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What's the best way to get started / accepted on this site?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi all,
I am fairly new to this site and looking for some advice from all you lovely people (u were all new here once ). I guess it may be different for women and couples but for a single guy, it seems quite difficult to get verifications and friends as people are naturally reluctant to meet someone without a personal recommendations.
I am looking for meets with women, couples,or even groups. I am happy to send pictures or turn the cam on. I don't bite (unless asked) and am totally genuine.
Any advice? or just stick with it? I have been on here about 10 days btw.
Thanks, all you are all lovely |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks for the advice.
The accommodate 50% of the time is because I have my daughter in the house 1/2 of the week. The rest of the time it is empty...with lots of space for lots of you....maybe a party is the answer ..lol |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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be yourself, never compromise & keep your feet on the ground....
humility is in my opinion the best feature anyone can display once they start being successful...
sadly, it is not displayed as often as it could be.
good luck and have fun.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thanks for the advice.
The accommodate 50% of the time is because I have my daughter in the house 1/2 of the week. The rest of the time it is empty...with lots of space for lots of you....maybe a party is the answer ..lol"
Yes good idea!
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10 days?
So its not as much of a shagfest as you first thought then lol?
Some guys wait 10 MONTHS to get their first meet!
if you really want to get ahead, then here are three handy tips...
1. Go to socials.
2. Go to socials.
3. Go... well, I think you get the idea lol!
And... when you are there, don't act like it's a meat market, treat people like human beings.
Many single guys who are polite, respectful, interesting and funny do really well at socials, they get verified, people say nice things about them, and, before you know it, they are getting invites to parties and meets.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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lol...I wasn't expecting miracles or to be inundated and i know 10 days isn't long.
However I am glad I asked, I didn't know about the "socials". I will look at bit harder and find one near me.
Good idea,
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Look in the UK forum or meets forum for socials.
Also consider clubs, though they can be expensive for a single guy.
At both walk up and chat to people. Remember that this is a community and that word of mouth is a vital part of that so don't ignore people who you don't think you'll want to play with - who knows who they can introduce you to or if they host parties etc. And you can make great swinging friendships and discover lots of stuff from people.
When chatting to a couple don't just talk cars to him while you stare at her tits. Or tell her what you want to do to her as you stare at her tits and blank him.
Chat to both and give them a little space - many couples have a signal for people they want to play with.
If you don't know what to say then say that! Or if someone looks nice and has obviously put effort in then tell them that.
NEVER tell a woman she looks good for an older lady... (general good tip here guys!)  If she looks good she looks good.
Don't follow couples or single women around like a lamb hoping they'll talk to you. The guys who get to play will be the ones who make good social conversation and then move on. Later, if play is happening they will often get the nod/invite.
At socials if you're getting on well with people ask if they're on fab. If they are then ask if they would consider giving you a veri. they don't have to be from play meets. You can get veris from guys, but I would suggest that unless you are bi that you ask them to put in that they met you at a social in the opening line.
As for messages on here. Send something pleasant and non-sexual as the first one - if you click there's plenty of time to get saucy. Have a face pic to send if they ask for one. Some profiles will ask for one in all first messages. Read the profile and if you don't suit but really want to message then say that you know you don't match what they want but offer a compliment and leave it there.
Read the site hints and tips. Don't take offence if your messages get deleted or you get blocked, it's simply a tool of the site.
Good luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi all,
I am fairly new to this site and looking for some advice from all you lovely people (u were all new here once). I guess it may be different for women and couples but for a single guy, it seems quite difficult to get verifications and friends as people are naturally reluctant to meet someone without a personal recommendations. Pay £/€/$
I am looking for meets with women, couples,or even groups. I am happy to send pictures or turn the cam on. I don't bite (unless asked) and am totally genuine.
Any advice? or just stick with it? I have been on here about 10 days btw.
Thanks, all you are all lovely "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks for taking the time to write, some great tips there. I would never say that to an older woman and I am not into cars, so wouldn't talk cars with the blokes. I do however love boobs, I will try and control my gaze lol.
I have had a look and have seen a club near me, the Paradise club, in Leicestershire. I will give a go.
cheers
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Look in the UK forum or meets forum for socials.
Also consider clubs, though they can be expensive for a single guy.
At both walk up and chat to people. Remember that this is a community and that word of mouth is a vital part of that so don't ignore people who you don't think you'll want to play with - who knows who they can introduce you to or if they host parties etc. And you can make great swinging friendships and discover lots of stuff from people.
When chatting to a couple don't just talk cars to him while you stare at her tits. Or tell her what you want to do to her as you stare at her tits and blank him.
Chat to both and give them a little space - many couples have a signal for people they want to play with.
If you don't know what to say then say that! Or if someone looks nice and has obviously put effort in then tell them that.
NEVER tell a woman she looks good for an older lady... (general good tip here guys!) If she looks good she looks good.
