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Is this site clicky??

By *lue-green OP Man over a year ago

Taunton

Hi, As a new guy on here I am finding it hard to break into the scene. In fact the 2 meets I have had are due to meeting on another site!

Is it just me, or are you regulars wary of new single guys. I have tried to get a mate to join so we can have a "couples" profile, but she frowned on the idea!

Look forward to your responses, and anyone in the south/south west, or who visit down here and fancy to meet, please say Hi.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

4 weeks ! As has been said on many threads on here, there are many more single guys than any other group on the site, therefore the choice for single women or couples is vast.

Stand out from the crowd, be polite, READ PROFILES, send emails, be patient and I'm sure you will have as much fun as you can handle.

And as for 'clicky' I've certainly not found it so, join in the threads on here and you will soon make friends - they are a fabulous bunch in the forums.................

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've found this site to be the least clicky of the lot i've tried. It took me months to get my 1st meet, due to the sheer amount of single guys on here....to be honest we're lucky we are allowed on here at all. Just be nice, respectful and prepared for lots of rejections....you'll get there in the end

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

after being on this site over a year, and a regular in the forums, im gonna say YES it is.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Really!! Im quite surprised, though I very rarely post on the forums

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

hey, thats only my opinion , a lot will disagree,

i'm not saying everyone os in the clique, but there deffo is one

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I was on 1 site that was uber clicky, spent months and months trying to get someone to speak to me in the chatrooms lol, maybe I'm just not that appealing!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Also if there is a clique....I'm definetely not in it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"hey, thats only my opinion , a lot will disagree,

i'm not saying everyone os in the clique, but there deffo is one "

Lol, thats only because you are one of the 'special ones' xxx

xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Everyone is special....some are just more special than others

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Everyone is special....some are just more special than others"

Oh Pure is very very special mmmmmmmmmmmmmm xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm sure she is.....i'm more special needs lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

cliquey not clicky, now go away and leave me alone with my friends.

This site is what you make it, join in the forums. it may take some time until people get to know you enough for you to feel part of the furniture, but that's life, not a clique.

enjoy!!

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By *lue-green OP Man over a year ago

Taunton

That makes a change, having special needs, I thought that most peoples needs and want were similar, not special!

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By *lue-green OP Man over a year ago

Taunton

"cliquey not clicky, now go away and leave me alone with my friends.

This site is what you make it, join in the forums. it may take some time until people get to know you enough for you to feel part of the furniture, but that's life, not a clique.

enjoy!!"

Good spot! Maths is my strong subject! Say Hi to your friends

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By *thwalescplCouple over a year ago

brecon

There are cliques on here, I am part of one, very small membership.....

Ok, yes! I am on my own (sniff) no one talks to me.... I cant talk to anyone else cos I am worried they might tell me I cant talk to them cos I aint in their "gang" (sniff)...... no one says hello in the chatrooms, no matter how long I sit there looking at the screen, I would post a comment but I dont want to seem forward, so I just sit there reading about all the fun everyone else is having.

( I wish there was a sarcasm smilie!!)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Everyone is special....some are just more special than others

Oh Pure is very very special mmmmmmmmmmmmmm xx

xx"

why thankyou miss Raz

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't understand the chatroom, it's a really confusing one...doh!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am a one person clique and rarely put out for anyone except my right hand!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

theres always gonna be groups of people that get on better than others....happens in all walks of life.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What Raz said were good advice!

I am still quite new on Fab, and am going to attend a couple of socials to meet some of the characters on the site.

Going to meets is one of the ways to break the ice for sure

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

can be a wee bit clique some parts but the forums generally cool!! wee bit patience and u b fine am sure! rushin into couples profile doesnt guarentee more meets expecially if u just buddies!! the forum dwellers are a cool bunch xx

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By *lue-green OP Man over a year ago

Taunton

"can be a wee bit clique some parts but the forums generally cool!! wee bit patience and u b fine am sure! rushin into couples profile doesnt guarentee more meets expecially if u just buddies!! the forum dwellers are a cool bunch xx"

Yep, I see the forum guys are cool, but also a little insane!! Its where Im going to hang out x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

insanity is only a problem when u cant admit it!! us?? we admit to it lol xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"hey, thats only my opinion , a lot will disagree,

i'm not saying everyone os in the clique, but there deffo is one "

We'd have to agree,the forums can be quite cliquey.

It doesn't bother us but could probably be quite off putting to newcomers.

XXXX

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By *ngel Devil69Couple over a year ago

Manilva

Thinks having small groups of 'friends' can be interpreted as being cliquey. But that is life in general. Everyone has friends they get on better with

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By *ristolrobMan over a year ago

bristol

having been on here first as a couple then a single now a couple again (thanks FAB) i can honestly say to all the single guys READ PROFILE then when youve read it READ IT AGAIN and only then send a well structured and polite message ... My lady gets 50 messages a week saying "fancy a fuck" and every single one of em goes in the delete bin...the guys who take the time to read her profile properly always get a reply at the very least...its not clicky its manners and a lot of guys seem to forget that...this is a great site and we both love it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Iv been readin the forums an like them an the responses.. But the chat room is bit clicky I think .. Iv logged on few times.. Been polite.. No one ctually replied back with a hello or anything an iv been there few times. Even though this is a swing site a lot of people are not swingers just people lookin for a fuck or to get they rocks off.. True swingers know of swingers ettiquette an embrace all..

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

Is the site clicky.... I don't think it is as such intentionally....

Are there people who tend to gravitate towards each other, are there various in jokes, are there people who rather than flirting with each other in forum should probably take it to pm.... sure...

