub to the right Dominant I reckon.
For me personally, if I wasn’t bi and was told to do anything sexual with a man then I would do as I was told as I always do, unless what I’m told to do is morally wrong, would cause me unbearable pain or long term injury or affects my family. There are lots of things I do and have done that are uncomfortable for me physically and/or emotionally but I still do them and am happy to suffer that way to please my Dominant. If I wasn’t Bi then I would just consider sex with a man as another uncomfortable task I would have to do when told to.
Well we wouldn't want to do anything to anyone who wouldn't want us to do it to them! Where's the fun in that?
Personally I’ve had things done to me that I didn’t want to have done to me but have endured it to obey and please my Dominant as I believe that to be part of my duty as a sub. The pleasure for me comes from knowing I’ve been a good sub and pleased my Dominant rather than the act itself. "
They weren't things beyond your hard limits though obvs? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Everyone has their own limits and if a sub says one of his limits is that he won’t do anything sexual with a man then that should obviously be respected and he could still do an adequate job as a sub to the right Dominant I reckon.
For me personally, if I wasn’t bi and was told to do anything sexual with a man then I would do as I was told as I always do, unless what I’m told to do is morally wrong, would cause me unbearable pain or long term injury or affects my family. There are lots of things I do and have done that are uncomfortable for me physically and/or emotionally but I still do them and am happy to suffer that way to please my Dominant. If I wasn’t Bi then I would just consider sex with a man as another uncomfortable task I would have to do when told to.
Well we wouldn't want to do anything to anyone who wouldn't want us to do it to them! Where's the fun in that?
Personally I’ve had things done to me that I didn’t want to have done to me but have endured it to obey and please my Dominant as I believe that to be part of my duty as a sub. The pleasure for me comes from knowing I’ve been a good sub and pleased my Dominant rather than the act itself.
They weren't things beyond your hard limits though obvs?"
No, that’s exactly what I’m saying. I won’t do anything that’s morally wrong, so anything that’s illegal, makes ‘vanilla’ people uncomfortable or offended if in public etc, I don’t do anything that involves unbearable pain that is basically torture or causes me permanent or long term injury, so things like finger nails being pulled out, broken bones or anything that affects my family or work so my Dominant comes before anyone except my family (parents and siblings) and if they need me I will always go and sometimes work has to take priority too but not always. Other than that I will do absolutely anything. I really didn’t enjoy being used as a human toilet by every guest when my Mistress at the time threw house parties, piss tastes disgusting and really stings when it goes in my eyes and it’s incredibly degrading on top of that but I always did it when she told me to. |
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By *icentious OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Nope. I’m a sub, I’m straight, I’m not even in the slightest bit curious.
Anyone who I meet and do kink with understands this. "
Hey as a straight assertive, fully understand.
Suppose it’s a question of need and boundaries. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nope. I’m a sub, I’m straight, I’m not even in the slightest bit curious.
Anyone who I meet and do kink with understands this. "
Do you ever do things that you don’t necessarily want to do or don’t enjoy doing just to be obedient?
I’m not being argumentative or judging you, I realise that question could come across as aggressive but it genuinely isn’t. I’m just interested in what other subs are willing to do for their Dominant and where the line is drawn. |
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By *icentious OP Couple
over a year ago
Up on them there hills |
"Nope. I’m a sub, I’m straight, I’m not even in the slightest bit curious.
Anyone who I meet and do kink with understands this.
Do you ever do things that you don’t necessarily want to do or don’t enjoy doing just to be obedient?
I’m not being argumentative or judging you, I realise that question could come across as aggressive but it genuinely isn’t. I’m just interested in what other subs are willing to do for their Dominant and where the line is drawn. "
The boundaries |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nope. I’m a sub, I’m straight, I’m not even in the slightest bit curious.
Anyone who I meet and do kink with understands this.
Do you ever do things that you don’t necessarily want to do or don’t enjoy doing just to be obedient?
I’m not being argumentative or judging you, I realise that question could come across as aggressive but it genuinely isn’t. I’m just interested in what other subs are willing to do for their Dominant and where the line is drawn.
The boundaries "
Yeah, but I’m asking where do you draw the line for your boundaries. Are your boundaries everything you don’t want to do or don’t enjoy doing or are there things you don’t enjoy doing that are within your boundaries? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"And also depends on relationships with dominants and how long known
Longer known more likely to do more "
Yeah, I agree, I also think that a good Dominant knows not to push us too far too early and only asks us to do things that they know we’re comfortable doing at that time.
I get a lot of messages here from men saying they’re Dom and they’ll tell me to send pictures of me naked with my face in the picture and pictures of me fingering my asshole l, after exchanging just a couple of messages. These are things that are within my limits and I’ve done them for Dominants in the past that I’ve got to know and trust but I won’t do it for someone I know nothing about and I wouldn’t expect a good Dominant to ask me to do it straight away. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I submit only to women. I like cuckold roleplays with me being the cuck where both can verbally humiliate me. But I don't perform physical acts on men. That's a clear limit for me.
Just because I mentioned like being pegged by a woman, I have had male halves of some "couples profiles" reaching out to me and saying they would like to have me suck them off and fuck me. One male from couple profiles asked me "Are you sure you are not bi?" after I have mentioned in my profile that I am not looking to meet men.
I understand that some/many submissive men can accommodate bisexual activities as part of their servitude. But it's just not for me and there is no need for submission and bisexuality to be interlinked. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nope. I’m a sub, I’m straight, I’m not even in the slightest bit curious.
Anyone who I meet and do kink with understands this.
Do you ever do things that you don’t necessarily want to do or don’t enjoy doing just to be obedient?
I’m not being argumentative or judging you, I realise that question could come across as aggressive but it genuinely isn’t. I’m just interested in what other subs are willing to do for their Dominant and where the line is drawn.
The boundaries
Yeah, but I’m asking where do you draw the line for your boundaries. Are your boundaries everything you don’t want to do or don’t enjoy doing or are there things you don’t enjoy doing that are within your boundaries?"
My boundaries include things I may not want to do. There are things that are a categoric no and would not make me feel comfortable or like myself such as being sexual with women, or having anything to do with faeces.
There are some things I don’t fully enjoy doing but will comply if I’m demanded to do so. My hard limits are my hard limits. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nope. I’m a sub, I’m straight, I’m not even in the slightest bit curious.
Anyone who I meet and do kink with understands this.
Do you ever do things that you don’t necessarily want to do or don’t enjoy doing just to be obedient?
I’m not being argumentative or judging you, I realise that question could come across as aggressive but it genuinely isn’t. I’m just interested in what other subs are willing to do for their Dominant and where the line is drawn. "
That's an interesting question that comes up among kinksters - Is a punishment really a punishment if the sub actually enjoys it? If I enjoy being spanked, is spanking really a punishment for me?
There is no clear answer to it. In the end, it depends on the dynamics between the people involved.
The way it works for me:
1) Things I like being done to - Hand Spanking, Pegging, humiliation etc.
2) Thinks I don't enjoy doing but not crossing my limits - caning, whipping, caging and confinement, punishments like write "sorry" 1000 times
3) Things which are beyond my limits - CBT, bisexuality, needles.
This is something that has to be discussed beforehand. The domme alternates between 1 and 2 based on her mood. But 3 is a no-go zone. That's just me though. Others might have different kind of dynamics. |
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for me i do not find men at all attractive, but i have had fun with a couple where hey both used me for their pleasure, which worked for me. i like to please others. i think it`s just depends on the sub and their limits |
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