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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hey,
I've been on here for a while now and until recently, I've been having trouble finding someone who is willing to meet who is as in-experienced as me in Bi activities.
I'm 21 and I've been wanting to experiment with men for a while but I don't want a pushy "suck my cock now" sort of Guy, someone who I can watch porn with and get each other turned on.
what's with all the pushy "meet me now!" guys on here?
I wanna meet a Guy a similar age to met and see where things go, anyone know any one or got any suggestions?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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welcome to my world, most of the guys who mail me are like that lol
Maybe you would find somwthing like this easier with someone not off a sex site, there will be thousands of lads your age feeling like this, just most of them wont be looking on here |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"welcome to my world, most of the guys who mail me are like that lol
Maybe you would find somwthing like this easier with someone not off a sex site, there will be thousands of lads your age feeling like this, just most of them wont be looking on here"
Don't get me wrong, I would love to meet a couple or women, but at the moment I am interested in broadening my horizons a bit and experimenting. Alot of guys like me who are curious will never do anything about it due to insecurity and fear of being ridiculed for "being gay".
For example, I messaged a Guy who winked me and he seemed like he was in a similar position, but the second message he sent me was "so, when you free to meet"...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You may just be on the wrong site tbh .
More often than not folk complain about having to exchange endless messages and timewasters who never meet - so on a second message being asked when are you free to meet is good isn't it ?
Not sure what you expect really - the good ones on here ( that's to say real swingers ) are here to meet , and there's nothing wrong with that ?  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"You may just be on the wrong site tbh .
More often than not folk complain about having to exchange endless messages and timewasters who never meet - so on a second message being asked when are you free to meet is good isn't it ?
Not sure what you expect really - the good ones on here ( that's to say real swingers ) are here to meet , and there's nothing wrong with that ? "
I see your point, but I'm new to the whole bi thing and although I would love to meet someone I hate pushy people. Ill try a few different tactics and see how it works
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There are definitely ones like that who will just email you one liners etc. Only thing I can say really is to have a look and a message those that you feel have a decent profile and see how you get on from there. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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@op Just let them know you're new to it all, and the right person will say 'come and try it out, try what you want to do out and if you don't like it, you don't have to do it again and no-one will be mortally offended'
You don't want to meet the guys that will force you to do stuff anyway...
As for other people's attitudes towards being Bi - You have only to answer to yourself, not to them. Be under no pressure to conform, and do what your desires want... regardless 
Take it easy, and good luck.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You may just be on the wrong site tbh .
More often than not folk complain about having to exchange endless messages and timewasters who never meet - so on a second message being asked when are you free to meet is good isn't it ?
Not sure what you expect really - the good ones on here ( that's to say real swingers ) are here to meet , and there's nothing wrong with that ?
I see your point, but I'm new to the whole bi thing and although I would love to meet someone I hate pushy people. Ill try a few different tactics and see how it works
t"
Not wishing to make sweeping generalisations here but we have found that a lot of the bi guys on here do tend to be married and don't always have the time or opportunity to be able to fulfill what it is you're looking for...or be able to spend the time you perhaps need to feel confident to explore...it tends to make them a little more...straightforward than you might like... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You will find that guys interact very differently here to the women.
Rarely will a profile style appeal to both sexes.
If I am looking for a man, I tend to find that a simplistic profile and 3 pictures make all the difference, 1 face, 1 body, 1 cock.
The men that contact me are usually looking for 'here and now cum and go's' which in many instances suit me but to the uninitiated I can imagine that approach could appear somewhat daunting.
With you being a first timer you are likely to attract quite a predatory breed who 'get off' on the idea of being your first and 'converting' you from straight to bi.
Now, I have met quite a few first timers in my time and you really do need to take it at their pace.
Some, like you, approach it with caution, others want to dive in feet first and in many cases are far more enthusiastic than the experienced.
I have met guys who have literally sat shaking on my couch, I have met others who have basically dived on me as soon as the door was shut.
You also have to bear in mind that some guys, despite being experienced, are uncomfy with their sexuality and a more protracted meet would be daunting for them.
They want to come in, shoot their load and leave and are not interested in spending any time with the other party or getting to know what they want.
That's just the way it rolls I'm afraid.
Trust me though when I say that not all guys are like this and you do things at your pace.
Sooner or later you will find someone that matches what you want.
Until then, be polite with the guys that don't meet your requirements or haven't read what you are looking for and take the time to do it how you want it.
You're only young and there really is no great rush. If you have the curiosity there, it will happen at some point. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You will find that guys interact very differently here to the women.
Rarely will a profile style appeal to both sexes.
If I am looking for a man, I tend to find that a simplistic profile and 3 pictures make all the difference, 1 face, 1 body, 1 cock.
The men that contact me are usually looking for 'here and now cum and go's' which in many instances suit me but to the uninitiated I can imagine that approach could appear somewhat daunting.
With you being a first timer you are likely to attract quite a predatory breed who 'get off' on the idea of being your first and 'converting' you from straight to bi.
Now, I have met quite a few first timers in my time and you really do need to take it at their pace.
Some, like you, approach it with caution, others want to dive in feet first and in many cases are far more enthusiastic than the experienced.
I have met guys who have literally sat shaking on my couch, I have met others who have basically dived on me as soon as the door was shut.
You also have to bear in mind that some guys, despite being experienced, are uncomfy with their sexuality and a more protracted meet would be daunting for them.
They want to come in, shoot their load and leave and are not interested in spending any time with the other party or getting to know what they want.
That's just the way it rolls I'm afraid.
Trust me though when I say that not all guys are like this and you do things at your pace.
Sooner or later you will find someone that matches what you want.
Until then, be polite with the guys that don't meet your requirements or haven't read what you are looking for and take the time to do it how you want it.
You're only young and there really is no great rush. If you have the curiosity there, it will happen at some point. "
 great advice |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was bi -curious, until recently
I would heed the good advice above and find someone you think would suit you and go for it.
I was keen on my first bi experience to be in a MFM threesome, with the other guy being bi. I thought the 3sum would take any pressure off if anything happened, great, if not no problem. I had one lined up with a great couple but it got called off, for genuine reasons.
As the threesome fell through, I then met up with a more experience gay guy on his own (couldn't wait any longer!). The guy was not pushy at all and we had a great time. Suffice to say may curiosity of all things bi were satisfied and very enjoyable
The point I am making is that you don't necessarily need to find someone equally bi curious. A more experienced guy or with a couple could be the answer too.
Cheers
P.s I am still looking for my 1st MFM with a bi guy, so if anyone is interested I would love to know
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