I don't think the forum, or the chatroom, is any different to any pub in the land as an example...

people will know each other... people will have met or socialised, and gotten to know people, you wouldn't go into a pub and everyone immediately welcome you with open arms... it takes time

I am probably more well known on another site than I am here... it took me a while to get known, now I am slowly becoming more comfortable here and it is taking time....

I do tend to stay away from the "in-joke" threads because they aren't welcoming to all or something that the masses can get involved in... and that maybe something that the regs could look at...

remember we were all new once... I still feel new here....but in time hopefully I will feel as comfortable here as I am elsewhere..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

yes guys I find the site clicky been on few weeks now and finding it hard ( no not down there ) to get meets. Of course it might be the fact I'm old ugly and fat. It also seems that when you go to the chat rooms certain people seem to gang on on others for simple things like speeling mistakes may be to stop them getting meets. Might just go back to dogging

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i think yr confusing clique with meets ,

the site does have little cliques in the forums and on chat,

but thats nothing to do with anyone not getting meets , there 2 totally seperate issues.

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By *imfromGlasgowMan over a year ago

er...guess

"yes guys I find the site clicky been on few weeks now and finding it hard ( no not down there ) to get meets. Of course it might be the fact I'm old ugly and fat. It also seems that when you go to the chat rooms certain people seem to gang on on others for simple things like speeling mistakes may be to stop them getting meets. Might just go back to dogging

5 weeks is hardly long enough to come to a proper decision. Fab is no more and no less than a reflection of what passes for real life. You'll get more out the more you put in.

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By *ortheastcoupleukCouple over a year ago

easington were the sun dont shine

5 weeks is hardly long enough to come to a proper decision. Fab is no more and no less than a reflection of what passes for real life. You'll get more out the more you put in."
agree there and having a rant included in ya profile aint really selling your self is it . reinvent make it so it stand s out above others

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yeah having rant probably isnt the best however when your e-mailing a couple and because you dont reply within a set time about two hours ( way from the house ) you get blocked does make you feel like that and its happended twice with different couples. nothing in the e-mails which could be classed as offensive. A simple your not for us would surfice.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

answer to the subject line is a BIG yes!

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By *heekychezzaWoman over a year ago

warrington

Sure there are some cliques in the forums, and although I don't go there I'm sure there will be some in the chat rooms.....but there are a whole lot more people who are here standing as individuals/couples in their own right.

Personally I'm not out to join anyones gang or take sides over issues in the forums...if someone posts about something I don't like I stay away. I'll never understand why people feel the need to bring their antipathy and derision into the public domain. Live and let live....as I'm just here to have some fun and enjoy myself...and I think that's true for the vast majority. If you treat other people how you yourself would prefer to be treated you should have a good time.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Are there people who tend to gravitate towards each other, are there various in jokes, are there people who rather than flirting with each other in forum should probably take it to pm.... sure...

I do tend to stay away from the "in-joke" threads because they aren't welcoming to all or something that the masses can get involved in... and that maybe something that the regs could look at..."

This is the type of thing that tends to give the site a air of cliquiness to new and maybe not so new members.

The injoke thing can have the same effect as being in a pub,half hearing a comment and people sniggering,it doesn't make you feel very comfortable,even if it wasn't meant for you.

As for the flirting on a thread,fair enough most of us are guilty of it to some extent.

However,when it goes on between 2 or 3 people for three quarters of what started as an interesting thread it can become boring,more so to newbies who don't know the history of the participants.

The old saying "Get a room" comes to mind or in this case "Send a PM" would probably be more appropriate.

It recently even degenerated into a slagging match between two guys vying for the attention of a certain lovely lady,which no doubt caused embarrassment to those involved.

It would deffinately have appeared a bit odd to new site members I'm sure.

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"cliquey not clicky, now go away and leave me alone with my friends.

This site is what you make it, join in the forums. it may take some time until people get to know you enough for you to feel part of the furniture, but that's life, not a clique.

enjoy!!

Good spot! Maths is my strong subject! Say Hi to your friends"

I don't have friends, I just pretend.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I cant tell you if its cliquey cos you're not in the clique.

Ooooops

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I agree with Bristolrob, single guys are plenty. The number of single guys we delete as they have no manners. We may all be on this site for one thing but manners cost nothing. My partner really gets annoyed when we get a fancy a fuck full stop. If thats being clicky than we are. Use manners and we always reply be it a polite yes or no.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

depends what you clas as clicky......... now if you had asked are there a lot of raving mad nutters on here then i would def have said yes.............

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

This is the type of thing that tends to give the site a air of cliquiness to new and maybe not so new members.

The injoke thing can have the same effect as being in a pub,half hearing a comment and people sniggering,it doesn't make you feel very comfortable,even if it wasn't meant for you.

As for the flirting on a thread,fair enough most of us are guilty of it to some extent.

However,when it goes on between 2 or 3 people for three quarters of what started as an interesting thread it can become boring,more so to newbies who don't know the history of the participants.

The old saying "Get a room" comes to mind or in this case "Send a PM" would probably be more appropriate.

It recently even degenerated into a slagging match between two guys vying for the attention of a certain lovely lady,which no doubt caused embarrassment to those involved.

It would deffinately have appeared a bit odd to new site members I'm sure.

