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Hey all just starting out on our journey and I am curious to know what happens in a man’s brain! Been happily married for years and now introducing something new to our sex life. husband has gone from wanting to fight any man that looks at me (when we were younger) to wanting to share me with other men. I’m good with it all and we talk about it regularly but I wanted to know why people think this changes. What goes on in a man’s head? Is it something I’ve done to make him feel I’ll always come back to him or just wanting change as we get older?
What are your thoughts and experiences in this? |
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over a year ago
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Probs worth asking him but I suspect it is confidence. In himself and the relationship. He is maybe seeing the attention now as a compliment and not a threat.
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I think he’s just in a secure happy place, never had reason to be jealous, only that he thought he was punching! ??
I guess years of fidelity taught him otherwise. I really wondered if other people had been through this and if/why it changed for them? |
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We are in a similar position, I’ve wanted to share my wife for a while, someone I used to work with was very keen to get it on with my Mrs so I told her everything that was said, she seemed a little keen but said, what if I enjoy it to much I said that’s the idea, but she said no as she doesn’t want to ruin our marriage but she’s happy for me to do it lol. Shame as most of the time when I masturbate that’s what I think about!! |
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For me, I've always been okay with the idea myself, but never expressed it for fear of being judged. It's not societal norm really is it? I'm now exploring with my OH because we are both more open to discussing such ideas without shame and fear of judgement.
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I have seen cheating as 1 person doing something that thehbfeel the need to lie to their partner about and that's usually what hurts most. Years of lies and deceit.
Swinging however is discussed and agreed before hand so no lies just good sex without the involvement of too many emotions that complicate things.
That is what it was for me.
Lying and cheating = hurt and pain.
Agreed fun = fun and pleasure without the threat.
We are all different though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hey all just starting out on our journey and I am curious to know what happens in a man’s brain! Been happily married for years and now introducing something new to our sex life. husband has gone from wanting to fight any man that looks at me (when we were younger) to wanting to share me with other men. I’m good with it all and we talk about it regularly but I wanted to know why people think this changes. What goes on in a man’s head? Is it something I’ve done to make him feel I’ll always come back to him or just wanting change as we get older?
What are your thoughts and experiences in this?"
Trust 100% and add a bit of life experience.
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"Hey all just starting out on our journey and I am curious to know what happens in a man’s brain! Been happily married for years and now introducing something new to our sex life. husband has gone from wanting to fight any man that looks at me (when we were younger) to wanting to share me with other men. I’m good with it all and we talk about it regularly but I wanted to know why people think this changes. What goes on in a man’s head? Is it something I’ve done to make him feel I’ll always come back to him or just wanting change as we get older?
What are your thoughts and experiences in this?"
Perhaps it's just that ...he loves you.. knows you love him and you're really a happy couple...so the extra attention you're receiving isn't a threat
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Its love and trust for us , no doubt the same for your hubby.
That is my experience from it all and Mrs M has the same thoughts with me.
Hubby is no doubt content with it is an enjoyable ride for you both.
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I used to be the same when I was younger used to hate a man looking or giving her attention but I think for me was I always felt like I was punching and that someone better would come along and take her from me but now after nearly 14 years together and 4 years married and grown up and matured I realized she loves me and wants me no matter who comes along or what we do |
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Hubby as never been the jealous type but I have. So at first when he suggested it. Immediately I thought that there was a alternate motive. But as the the fantasies and stories we're told during our love making. I became more open to the idea. Then it happened at a club we went to. I was only going to stem my curiosity but wow. Now there's no looking back.Even though we do straight swaps hubby is more turned on by being involved with me playing with other guys. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Before I joined fab on my old profile I was truly shocked by the amount of men that wanted to share their wives, I’d never come across it before. Foursomes yes, but a threesome with another guy I just couldn’t comprehend. But after meeting a few couples and seeing how much enjoyment the guys got from sharing their wives I totally got it. I could see the dynamic really worked for them and now I want the same. I’m now in a relationship and would love to see her sucking another guy off or being fucked, I want to see the pleasure on her face and being totally satisfied. We’ve spoken about my fantasy and although she’s turned on by it she’d never do it but it makes for some horny sex when we discuss it |
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By *asha86Couple
over a year ago
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Hi D here. So we had been married 8 years until we had the conversation about it all and it was all a hypothetical convo about if we would with anybody we knew and it went from there. I think because i was secure in our marriage and knew we both werent gonna go anywhere and promised to keep communicating with each other its just worked. I do have times where i struggle with some things but we talk and work it out. The way i see it is were on this earth once so why not try things and enjoy it! If you dont enjoy something then dont do it again easy! any other questions feel free to ask |
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