Don't follow couples or single women around like a lamb hoping they'll talk to you. The guys who get to play will be the ones who make good social conversation and then move on. Later, if play is happening they will often get the nod/invite.
At socials if you're getting on well with people ask if they're on fab. If they are then ask if they would consider giving you a veri. they don't have to be from play meets. You can get veris from guys, but I would suggest that unless you are bi that you ask them to put in that they met you at a social in the opening line.
As for messages on here. Send something pleasant and non-sexual as the first one - if you click there's plenty of time to get saucy. Have a face pic to send if they ask for one. Some profiles will ask for one in all first messages. Read the profile and if you don't suit but really want to message then say that you know you don't match what they want but offer a compliment and leave it there.
Read the site hints and tips. Don't take offence if your messages get deleted or you get blocked, it's simply a tool of the site.
Good luck"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Look in the UK forum or meets forum for socials.
Also consider clubs, though they can be expensive for a single guy.
At both walk up and chat to people. Remember that this is a community and that word of mouth is a vital part of that so don't ignore people who you don't think you'll want to play with - who knows who they can introduce you to or if they host parties etc. And you can make great swinging friendships and discover lots of stuff from people.
When chatting to a couple don't just talk cars to him while you stare at her tits. Or tell her what you want to do to her as you stare at her tits and blank him.
Chat to both and give them a little space - many couples have a signal for people they want to play with.
If you don't know what to say then say that! Or if someone looks nice and has obviously put effort in then tell them that.
NEVER tell a woman she looks good for an older lady... (general good tip here guys!) If she looks good she looks good.
Don't follow couples or single women around like a lamb hoping they'll talk to you. The guys who get to play will be the ones who make good social conversation and then move on. Later, if play is happening they will often get the nod/invite.
At socials if you're getting on well with people ask if they're on fab. If they are then ask if they would consider giving you a veri. they don't have to be from play meets. You can get veris from guys, but I would suggest that unless you are bi that you ask them to put in that they met you at a social in the opening line.
As for messages on here. Send something pleasant and non-sexual as the first one - if you click there's plenty of time to get saucy. Have a face pic to send if they ask for one. Some profiles will ask for one in all first messages. Read the profile and if you don't suit but really want to message then say that you know you don't match what they want but offer a compliment and leave it there.
Read the site hints and tips. Don't take offence if your messages get deleted or you get blocked, it's simply a tool of the site.
Good luck"
Wow, that's pretty much right it there.
Could also engage with people on the forum and on chat and just get to know people. |
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"How many more of these threads are we going to have get? There is already an abundance of information out there should you require it!"
Every time one drops off the first page and a newbie finds the forum and needs some advice we'll get another.
Don't be mean, we were all new once and at least they're asking nicely to people who may have answers and constructive advice instead of ranting or getting stroppy! |
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I've been on here months now and never met off here although I'm not actively looking, but in the time I have spent on here I've spoke to some great people but as someone said earlier it is a community so go to clubs and socials chat on here and adopt the attitude of I'm here to explore and have fun but not expecting to play and before you know it people will be approaching you and you'll get a better response from initial contacts made by yourself even if its a polite thanks but no thanks, as they say word of mouth and reccomendation are the best form of advertising good luck |
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"Look in the UK forum or meets forum for socials.
Also consider clubs, though they can be expensive for a single guy.
At both walk up and chat to people. Remember that this is a community and that word of mouth is a vital part of that so don't ignore people who you don't think you'll want to play with - who knows who they can introduce you to or if they host parties etc. And you can make great swinging friendships and discover lots of stuff from people.
When chatting to a couple don't just talk cars to him while you stare at her tits. Or tell her what you want to do to her as you stare at her tits and blank him.
Chat to both and give them a little space - many couples have a signal for people they want to play with.
If you don't know what to say then say that! Or if someone looks nice and has obviously put effort in then tell them that.
NEVER tell a woman she looks good for an older lady... (general good tip here guys!) If she looks good she looks good.
Don't follow couples or single women around like a lamb hoping they'll talk to you. The guys who get to play will be the ones who make good social conversation and then move on. Later, if play is happening they will often get the nod/invite.
At socials if you're getting on well with people ask if they're on fab. If they are then ask if they would consider giving you a veri. they don't have to be from play meets. You can get veris from guys, but I would suggest that unless you are bi that you ask them to put in that they met you at a social in the opening line.
As for messages on here. Send something pleasant and non-sexual as the first one - if you click there's plenty of time to get saucy. Have a face pic to send if they ask for one. Some profiles will ask for one in all first messages. Read the profile and if you don't suit but really want to message then say that you know you don't match what they want but offer a compliment and leave it there.
Read the site hints and tips. Don't take offence if your messages get deleted or you get blocked, it's simply a tool of the site.
Good luck"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How many more of these threads are we going to have get? There is already an abundance of information out there should you require it!"
I think probably because newbies are often nervous and want to know that swingers are nice people, don'cha think? |
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