XXXX"

I've been here a year and I still feel like it.... I am not sure if people in the forum know how uncomfortable it is at times... cause I look at the different subjects sometimes thinking "well what could I contribute to", the answer is nothing or not much.....

and then I shy away again.....

we were all new once, I just don't think people realise they are doing it, but I do think it is stopping more people from contributing...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

yep

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

wait till ppl in the forums block you cuz they see you chatting to others .

now thats not just clicky its fuckin sad !!

sometimes makes me wonder if they are actually grown adults , cuz they dont bloody act like it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"wait till ppl in the forums block you cuz they see you chatting to others .

now thats not just clicky its fuckin sad !!

sometimes makes me wonder if they are actually grown adults , cuz they dont bloody act like it "

People really do that?

Can't say I've experienced it on either profile, but then I (we) rarely message people anyway, only tend to reply.

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By *ishful.thinkingWoman over a year ago

east london

Is this site clique?

I may get lynched for this but what the hell!

As a new comer to the site yeah it appears as if there are cliques, but can someone please tell me any social settings or groupings that don’t have them.

Schools, colleges, parties, pubs, work - even within our friendship groups we naturally migrate towards those some over others dependent on not only our own moods and needs but also on those of the people surrounding us.

As with all settings, here there are groups within groups and on this site the groupings seem to be more fluid and cross over, which makes it more welcoming than most.

What I have noticed is that on some of the threads the posters appear to have shared knowledge/information that’s not necessarily easy to dissect, but and it’s a big but, when someone (not a regular poster) posts into the thread they’re not ignored or pushed out, in most instances the thread moves to accommodate them. So yeah it appears clique but is also fun and if you pay attention you can start to put the pieces together.

So as a newcomer to this or anything else the best advice I can give as was given to me is jump right in.

Easy tell I’m bored of mid-term.

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM) over a year ago

birmingham

"wait till ppl in the forums block you cuz they see you chatting to others"

Hummm we wondered why some members we've never spoken to / looked at had us blocked

Ah well, if they're that touchy, we're better of without them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Na clichy lol i talk ta everyone if they don't talk back i go live next door to em simples xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"wait till ppl in the forums block you cuz they see you chatting to others

Hummm we wondered why some members we've never spoken to / looked at had us blocked

Ah well, if they're that touchy, we're better of without them

yeah u r better off without them, we obviously aint in their "gang"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"wait till ppl in the forums block you cuz they see you chatting to others

Hummm we wondered why some members we've never spoken to / looked at had us blocked

Ah well, if they're that touchy, we're better of without them

yeah u r better off without them, we obviously aint in their "gang"

You can be in my gang, though I prefer to call it group as it seems far less aggressive.

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM) over a year ago

birmingham

"we obviously aint in their "gang"

Our gang is much more selective

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"we obviously aint in their "gang"

Our gang is much more selective

Not as selective as mine.

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By *obblybitsCouple over a year ago

huddersfield

I have only been on hear for a few weeks. not had many replied to things i have said. I/We introduced our selves on the intro bit and we didnt have a single reply from anyone.

How I see it though is people probebly think im some 14yr old school girl who can't spell! so im going to keep posting and putting my point in hearand there.

hopfuly you will realize im not sodding off and talk to me

and if two couples who we met the other night verifide us we may become more real to some!

m&m

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By *ezebelWoman over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

"Na clichy lol i talk ta everyone if they don't talk back i go live next door to em simples xx

Thank god I talked to you then...this is a quiet neighbourhood dontchano

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM) over a year ago

birmingham

"hopfuly you will realize im not sodding off and talk to me

How can anyone ignore your _obblybits?

We've noticed them err sorry, you and spoken to you

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM) over a year ago

birmingham

"Not as selective as mine.

Your's is very posh

ours is nearly posh

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By *obblybitsCouple over a year ago

huddersfield

aw why thank you

xxxx much appreciated

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not as selective as mine.

Your's is very posh

ours is nearly posh

No, mine is lonely.

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM) over a year ago

birmingham

"No, mine is lonely.

So you're a one man gang then?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No this site isnt clicky, so the more effort you put in the more you get back and this is 2nd time round for me .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No this site isnt clicky, so the more effort you put in the more you get back and this is 2nd time round for me .

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course its clicky, i've been here 2 years ( this is my 2nd time round too)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No, mine is lonely.

So you're a one man gang then?

a one man group, I don't like the term gang, sounds oh so aggressive.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No this site isnt clicky, so the more effort you put in the more you get back and this is 2nd time round for me .

course its clicky, i've been here 2 years ( this is my 2nd time round too)

Ive not seen that at all

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No this site isnt clicky, so the more effort you put in the more you get back and this is 2nd time round for me .

course its clicky, i've been here 2 years ( this is my 2nd time round too)

Ive not seen that at all

of course it's clicky, each time I press the button on my mouse it clicks.

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By *he_original_poloWoman over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Is the site cliquey... no, but some of the people on it are (please note I did say 'some') and you get that anywhere and it's not always intentionally to be nasty or ignorant - they just become a tight/closed group of friends who don't have time for anyone else lol. Some groups of people appear to be cliquey but aren't... they just get caught up with in-jokes and banter. A few look as if they could be but are really just playing the game of being nice on the forums or in chat, but really slag off the people they natter with behind their back and then don't own up to it - so on the face of it they may look like they are super friendly but behind the scenes are saying things like "I'd only do her from behind coz if I had to look at her face it would be like fucking my mother... or granny" ... but then some of the people they banter with do actually know these people are two-face hypocrites and just play along for something to do.

So all in all, there are a few cliques and it can appear there are more cliques than there really are, but generally it's not cliquey really.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is the site cliquey... no, but some of the people on it are (please note I did say 'some') and you get that anywhere and it's not always intentionally to be nasty or ignorant - they just become a tight/closed group of friends who don't have time for anyone else lol. Some groups of people appear to be cliquey but aren't... they just get caught up with in-jokes and banter. A few look as if they could be but are really just playing the game of being nice on the forums or in chat, but really slag off the people they natter with behind their back and then don't own up to it - so on the face of it they may look like they are super friendly but behind the scenes are saying things like "I'd only do her from behind coz if I had to look at her face it would be like fucking my mother... or granny" ... but then some of the people they banter with do actually know these people are two-face hypocrites and just play along for something to do.

So all in all, there are a few cliques and it can appear there are more cliques than there really are, but generally it's not cliquey really."

I agree with this 100%...well put!!!

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By *he_original_poloWoman over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

So all in all, there are a few cliques and it can appear there are more cliques than there really are, but generally it's not cliquey really.

I agree with this 100%...well put!!!"

Thank you – but it may all have just been a ruse to get a certain quote in (to make someone sweat wondering if I still have it on msn) **evil laugh**

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So all in all, there are a few cliques and it can appear there are more cliques than there really are, but generally it's not cliquey really.

I agree with this 100%...well put!!!

Thank you – but it may all have just been a ruse to get a certain quote in (to make someone sweat wondering if I still have it on msn) **evil laugh**

Ah i see...i've been there myself

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By *obblybitsCouple over a year ago

huddersfield

polo pmsl fucking ya mother almost spat my tea out lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I entered the LOUNGE.

With some interpedation, had a few knock backs and hassles but dealt with them and fought my own corner.

If your willing to put the time in., You will get some good responses.

Come in all cocky and know it all and your shot down in flames.

Come in friendly and up for a laff and you WILL succeed.

Me, i talk to everyone nice .

...oh and sexy ....did i say sexy with a lovely bum etc

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To quote Groucho,

"I'd never be a member of any club that would have me as a member"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

awwww plums....

you a lovely member

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't find the site or forums cliquey at all.

Perhaps being a happy, optimistic and positive person helps

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By *acuzziFlooziesCouple over a year ago

Kent to Surrey

"I don't find the site or forums cliquey at all.

Perhaps being a happy, optimistic and positive person helps

And having a gorgeous ass!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i personally think cliquey is a harsh word, i dont think its so much people are cliquey as they just feel more comfy with people they know, if you walked into a pub/club or anywhere else and you saw someone you knew you would just automatically be drawn to them over strangers and its the same in any walk of life including internet site, you tend to chat more to people you know on here as in real life, i find tho most people will talk to you if you make the effort to speak to them first, of course not all the time but hey you never know if you dont try

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

yep ,,, it can be ,,, but just barge ya way in and ya will be fine

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By *ndreaJohnCouple over a year ago

Farnborough

This is my first post although been a member for a longish time. I don't think it is cliquey. But, The main problem is guys don't read peoples profiles and of course that means they get lots of knockbacks. We have a whole paragraph on our profiles which states no single guys in big capital letters but everytime I log onI have about 6 or 7 winks or friends invites from single guys. They just get binned no matter what the guy looks like or says. TYhis is because they havent taken the time to read the profile. We do meet lots of times with singles but only when we want to. The problem with these sites is that there are so many singles guys it means we can pick and choose. Occasionally we will get a guy who says he did read the profile and then spends time to write a decent bio on himslef and understands if we don't answer, we will sometimes answer these. The reason we put that paragraph in wasn't to scare of singles but to try to get rid of the "I am in the are and fancy a fuck are you available types". if we were we would be getting in touch with them. That's not what floats our boat though we like to form friendships and I think that is the misconception of being cliquey. I think Cliquey should only really be applied to a group of people who once they have a group of friends will not accept anymore regardless

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

ah fook it. am starting a clique for all those who aint in one. maybe post under events. get ya name down for it lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Can we have clique sex?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Can we have clique sex?"

You can have any type of sex you want

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Can we have clique sex?

You can have any type of sex you want

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You have to join in order to become part of a group and it takes time. By being there for people you can build up friendship and really reading profiles you get to know people

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By *entscotscplCouple over a year ago

falkirk ish

its only a clique if you aint in it llf

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Can we have clique sex?

You can have any type of sex you want

Hopefully youd be smiling that much if not more

lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Can we have clique sex?

You can have any type of sex you want

Hopefully youd be smiling that much if not more

lol"

oooooooooer

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Can we have clique sex?

You can have any type of sex you want

Hopefully youd be smiling that much if not more

lol

oooooooooer

You might say that as well

lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Bit like Chams then thats very Clique ive been told by a couple who recently attended there.

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By *he_original_poloWoman over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"Bit like Chams then thats very Clique ive been told by a couple who recently attended there."

They lied to you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

we dont find the site clicky and have meet some really nice people. However there are some people in life who buck the trend. Agree with a few posts that say you being single is making it hard for you to meet people as the odds are stacked up against you

xxxxxx

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By *averiMan over a year ago

Swindon to bristol

I think it is a bit. Several members think they own it think they are better than the rest of us.

You know who you are! lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"But, The main problem is guys don't read peoples profiles and of course that means they get lots of knockbacks. We have a whole paragraph on our profiles which states no single guys in big capital letters but everytime I log onI have about 6 or 7 winks or friends invites from single guys. They just get binned no matter what the guy looks like or says. TYhis is because they havent taken the time to read the profile. We do meet lots of times with singles but only when we want to. The problem with these sites is that there are so many singles guys it means we can pick and choose. Occasionally we will get a guy who says he did read the profile and then spends time to write a decent bio on himslef and understands if we don't answer, we will sometimes answer these. The reason we put that paragraph in wasn't to scare of singles but to try to get rid of the "I am in the are and fancy a fuck are you available types". if we were we would be getting in touch with them. That's not what floats our boat though we like to form friendships and I think that is the misconception of being cliquey. I think Cliquey should only really be applied to a group of people who once they have a group of friends will not accept anymore regardless "

I think that the issue of people not reading someones profile and forming friendships is completely different to the issue of whether the forums are cliquey or not. And women and couples don't seem to read peoples profiles either, as has been seen many times by forum postings and my own personal experience!!!!

This is my second time on this site and in my view the forums can be very cliquey indeed. This can be due to some people just knowing each other in real life and 'having a laugh' with each other within the forums, or it can be due to some of those more false people 'sucking up' to the forum community. The one thing i do not like about the cliquey side of things is that no matter what type of thread is posted it can get hijacked and degenerated into a series of silly, childish comments which completely ruins the thread. But there are also some great threads too!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well polo there must be a lot of liars as they aint the only ones who have said the same and yes agree with other post some people do think this site is for their own use and they are gods gift.Not u i may add

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By *he_original_poloWoman over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"Well polo there must be a lot of liars as they aint the only ones who have said the same and yes agree with other post some people do think this site is for their own use and they are gods gift.Not u i may add"

Of all the clubs I have been to, Chams is the one I would say is not cliquey.... aside from some of the couples who go on Saturday nights... but that's couples for ya lol

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM) over a year ago

birmingham

"and yes agree with other post some people do think this site is for their own use and they are gods gift."

And some of them are not even site supporters

the cheek of some

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Dont think its a set rule to have to be a site supporter here we go again some people think its there site and nobody elses clique is right.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Dont think its a set rule to have to be a site supporter here we go again some people think its there site and nobody elses clique is right."

I disagree, the site is what you make it, when I first came along I rarely, in fact never got a reply to my posts, unless I started a thread, now people know my ways a little I get far more response, some good and some not, but ya can't please everyone.

TBH Your comment tells me more about you than anything else, you feel it's cliquey IMO is because you haven't given people time but feel hard done to that they haven't give you the same time.

join in the fun, you will soon see it's not cliquey, of course some people have met away from the site and formed friendship but that happens in real life too.

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM) over a year ago

birmingham

"Dont think its a set rule to have to be a site supporter here we go again some people think its there site and nobody elses clique is right."

Free site

free registration;-) free chat rooms

and they still moan

And I did say "they"

not you!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I do not believe I have come across a forum that is cliquey. However, I am not one of those who would sit in a corner and expect to be entertained without making an effort.

I once came across someone who bad mouth the organisers of an event for ignoring them in a forum. Well, they did not inform the organisers they would be there, and did not make any efforts to let people who they were while they were there. Did not go up to anyone to say hi once. And they had the cheek to say they were being ignored!!!

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By *umourCouple over a year ago

Rushden

Look at this from another angle... You walk into a pub when you are away from home and walk to the bar. As you do so, you shout Hi to everyone... How many are likely to say Hi back?? Hardly any, so why would you expect people in the chat roon, who are holding their own conversations, to even notice when someone comes in and says Hi?

Along the same lines... You send an email and the other party doesn't type back or declines your offer to get to know them better. Is that also a clique? After all, you don't fit into their world.

Bit different on a forum, but if people don't feel they want to reply to a post, why should they? I think the problem is that some people are either too "precious" and think everyone should chat to them, or they are perhaps just a little too needy!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I seem to have the fabulous ability not to notice cliques. I just dive right into forums (and not just swinging ones) and have never had a problem

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This forum is like any other. It's only as freindly as the people currently posting.

I agree with an earlier comment that most posts degenerate into infantile exchanges between two or three needy members. Why they don't just private message is beyond me. I don't usually take any notice ( believing there is room for all ) but it's their inability to see that others are trying to join in and need feedback, acknowlegement or pulling in. To be honest the selfish and needies wouldn't even notice if most folk disappeared as long as they could keep blowing each other kisses.

It's not the overlooked folk who are needy......

I can't call the forum a clique.. cos it changes according to the attitude of the posters.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I seem to have the fabulous ability not to notice cliques. I just dive right into forums (and not just swinging ones) and have never had a problem

I'd like that ability .... I do believe it's called MYOPIA.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

agrees with barry as i was on that site 2 and a lot of members left over one thing or another but this is a fab site now x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I seem to have the fabulous ability not to notice cliques. I just dive right into forums (and not just swinging ones) and have never had a problem

I'd like that ability .... I do believe it's called MYOPIA. "

haha, I actually am short-sighted however I think my affliction is rather more down to me being a chatterbox. I don't see the point in cliques so I don't pay attention to them and just chat.

I actually restrained myself from chatting on here until recently. Unheard of for me but there's good reason

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

okay... having thought about it a little more, I think that certain parts can be considered to be clicky....

I went into the lounge and thought to myself "how many new people could really join in on the posts" and I reckoned only about half....

also then looked to see how many had turned into 2/3 person conversations , again probably about half....

I feel more comfortable posting in other parts of the forum...

I feel more comfortable in certain chatrooms rather than others... as a newbie to them, I have been made to feel really welcome in the scottish and welsh rooms... and not so much in the others....

so I have made decisions to go to scottish and welsh socials rather than some of the others.... consequencies

this has been a really good thread because you have seen people answer it, that you wouldn't do in the lounge for example....

if the lounge was more opening then the site would be better for everyone...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I seem to have the fabulous ability not to notice cliques. I just dive right into forums (and not just swinging ones) and have never had a problem

I'd like that ability .... I do believe it's called MYOPIA.

haha, I actually am short-sighted however I think my affliction is rather more down to me being a chatterbox. I don't see the point in cliques so I don't pay attention to them and just chat.

I actually restrained myself from chatting on here until recently. Unheard of for me but there's good reason

I'm a chatterbox too. With the right people of course xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There are cliques on here, I am part of one, very small membership.....

Ok, yes! I am on my own (sniff) no one talks to me.... I cant talk to anyone else cos I am worried they might tell me I cant talk to them cos I aint in their "gang" (sniff)...... no one says

hello in the chatrooms, no matter how long I sit there looking at the screen, I would post a comment but I dont want to seem forward, so I just sit there reading about all the fun everyone else is having.

( I wish there was a sarcasm smilie!!) "

u ikkle fibber mart

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i have been on here for 3 weeks or so (i had account problems after two weeks and had to delete it) i like the forums and enjoy reading all the quirky 1 liners etc... i have tried the scotland chatroom a good few times and always said hello etc only to be ignored... so i just gave up trying on there.... but there is a huge volume of males so i guess that you would have to be something special to be spoken too??

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By *ebzStarWoman over a year ago

Notting

I dont think its Cliquey round here.

There are groups of friends that appear to get on better then with others, but i think generally speaking that all new members are welcomed in when they post in the forums.

Cant speak for Chat - i have tried a couple of times to go in there but i cant keep up,lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

gd evenin!! i dont use chat no one speaks to me in scotland room lol x

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM) over a year ago

birmingham

"dont use chat no one speaks to me in scotland room lol x

If we were in the Scotland room we'd speak to ya

I mean, how can anyone ignore that ass?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

you two are just too sweet!!! it worse than the masonic lodge in there at times lol!! few of the females spoke so that was nice! xx

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By *ebzStarWoman over a year ago

Notting

i agree!!!!

Lets all rush off to the Scottish chat rooms, lol

Or is that classed as cliquey???

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As in everything in life you get out what you put in. I am a regular chatter in the Scottish chat room and try to say hello to every new person coming in, unfortunately if you get caught up in on-going conversations, sustaining another new one is impossible, especially if the room is full and chat is flying by quickly. Best advice is to go into the chatrooms during quieter periods. It also helps if you just dive into conversations and go in regularly, once or twice is not often enough to be recognised and remembered. Fabio is a case in point, he persevered and is now greeted warmly and chats regularly with many. There's no room for wallflowers in fast flowing chatrooms!

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By *herokee18Couple over a year ago

Carlisle

I must admit I find the chat function not easy to use.

As for the single guys, had one the other day asking for a meet. When we replied not at this moment in time thank you. The reply came back you saw a couple last week! This not taking a polite no, solicited a not so polite reply. As in the clubs a no means no.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"As in everything in life you get out what you put in. I am a regular chatter in the Scottish chat room and try to say hello to every new person coming in, unfortunately if you get caught up in on-going conversations, sustaining another new one is impossible, especially if the room is full and chat is flying by quickly. Best advice is to go into the chatrooms during quieter periods. It also helps if you just dive into conversations and go in regularly, once or twice is not often enough to be recognised and remembered. Fabio is a case in point, he persevered and is now greeted warmly and chats regularly with many. There's no room for wallflowers in fast flowing chatrooms!

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no thanks il stick to the forums! feel the chat too clique but thats my feelings if u enjoy it u go for it! i know u spoke to me and i thank u for it your a wee gem lol xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't think so, found people to be friendly...............

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

we had a cpl get in touch via friend invite we accepted and a cpl of days later we said hi and was looking 4ward to meetin them in the future they deleted that with no reply so i left it and msgd them few days later askin how things were goin and once again deleted with no reply!! wot a pair of tossers needless to say deleted them from our list!!!!!

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By *eedHugsMan over a year ago

Huntingdon

Ok...I haven't read all the replies to this thread as there are so many. But for my input I have to say how annoying it is when you read and re-read a profile, then sent a well structured e-mail which is polite and friendly, only for it to be deleted without any reply whatsoever...and then they block you! Is that friendly? Is that polite? A simple "sorry you're not my type" goes a long way. We're all here for fun, not to be ignored and insulted. Yes I am one of thousands of single guys, but I was here as a couple and enjoyed every minute. I hope to be a couple on here again...but I believe there are a lot of fakers and tossers around who make it difficult for genuine people to get around. There...I've said my bit lol.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ok...I haven't read all the replies to this thread as there are so many. But for my input I have to say how annoying it is when you read and re-read a profile, then sent a well structured e-mail which is polite and friendly, only for it to be deleted without any reply whatsoever...and then they block you! Is that friendly? Is that polite? A simple "sorry you're not my type" goes a long way. We're all here for fun, not to be ignored and insulted. Yes I am one of thousands of single guys, but I was here as a couple and enjoyed every minute. I hope to be a couple on here again...but I believe there are a lot of fakers and tossers around who make it difficult for genuine people to get around. There...I've said my bit lol.

You know all that junk mail that comes through your door each day, or all that spam your receive daily via the internet.

It's all well written and invariably aimed at exactly the type of person you are.

How many times do you send a reply back saying thanks but no thanks

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By *rouble and strifeCouple over a year ago

Nr Glasgow

"after being on this site over a year, and a regular in the forums, im

gonna say YES it is. "

we wont disagree with you

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By *yber pimpMan over a year ago

durham area

"hey, thats only my opinion , a lot will disagree,

i'm not saying everyone os in the clique, but there deffo is one "
i could not agree more with you. they are in the minority, but a couples muffia does exist

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By *yber pimpMan over a year ago

durham area

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GRUMPY OLD MAN IN THE MAKING. WELCOME TO THE CLIQUE lmao i have to agree with you all the way. this excuse of i get so many emails doesnt wash, if they replied i might have the same problem

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This subject has been done to death on here and the general consensus of opinion is man up and get on with it, most women find whinging a very poor quality

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By *thwalescplCouple over a year ago

brecon

"There are cliques on here, I am part of one, very small membership.....

Ok, yes! I am on my own (sniff) no one talks to me.... I cant talk to anyone else cos I am worried they might tell me I cant talk to them cos I aint in their "gang" (sniff)...... no one says

( I wish there was a sarcasm smilie!!)

u ikkle fibber mart "

AAAWWWWWWW..... kitten, you've blown my cover!!! lol.xxx

Truth to be told, I can only comment on the forums and the welsh chatroom, cos thats where I hang out.

I often see msgs in the chatroom saying summat along the lines of "well, I am off cos no one wants to talk to me"..... thing is, they been sat there watching for sometimes 30 minutes, and said nothing. If you went into a pub and sat quietly in the corner..... do you think anyone would come over and talk to you?

As for the forums, its different. Anyone can contribute equally, all posts are up there until the thread disappears. Some ppl have textual diaorrea (who, moi?) and post loads, and others manage to get right to the heart of a thread with just a few pithy words...... HOWEVER, some ppl do seem to think that theirs is the definative opinion on the matter being discussed, and take great umbrage at the slightest whiff of dissent.

As for the post about "some threads ending up as a flirt fest between two or three ppl".... I guess I should plead guilty, your honour, to some of that!! However, if ya dont like it, dont read it..... it aint compulsory, and you could dive in and take part, or you could take a hike..... no skin off my nose.

I crash about in my size nines, I sometimes act the idiot, and sometimes I sit back and soak it all up.... but I never knowingly act as part of a group to exclude others (my definition of a clique), and I havent seen that happen either. Yes, there are in-jokes and groups of friends, there are discussions about what went on at this party, club or that social, but the solution to feeling excluded is easy, turn up at the next one, join in, make friends and then you can post in the forums about how great it was lol!

To sum up...Jayne fell out with one of our neighbours, and wanted to move, to which I replied

"there are angels and arseholes everywhere, the people stay the same, only the names and faces change",

which was quite insightful for me!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Its the same anywhere tho,we are a member of a local swingers club and people say the same... But if your going to sit in a corner waiting for people to come to you that not going to happen...You need to make things happen and for people to notice you even if you a single fem/guy or a cpl xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Iam new on this site and on the whole it seems pretty good, however i do sumwhat agree with the original post. All these types of sites tend to be a bit clique. What is more of a worry is the attitude of a certain minority of people who seem to think they are gods gift. Often poeople who wouldnt usualy get much attention in the 'real' world get a lot of attention on here and it goes to there heads. I know there are loads of pushy guys on here but i sent an email when i first joined and because i was not personally verified got a pathetic and arsey reply which was unwaranted. People need to lighten up a bit and stop taking this site and themselves so seriously.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Its the same anywhere tho,we are a member of a local swingers club and people say the same... But if your going to sit in a corner waiting for people to come to you that not going to happen...You need to make things happen and for people to notice you even if you a single fem/guy or a cpl xx"

haha well said, but do you wana join my clique am starting for people not in a clique

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't know about cliques, but it takes me an age to figure out what people in the chat rooms are even saying

Even if they were being clique I wouldn't have noticed... anyone know a good text speak dictionary?!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't know about cliques, but it takes me an age to figure out what people in the chat rooms are even saying

Even if they were being clique I wouldn't have noticed... anyone know a good text speak dictionary?! "

n bt i tnk ll u du iz lv owt mst vwls n spl evrtng elz wrng nd u wl b rite. x that's a kiss not a word. a kizzzzz x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't know about cliques, but it takes me an age to figure out what people in the chat rooms are even saying

Even if they were being clique I wouldn't have noticed... anyone know a good text speak dictionary?!

n bt i tnk ll u du iz lv owt mst vwls n spl evrtng elz wrng nd u wl b rite. x that's a kiss not a word. a kizzzzz x "

lk ths?? Can I be in a clique for those who can write words with more than three letters?!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Definitely beginning to think if you don't agree with the more prolific posters then you're not in 'their clique!'

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By *harpDressed ManMan over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

But the most prolific ones are arguing with each other!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"But the most prolific ones are arguing with each other! "

and I thought this was an adult site...obviously I've been mislead

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"But the most prolific ones are arguing with each other! "

Perhaps we should creat a forum heading for the 'spitting dummy out' people?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

ohh i hear the sounds of toys goin out prams....pick it up or shove a dummy in its gob or maybe somethin else........ freedom of opinion is a wonderful thing..some just dont have the capability to see 2 sides of an arguement.

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By *harpDressed ManMan over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

"But the most prolific ones are arguing with each other!

and I thought this was an adult site...obviously I've been mislead

Small print says no refunds...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"But the most prolific ones are arguing with each other!

and I thought this was an adult site...obviously I've been mislead

Small print says no refunds..."

Drat....good job I've paid no money up front then - lol

Maybe should just let the little people get on with their paddy time and let the adults carry on playing - lol

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By *harpDressed ManMan over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

Sounds like a good idea....

I'll join in once my balls drop...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sounds like a good idea....

I'll join in once my balls drop...

be careful they don't hit your ass...seems too many are too big for theirs lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

better waitin for your balls to drop than your tits lol xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm sure you'd be able to tell us all about that - lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i think u do better leading by example!!! luckily gravity not got to me yet............

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By *harpDressed ManMan over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

Hang on, you're losing me. How would someone being too big for their balls lead to said balls hitting a donkey?

Please keep it simple for your male readers.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

lol im sure u work out that!! oh and when u do will you let me know?? seem to have lost my ability to translate other peoples delusions!! x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hang on, you're losing me. How would someone being too big for their balls lead to said balls hitting a donkey?

Please keep it simple for your male readers.

haven't aclue...some people just think that way!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago
Forum Mod

Oh for god sake ladies clam down

clam down geddit?

Is there really any need for it? if you want to carry on arguing with each other then take it to pm

Its only a fishcake/forum

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

im calm dont see the point in a hissy fit over a fishcake........

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

probably because some people jump in with both feet without knowing the whole story...but that's okay it's just confirmed my opinion of these forums - lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

glad to have clarified that for u!!! but we still no closer to the correct version of a fishcake???

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"glad to have clarified that for u!!! but we still no closer to the correct version of a fishcake???

It's what I said earlier - lol....it's Arc who has it all wrong he's describing a rissole

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

and without appearin dense what is a rissole??? jesus can u tell im not a big fan of the kitchen lol x

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By *1dKingColeMan over a year ago

east london

FFS

Grow up!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"and without appearin dense what is a rissole??? jesus can u tell im not a big fan of the kitchen lol x

I believe rissole is a patty/cake made with grated raw potato or other root vegetable, mixed with other ingredients before being fried.

However, I could be wrong

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It is interested to observe this thread is still going strong, despite the lack of contribution from the OP!

Come on OP, do you still find the site cliquey, or have you given up after observing some of the behaviours on here?

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By *etillanteWoman over a year ago

A fishcake is made with fish full stop, yu cannot have a meat fishcake

A rissole can be made with vegetables alone or mixed with meat or fish.

You could have the same arugments over teacakes, baps, oven bottoms.

I think this is a regional thing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It is interested to observe this thread is still going strong, despite the lack of contribution from the OP!

Come on OP, do you still find the site cliquey, or have you given up after observing some of the behaviours on here?

I love the behaviours on here lol, from playground to bedroom and everything in between ...................

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I love the behaviours on here lol, from playground to bedroom and everything in between ...................

Concur!

Peeps really should not take anything too seriously on here! IMHO!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago
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"I love the behaviours on here lol, from playground to bedroom and everything in between ...................

Concur!

Peeps really should not take anything too seriously on here! IMHO!

Totally agree,some take everything....even light hearted stuff all too seriously..........sort of puts me off some people to be honest,get enough seriousness at work

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I love the behaviours on here lol, from playground to bedroom and everything in between ...................

Concur!

Peeps really should not take anything too seriously on here! IMHO!

Totally agree Jo, but don't you find the fact that they do an endless source of amusement - far too happy this morning snuggling in my bed with a virtual snuggler on the other end of the phone to really care today lol xxx

xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mmmmmmmmm, snuggles. Snuggles is what arclights like best

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Mmmmmmmmm, snuggles. Snuggles is what arclights like best

Oh really

how very very very surprising

xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I love the behaviours on here lol, from playground to bedroom and everything in between ...................

Concur!

Peeps really should not take anything too seriously on here! IMHO!

Even that is wrong, I certainly don't tke it seriously, but the miserable pedantic pretentious prats pull their faces.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

when people start acting and behaing like mature adults and not primary school children, the forum may one day be like it used to be!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

and spelling like them to lol

( behaving)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

the post decended into chaos but no way am i apologising for my behaviour the claws came out i retaliated i dont dispute that but your not all innocent seen it a few times! havin been a forum dweller for a while its the first time iv ever really had cross words with someone who incidently wasnt a regular poster!! if it offended anyone then i apologize but still stand by my right to answer back!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think all forum disputes from now on should be settled in the old fashioned way,

naked westling in a paddling pool full of custard, problem solved!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

make it jelly n its a deal!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"make it jelly n its a deal!!

Did you secretly choose jelly just so you can argue with me?? eh eh eh?? I see your cunning plan Ms

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"the post decended into chaos but no way am i apologising for my behaviour the claws came out i retaliated i dont dispute that but your not all innocent seen it a few times! havin been a forum dweller for a while its the first time iv ever really had cross words with someone who incidently wasnt a regular poster!! if it offended anyone then i apologize but still stand by my right to answer back! "

my comment wasnt aimed at u

it was a general comment to the ones who constantly act like spoilt brats , im sure they know who they are, they just spoil it for others

( watch the paranaio ( spelling lol)

kick in

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

dont even go there lol!!!! no custard just too hard to get out of hair!!! jelly dissolves under water custard goes yucky and smell funny!!! xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

my comment wasnt aimed at u

it was a general comment to the ones who constantly act like spoilt brats , im sure they know who they are, they just spoil it for others

( watch the paranaio ( spelling lol)

kick in

thanks was just puttin my side/point across def not a paranoid person !!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think all forum disputes from now on should be settled in the old fashioned way,

naked westling in a paddling pool full of custard, problem solved!!

you sure about that?.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hello Blue Green.

Yes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am on 4 others sites and yes some of them can be very clicky ,, This site i have found too be fun and most people get on .. Its very chilled out really. xx jo

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